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falconey:
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vizkiz:
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Una no get mother tongue?I beg put your father tongue

Wizzz:
In pidgin: YOU DEY MOVE ME

"I LOVE YOU" IN OTHER LANGUAGES
- yoruba:mo ni fe re
- Chinese: Wo ie ni.
- Dutch: Ik hou van joy (submitted anonymously)
- French: Je t'aime.
- German: Ich liebe dich.
- Greek:S'agapo.
- Hawaiian:Aloha wau ia 'oe!
- Hebrew: Ani ohevet otcha (man to a woman) Ani oheve otach (woman to a man) (submitted by Caroline S.)
- Italian: Ti amo.
- Japanese: Kimi o ai shiteru.
- Klingon: Qabang!!! (of course, klingons never say anything without emphasis)
- Pig Latin: I ovelay ouyay.
- Portugese: Eu te amo.
- Russian: Ya Tebya Lubloo. (submitted anonymously)
- Spanish: Te amo.
- Yiddish: Kh'hob dikh lib!
Please add I love you in your own dialect to it
Source:http://www.familyparliament.com/1071/i-love-you-amp-quot-in-other-languages

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ammyluv2002:
What a man can do.....a woman can do better


Well done!

A commercial bus driver, Onyebuchi Agbo, has been arrested with 20.3 grams of cocaine, 27.5 grams of heroin and some wraps of cannabis by the Abia state command of the National Drug Law enforcement Agency, NDLEA.


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Seized drugs from the suspect

According to the the commander of the anti- narcotic agency in the state, Mr Bamidele Akingbade, said Onyebuchi will be charged to court this week but would appear before a judge at the end of their vacation.

“For us to process his trial, we have to file a charge now. The courts are open with the other officials but the judges are not there at the Federal High Courts because they are on vacation.
So they are going to take the charge and we can now hold him in custody until the courts resumes. But as soon as the courts resume, he will be arraigned with 17 other drug suspects in Abia.

We are going to use the services of the vacation judge in Port Harcourt to start their trial process and to remand them pending the resumption of the Federal High Court” Pulse quoted him.
Also speaking, the suspect, Onyebuchi revealed that he was selling hard drugs for an Aba-based drug courier named Agbo.
“I used to sell drugs but I left it since for a long time now. I have been arrested before and the person I was selling for left me to go to prison in 2008.

When I was freed from prison in 2010, I left the business. I came here because last two months Agbo, a drug courier in Aba, called me to come to his place and sell market for him. So he said he will beat me up when he sees me and today he saw me with his henchmen along Ohanku road and they started beating me with matchets.
I ate the money last two months and ran away. He was the one who called me to come and sell drugs for him. They came today and beat me and handed me over to the NDLEA. It is Agbo that sells the drugs.”
The suspect admitted taking the cannabis.
source:http://www.familyparliament.com/1008/ndlea-nabs-bus-driver-with-20-3-grams-of-cocaine-27-5-grams

Hey!thi is real.you better believe it

UncleJudax:
I never take anything here seriously, but you certainly do, hence the ranting.

The fact is that you faux pased. Take the harmless correction and move on.

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A massive gate unearthed in Israel may have marked the entrance to a biblical city that, in its heyday, was the biggest metropolis in the region. The town, called Gath, was occupied until the ninth century B.C. In biblical accounts, the Philistines — the mortal enemies of the Israelites — ruled the city. The Old Testament also describes Gath as the home of Goliath, the giant warrior whom the Israelite King David felled with a slingshot. The new findings reveal just how impressive the ancient Philistine city once was, said Aren Maeir of Bar-Ilan University in Israel, the lead archaeologist on the current excavation.
These monumental fortifications stress how large and mighty this city was.
Aren Maeir, of Bar-Ilan University in Israel, lead archaeologist
The team was digging trenches to look for the ancient city’s fortifications when they found the top surface of a monumental gate and fortifications. Because the remaining walls are so massive, it may take several seasons to fully uncover them, Maeir said. So far, only the top surfaces of the structures are visible, but based on the size and shape of the stones used to make them, the city walls must have been quite large. The mighty fortifications would have formed a rather imposing boundary that prevented the Kingdom of Judah from expanding westward, he added.

http://www.familyparliament.com/1007/goliath-gates-entrance-to-famous-biblical-metropolis-uncover

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INTROVERT:
THIS GIRL NA MAMMYWATER OR TRANSGENDER..












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Having coached the full range of job seekers, from entry-level candidates to C-suite executives, I learned the one job interview tactic that makes the difference between success and failure. This same tactic works for coaches and consultants who want to build a larger practice, secure more clients and do it more quickly.

The true genius of this tactic comes from Anthony Parinello, the author of the best-selling book Selling to VITO: The Very Important Top Officer. Tony has written about this technique as the foundation of successful selling to executives at the top of their organizations. If you don’t know Tony’s work, go to http://www.vitoselling.com – and grab the free download and enjoy meeting this world-class sales trainer.

There’s a profound similarity between selling to CEOs and interviewing for a job. The same fundamental truth is key for building your professional practice. The common thread between selling and interviewing is this.

Who you think YOU ARE is the key to success (or failure).

Success is not in the hands of the person with whom you are speaking, nor is it in the product, service or skill set you believe you represent.

Per the Carnegie Institute of Technology, 85% of the decision to hire you is based on your personal traits. Only 15% of the decision is based on your skills, experience or proof that what you do is better than other people who are competing for the position.

How does the interview or potential client learn about or experience your personal traits? Largely through how they see you relate to yourself.

Self-respect, self-worth and a self-positive attitude are what you must convey in an interview. Why?

Your attitude about yourself is like a cold. It’s contagious.

If you believe you that you are lucky to have the interview, you are likely to lose the job or the deal. If you believe the recruiter, hiring manager or prospective client is lucky to have the interview: you are likely to lose the job or the deal.

If you see the interview as a meeting of two people with equal business stature – you are going to succeed.

Of course this does not mean that you can do the same work as your interviewer or prospect. Why would they need you to do that?

Equal business stature simply means you share the same profound interest in successfully accomplishing the goals of the job. It means you are someone who is bringing a solution-oriented mindset, resourcefulness, ingenuity, and commitment.

See the next interview you have as an exchange of like-minded people, equally interested in addressing the challenges of the position that needs to be filled. Don’t court, cajole, or toady; don’t undersell or overpromise.

Show up ready to engage in a business conversation, where your focus is on the problems that need to be solved – not simply on what you have or haven’t done in the past.

