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cutecommend:
Women should make themselves respected and not make themselves to be looked down upon.

Last time I checked it wasn't all the women in that country that was involved in the scandal.

ElSudani:
She should have said something about the amazing things the British Empire in Nigeria for example.
I guess we should thank them for ending slavery which Africans were the victims.
It is like being grateful to an armed robber who for whatever reason decided not to rob you any longer after years of pillaging your home.
The black face of a racist colonizers.

You are coming from a place of ignorance, your history is readily available to you go and read it. It was called SLAVE TRADE for a reason., Trade means exchanging something for another mostly for commercial purposes.

PressMyButton:
A country must not be occupied with ignorant people, if you weren't, you would know the benefits she has helped facilitate to the country.

List them

Racoon:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v6M3kKE5Uro?si=jone1aF4IiZ9CntD

Every living souls with a conscience knows that the 2023 presidential election was one of the monumental electoral heist ever committed on earth.

It was not as bad as the US 2024 election

Esthered:
Keyboard warrior, stop shouting. We've heard and see your dominance in our country hence our success.
What's your Y chromosome without a woman?
How do ensure you have a lineage without a woman?
This one wey fit dey compete with that Equatorial Guinea man dey shout say he no need women. Have you disowned your female family members?
See as you dey type plenty. You get strength o.
😅

low iq woman

without a man women can NEVER get pregnant, thus no lineage.
A man can survive for many years without bleeping a woman, and if all the women left this world
a woman will not survive a month if all the men left this planet.
the greatest leaders throughout history have always been men.

Your only value comes from men, thats why women never seek validation from other women,
ofcourse women have their place in the grand scheme of things and a very important one at that.
But when it comes to survival men dont need women. I know its hard for you to swallow.

Now if you dont mind, stay out of my mentions.

Esthered:
Were they nurtured to rape?

One Pryme said men are superior to women and we see the evidence of superiority in digging their phallus in the well of a 2 years old.

The sick deeds of one pedophile will not erase over 10,000 years of evidence..
Maybe I did not make my self clear-
YOU ARE NOTHING WITHOUT MEN.

Only men have the Y chromosomes,

Only Men have fought and died for freedom

Only men can overthrow a Tyrannical govt men

Mostly men are responsible for most of the inventions (including your menstruation pad)

Mostly men responsible for the infrastructure that run civilization,

No man has dumped their one day old baby in a pit toilet.

You won't survive a week if all the men were to disappear on this planet, but guess what MEN WILL SURVIVE WITHOUT YOU because you don't need sex to survive.
Are y you going to try to prove me wrong?
I will like to see you try

The math here is does not tell the story.
Yes he fuuccked 400 women, he cheated on one woman, each of the 400 women he fuuccked cheated on one man.
They're no saints here, just adults doing adults things including stupid mistakes.

AishaDant:
I understand. Thank you

You have to ask yourself what you can live without.

It's not everyday you find a man that is complete in every facet,
The ones that are rich may have sacrificed their time learning what it takes to be successful, thus their bed skills take the back seat,
Same goes with men that knows their way around the women body, they must have invested a considerable amount of time learning this, while their drive to make money and be successful takes the back sit.

Your decision should be based on an honest question and an honest answer to yourself.

If all fails, let your man know this will be the deal breaker (for you), no point tiptoeing around it.

Sharpsharp00123:
the annoying thing about these annoying guys is that they pretend as if nnamdi kanu didn't do anything n government just went to arrest him, this nnamdi kanu guy is not even a first time offender.

Reno had to school one Igbo online n told him to understand that Igbos provoked d north n Nigerians at large so that boy shouldn't present it as if Igbos were minding their business n northerners went to kill them

They are masters of deciet, they will never talk about their actions, they will only talk about other people's reactions

Well the good thing is some Ibos also stood up to Kanu, but at great cost.

mrvitalis:
Why I am happy that those minors charged with treason have be released and allowed to go home...But this has exposed the fact that Tinubu lead administration have intentionally prolonged Nnamdi kanus case

Not that it matters because I don't see any case what so ever FB have against Kanu as the little case they have they messed up by kidnapping him

But for People who like to change History, people who like Propaganda

This would be a reminder for future generations... Tinubu a Yoruba man lead government, intentionally refused to allow Political solution to Kanu case

Not tomorrow when Kanu wins the narrative would change... Let this be a reminder for the future Igbo generations

It's like you forget:

Kanu said he was going to go Abuja and bring the head of the sitting President.
Remember those nice names Kanu called the President? And telling his followers to Lynch men of God. that come to their land?

