₦airaland Forum

*WHO IS A HUSBAND AND WHAT IS HIS ROLE?*
~ _Rev Chris Oyakhilome Ds.c DD_

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.

Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.

A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

maestroferddi:
I always suspected that something was fishy when Oshiomhole began to shout like a rabid dog...

You are a funny man.

irepnaija4eva:
LAGOS — Vice President Yemi Osinbajo has restated that he is an advocate of fiscal federalism, stronger state governments and state police.

Mr Osinbajo made this submission while delivering the 40th Anniversary Lecture of the Association of Friends on Monday in Lagos.

He reiterated his stance that good governance was what Nigeria needed rather than geographical restructuring.

“I have been an advocate, both in court and outside, of fiscal federalism and stronger state governments. I have argued in favour of state police, for the simple reason that policing is a local function.

“You simply cannot effectively police Nigeria from Abuja. Only recently, I made a point that stronger, more autonomous states would effectively eradicate poverty.”

Prof. Osinbajo’s stance on stronger states and state police is at variance with that of President Muhammadu Buhari who has publicly opposed state police.

President Buhari’s non-commitment to state police and stronger states, components of a restructuring of the federation demanded by many Nigerians, is believed to have influenced the lack of action by the ruling party, APC, on the matter.

Although a committee set up by the APC, following public outcry, submitted its report, the ruling party has failed to act on it.

Despite the inaction of the presidency and the ruling party on restructuring Nigeria, Prof. Osinbajo has, however, continued to restate his support for major aspects of restructuring. He recently engaged in a public debate with former vice president, Atiku Abubakar on the latter’s commitment to restructuring.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2018/11/im-for-state-police-stronger-states-says-osinbajo/

your opinion does not really count so long as the president thinks differently. I am surprised at the extent Buhari is avoiding public functions.

sdindan:
So An Anglican from Anambra will not vote for Obi because of what Apc is talking?

It seems this ppl don't even know how much APC is hated in the east.

Every igbo man has no choice but to vote for Peter Obi. The truth is that Peter Obi played bad religious politics as governor of Anambra State. He was warned severally but snubbed all advice. The same has destroyed ABGA which will find it difficult to win election in Anambra state. Obi played short sighted and unintelligent politics. He never saw today. Are you surprised what's happening to ABGA now in Anambra State? Still, these things are not enough enough not to vote for Peter Obi.

Hedonini:
Bini people too worry. But it's not the girl. Too easy... You've not come to Nigeria since 2017, so why would a girl here say you're responsible for her 3 month pregnancy? Doesn't add up.

The obote fit don chop person money for yonder, dey form 'nothing you fit do', stray come Naija'.

I have seen a lady of four months pregnancy with positive pregnancy test and Doctors confirmation still insisted that she was not pregnant nor any man come close to her.

ba7man:
Jesus ( Not really certain if he's really a God or simply a man filled with God's spirit) is the perfect embodiment of what man should be.

Jesus Christ is God.

sureheaven:
This guy call Saraki has lost his common sense. Who is the government? A number 3 citizen for that matter who is still calling on government. Useless man indeed.

And to all those terrorist who called themselves Shiites Muslims, we’ve had enough terrorist group in Nigeria. We won’t allow u grow wings before we clip them.
Boko haram, Fulani herdsmen, ipobs and militants aren’t yet curtailed, yet these ones brewing up.

PMB shld not succor to their pressure of releasing their leader who is constituting security threat.

Bukola Saraki is not empowered by the constitution to execute the law. That is president Buhari's responsibility please.

Bukola Saraki is not empowered by the constitution to execute the law. That is president Buhari's responsibility please.

ok

waste of time, Atiku

[color=#990000][/color]we are yet to find out why he resigned. Don't abuse him for resigning, he is just expressing his fundamental human right to association.