Simply put: show up ready to engage with clarity and confidence.
SOURCE:http://www.familyparliament.com/1002/the-most-successful-job-interview-tactic

Maturity is not simply based on age or physical appearance; it involves a lot of things, namely:
1. Physical maturity. Anybody that wants to get marry must NOT be a teenager. He must be mature physically. Marriage is neither a crèche nor a day care; it is a place of work and responsibility. Based on information gotten from counseling people, we recommend the following ages:
 The woman to be at least 21 years
 The man to be at least 25 years
2. Financial maturity.
 The couple must be willing to work and provide for the family.
 There must be regular income.
 There must be prudence.
3. Spiritual Maturity
 The couple must be born again.
 They must be filled with Holy Ghost.
 They must understand God’s principles on marriage as they relate to leadership, love, parenting, submission, contentment, commitment, faithfulness, responsibilities, oneness and so on (Genesis 2:24-25, Matthew 19:4-6).
 They must pass the test in 2 Peter 1:5-9.
 They must submit to quality prayer life.
 The couple must likewise love the Bible.
 They must be steadfastly working for God.
 They must regularly spend quality time with God in Bible study.
4. Social Maturity. The couple must strengthen their ability to make and keep friends, willingness to say “I am sorry” when wrong, and to commend, appreciate, and praise. They must be readily willing to change and adjust where necessary.
5. Sexual Maturity.
 The couple must be willing to keep to one’s s*x partner.
 They must be able to control their sexual drive and banish lust from their hearts.
6. Emotional /Psychological Maturity.
 The couple must develop the gracious ability to handle anger and put pride under their foot.
 They must be able to handle fear and appropriately direct joy, love and handle jealous.
 Their daily existence must be characterized by boldness, faith, courage, tolerance, forbearance, meekness and so on.
 They must regularly enhance their ability to manage stress or crisis.
 They must be dogged in time of test and trial, never submitting to defeat.
 They must be willing to suffer shame for the sake of the truth.
culled from:Excellent Marriage Training Handbook by Bisi Adewale
SOURCE:http://www.familyparliament.com/1001/types-of-maturity-in-marriage

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missbehave247:
Female breasts serves as the mammary gland, which produces and secretes milk to feed infants. Both males and females develop breasts from the same embryological tissues.

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Source: http://www.naij.com/508057-10-surprising-facts-breasts-may-missed.html

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missbehave247:
Female breasts serves as the mammary gland, which produces and secretes milk to feed infants. Both males and females develop breasts from the same embryological tissues.

Despite their popularity, what do we really know about the breasts? All we know is that both men and women really love them and talk about them a lot.






Source: http://www.naij.com/508057-10-surprising-facts-breasts-may-missed.html

A Chinese man has successfully sued his wife for giving birth to an ugly girl and a court injunction has mandated the woman to compensate the man with a sum of $120,000

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Jian Feng and his family

A Chinese man named Jian Feng charged his beautiful wife to court for giving birth to a girl who he describes as being "incredibly ugly". He reportedly won the case in court and the presiding Judge has ordered his wife to compensate him with a staggering sum of $120,000.

“I married my wife out of love, but as soon as we had our first daughter, we began having marital issues. Our daughter was incredibly ugly, to the point where it horrified me”, this Feng revealed during an interview with Irish Times.
The crisis started when Jian Feng attributed the ugliness of the child to infidelity on his wife's path. A DNA test was allegedly conducted which ascertained Jian Feng's status as the biological father of the child. As the pressure persisted, his wife confessed to have had about $100,000 worth of cosmetic surgery done in South Korea before they met.

It was on this ground that her husband file a case in court. He accused her of false pretenses, deceit on looks and scam.

A judge agreed with Feng’s argument and ordered his wife to indemnify him with $120,000.
SOURCE:http://www.familyparliament.com/998/court-orders-woman-to-pay-husband-120-000-for-giving-birth-t

A couple centuries ago, pickpocketing was the scourge of cities around the world. From Dickens’ London to New York City’s famous Five Points, skilled thieves practiced their craft, filching the valuables of passersby without the victim noticing a thing. In fact, that’s how pockets in clothing got their start: Prior to the 17th century, men and women alike carried their valuables in purses outside the body; they then started tying pouches inside their clothes in an attempt to thwart would-be “cutpurses” and thieves. But pickpockets soon adapted and learned how to deftly extract the goods from trouser, waistcoat, and jacket pockets alike.

Around the turn of the 20th century, American prosecutors began cracking down hard on pickpockets, and mandatory schooling took young would-be thieves off the streets. Soon there were few “master” pickpockets left to pass on the trade, and fewer kids willing and able to learn a form of crime that took years to perfect. In more recent years, the decline of cash has made wallets a less desirable target.

While pickpocketing has been on the decline in the U.S for the past fifty years or so, it’s still a major problem in Europe. In fact, pickpocketing has gotten so bad in some countries that popular tourist attractions have had to close for days at a time.

Many police departments shrug off pickpocketing as common petty larceny. But to the victim, having their wallet stolen not only puts them out of the cash they were carrying, but creates a huge cost in time and worry. Credit cards must be canceled and credit agencies must be warned for possible identity fraud. If a passport was lifted, travel plans will likely be delayed and the victim will have to pay for an even more expensive trip home because they missed their original flight.

To avoid finding yourself in that kind of aggravating mess, you simply need to take a few precautions that’ll greatly reduce your vulnerability to pickpockets. And in today’s post we’ll provide expert-backed tips on how to do just that.

Maintain Situational Awareness

The first step in avoiding getting pickpocketed is to always maintain situational awareness when you’re out and about. For an in-depth look at how to develop the situational awareness of Jason Bourne, read this article.

Know Your Thief

It’s hard to pick a thief out of a crowd because pickpockets cross all demographic boundaries and stereotypes. While your grandma may have told you to “Be on the lookout for Gypsies!” pickpockets come in every race and color. While most are male, there are a large number of female pickpockets too. And while pickpocketing has often been called a “boys’ crime,” in Europe it’s common to find pickpocket gangs where the average member is in his 30s.

So don’t assume that you’ll be able to avoid getting pickpocketed by steering clear of certain “types” of people. With that said, keep in mind the following points when you’re out and about in an area known for pickpocketing:

Pickpockets often work in groups. One or two members of the pickpocketing team will act as distractions while an accomplice steals your stuff. So if you see a group of people acting in ways that seem designed to get your attention, be on the lookout for a hand trying to filch your valuables.

Pickpockets are often children. While many pickpockets are grown men, a large number of pickpockets are indeed young boys and girls. Children pickpockets take full advantage of their innocent, doe-eyed looks. Because a tourist doesn’t expect a child to be a criminal, the young pickpocket can get closer to their target without raising suspicion.

You’re likely to encounter more child pickpockets in Europe because in many countries, when a young thief is apprehended by authorities, they’re simply taken to a group home where they walk out the door the next day to do some more stealing.

So don’t be lulled into a false sense of security whenever a child suddenly comes into contact with you in an area known for pickpocketing. It’s possible they’re getting a heist started on you.

Pickpockets are typically well-dressed. When most people imagine a pickpocket, they likely picture a dirty street urchin. The reality is most pickpockets look like well-dressed middle-class folks. They want to blend in with their environment and appear as non-threatening as possible to get as close to you as they can without setting off alarms. So they’ll dress in a way that puts people at ease, which means wearing clean, well-pressed clothing featuring logos of brands that people associate with middle-class wealth (at least in Europe) — Nike, Gap, Adidas, etc.