Bleep-around-and-find-out.

Esthered:
I'm not running but rather not engage.
She did wrong no doubt but she has now apologized. Superior men don't forgive?
I'm a unique person of my own who'll be 5 years in marriage next month and my spouse isn't opening threads up and down seeking for help.
We have challenges, we acknowledge our wrong, apologize and try to make it work.

You don't forgive when repentance is the last option, it has nothing to do with superiority.

The superiority argument came in when you talked about rulership,
a topic not related to a wife that had to wait 2 years before admitting she was wrong.

I called BS when you said the man should do better, when there is a disaster from a flood as result of a broken Dam, do you blame the flood or you blame the person that broke the dam?

Esthered:
You that deflected by engaging in superiority contest no see that one.
Uncle SUPERMAN, please rest. Advise the OP and leave me mbok.
Have a great week ahead.

Yeah run,
Because you can't hold women to the same standard.
A woman destroyed her home and you are here telling the Man to "do better".
Thank God not every woman on the planet are like you.

Esthered:
Does blaming the woman improve the situation?
🤣@bolded
We've seen the impact of your superiority in how we're faring as a nation.
Did 🇳🇬 lose it's advantage upon never been ruled by a woman because I'm not getting your assertion.

Don't deflect stick to the point, I asked you to highlight in your post where you blame the woman as you are blaming the man for the mess those 2 are in now.

Esthered:
Where did I absolve her of any wrongdoing?
Why must you be condescending to pass a comment?
He admitted she has apologized (remorse by holding herself accountable) and willing to move on which is commendable, so why dwell in the past?
I've seen your likes and accountability like human and oxygen and we have a country ever ruled by men in this state of DISARRAY.

read this again and highlight where you blamed the woman the same way you blame the man in this your post

"Women can stay without sex for a prolonged period even if they were active.
It's possible she was chaste during the separation but you weren't on your part but as a man, society will say it doesn't matter.
You have seen that it isn't greener on the other side and thank goodness she wasn't caught pants down but she got insulted here as though she was caught pants down.
Ensure that you address the reason for the emotional infidelity for it not to happen again.
You're not perfect either. The way you lash at women who don't reason with you here, don't continue in that same path at home towards their mother as your daughters are seeing you if you eventually reconsider. Set the standard of the husband they should long for.
All the best."

And for the record men are far more superior rulers than women. Know your place or you will lose the advantage God gave you.

Afodot0022:
Good morning and happy Sunday to my nairalanders fam and happy new month.
I know so many of you will have clue about my history here and my stories, if you don't, kindly check through my profile. This forum have helped me to navigate some difficult situation especially on marriage, even though I still get bashed and insulted, I can tell that I still get genuine advice from matured and experienced people here. It's all about taking the wheat from the shaft.

I and my wife had been separated for almost 2yrs and reason was that I saw some chat on her phone that she was having emotional affair with another man under my roof, I sent her away due to this and have been leaving my life since then, the kids have been with her and have been taking responsibility over them, recently she took my kids to her parents without my approval due to her traveling for months and now that she is back from the official trip, she had refused to pick the kids from her parents place to start living with her, that was the recent issue we both had and up till now, the kids still stay with her parents instead of her.

I have tend to move on concerning this matter and we have already had an agreement concerning the kids welfare and the rest. They are just 7 and 6yrs.

I married traditionally and ever since we separated, there had not been any formal divorce and the bride price is yet to be returned. Now it happens that I and my wife started chatting back on Whatsapp and my reason for allowing this was to know the situation of my kids and to keep track on them, but in those chat with her, I could see some form of remorseful from her and some calmness from her to the extent that she pleaded that I should forgive her for all the wrong she had done to me . I was surprised to see all this write up from her cos I never expected her to apologize cos of her over bloated ego. In her write up, it seems she want us to resolve our differences and come back together as family but I wasn't buying that.

Now my question is to matured and experienced men that have gone through this particular situation of separation from you ex wife, does it worth it given such woman a second chance knowing what lead to the breakdown of the marriage, she had an emotional affair but didn't caught her having sex though, is it worth forgiving her and taking her back, I just want to be sure I won't regret these cos I don't know her true intentions, we have been separated for two years now and I asked her if she have had any sexual encounters during those period, she told me she never dated or had any sex during our period of separation, I am finding it difficult to believe that, how can a woman that was once married and separated not feel the urge to have sex for almost two years. Pls experienced
married women in the house, is it possible for a woman to keep herself that long, I am assuming she is just using that to make me feel good about taking her back.

