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She will be missed dearly.

uuuhhhh, all that starts well ends well, am really touched by the maturity on this post , well done guys, your style of argument is very impressive. well done. .

I think its been bold and real to say exactly what you want. Most times comfortable and successful people do this with no fear of what people will think or say. For example if i come to your house and i tell you how i want my plaintain fried, diced , sliced e.tc , it does not cost you extra money, it is still thesame plaintain, so also it's still thesame 250 naira or 10 pounds you intended to use to buy me a set of cups, so putting it in an envelope for the couple won't reduce the worth of what you intended to give in the first place. it is their day, if you love them enough give them what they want, but if you do not have it am sure they'll appreciate your presence.you don't have to question their intention. so what would you say to "strictly by invitation" I.Vs. Am sure if we had a thread on that one ,loads of abuses will start to flow in. Things does not have to be the way we've always been used to. there's always a time for a change, and that change does not have to be kool with everyone.This idea has got nothing to do with taste or poverty. the guy is just been real.


@ Big Sis
No one is directing you on how to cook food in your own house, how can we, we know you pay the mortgage and i know a pound can make a difference in repayments, so no one is asking you to spend extra. I think it is only proper to ask people what they want, it's called, courtesy, tolerance and love. To dice plantain or slice it, or to ask a guest if they'll prefer salt in thier dodo or sugar or milk in thier tea or cofee is not going to add to your expenses . It's the same time and resources, it's just a change from what u used too. If we all did things the same way in this life, what a boring place it will be.I agree that change is very difficult for some people, but if given a try it could open new doors you never knew existed.Whether you like it or not, this idea of "cash only no gift", is soon to become the trend, and when it does, Am sure we won't stop attending weddings or parties because of that.

@ hot angel

Nice one, at least a naija man can sing along with you in the car to ayefele, obey or sunny ade,

@sisimose

Please tell them!!!!!

Don't start what u can't finish.
Yes, flirting may be sweet and fun , and your intentions might not be serious, but how about the lady or guy on the receiving end , do they know you are just joking and not really serious. What if they start to stalk you, what if they think they are heartbroken because you suddenly stopped flirting with them.
The lesson here, you might be matured and know where to draw the lines, but how about miss believing or mr excited who might mistake the flirting for real intentions. So please maintain your honourable integrity and leave flirting for the minds who need it to get going by the day ( its not drugs!!!! so am sure you can do without flirting from now on )

not loving someone anymore can't just be ordinary. it's either there is something she does not like anymore, you can't just wake up one morning and say you do not love your husband anymore. its a gradual process, it could be anything. its suprising to know the amount of things that can stop the flow of love, bad sex, money, gifts, attention, comittment, trust, worry, phobia,complex, odour, romance skills,communication,, etc

So please make it a bit clear to us so that Advice (if any) can be properly given

@Tornadoz.

If you don't have the money, or if you did not even intend buying a present(let alone give the money equivalence), how does that stop you from participating in your friend's wedding. i am sure there will be no collectors at the door, so you can still attend rather than saying they should eat thier Jollof rice alone. Na fight , if you don't have the cash just don your coat, come and enjoy yourself. and for those who are ashamed of how little thier cash gift might be, then don't sign your name on the back of the envelope, just give!!!, its the heart not the amount.Lets be real, enough pretence.

What if her husband is not the type that is interested in any form of communication except obedience to orders?
Seun , , u've been watching too many naija home videos



but serriously,if you can tell us what worries you about your man, is he boring, does he disgrace you in public, is he not focused, is he still doing the same thing as when you married 2 years ago, is he not romantic, is he too religious, or are you too sexually , umh umh, does he not meet your ned in bed, do you both climax at different times, does he not know what to do to you to make you happy(both emotionally and sexually), can you not discuss these things (if any exists in your relationship) with him.
My Dear, some people are dying to be married. You have a home. Pleas do all you can to keep it, except there is something so serious you are not telling us.