Know Where Pickpockets Like to Work

While you can encounter pickpockets in any part of a city, some locations are a magnet for pickpockets:

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Tourist attractions. Tourist attractions are a pickpocket’s paradise. You’ve got 1) lots of clueless tourists often carrying lots of cash, 2) monuments and exhibits that distract people and take their gaze and attention off their possessions, and 3) high pedestrian traffic where people are bumping into each other and are less likely to notice the touch of a thief’s sticky fingers. Pickpocketing is in fact so rampant at tourist attractions that in recent years both the Eiffel Tower and the Louvre have had to close for several days because of it.

If a popular tourist attraction is on your list of must-sees while traveling, take extra precautions with your valuables when you visit.

Public transportation. Because public transportation forces people to stand right next to each other, it’s a fertile field for pickpocketing. With just a bump from an accomplice, a pickpocket can take your wallet and be off the train and on his way before you even realize it’s missing.

Restaurants and bars. Pickpockets often flock to restaurants and bars that are popular with tourists. Because patrons’ attention is focused on their meal and the people they’re eating with, they often don’t notice the hand that slides into their purse to snatch a wallet.

Hotel lobbies. Hotel lobbies offer a pickpocket a great opportunity to swipe a person’s goods. When tourists arrive at a hotel’s door, they’re often juggling and keeping track of several pieces of luggage. Pickpockets take advantage of the tourist’s diverted attention by stealing what they can from them.

Know the Tricks Pickpockets Use

It’s not just a steady and stealthy hand that makes a successful pickpocket.

Just as magicians use misdirection and distraction to make cards and coins seemingly vanish into thin air, pickpockets use similar techniques to make your wallet and smartphone disappear.

A good pickpocket has a keen understanding of human psychology and understands that people can only direct their attention to one or two things at a time. Consequently, they’ll either wait for or create a moment in which your attention is diverted towards something else to steal from you.

While it’s possible for a lone pickpocket to create the necessary distraction to successfully filch your valuables, it’s much easier when they have a partner in crime. Consequently, as previously mentioned, most pickpockets work in teams.

Below we highlight a few of the tricks that pickpockets commonly use to steal from their victims. Most of them are tactics used by groups, while a few are methods employed by lone thieves:

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The helpful stranger. A friendly stranger approaches you to wipe off some lint from your jacket. A few minutes later when you go to retrieve your wallet to buy a drink, you find it missing. Sometimes the ruse is even more elaborate: one person “accidentally” spills something on you, another helps you wipe off the mess, while a third takes advantage of the hoopla by stealing your wallet. If someone acts a little too friendly and helpful towards you, be suspicious. They could be a pickpocket (or the distracter in a pickpocketing team).

Taking advantage of the Good Samaritan. A stranger approaches you asking for help — maybe they have a map and are asking for directions, or they could fall in front of you, dropping everything they have in their hands. The clumsy person is really the distracting half of a pick-pocketing team; while your attention shifts towards helping them, their partner swoops in and stealthily makes off with your wallet.

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Creating delays at turnstiles. You’re walking through a crowded turnstile to get on the subway when suddenly the person in front of you stops, causing you to run right into them. Consequently, the person behind you bumps into you as well. The person at the front apologizes and says her ticket didn’t work. She tries again, this time with success. With another apology, she pushes through the turnstile and runs off to catch her train. When you get on your train and sit down, you notice that your wallet isn’t in your back pocket anymore.

The person who caused the delay at the turnstile was the distracter; the person who bumped into you from behind was the pickpocket who lifted your wallet. With all the commotion of bodies bumping into bodies, you never felt a hand slip into your back pocket.

The flash mob. You’re on the subway train when suddenly a huge mass of people surround you and start bumping you. At the next stop, they all get off, and your wallet is missing.

If you’re ever suddenly surrounded by lots of people, get out immediately. You’re about to get pickpocketed.

Charity workers with clipboards. A group of well-dressed, friendly girls approach you with a clipboard. They signal that they’re deaf and mute and point to the clipboard. While you’ve got the clipboard in your hand, reading over the petition/donation form, an accomplice is snatching your wallet or stuff out of your backpack. This is supposedly a popular pickpocket tactic in Paris.

The friendly salesman. While browsing through an outdoor marketplace, you encounter a salesman who’s just a little too friendly and pushy with his wares. He may not actually be interested in making the sale, but simply distracting you while an accomplice steals your wallet.

Fake fights. A group of men starts fighting. You, of course, watch because fights are cool. When the fight’s over, your wallet is gone.

That wasn’t a real fight and you’ve just been suckered.

Child beggars. A group of children suddenly gathers around you talking, shouting, and begging for money. They soon disperse, but you’re lighter in the pants. While many pickpockets look like mild-mannered middle-class folks, some do look like the stereotypical street urchin/beggar.

Bag slashing. Some thieves won’t even bother with all the distractions and stealth tactics, and will just cut open your backpack and take what they can get their hands on. While it’s not that common, it happens enough that you may want to take precautions to prevent it happening to you. We’ll offer some suggestions on how to do that below.

The quick grab before the subway door closes. Another brazen tactic that thieves use is to target individuals who are sitting or standing right next to a subway train’s doors. The thief will stand near the victim on the train or just outside the train’s doors. Right before the doors close, the thief will snatch the purse or backpack or take the wallet, and then bolt out of the train. The victim can’t do much except pound the doors as the train rolls away. Because the thief doesn’t have to worry about you following them, they can afford to be less stealthy with their heist. They’ll just grab whatever they want, not caring if you notice them or not.

Bump and lift. The most common solo pickpocket tactic is the bump and lift. The pickpocket simply bumps into the victim while simultaneously taking the victim’s wallet out of their back pocket.

Pickpocket-Proof Yourself (As Much as You Can)

While it’s impossible to make yourself 100% pickpocket proof, there are some things you can do to make yourself a far less likely victim:

Don’t look like a tourist. Pickpockets love hitting up tourists because 1) they often have lots of cash and valuables on them and 2) they’re typically not paying attention to what’s going on around them because they’re so focused on taking in the new sights.

So avoid looking like a tourist.

This doesn’t mean you have to dress exactly like the locals, but do the best you can to blend in. Don’t wear anything that will make you stand out and broadcast that you’re a tourist with a lot of money. Pickpocketing expert Bob Arno recommends not wearing clothing with high-end brand logos as well as not wearing expensive jewelry or watches. In other words, dress in a culturally appropriate, non-descript way.

Also, avoid gawking at maps and appearing like you don’t know where you are. Before leaving for any destination, have a good idea of how to get there and move like you know where you’re going.

Be alert and assertive. If you’re rushed and encircled by a group of children, there’s a chance they’re working together to steal whatever you have on you. Maintain a confident stance and yell “No!” — they’ll probably back away. If they don’t, don’t be afraid to push your way through even though they’re kids. Likewise, if a “helpful” stranger seems to be suspiciously friendly, don’t be afraid to move away and keep your distance. Thieves count on you being too “nice” to want to be rude or make a scene. You don’t want to come off as aloof and wary to genuinely friendly folks, but you do need to be alert and aware of what’s going on around you.

Keep the bare minimum in your wallet. The less you have in your wallet, the less of a hassle it will be if you do get pickpocketed. Just keep a single credit card, a single form of ID, and a small amount of cash. That’s it.

