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Kingozymandias:
If you need advise form a stranger on the internet then you are not ready. Grow up

Wise one
Why is your blood so hot this early morning

Tell her.

If she didn’t want it she should have talked instead of what she did. There are other people who would have valued those clothes.

People know what they are doing.

Me myself dey emergency

OlaOfLagos:
1. The feminist
2. The single mother
3. The party girl

I guess this information helps

Na these one you talk say make we avoid nah.

Gimme 3 types of women to marry, e be like say I don ready

Starz825:
With the way things are going in Nigeria...

Nigerian Women wey dey reside for naija go later dey use style beg men for marriage or at least force pregnancies...

cos most Nigerian men no wan dey marry nigerian ladies again.... Survivor no fit marry survivor


prosper.ina, who tell you say women no care about marriage, husband and home...dem care deep down except if the lady is a full blown street orchin wey no grow up in a family setting

Funny enough, na age and time go tell


Obviously, you can not expect a 20-25 lady to take marriage and men serious...but when she hit 30-35...she go understand...

Dey play!...no woman is truly happy without a man or children....even most men care to have a family....na woman no come care...Dey play once again.

Baby mama go full everywhere by 2040

The major focus of a typical Nigerian right now is Money/Survival. Male or Female wants to stay afloat. The rich takes only 5% of Nigerian population so marrying for survival for women isn't a thing. Everyone is working, everyone wants to survive, women are choosing themselves and not settling or staying in unproductive unions. Reality is there as evidence but someone here is worried about women chasing men because he has a prick.
Make he log out go touch ground abeg.

People aren't rushing into marriage like before, the person with the highest value will be selected. Standards will change, people will compromise. If you think someone will chase you because you have prick, you are on your own o.

"A time will come women will chase or hunt men" see talk.

And e dey funny mi sha 😆

Belurved1:
I hope you're not waiting for that time cos It's not going to be business as usual, even any reasonable man won't wish that to happen. When women take charge of men's duties then expect worst.

Lol don't worry, women will feed men like op well while men like op will cook and lay themselves properly on bed for women to mount in the other room.

Abi since he said women will be chasing him

Truvelisback:
If you don't have anything sensible to comment, you can ignore the thread.

You posted this for reactions and comments. Why are you pained ?

Anything to make you feel important in a world that doesn't really care. I understand Nigeria hard, a little delusion of grandeur is allowed.

Sigh..

Rest well Alex

Motive 100

Location 0



Father of the year you try

Talkisneeded:
This marriage thing will end up running you people mad one day…

Too many analogy just to fulfil the duties of marriage…

This is so funny 😁

No we don't, we float over love.

Before nko?

Don't you as a struggling man have a time frame or what are you doing with a woman in the first place?

Buy smaller bed

Maybe 3by 6

It is finished.

CodeTemplar:
the difference between kpekere n chips is packaging.

They are both kpekere .

What's that BTW?

CodeTemplar:
Hmmm i fear who fear woman

They have come ooooo . Like men are saints

Serves her right.

Prenup? *Shrugs* totally indifferent about that.

pocohantas:
That is if they will listen.
Naija men no dey take advice.

pocohantas:
He should forgive her.
Women are polygamous in nature and it is you she loves. Given the rate of female infidelity on the internet, if you divorce one, you might end up with another or be sideguy to a married woman like her bf is.

Protect your home, kings. 🤝

I support this post with 5 million dollars.

He should fast and pray too, marriage is spiritual. Every man should learn to fight for his home. He should not forget to wear sexy boxers too.

Ashawoman82:
shutup, this ur gaslighting can no longer work.. What differentiate Nigerian men from other men in the world, keep deceiving yourself.. Lol.

Take several steps back, you came late to the party.

Finding a balance is what works.

When you were handling a married woman while she's with her husband did you ask us. Handle it the way you handled her.

Smh

franchasng:
My own trait of not liking to collect things from women started from childhood. Maybe in my previous life, I was a warrior or head of army cos I have some kind reservation towards women while growing up. I never liked associating with women until later years, I think towards middle of higher institution that I started liking women and after tasting the forbidden fruit in a woman, I went gaga and started liking everything in skirt (does sign of the cross )

So it has nothing to do with the topic we are discussing.


In fact, after my higher institution, many financially buoyant ladies, both those from rich families started liking me, during NYSC, in Church, online (even foreign women), everywhere, but I was too timid and scared to accept going into any relationship with any of them cos my financial situation back then was terrible and I used to feel ashamed of myself cos I didn't even have accommodation to start with so where were we going to even meet? And I doubt if I could sponsor any date outside lolz, Kai this life sha



My sister if u are living abroad and single, pls remove doubt, calm down, pray to your God, sincere prayer prayed when in die need usually get answer, give some good and focused guys in Naija a chance, he might come in and transform your life completely. It's better than staying single abroad forever cos no serious men abroad oh, most are married, the single ones doing well want to go back to their mother's village or their old street in Naija to find wife lol



There are good single guys even on this nairaland, just be careful u are not dealing with married guys like me disguising as single boys

You are getting all emotional over this thread . You don advice me pass my mama .