TBH, I still care about my kids cos they are my focus now and if I will be doing this, it will be for my daughters cos they have really been through alot during this separation, they have been staying with their grand parents and only God knows what they are passing through there.

I just want to know if it worth it given the marriage a second chance again despite everything that occurred or I should just move on with my life and forget about her and just take responsibility over my kids cos I don't want to regret this move, pls men that have gone through something like this scenario, kindly share some advice and tips on how to navigate through this situation. I know I will be bashed by some but will still appreciate honest opinion and advice from both gender and especially from experienced ones. As it is been said, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know . Pls all advice will be welcomed and well appreciated.

There are no solutions here. only trade offs:
be with the mother of your children so it makes raising them a bit easier for you,
or
be with a dubious woman that can never be trusted. Am calling her dubious, if she was really sorry about what she did, it wont have taken her 2 years to come to terms with what she has done - because she is not stupid. Every action was well thought out, its just that things did not turn out how she planned it.

As for your kids you MUST find time and share in their life, you MUST have days with them, at some point you have to let them in why you are no longer with their mum, Kids grow faster than you think, you MUST be transparent with them - at some point.

My advice? move on with your life cos the stakes on this gamble is why too high.
Yes she is sorry but she has shown you WHO SHE IS.

Esthered:
Women can stay without sex for a prolonged period even if they were active.
It's possible she was chaste during the separation but you weren't on your part but as a man, society will say it doesn't matter.
You have seen that it isn't greener on the other side and thank goodness she wasn't caught pants down but she got insulted here as though she was caught pants down.
Ensure that you address the reason for the emotional infidelity for it not to happen again.
You're not perfect either. The way you lash at women who don't reason with you here, don't continue in that same path at home towards their mother as your daughters are seeing you if you eventually reconsider. Set the standard of the husband they should long for.
All the best.

Ofcourse non of this was her fault. it was a mans fault.
Your likes and accountability are like vampires and sunlight.

Havesomesense:
Between a mature working class lady and a young jobless girl who would you date and state your reasons?

Any one that is a good person, the reasons are obvious.

EnlightenedUFO:
Why must you make up things? That's not exactly what he meant ahhh. Did you even watch his remarks? You are reaching bro

"We have to slaughter these people" what did he say after that?

The reason why am sick and find things like this disgusting is because fake news is a disease and you are spreading it.

Do you remember Trump's" the fine people on both side" statement? Where you conveniently left out what he said AFTER that?

Same thing they did when Trump talked about "the bloodbath", where they conveniently left out the fact that he was talking about the Auto industry.

Yesterday Kamala called Trump Hitler, you people don't know that that's one of the worst insults you can call a person, so that it will be ok to kill him, DID YOU OPEN A THREAD ABOUT HOW THAT CAN INCITE ASSASSINATIONS?

No you go and watch the video you posted, if you don't understand what context means DON'T OPEN STUPID THREADS LIKE THIS.

EnlightenedUFO:
Grant Cardone calls Mark Cuban a "simp" and says Kamala Harris has "love-vendor handlers." He then says of Democrats "we need to slaughter these other people"

This is happening at the Madison Square Garden in New York.

Watch when he said it -

Grant Cardone calls Mark Cuban a "simp" and says Kamala Harris has "pimp handlers." He then says of Democrats "we need to slaughter these other people" pic.twitter.com/TQu5vKwydF

— Aaron Rupar (@atrupar) October 27, 2024

He meant in terms of VOTES you human garbage, time to argue with you filths like a reasonable people are over.

Your arguments are built on lies

pansophist:
If one look at a donkey and conclude its a monkey, then his/her insistence that a monkey is a donkey says more about the person.

You did not answer my question.

pansophist:
We dont see things as they are, we see them as we are.

What do you mean by "We", are you a woman behind this moniker?

Most of the comments above are personality traits, not the basic characteristics of a woman.
With that said I find nothing appealing about their characteristics, they are too emotional by default, have short sightedness, self serving ( 98% of women have never asked their man what they want), poor decision making.

Am sorry the only thing I like about a woman is sexual, nothing beats a feminine curve and their succulent bodies.

SmallmebigGod:
And who is the local producer, forget about others , all their petrol combined can't serve Nigerians a bit. Till we have diversified local production this PIA will put us more into paying any price dictated by Dangote.

BTW why do you have to use law to compell people to buy your product. You have good product already, they will by if you offer them fair price , no need for law ideally.