Keep a back up credit card stowed safely away in your hotel in the event that you do lose your wallet.

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Secure your valuables in a front pocket. While a skilled pickpocket can swipe your stuff from your front pocket, it’s more difficult to do than when your stuff is in your back pocket. If you’re looking for a wallet that fits nicely in your front pocket, check out the Rogue Wallet. And don’t forget to put your smartphone in your front pocket as well.

Another more secure place to stash your goods besides your back pocket is the inside pocket of your jacket. For added security, make sure that it can button or zipper close.

Better yet, keep them in a money belt. For maximum security, take a tip from your forebearers and keep your valuables under your clothes, tucked inside a money belt. Keep in mind though that money belts aren’t entirely pick-proof.

Another option that’s even more secure than money belts is underwear with zipper pockets. The Clever Travel Companion is a great example of this type of garment. Even the deftest of pickpockets will have a hard time getting their hands down by your junk to retrieve a wallet without being noticed.

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If you see a sign that says “Beware of Pickpockets,” don’t touch your wallet. In areas where petty thieves are prevalent, you’ll often find signs that say “Beware of Pickpockets.” Upon seeing this sign, most people will immediately pat their clothing where they keep their valuables to check that they’re still there. Meanwhile, the pickpockets are standing nearby observing where people are patting themselves so they can go in for the steal!

So if you see a “Beware of Pickpockets” sign, avoid the knee-jerk reaction to check your stuff. You’re just providing a homing beacon to thieves.

Secure your backpack. Backpacks and other bags are a pickpocket’s friend. Not only do they make you look like a tourist (especially the backpacking variety), but because the bags aren’t touching your body, you’re not going to feel it when a pickpocket places his hand inside to steal your possessions.

If you can, avoid carrying a backpack or shoulder bag while out and about. However, if you need to have it on you, take the following precautions to avoid getting pickpocketed:

Don’t keep anything valuable in your backpack. Your wallet and smartphone should be in your front pocket or money belt. Don’t keep these in your backpack. Ideally, you’re only going to keep things in your backpack that you wouldn’t mind losing.
Don’t put anything in the back pocket. The easiest target on your backpack is the back pocket on the outside. A pickpocket can easily unzip it and get stuff out without you feeling it.

Put locks on your zippers. If you do need to keep valuables in your backpack (for example, a camera), lock the zippers with small luggage locks.

Wear the hip belt when you’re walking. Besides making the bag more comfortable, the hip belt can also serve as an added security device. More brazen thieves will simply just take your backpack off your shoulders and run off with it. If you’ve got that hip belt secured, such a grab becomes a far more difficult, two-step process.

Keep bags in front of you when on public transit. When you’re on public transit, move your backpack from your back to your front. That way you have a better view of sneaky guys trying to get their hands into your stuff.
Keep bags between your feet while eating. Don’t place your bag by your chair, or hang it on a chair while you’re dining. Always keep your bags in physical contact with you.

Buy slash-proof bags. While not entirely knife-proof, slash resistant bags can make slash and grab jobs a bit more difficult for crooks. It might be worth it to consider the investment.

Never put your phone on the table when you’re eating. I’ve never understood why people put their smartphone on the table while eating; it’s rude and prevents you from being fully present with the folks you’re dining with. But if you’re one of those people who absolutely must keep their phone on the table while you’re at a restaurant, be aware that pickpockets are targeting you. A growing number of enterprising pickpockets are casing restaurants with outdoor eating areas and looking for phones sitting on tables. When they see one, they’ll swoop in as a team — one guy acting as the distraction (selling flowers, newspapers, candy, etc.), while his accomplice grabs the phone.

Lesson: Keep your smartphone tucked away on your person while you’re eating. The text messages can wait.

Also keep your phone locked and install software that allows you to remotely wipe clean its data. If your phone does get stolen, you don’t want the pickpocket to have access to your valuable information.
SOURCE:http://www.familyparliament.com/783/how-to-avoid-getting-pickpocketed

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No one likes being sick, but it happens to everyone from time to time. Sometimes it's a cold or stomach flu that passes in a couple of days; at other times, it's a broken bone or a surgery that includes weeks or months of recovery. Occasionally, it's a much more serious illness with long-lasting effects.

Whatever the case may be, dealing with illness in marriage is never easy. Try these five ideas the next time your spouse is sick, to make the experience a little more bearable for both of you.
Last week I had a tonsillectomy. It was no fun. It is still is no fun.

When someone gets sick, it forces us to look outside ourselves a little more. And when that sick someone is your spouse, it creates an opportunity for a little extra service in your marriage. Magically, this selflessness can bring you closer together than perhaps you've felt in a while.

With that being said, here are five things you will want to try the next time your spouse is feeling a bit under the weather.

1. Show a little empathy

Empathy has been defined as "the ability to understand and share the feelings of another." Your spouse needs to know that you care about them, that you hate seeing them suffer, and that you will stay by their side and take care of them every step of the way.

Your empathetic words and actions will lift your spouse, encourage a bit of hope, and help them endure through long (and sometimes very boring) days. Ask them, "How are you doing?" and then just sit and listen. Offer words of encouragement, such as, "You are so tough. I'm proud of you. You're going to get through this." Try asking if there's anything you can do that will make them more comfortable.

When your sick spouse feels like you understand their challenges, that you will take care of them, and that everything is going to be okay, the burden they feel will suddenly become much lighter. Your empathy won't magically make your spouse better, or make the pain go away, but it will change how they feel in here (I'm pointing to my heart, here). It will let your suffering spouse know they have a true companion and best friend who will be with them through any challenge that may come their way.
2. Be their greatest strength

It can be hard to stay strong (emotionally and spiritually) when you are physically sick, weak, and in pain. Although your spouse may appear to put on a strong front, inside that may not be the case.

You can be your spouse's greatest strength through this sickness. You know them better than anyone else. So, be their shoulder to cry on, their chef to fix fancy chicken noodle soup, and their lover to offer hugs, kisses, and plenty of cuddles. You are the one who can hold your spouse and tell them everything will be okay. You can offer hope and encouragement. You can be cheerful, optimistic, and strong - so they don't have to be. When you are strong for your spouse it is empowering. It can re-energize your spouse and give them strength to carry on.

3. Show a little more patience

It's true. Your spouse may be a bit grumpy. Or bored. Or tired. Or, in the case of a tonsillectomy, hangry (people, I can't eat!). Sometimes sickness breeds a bit of moodiness, and tempers may be a bit more short than usual. Give your spouse a break. They don't feel like being their normal, perky self. So, remember, supporting your spouse includes showing a little more patience than normal (or a lot more!).

Have you ever heard the saying, "patience is a virtue"? Well, it's true. Patience is a virtue. It's a virtue that can be cultivated with practice and more practice, and more practice. Don't snap at your spouse if they are grouchy. Don't complain that you are doing so much for your spouse and they aren't showing much gratitude. Just be patient, very patient, and give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Put yourself in their shoes, and be grateful that you are feeling as well as you are!

