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spiralwedge:
She's possessed. Never ever reach out to her again. She has no goodluck, just some marine spirit. You may need deliverance too.

then how do you explain the fact that my life became better. immediately she came in it and remained on the up beat till she left and everything became horrific.

SweetCunt97:
So why exactly did she marry you? To tick the register of marriage? Quite selfish.

Most likely but i am yet to find out, because once the marriage was done she started giving all sorts of ultimatum on my character which she had already noticed long before getting married, saying things like i get angry too quickly even though she has always known my temprament (which is a calm one actually) or that i am getting too fat. etc (my weight is and has always been same which i am quite aware of since i have had a scale, since the first time we met)

Yes, i actually had an ex who met me in a very poor state, but immediately she came into my life everything started turning around for good. I got promoted at work to a project manager in charge of three large building projects simultaneously and i was able to achieve a lot of things within the 2 years we dated. We connected on every level and we just understood each other like twins (infact she was the prefect wife material), except for one small problem that came from time to time which to me was a big problem.
She had this uncontrollable jealousy that fueled an unspeakable rage whenever another female was around me or even mentioned around me. The jealousy was even evident even when my female cousins were in the picture.
The first time i noticed it was when i picked up a call from an old female friend while we were both watching a movie. Few minutes into the call, unprovoked, she suddenly shouted the other lady over the phone down, whom she didn't even know, telling her to stop disturbing her boyfriend. i had to end the call abruptly due to that.

Another time she gave me hottest slap i have ever received from a lady, just because i jokingly told her that my cousin could handle my kitchen better than she did. The amazing thing is that, whenever she inflicted violence, she would apologize shortly after and get me to quickly forgive her misdeed.

The final straw was when she picked up a knife to attack me because she discovered that i bought a birthday gift for another close female friend of over 10 years (this other female friend didn't even live in the same city and the chances of us meeting was almost non-existent.) This resulted in us getting physical and in the process i disarmed her and hit her for the first and last time and sent her home. She initially pleaded and refused to go, but when she noticed that i was adamant she left and never came back.
As she left, she took all the goodluck she had brought with her and things started turning sour for me from there. first I was laid of from my job, then my side hustle packed up, then i lost a major chunk of my savings to a fraudulent biz, my car started giving me serious problems so i was forced to sell it at a giveaway price. I even tried to get married to someone else but few months in, the marriage collapsed.
Sometimes i feel i need her back in my life and i am tempted to talk to her but whenever i remember that violent part of her it scares me back to reality and i tell myself that i cant live with that.
Yes, she was a blessing to me but she might end my life someday due to uncontrolled jealously based on unsubstantiated evidence. I might say she loved me so much that it actually did hurt. (pun intended )

Luak:
it can be quite draining but remember that the hand that gives always remain on top

hmmm, everything has its exception, even giving can be sometimes detrimental, if done carelessly. I have seen a lot of people, (myself inclusive) get drained from giving.

Liposure:
somehow this feminism of a thing have distorted the mindset of women thereby making them very stubborn

The problem is that the word feminism has been abused. Most of this modern day feminists especially those here on Nigerian social media pages have misunderstood and hijacked the word to now mean Man-hater as against the original meaning which was to fight for the rights of women on the grounds of equality.

dayleke:
So the both of you never had the talk of traveling out together?
Sorry for the question but I'm not understanding ni o.
She told you "she" was traveling out and you were not in the " SHE "?

She always wanted to migrate, while i never really wanted to. She succeeded in convincing me to try it out. I agreed We both invested ourselves in the process money time and all....in the end it didnt work out. (This whole process started a year before we got married and ended few months after we got married.
Then she finally started another process on her own within the time of our arguments which I was unaware of due to our constant arguments. I finally knew when she was sure she was going alone. At that point I realized that I was no longer a part of her life.

Offpoint:
I'm single

Lol
You have the perfect moniker for your mindset

Luak:
From day 1,I took the position of the provider, lover and defender. Anything she contributes is Jara. That way, I make her realize that a bird at hand is worth 2 in the bush

Lol, so you think just providing and loving a woman is enough to keep her. Just to give you some insight, I sacrificed so many things to please this person which drained me in the process. At the end of I felt like a squeeze orange.
If you really want someone that would truly love you scrap that idea.
I have actually witnessed true love before without spending a dime but even true love sometimes has its unique problems because it can lead to obsession.

Beckham14:
I noticed how she easily gets angry when we chat and how she'll throw some abusive words at me when she gained admission into the university... I saw where the relationship was heading to, but because of the "unconditional" love I once had for her, I kept on praying, hoping and pleading for us to make it work. (My mistake)

She was not having any of that as her mind was already made up to crush those beautiful memories we once shared together.

Wetin man go do? But the last straw that broke the camel's back was when she accused me of dating someone close to her. I hate false accusations leveled against me..Seeing how bittered she was with that wrong information, she wanted to continue with those abusive words, but I was ready to help her destroy everything completely.

I miss the good memories though, but I don't accept my ex back.

Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

In an ideal world love is all that matters once you get married you become one and equal and all that. But in this world we live in that hardly ever happens. Especially when the lady is the one who has the higher social standing. I would say in your case has a higher chance of being successful because the reverse is the case so go for it. But there surely would be a lot of hurdles to face.

Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

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Macsjebs:
Source: https://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-53820395

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