Some months back, NNPLC said they can't supply Dangote with the required volume of crude supply because they were servicing loans, stupid excuses like this and that stupid dollar for crude is just to show you local refineries are not prioritized.

And pls it's not only Dangote that has a refinery in Nigeria, if Nigeria only buy from them, it will give incentive to more wealthy Nigerians to build more refineries here.
More refineries more supply, more supply means reduction in price.

Why can't you see where this is going?

For the fact that the Dems top running point is Abortion is a sick disgrace,
and the stupid set of human being that Believe Abortion is more important than the state of their economy or safety from sick illegal criminals should be banned from voting.

The Demon party have shown that they are of the Devil (Abortion up to 9 months), any body that has not seen this by now, is willfully blind and accomplice of the Devil.

diamond68:
People throw up all kinds of innuendos about how this or that is what fell Nigeria, corruption, etc etc etc but the truth of the matter is that the great country called Nigeria was felled by illegal immigration. Back in the 60s and 70s our population was so small so much so that the government sponsored almost everybody and sponsored everyone who wanted to travel abroad. There is a funny story in the university of Texas that anyone you see driving a corvette is a Nigeria student. A corvette is a high end sports car. So they conducted an interview amongs the Nigerian students to ask how they are able to afford a sports car only celebrities can afford in America ? All the students said we buy it from the government allowance our government gives us. Exchange rate was 2 dollars to 1 Naira. Naira was stronger. All those who were sent to Russia received generous stipends too. The whole world took notice of this largesse from the Nigerian government and most especially fellow Africans took notice. If anyone tells you a population can go from 80 million to 200 million in just 50 years ? It’s humanly impossible to do. Humanly impossible. So what happened ? Every African took notice of the wealth and enjoyment of Nigerians and illegal immigration into the country started. Every knuckle dragging mouth breathing specimen just walked from all over Africa into Nigeria and this is what put pressure on all our resources and collapsed everything. There are 200 million Nigerians and 120 million of them are illegal immigrants not Nigerians. This is what destroyed Nigeria, illegal immigration not bad politicians. But then again you could say if the politicians were forward thinking they could have secured all the borders. 120 million people in our country calling themselves Nigerians are Cameroonians, Benin republic, Niger etc etc. economic scroungers. We real Nigerians know ourself and we no pass 70 million. We have been invaded

Last time I checked All Nigerian Presidents were Nigerians, and Presidents formulate and accent policies, policies CONTROL Immigration .

guobe:
If you are not careful, Calabar girl will just take your husband and put you in a substitute bench easily as they will turn you to kelechi Iheanacho in Sevilla or Chukweze in AC Milan.
Calabar girls are very good in cooking very sweet food and on top of that give you mind blowing sex 😆 that will make you forget the spelling of your surname.
My friend who lives in America said that during his NYSC days the Calabar girl he dated almost made him to leave his 7 years old relationship that the Calabar girl was just too good in all ramifications as she was just a Complete treasure with very sweet delicious food and better knacking to complement it .
I was in a restaurant when I overheard the owner of the restaurant telling her friend how a married Ghanaian left his wife with two kids and got married to a Calabar girl.
She said the guy had a very good job and was transferred to Kaduna where he met the Calabar girl.
The Ghanaian abandoned the wife and till this day is still married to the Calabar woman.
Indeed Calabar girls have gone global.
What is really the secret of Calabar girls lol?

This stereotype needs to stop.
Calabar girls are not even on par with Akwa Ibom girls, if you want lazy women go far Calabar women.
Before start to argue with me, name one town in Calabar.

Nothing beats A GOOD PERSON,
Whether you are a Man or Woman.

Preciousgirl:
Nothing like that

My husband reported her aspersions suggestion sexual interest

She denied ever making any such aspersions

If your story is true -

the woman is a predator then she can sense the weakness in your husband, there is nothing a woman dreads more then open humiliation and rejection from a no nonsense man

Your husband needs to speak in the language this woman understand, the language you use with a plague that seeks to destroy.

Your husband will have to rebuke her AGGRESSIVELY, AND JUST BE PREPARED TO TAKE NECESSARY STEPS TO NEUTRALIZE HER, He should not care if these will cause a scene in the office, it should will be as evidence that he is not into her nonsense, yes this is not a lady but a trap that will bring down your husband with manipulation because she can play the victim card.
Your husband must call on his masculine Energy and treat this like a serious threat that it is.

He should call for a special panel to be set with her and this should be for the record. If not then he should bring it up in the staff meeting.
This will be for the record and for all to see. Vampires Hate Sunlight.