4. Do a little more

It takes a LOT of work to keep a family going - especially when there are young children involved. And unfortunately, when your spouse gets sick, the amount of work that needs to be done seems to grow exponentially. If your spouse is sick, step it up and do a little more.

Play the role of super-hero and forget about yourself for a few days. Try and serve your spouse in any way possible. Think to yourself, "What will make their life easier? What can I take off their plate? What will make them more comfortable?" Make dinner (or maybe go pick it up!), fold the laundry, put the kids to bed, run to the store and grab some medicine, write a love note, change the sheets on the bed, etc. Doing a little more will will help your spouse a lot - and it will show them how much you love them.
5. Remind them how much they mean to you

Whenever I'm sick, I quickly remember how much I need April and how much I appreciate having her by my side. It's interesting that I also feel the same way when she's the one not feeling well. It's then that I realize how much she does and what big shoes she fills. In either situation, my appreciation and love for her grows. That's the magic of service - whether we're on the giving or the receiving end.

So, if your spouse isn't feeling well, give them a little extra love and let them know how much they mean to you. Tell them you love their eyes, or that they look a little more alive than they did yesterday. Be positive, be grateful, and be happy. Hug them, hold their hand, rub their back, kiss their cheeks, and let them feel how much you love them (sick and all).

Oh, and a quick word to the sick spouse...

Sorry you are sick. That really stinks. You probably have noticed your spouse doing an inordinate amount of little things for you. Be sure to express appreciation for all they are doing.
Smile whenever they walk in the room.
Say, "Thank-you babe," all the time.
If you are up for it, shower. Often.
Try not to whine. You can be tough. You can also be real. Just try not to whine.
Tell your incredible spouse, "I love you," whenever possible .

With all that being said, sickness doesn't have to be such a negative, discouraging thing. Rather, it can be seen as an opportunity to nurture your marriage, express appreciation, and grow closer together as husband and wife. Now, go wash your hands and try not to spread any germs!
http://www.familyparliament.com/731/5-ways-to-care-for-a-sick-spouse

When you read the question in the title of this blog, many wives will say, “no, I’m too tired” and many husbands will say, “no, she’s too tired and pre-occupied.” And that can be sad but true. But does that mean that you won’t have s*x as husband and wife until the children are grown and out of the house?

Lets hope not. Your marriage may not survive that long.


“In a marriage, s*x is the spice that rescues our relationships from becoming mundane pursuits of chores. Adult life is filled with responsibilities. We have mortgages to pay, yard work to maintain, laundry to clean, cars to service, and so on. But none of us got married so we could load up on chores. We got married out of hope. We got married because we believed there was some kind of magic between us. We got married because we believed we could have great s*x together.

“A satisfying s*x life can add dignity to all the other pursuits of life. It is the thing to look forward to after a dull or miserable day at work. s*x is the moment of connection that creates a deep bond, even when sprinkled weeks or months apart. Sexual union adds an underlying deposit of strength that can help hold couples together when life threatens them apart.

“…God gave you this gift to be enjoyed, savored, and strengthened. When you enhance your overall marital well-being, the rest of your life is more effective in accomplishing God’s purpose for you.” (Bill and Pam Farrel, from their book, “Red Hot Monogamy”)


Most of us would probably agree that having a satisfying s*x life and romantic life together as husband and wife is important to the health of marriages. And yet how is it possible to achieve that after you have children and you’re so tired and preoccupied (and sometimes even the desire is gone)? Let’s face it:


“As soon as the baby arrives, nearly every aspect of your relationship changes —including your love life.” (David and Claudia Arp)

It may be that before you have children:


“You swear it will never happen: you will not become one of those couples who lets the fires of romance burn out as soon as children come on the scene. You know the ones —with puke stains on their t-shirts and bags under their eyes, they seem to have little in common other than an obsession with telling everyone about their wonderful child. Then one day you wake up with the Barney theme song running through your mind. You realize that your conversations with each other now revolve around sleep (as in who has had less), p00p (as in who has cleaned up more), and the new host of Blue’s Clues. Maybe keeping the romance alive is going to be tougher than you thought.

“Take heart! Though it may seem impossible, your love life can survive the Diaper Phase…”



Another related article to help you when your baby is new is written by Arlene Pellicane. She writes:


“How can you rekindle your desire for intimacy, even with a new baby? Put it on the backburner, but don’t forget about it. Having a baby does take a great amount of time, work and energy. s*x may have to go on the backburner when your baby has a need. But just like you wouldn’t leave food sitting on the backburner for weeks, don’t forget about s*x completely. When the time isn’t right for you, tell your spouse you’d really like to make love another time, how about on the weekend? Set a real time and keep your commitment. Food left on the backburner will eventually go bad and the same is true about closeness in marriage if you neglect lovemaking too long.”


It’s important to survive the Diaper Phase and every phase because as parents and authors David and Claudia Arp say,


“Your kids will wait while you build your marriage, but your marriage won’t wait for your kids to grow up. …Becoming parents should not make us celibate, so how can couples have kids and still maintain a s*x life?”


To go a step further, Sheri Miller gives another phase of marriage that has challenges all in its own. As she wrote,


“Everyone warned us that small children would impact our s*x life. They forgot to mention teenagers.”

How do you overcome that obstacle?

Upon reading the above articles, not only can you make the time and find the opportunity to have s*x even after the kids are born, you should. And an added bonus is that you can become a better mom if you make it your priority. Mother and author, Karen Linamen gives the following insight:


“I believe there is no conflict of interest between motherhood and loverhood. In fact, the bond that is created by sexual intimacy between you and your husband does far more than enhance your relationship alone —it also enriches the lives of your children. That’s right! The best mothers are not those women who devote every waking moment to their children. The best mothers are, indeed, those women who take the time —make the time —to cultivate, protect, and express the lover within.”


This blog was written by Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International.

If you have additional tips you can share to help others in this area of marriage, or you want to share requests for prayer and/or ask others for advice, please “Join the Discussion” by adding your comments below.
http://www.familyparliament.com/709/can-you-have-a-satisfying-s-x-life-after-having-kids

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn as a married woman is how to serve and love my husband regularly and well, without expecting anything in return.

Before getting married I had a fairytale perception of marriage. On my wedding day I said, “I do”, but with a list of expectations tucked firmly away in the tulle of my wedding gown. The ulterior meaning of “I do” was “I get,” even though I didn’t realize it at the time. I looked forward to all the perks of marriage, but forgot that marriage is more than anything I receive; marriage is an act of service.

In our culture, the word “serve” has a bad connotation because to serve makes a person a “servant,” and no one aspires to be a servant. Add the context of marriage to the discussion of servitude, and more specifically a wife serving her husband, and we join the never-ending debate of wives and submission. However, for a Christian, being a servant is what Jesus calls us to do – especially in marriage.

Christian servitude in marriage does not imply that the roles of husband and wife are not equal. It also does not imply that wives should serve their husbands more than husbands serve their wives or vice-versa. We are each called to be servants to one another because Jesus was a servant, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45)”. And serving others shows Jesus’ authority over our lives. “And he sat down and called the twelve. And he said to them, “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all” (Mark 9:35).