I think its been bold and real to say exactly what you want. Most times comfortable and successful people do this with no fear of what people will think or say. For example if i come to your house  and i tell you how i want my plaintain fried, diced , sliced e.tc , it does not cost you extra money, it is still thesame plaintain, so also it's still thesame 250 naira or 10 pounds you intended to use to buy me a set of cups, so putting it in an envelope for the couple won't reduce the worth of what you intended to give in the first place. it is thier day, if you love them enough give them what they want, but if you do not have it am sure they'll appreciate your presence.you don't have to question thier intention. so what would you say to "strictly by invitation" I.Vs. Am sure if we had a thread on that one ,loads of abuses will start to flow in. Things does not have to be the way we've always been used to. there's always a time for a change, and that change does not have to be kool with everyone.This idea has got nothing to do with taste or poverty. the guy is just been real.

Na wa ooh!!!

Kai!!, Nigerians!!!, if something is not yr kind of style or  if something is new and you have phobia for change, stop using ignorance as an excuse to imply that "only cash please , no gift" is a DEMAND for money from the poor.
Check your dictionary, the last time i checked mine, demand does not mean "money by force".
It is only reasonable for a couple going back abroad to save expenses by not having to cargo all the cheap plastics and expensive cars back home. and in a case where the couple reside in naija, it will just save them the hassle of having to live with unnecessary baggage. Another reason is the spiritual implication attached to gifts at weddings so am sure if you ask your friend it might be one of these reasons. Speaking from experience, those who have this on thier I.V are  usually quite comfortable and do not depend on the money to meet the cost of the wedding in any way, infact i am going to do the same plus use the online gift list. it's less stressful and convenient.

When a man ready for marriage finds the woman of his dreams,he wishes he could have had her for keeps yesterday!!


WORD!!!!!
Trust me he won't risk another man taking you to the altar, He'll act fast!!!!
DROP HIM, and i mean FAST!!!!

It is so sad, how come it is not in the papers.
Laspotech should give him a befitting burial. Who would want to kill him
he 's served that school for over 20 years and he is worth the position (rector), so why would anyone want him dead.
I find it had to believe it is ordinary too, because he is not one known to be sickly, he was always the last to leave the school premises and his car will be the first u'll see in the morning. he was very dedicated. I pray that justice catches up with whoever it is. but if it is the hand of God , well let the will of God be done.

Engineer Cosmas Odunaiya!!! Dead

I was informed over the weekend that this intelligent and dedicated man is gone.
He was my lecturer and Head of department at the Lagos state polytechnic , and he has just been appointed as the seventh rector of the school.I still can't believe he is dead. Somebody please tell me it is not true .

http://www.guardiannewsngr.com/education/article06

Let somebody shout halleluyah!!!

who says this?

@ My2cents, God bless ypu real good

Please tell them.
People should stop painting naija as a death trap , if yr time is not up u go nowhere.
is this not the same country we all left from and we did not die, is it now that we decide togo back that we suddenly become attractive to death, please lets trust God , make up our minds if we have to and go back and do something positive to ourcountry. most of us can make enof pounds, euros or dollars and go back to create jobs for others.
no matter how rich you areliving abroad, life is hectic here, from the bills to the stress of everyday life.there is rest at home, peace of mind and an better opportunity to help humanity.

@waleis
it possible to arrange for us to pay
for tickets b4 the day,
if we are sure of going there later on.??

quite rude coco, and am sure u are as old as i am, but i'll d diffuse your question with a smile and say, am from hiding in emails with wale,if yoou read through this thread, u'll see one of my posts.

busy diaries, (always in a hurry),

hey guys changing the date does not get us started, for some of us that have very busty diairies, we can't keep changing dates

hey wale,
av sent u a mail.
live in the docklands, so am quite central, so the city 's not a bad idea.

@t4cash, RUDE BOY, na seun you dey talk to like dat, anyways, feel yr posts on nairaland, nice ones.

ummhh.unh, WOMEN!!! sha

so how 'bout dockland babes, any hope for us
am a desirable nig babe , reserved and live in the docks, but it's sad how undefining nig boyz can be here, they just want to be sure before they show you green light and their way of being sure is to get u under thier duvet, and am not ready for that, this is such an interesting topic, and i love the "thamesmead" bit of it, really got me crackn up, used to live there, did not like it , oohh the stench, it so smells, please pardon my attitude, am only been honest,

@ HA, google the song, can never tell

interesting

@seun
r u inferrn plaigarism

ok i give up,
female or not, pls appreciate jose he is a very good manager.

but let's face it the manger is cute and he is doing a good job