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We4all:
No woman will treat a nice man like trash when he needs her the most. If you dig into their lives, you will understand why she was so nonchallant.

chop knuckle Jor

IntelChief:
Mine is: Get ready to become broke very soon bro

All the best

Brownsrivers:
Dear Princess Fumi,

I'm very sorry that I overlooked your message. I didn't even see it because it was very short. Plase send your email or phone number to me ASAP.

Best regards

I'll send a mail

Sent

Brownsrivers:
Hello everyone. A young surrogate mother between the ages of 28 and 38 is needed in Abuja. She will be paid N1,200,000 and a monthly stipend of N50,000 for 10 months. After delivery, she will be paid additional N300.00.No other benefit is included. The conditions are: 1) She must be a mother of at least one child and be willing/able to pass the required prior medical tests conducted by the IVF clinic. If you're qualified and interested or know someone who is qualified/interested for this service, please respond to this post. Please note that surrogacy is a selfless service for families who are looking for children. Please respect our desire for privacy. Thank you for your understanding and not making any negative comments on this post.

N1,200.000 + N500.000 + N300.000.

Total compensation is N2,000.000.

Best regards!

I'm interested and I live in Abuja..dear brownsrivers, u are not replying my quot

guobe:
Okay will call

I tried sending her number to your mail it's not going so I posted it here.. thanks sir

guobe:
I made a post earlier today that I will be gifting 2 widows the sum of 5,000 naira each and I got the greatest shock as a good samaritan saw my post and volunteered to assist with the sum of 200,000 naira.
I have gotten the alert and 20,000 naira will be sent to 10 widows.
I am also stepping up mine as I will be giving 10,000 naira each to 5 widows.
If you know any widow that needs this signify as I will make video call to confirm their eligibility.
Thanks alot and God richly bless us all.

mama Jerry 09055372857

guobe:
I made a post earlier today that I will be gifting 2 widows the sum of 5,000 naira each and I got the greatest shock as a good samaritan saw my post and volunteered to assist with the sum of 200,000 naira.
I have gotten the alert and 20,000 naira will be sent to 10 widows.
I am also stepping up mine as I will be giving 10,000 naira each to 5 widows.
If you know any widow that needs this signify as I will make video call to confirm their eligibility.
Thanks alot and God richly bless us all.

hi, I have someone can I send her number to your mail..

Hmmmm

ADURA123:
I dont give Jobs ma, i only give information where the job is available and if possible, lobby for you, but the ball still rest on you because you will have to go for written, Oral and practicals as the case may be.

All the same, if there is anything i will come back to this thread.

thanks Sir

ADURA123:
Oh, ok, thaught you are in Abuja,,,But all the same...Just do something, it will go along way, most people doing well today pass through this same road

I'm in abuja i need a job pls, I'd appreciate anything

maasoap:
I don't even have anyone around the area. May be he's tired of the relationship or he's just difficult to live with

hummm God will see me tru this difficult time

maasoap:
Like I said, if you are real though, you should try to separate from him for a while. You will survive if surviving is what still keep you hanging around him. What city or state is that?

abuja, kuje to be precise I dropped the kid with him this morning, I couldn't keep her in the shop cos she's still a baby

maasoap:
That's the problem, he is supposed to be growing up in all aspects of his life, getting mature everyday. That's what I do, keep being better for myself, wife and kids because no one is perfect. We just need to recognise our flaws and work on it.


Even if his job or schedule doesn't allow him to help, there is what I called incentives. Husbands can motivate their wives with that, just what individual can afford. I do that once in a while.


Leaving! If everything doesn't work, may be separation is what you need and not outright divorce. Sometimes, all what it takes for husband to realise the importance, usefulness and worthiness of his wife is her wife's absence, not divorce. If he misses you and make steps to reconcile, that should give you opportunity to renegotiate.
Hang tight!

as I'm typing this I now live inside a shop, he said he will kill me I had to leave the house before ge came back from Work.. my 1 year old daughter is with me, m

maasoap:
That's the problem, he is supposed to be growing up in all aspects of his life, getting mature everyday. That's what I do, keep being better for myself, wife and kids because no one is perfect. We just need to recognise our flaws and work on it.


Even if his job or schedule doesn't allow him to help, there is what I called incentives. Husbands can motivate their wives with that, just what individual can afford. I do that once in a while.


Leaving! If everything doesn't work, may be separation is what you need and not outright divorce. Sometimes, all what it takes for husband to realise the importance, usefulness and worthiness of his wife is her wife's absence, not divorce. If he misses you and make steps to reconcile, that should give you opportunity to renegotiate.
Hang tight!

hummm, thanks for the piece of advise

maasoap:
Try to be talking to him when he's not angry: that you don't like how he normally reacts, most especially when he is angry, that he makes you feel less of a human.

most time he apologizes but that won't stop another one from happening.. aside that he doesn't help me with anything in the house when he's free, even when I'm very exhausted and if I ask him for help whala will start again, it's just too exhausted I almost lost my life some months ago I fell when I was carrying a bucket of water..hummm om thinking of leaving the marriage I'm tired I'm too young to be going tru hard time

maasoap:
These guys are kids, don't mind them. I'm a married man and I understand that if my wife ignores me, at times, it makes me angry too. But the truth is that wives ignoring husbands' rants could mean they're trying to prevent the issue from escalating by not saying the wrong words back. The husbands response to the anger is what separates individuals.
These ones think that there is a manual for what makes husbands angry with their wives: like talking back or being stubborn

my husband is hot tempered he gets angry over every damn thing, nd his insult can make someone commit suicide , the worst part his parents are late there's he fears nobody, nd if I tried telling people what he's doing, another trouble will start. .kai I don't deserve this...it is well

kingyang:
Very nice poem , well written. Until you're married you will understand. I'm 100 percent against men beating their wives/spouses, or anything that leads to fight, death but women will push you to a point of regrets. The earlier they control their tongues, the better. They shouldn't forget that they are talking to a human not animals or objects. I always walk away when in confrontation because I have seen the outcome several times.

u are wrong, I was beateb by my husband because I didn't reply his rant

Farmerforgoats:
I wish. In some climate, they are drained emotionally, financially and physically. People expect too much from them and give them nothing in return.

this is me, the burden is just too much... sometimes I just feel like running away, I was depressed but friends came Tru I hope this year Will be a better year..hmmm

Dey play

omoredia:
Every day

Lol

Nicepoker:
We are not disclosing the hospital. You could be the babymama who knows.

This is funny, he's asking for hospital not an advise

Nicepoker:
Pls do it. Act very fast. What kept you waiting for so long.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

hum let her go, I'm currently going tru the worst moment of my life because I married the wrong guy, I was pregnant before I see the flags tried to abort but u couldn't I'v spent two years in hell..hmmm