Since this article is written for wives, here are 8 important ways you can serve and love your husband on a regular basis. The first four are things you can do for his spiritual growth. The others are more practical.

1. Pray for him.

Praying for your husband seems obvious, doesn’t it? But how often do we intentionally pray for our husbands outside “Lord, protect him” or “Lord, change him”?

Our husbands are in a daily war as the enemy fights for their hearts and minds. From their workplaces to their social activities to their home lives, men battle an excruciating amount of temptation. Making wise, godly decisions in the midst of all their daily distractions is impossible without our intercession for the Holy Spirit to equip and guide them.
2. Show him with your actions, not your words.

The longer you’re married, the more you realize that you’re married to a sinner (and that he married a sinner as well). It seems that the list of characteristics you want changed in your husband grows, sometimes without any evidence of improvement.

The most encouraging verse in the Bible for me as a wife is 1 Peter 3:1-2, “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”

My default is to try to get my husband to understand my point by explaining it to him again and again, reminding him of it, and nagging him about it. However, 1 Peter 3:1-2 explains that husbands are won over without words but by example.

I have found that this applies to conflicts in my marriage but also to habits that I wish would change in my husband. For example, I can’t expect him to eat healthier if I’m not eating healthy. However, instead of trying to convince him of his need to eat better, I motivate him through my example of eating better.
3. Allow him the space and time to grow.

After we pray for our husbands and encourage them my example, we must remember that it is only God who changes a man’s heart. It is God who grows our husbands.

First Corinthians 3:6-7 says, “I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth.”

It’s tempting to make our husband’s growth about us and not about him and his relationship with God. We have to ask ourselves, do we want our husband to change so that his relationship with Jesus will be stronger or do we want our husband to change for our personal benefit?

Our motive should always be for our husband’s relationship with Jesus to grow stronger. Otherwise, it is a selfish motive. With this in mind, we must remember that God initiates change and growth and it is always in Him timing, not ours. Sometimes evidence of growth is slow. We may never see it at all. But we have to stay faithful in prayer and action, showing patience for what God wants to do in our husband’s life.
4. Believe in him.

We can’t forget the definition of love. “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7).

As long as we may have to pray for our husband and be an example for our husband, we can’t give up on him. We must be his biggest cheerleader and his biggest ally, in his journey towards fullness in Christ.
5. Participate in his hobbies.

Before I was married, an older married friend told me she was going motorcycle riding with her husband. This intrigued me because my friend didn’t seem like the type of person who would like to ride motorcycles. So I asked her if she liked to go motorcycle riding.

She went on to tell me that she, in fact, did not enjoy riding motorcycles. But one thing she had learned in marriage is the importance of participating in the hobbies your husband likes to do.

For some reason this has always stuck with me, and now that I’m married I understand how true it is. When my husband is interested in my hobbies, I feel important to him. It’s proof that he wants to spend time with me.

Our husband feels the same when we participate in his hobbies. Participating in his hobbies is what makes our marriage a friendship.
6. Give him time to unwind after work.

Before bombarding your husband with the day’s news and issues while he was at work, give him space and time when he comes home to unwind from his day. Even prayerfully consider the best time to discuss important issues so that they don’t add unnecessary stress.
7. Speak favorably to him to others when he’s not around.

I am always surprised about how my attitude towards my husband changes when I speak well of him to my friends as opposed to when I complain about him or tear him down. Speak words of affirmation towards your husband with others because this affects your attitude towards him when you’re together.
8. Tell him “thank you”.

Often. Every day tell your husband thank you for what he does for you and your family. Even if you don’t feel thankful, thank him anyway.
-http://www.familyparliament.com/677/8-important-ways-you-can-love-your-husband-today

You do well but you need to add the ogbonge points that I read in http://www.familyparliament.com/

delectablegyal:
Source: http://adegboyegailori.com/16-costly-mistakes-married-women-make/

By Eric Ugbor
ABA—Man, identified as Jacob Nwachukwu from Abala in Obingwa Local Government Area of Abia State, has cut off his wife’s left hand over allegation of infidelity.
The man’s wife, Mrs Nwadiokeonu Nwachukwu, is now at a hospital in Aba, while her severed hand had been taken to her husband’s village at Abala for burial.
The incident happened, Monday, at Ogbor Hill Area of Aba, where the woman had lived for years, while the husband lived at their Abala village.
A female co-tenant of Mrs Nwachukwu, who craved anonymity, told Vanguard that the couple had lived in the city for years before the husband lost his job and had to relocate to the village, leaving his wife, a trader, in the city.
She said: “The couple had always quarrelled any time the man visited his wife in the city, to the extent that all the tenants are aware and intervened in their quarrels.”
The man was said to have visited the wife on the day and during their usual quarrel, brought out a machete, cut off the wife’s hand and left with it to the
village, while neighbours rushed her to the hospital.
It was gathered that Mr. Nwachukwu’s intention was to kill his wife with the machete but missed the target as the woman was said to have used the severed hand to defend herself.
The suspected lover of the woman is said to be on the run, while her landlord reported the incident to a police station close to the hospital along Ogbor Hill, where the woman is currently on admission.
Area Commander, Aba Police Command, Mr. Peter Wabara, in a response to a text message, said the incident was yet to be reported to him.
However, a police officer at Ogbor Hill Police Station, confirmed the incident and said investigation into the matter had commenced.
-http://www.familyparliament.com/684/man-cuts-off-wife-s-hand-over-adultery-allegation

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Tonylyte:
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donholy28:
Dem tire for d old men so dem seek fresh blood

-By Bisi Adewale
It is a long weekend,no work till Tuesday? Waoh,this is great. What better time to rekindle love in your marriage and overhaul your love to your spouse by doing the following during this holiday.
1) STAY LONGER IN BED: Stay longer than usual in bed together,don't jump out in your usual way. Snuggle together,it is even raining now(is it raining in your area too) Waoh. enjoy the moment.
2) SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
During this time,spend quality time alone together,away from the Children and other things,you cant build a great marriage if you are never together,spend quality time together during holiday.
3) TALK,TALK AND TALK
Don't just be together,talk,discus,open up to each other,talk deeply,have heartfelt discussion,recapture your marriage.
4) GIST,YES,GIST
Many will only talk about necessary things like house rent,School fees,lesson fees,food etc. why this is good,go beyond that gist,talk about things that not are really necessary,friends don't just talk,they gist.
5) WATCH A MOVIE TOGETHER
Get a movie,watch it together,just the two of you may be with the Children.
6) CREATE TIME TO PRAY TOGETHER
What better time to pray together if not this period,spend quality tome talking to your maker together
7) GET A GIFT FOR HIM OR HER
Dash out,come back with a gift just for your spouse,just to say "I love you"
cool RENEW YOUR LOVE
Renew your love for each other at this period,reconnect with each other,rekindle your love for each other.
9) TAKE TIME TO REST: City life may be so stressful,use this holiday period to have adequate rest together and break the yoke of stress on your family. Remember those who refuse to rest will put their health under arrest.
10)GO OUT TOGETHER
Stroll out together,go out together, hand in hand,two jolly friends,two love birds.
11) MAKE LOVE: Yes,take time to explore the sexual aspect of your marriage,enjoy the moment like in honey moon days.
http://www.familyparliament.com/313/11-things-to-do-to-your-spouse-this-holiday

by Bisi Adewale
“Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes. Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir”. Song 1:15-17

We can use different colours to report different kind of marriages around us. Every marriage has colour that represents it. You need to learn about these colours then change the colour of your own marriage.