I know there are good men , I'm not short of good men. Lol I'm against taking full financial responsibility not because it’s evil but the fact that majority of Nigerian men aren't built for it. They'd resent you because every error will be tied to the fact that you are paying the bills. Before you know it, they will start saying you are emasculating them abi what's the word. I can support financially but I can't build him from scratch. It takes a lot of energy, strength and patient dealing with a Nigerian man that can't provide. You'd forever walk on egg shells around him and it's not healthy. That's the point.

Attraction at first sight Yes.

Attraction built into love? Yes

So yes there's love at first sight. It is the end product of Attraction sustained.

If you feel rigged ask your fellow men.

Men rigged relationship against men. The average Nigerian man believes no woman is single she has to be collected, won or hijacked. You can start with that

reddingtonblack:
Meow ! Meow ! 🤣🤣🤣 this one still dey single and blacklisted

Sorry , who are you?

franchasng:
Lol, let me now shock you.


My friend that I said is about sponsoring his wife on an European tour next month, it was his wife that made him. This guy was damn broke, this girl from a kind of semi rich family agreed to date and marry him, and gradually she transformed his life. I wouldn't want to go into details here cos this is an open forum, but she made him kind of but the guy is well focused, hardworking and ambitious, only needed a leap and his wife gave him that and today both of them are living their dream life as happily married couple, and young naira billionaire family



So please dont write off guys still in their formative years. Pls dont despise the days of little beginnings of anybody, be it a man or fellow woman. My life too is a big testimony that God can bless anybody


The only advice I would give to you like a brother is this before u start building or working to build with any guy, please study his personality, is he kind hearted, does he have human conscience? you will know from how he relate with people, friends, strangers. Then find out if he is genuinely interested in going on a life journey with you or not. Check his friends too, are they sensible and focused or are they cultists and hediots?

Even in your response to Steven, you don't like taking from women. There must be reasons for that.

Lol, me self dey formative stage, make somebody son build me My head no reject building fa.

franchasng:
Any man saying he won't spend his money on his wife or lover or side chick if the wife isn't spending her own on him is still a poor man struggling to survive.


Once a man becomes financially successful, maybe let me use my people I can vouch for, once an Igbo man becomes financially successful, the first place you will notice it is through his wife and kids. Na broke unmarried guys de argue about how to spend their wife's salary or how their wife must spend her income lol.


My wife can afford anything she desires as a woman today, but I can proudly tell you that that cute lady have never bought a handbag before by herself, have never bought a car or fueled one, have never bought hair wig or attachment, I buy them all and I buy the best cos I love seeing women carry quality handbag, put on good jewelry, cute shoe, hair and drive amazing car. And there are millions of Nigerian married men doing more than I am doing for my wife. So stop paying attention to online talks, na just for convo, in real life, men spend most part of their money on the women in their life (wife, daughters, mother, lovers, mistresses, side chicks, sisters), thats the reality, so stop worrying about what guys say online, wait until they marry, na today, go and collect her salary na

Me self want to enjoy like your wife, so I'm building no damn man

I no be bob....

Franchasng

While you urge Nigerian women to take a leaf from the foreign woman's book have you taken a moment to think of the cultural shift that has occurred in the dynamics of this man and his woman's relationship? Have you had a one on one talk with the man a Nigerian how he feels to be taken care of by a woman. Is he truly happy or his online display just a facade.

Let me tell you this, no one understands a Nigerian man better than Nigerian women. So if Nigerian women don't take full financial responsibility of a man it's because they know better not to. Many wives in Nigeria who took over financial responsibility in their homes advise their younger ones never to make such mistakes. Nigerian men aren't build to be receivers. Even foreigners end up regretting it, I see them on socials sharing their stories.

Let a man be a man this I have learnt , I can help, support but no I'm not upgrading a man's life from scratch. Not one I will be romantically involved with.

SixSeven:
Have you heard women say even if she is earning her own money, she still wants to enjoy his own? Don't women openly say my money is my money, his money is our money? These women want to war their cake and have it. Which woman no like enjoyment?

Being a provider cannot be an underrated ability and that is what the western style system wants to achieve. Once you share your responsibilities with her, you lose the provider status as a man. It's not like women should not earn and do well but what women back then did was to know that when they leave their offices and get home, that boss lady ends there. In the house, one person is the head, the woman is not, no matter how they want to change things. I even hear them now say we are partners. Women like deceiving themselves. Let him be your partner and we'll see how that goes. He's your husband and head of the family. Know that and know peace.

So now imagine this here. After spending my resources to upgrade a man he will now have this mentality.

Franchisng will settle matter tire o