1. Black Marriage. This is the marriage of unbelievers, people who do not know the Lord, whose marriage is not based on Biblical principles but on worldly philosophy and human understanding. This marriage is always full of strife, demonstration of flesh and negative habits and character. “The way of the wicked is as darkness: they know not at what they stumble”. Proverbs 4:19.

2. Yellow Marriage. This is a marriage at “drifting level”. It was once full of love, intimacy, acceptance, romance and joy. Due to carelessness or busyness of the couples involved, they begin to neglect each other, taking each other for granted, remove courtesy, honour and respect, spends less and less time together. No more playing time, no time to do those “sweet things” they use to do when they were in courtship and honey moon, they allow other things to be their focus instead of each other. At this stage of marriage, women are known to put all their attention on their children to the detriment of their marriage, leaving their marriage to grow “yellowish” and dry. Men at drifting love or yellow marriage put all their attention on their jobs and friends; having no time for the marriage and family. “Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent”. Rev 2:4-5

3. Orange Marriage. Marriage at this level has grown beyond “yellow level”, since nothing is done to arrest the situation. It grows deeper into “matrimonial dillusion”. At this stage, it is not just about “drifting” from each other, it is about “hurting” each other. The marriage now involve outburst of anger, hatred, bickering, fighting, peace today; fight tomorrow, hurting each other with words, etc.

4. Red Marriage (Proverbs 19:13-14). This is a bleeding marriage; it has gone beyond drifting and hurting to bleeding. The truth is, when marriage is not attended to at yellow level, it will grow orange before going to red, if the signal is still ignored. A red marriage is a terrible marriage. A marriage devoid of love, joy, care, affection, attention, communication and passion. It is full of total war, violence, all-out-battle, malice, cutting remarks, abusive words and murderous thoughts. A red marriage is a marriage at its worst. Some couples at this stage, seek for help in the right places, some in the wrong places, compounding their problems, some will not look for help from anybody, they will just remain like that fighting battles all their live while some will opt out of the marriage, ending up as divorcees. Proverbs 21:19

5. Pink Marriage. This is the kind of marriage where the woman is in charge; ruling and reigning over the husband. In this kind of marriage, competition, rivalry, power struggle and in-fighting is the order of the day; making life difficult for everybody. The order of God is for the husband to be the head of the home and the wife submit to him. 1 Cor. 11:3, 8-9. Marriage is always difficult when this divine order from God is not followed and respected.

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Research shows that couples who split the housework fairly are the happiest between the sheets. They have the most sex, are the most satisfied with their s*x lives, and express the highest level of sexual intimacy.
Sharing housework is something that many Nigerian men may not like to participate in.

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This is because a good number of our men are brought up with domestic help and some grow up in homes where the female children are made to feel responsible for the housework.

Many women end up becoming tired and exhausted when married to men who don’t even want to help out with house chores. Its now wonder that such men end up complaining when their wives are not interested in their sexual advances.

Now this new study should bring a smile to any overworked wife and/or mother. According to this study from researchers at Cornell University and Georgia State University, couples who share household chores equally report the highest quality s*x lives.

The study found that spouses who split work around the house have the most sex, are most satisfied with their frequency of lovemaking, and report the highest quality s*x lives.

“If we just look around our culture right now, there’s plenty of anecdotal evidence that men are turned on by strong, independent women and that women are turned on by men who show a great deal of love and affection and attention to their children and who help out around the house,” Dan Carlson, the lead author of the study and an assistant professor of sociology at Georgia State University, told TODAY.com

The study is based on the results of the 2006 Marital and Relationships Survey of about 600 couples. Almost 90 percent were married, while the rest were living together. The couples had moderate-to-low income and 55 percent had at least some university education. All of them had at least one child living with them.

“Everybody wants a great s*x life and everybody wants to be in love with their partner,” said Carlson. “So to have a really strong, high quality relationship, I think our results demonstrate that egalitarianism is the most conducive to that.”



“The conventional view, based on data that’s a quarter century old, is that sexual arousal for heterosexual couples is dependent traditional gender roles, on a man being manly and a woman being feminine,” said Carlson.



“But given the changes in attitudes over time and what people want, we weren’t so sure that conventional gender behavior was the only thing that turns people on anymore.”

http://www.familyparliament.com/537/sharing-housework-leads-to-more-sex

make God give you your own car so that you can avoid all these people

Twaci:
Hello everyone! What's up? So which one of you don enter danfo/BRT/Elrufia before? (Oya come here and form for me now ).

Either way, for people like us that use these means of transportation frequently, here's a list of characters you find ever present in them:

1. Assistant Drivers:
These ones are usually in front seats. You'll always hear them yelling at the driver saying, "Take left! Overtake that guy!" Or, "Driver no match brake na! Na him suppose stop for you...", or even, "Why you let am pass you? Driver you too slow oooh!". The annoying thing is that if you let them drive the car, they'll do worse sef!

2. Assistant conductors:
You find this set poking nosing in the "conductor's" issues. You hear them saying stuffs like, "Conductor u never give that woman change for front", or "Enter na, the bus dey go Ojuelegba....", or even "Conductor that man change don pass oh!".

3. The Argumentators :
To get them started, just say in a loud voice, "See as this road be, its all GEJ's fault....". I swear, that bus won't hear anything again till u get down. This set always come with 2 groups; the defenders and the opposers and they never agree on anything, be it politics, fuel issues or football. Wetin fit this set na headphones.

4. The Formers:
This set always act like its their first time in a public transport. They do funny stuffs like; clean the chair with a hanky before sitting, make a face with a someone sits close to them, wear shades (plzzzz, in a bus?!) or will even have the guts to ask you, "pls how do you open the windows?".........like seriously?

5. The Sleepers Crew:
Once this set finds a sit, they doze off. They are ready to sleep through the journey (even when paying their bus fare) till the bus gets to its final bustop. This set usually miss their bustop and over pay the conductors...so if u have missed yours before, lemme see your hands up .

6. The observers:
I fall into this group . This set just plug in earphones and watch quietly as the characters above do their thing. They don't talk....almost invisible, sha just don't step on their toes if u know what is good for you.

That's all I have. Kindly add yours or identify your group .

By Tony & Alisa

It was a warm fall afternoon and my wife had walked into our home for lunch. She wasn’t her normal self and I could tell that something was on her mind. We walked around each other as we prepared lunch.

As we sat down at our kitchen table she blurted out, “I’m frustrated with you, our marriage, and us. I’ve been looking through the yellow pages for a divorce lawyer.”

Whoa, I was taken aback. I had no idea that there was anything wrong with us. As I caught my breath and tears filled my eyes I wondered if I could save my marriage.

In your marriage there may have been a moment in time or a specific reason why the love you once had for your spouse deteriorated to the point where your spouse is now asking for a divorce. It could have been:

an emotional or physical affair
continued fighting and conflict
being separated due to work, ailing parents, or personal choice
mental or behavioral issues
pornography, alcohol, or drug abuse
You now find yourselves creeping to the edge of divorce when there is little to no:

emotional intimacy
spiritual connectedness
and physical/sexual intimacy
in your marriage any longer.

Developing great communication skills and rekindling your commitment to one another can help you overcome these issues in your marriage. Unfortunately, there may come a point where your spouse already has one foot out the door. When this is happening how can you save your marriage?

If your marriage is at this point you may be asking yourself, “what can I do?”

First you need to realize that, YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE.

When a crisis hits, you often find yourself backed into a corner, living in fear, with no options to consider. What can you do during this crisis when it involves your spouses feelings and decisions?

At no point should you belittle, threaten, ridicule, or manipulate your spouse into changing their mind. What you can do is decide on how you will react to the situation. You may not be able to control the situation or your spouse, but you do have control over your words and actions.

This is your opportunity to look at the person you see in the mirror and step up to the plate as you take personally accountable for your actions and feelings.

What can you do that will foster change in your marriage?

You have two choices at this moment when your spouse wants a divorce. You can choose to be angry as you wallow in self-pity or you can choose to love your spouse.

But, your spouse is thick headed, aloof, and unresponsive. That’s OK. You still can grow and be a bright light in the darkness during this time in your marriage. Begin to reminisce about when you first got together, how you meet, where you hung out together, and what you enjoyed doing.

Capture those days again.

Then begin to share the good times you have had together since your wedding day. The two of you have made many good memories along the way. By focusing on your behavior as well as your emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy you refocus on what is important in your marriage.

There will come a time when an open dialoge with your spouse will be available to both of you. It is during this time that the two of you discuss the possible divorce and all that comes with one.

Do you both realize the toll, both mentally and physically, a divorce entails? Does your spouse understand the financial, spiritual, physical, and emotional consequences?

A divorce brings CHANGE. This should not be taken lightly at any time. Is your spouse ready for this change?

Lastly, you should involve a third party mediator, counselor, therapist, or trusted church elder to help the two of you through this situation. Any one of these individuals can help put your situation into perspective and help shed light on deep rooted issues and/or concerns.

If the situation is truly serious then by all means, get help.

It has been 12 years since that day when Alisa mentioned divorce in our marriage. Everything you have read above has been implemented to save our marriage.

It all started when each of us took responsibility for our actions and took the first step to make a change.
http://www.familyparliament.com/237/how-to-save-my-marriage-when-my-spouse-wants-a-divorce

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A woman has a rare condition that caused her to be born with two wombs which means every time she gets her period - she goes into labour
Sophie Loader, 23, suffers debilitating labour pains at her time of the month which last up to 72hours..
She is struck down by painful contractions every month which mimic perfectly labour pains, because her second womb fills with blood - mimicking a full-term baby.

Sophie, was born with uterus bicornis, meaning she has two separate wombs but one vagina.
The only way she can cope with the pain is through breathing exercises.The mum-of-one told the Mirror
"I've been in labour more than 100 times, but only once for real. To say that it's a pain would be an understatement.
"It might shock women to hear I have been in labour more than one hundred times. "When I was 13 and the contractions started, I had never felt pain like it and couldn't understand what was happening to me, it was terrifying - even the doctor thought I might be pregnant."
Full-time mum Sophie lives with boyfriend Keaghan John, 23, and their two-year-old son Chase. She said:
"When I had Chase I was drugged up to the nines for my c-section, so sadly I can't compare the pain of real labour to my fake contractions.
"But I wouldn't wish this on any woman. "One labour is more than enough."
http://www.familyparliament.com/263/meet-the-woman-who-goes-into-labour-every-time-she-has-her-p

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A woman has a rare condition that caused her to be born with two wombs which means every time she gets her period - she goes into labour
Sophie Loader, 23, suffers debilitating labour pains at her time of the month which last up to 72hours..
She is struck down by painful contractions every month which mimic perfectly labour pains, because her second womb fills with blood - mimicking a full-term baby.

Sophie, was born with uterus bicornis, meaning she has two separate wombs but one vagina.
The only way she can cope with the pain is through breathing exercises.The mum-of-one told the Mirror
"I've been in labour more than 100 times, but only once for real. To say that it's a pain would be an understatement.
"It might shock women to hear I have been in labour more than one hundred times. "When I was 13 and the contractions started, I had never felt pain like it and couldn't understand what was happening to me, it was terrifying - even the doctor thought I might be pregnant."
Full-time mum Sophie lives with boyfriend Keaghan John, 23, and their two-year-old son Chase. She said:
"When I had Chase I was drugged up to the nines for my c-section, so sadly I can't compare the pain of real labour to my fake contractions.
"But I wouldn't wish this on any woman. "One labour is more than enough."
http://www.familyparliament.com/263/meet-the-woman-who-goes-into-labour-every-time-she-has-her-p

Happy, healthy couples strengthen their marriage bond through the pursuit of shared goals and by encouraging and supporting one another in accomplishing those and their individual goals.

Goals harness and order the energy required to follow the associated structured activities that will result in achieving those goals. Sharing a goal with your mate can be a wonderful way to connect and invest in personal and couple growth and avoid the boredom and monotony of aimless efforts that can often result in fussing and disagreements.

Why not set aside some time or better yet, plan a weekend away when you and your spouse can dream and discuss goals that you would like to pursue together and individually.

“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” Will Rogers.

1) Be specific. Instead of saying, “We will learn to play tennis, be specific and say: “We’ll spend 30 minutes a day hitting b*lls three times a week and take a tennis lesson on Sunday afternoons at the Tennis Club.” The goal now expresses not only a desire, but the means to accomplish it.

2) Be realistic. Consider your time and resources and set goals that you can accomplish and feel good about. If you make them too easy, they will be meaningless and if you make them impossible to obtain, you will lose heart and become discouraged. Strive to create positive versus negative energy!

3) Include a way to measure your success. A good goal will answer the questions of what, how, and when; it’s measurable. Instead of saying, “We will learn new recipes and cook meals together, say: we will research recipes online and find a mutually agreeable one, grocery shop together at Whole Foods and cook together on the first Saturday evening of each month.”

4) Think short-term and long-term. Short-term goals (cleaning one closet a week) allows us to experience success at smaller intervals while working toward long-term goals (de-cluttering an entire house.)

5) Review periodically and be flexible. Goals are the defined destination of a journey. If you don’t know where you are going, guess what? You are already there! Remind yourself that life is a journey, and developing a passion for the process is the key to embracing and enjoying each day and learning to live in the moment. Priorities arise that will take precedence over structure you have established to accomplish a goal, which may require taking a detour, adjusting expectations or putting a goal on hold for a while. Utilize the power of prayer when setting daily priorities, which will result in PRAYORITIES, which will keep you in line with your dreams and the heart desires of God.

http://www.familyparliament.com/290/couple-goals-making-your-time-together-count