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what if they 2 couples have visited so many churches, prayed, fasted and yet no solution what should be done in pratical sense?

Well i guess no one has any real positive solution in mind i guess i have to carry my cross like that then.

I guess most ladies on this forum have not given their sincere opinion yet. Still waiting to hear from you though.

Perform as in able to have sex with a woman.

Is like no one is ready to give permanent solution at all.

But the truth is not all prayers that God answers so there is nothing like preaching wrong gospel is just a basic truth.

After praying and nothing happens what should be done?

So what is the real solution out of this problem now?

So what is the positive and pratical solution?

so what is the way out of this situation?

I guess adoption might be the solution.However sex is not all about having children women will need it from time to time and that might cause the woman to start messing around without the husband having to control her anymore.It a real test of one's faith to remain faithful and committed in this kind of situation.

What if your religion does not permit you to try before marriage how will u know?

What if they both agreed to continue living as husband and wife but at the same time the man asked his wife to look for another man to have fun with anytime she likes? Above all they both are to keep this agreement as top secret. If you are the man or woman can you do any of the above suggestions to save your marriage?

What if you don't know prior to your wedding what will u do when you eventually find out

This is a real issue in most marriages. What will you do if you discovered on your wedding night and beyound that your husband you married can not perform at all in bed. Will u divorce him immediately, continue to endure or look elsewhere for what is lacking. Your view is needed pls because it can happen to anyone out there.

Ladies in PH are ready to do anything for white men especially those that work in oil companies. Could it because of Dollars, real love or what? Most PH ladies consider having sex with white men as food with the support of their parents who encourage them to do the same. Is it really right for PH women to sell their body for this white men who are in Nigeria to work?

They like women alot afterall they see unclothedness of several women while performing operation or surgery. Many of them are not good husbands from experience.

I just wonder how relationship with a Doctor will look like with calls for duties on a regular basis. Many who married them are either not happy or do not enjoy a wholesome and quality time with them. In your opinion can you marry a Doctor?

“We E-mailed each other every day. We made plans regarding a place to live and work. I was supposed to take care of the engagement rings. We had not even known each other a month and had not yet met in person.”

YOU would really like to meet someone—someone you can get to know, someone you might want to marry. But, thus far, none of your efforts to find someone like that have worked out. Attempts by well-meaning friends and family to set you up with someone have done nothing but embarrass you and have left you more discouraged than ever. So you are wondering if maybe you should turn to technology for help.

In this age of the computer, finding a compatible mate may seem to be just a few clicks away. All you have to do, some say, is log on to a Web site, chat room, or bulletin board that has been specially designed for singles. The New York Times reports that in one month in the United States alone, 45 million people visited on-line dating Web sites. One Internet matchmaker claims to have more than nine million people using its service in 240 countries.What are the advantages and disadvantages of internet datings your view pls

When a Breakup Is Really a Blessing

You may feel that this breakup is one of the worst things that has ever happened to you, but it may be just the opposite. Hard as it may be to believe, it is quite likely that the end of your romance is a blessing. How so? Most teenage romantic relationships hold no real promise of success. Young people are still growing and changing; they are susceptible to fleeting desires and mistaken loves. Nonetheless, every year thousands of teenagers marry, only to find out too late that doing so was a mistake. One newspaper executive stated after her divorce: “It was a real mistake to marry so young. I didn’t really understand we had very different values and backgrounds.”

Teen marriages have a horrendously high failure rate. So as bad as you may feel right now, be assured of one thing—you would feel a lot worse trapped in an unhappy marriage. Ask yourself if you really were ready for a lifelong marriage, with all its responsibilities, including child rearing. And was the one you loved really ready and mature? Remember, breakup of a courtship is infinitely less painful than breakup of a marriage.

A tendency to fantasize may play a role as well. One study by researchers explains that adolescents are “more vulnerable to loss because when they enter a romantic relationship, they tend to fantasize about the future with their partner. This fantasy may include dreams of getting married, having children, and being together for the rest of their lives.” Such dreams can be hard to abandon, even when they have little basis in reality.

But what if you would really like to know the girl better? If that is the case, you should realize that dating and romance are not just ways to have a good time. The powerful feelings that a dating couple develop for each other point them to a commitment in marriage. After they marry, those feelings help to bond them together as husband and wife. How might this knowledge affect you now?

After thinking about this young lady, you may realize that she is attractive in a number of ways. She has opened the door, and you would like to keep it open. But instead of charging headlong into courtship, take steps now to protect the two of you from grievous pain later on.

In his book The Chemistry of Love, Dr. Michael Liebowitz likens the onset of love to the rush of a powerful drug. But like a drug, such love can trigger raging ‘withdrawal symptoms’ if it dies. Psychologist David Goss cites ‘depression, anxiety, physical illness, the loss of the sense of purpose in life, and a period of grieving’ as typical reactions to romantic breakups. And it makes little difference whether the love is mere infatuation or the ‘real thing.’ Both can create dizzying highs—and agonizing lows if the relationship ends.

The feelings of rejection, hurt, and perhaps outrage that come in the wake of a breakup may thus sour your view of the future. One Christian woman speaks of herself as ‘wounded’ because of being jilted. “I can only be a ‘Hi, how are you?’ person [with the opposite sex] now,” she says. “I am not letting any person get close to me.” The deeper the commitment you feel in a relationship, the deeper the hurt its breakup can result in. Being told by others that it was just puppy love or that ‘you’ll get over it soon’ is of little comfort.

Understandably, such stories have appeal. But referring to “Gothic-style” romance novels, one writer objects: “The basic premise of these . . . stories is that a good man is hard to detect . . . and the man who had seemed above suspicion . . . is the villain.” The heroine interprets the calloused, inscrutable demeanor of the hero thusly: “If my man treats me badly, that’s because he’s masculine, not because he’s bad.” Or, “Men may appear moody, cynical, scornful, and bullying, but they nevertheless provide romance and excitement.”

Could accepting such fanciful notions cloud your vision of the important qualities necessary for a successful, enduring marriage? Bonnie, who started reading romance novels at age 16, recalls: “I looked for the young man that was tall, dark and handsome; one that was exciting, with a domineering personality.” She confessed: “If I dated a young man and he didn’t want to kiss and touch, he was dull, even though he was considerate and kind. I wanted the excitement I’d read about in the novels.” It is therefore easy to see how reading these stories could result in one’s becoming infatuated with a person most undesirable as a marriage mate. A desire for “excitement” could cloak what this person really is at heart

YOU just know this is the one you will marry. You enjoy each other’s company, you share common interests, and you sense a mutual attraction. Then, suddenly, the relationship dies, exploding in a burst of anger—or melting in tears.

Few things in life cause as much heartache as the breakup of a romance. In his book The Young Person’s Guide to Love, author Morton Hunt claimed: “Only about one out of five people, at the breakup of a teenage love affair, feels indifferent. As for the people who didn’t want the breakup at all, most of them feel torn apart, crushed, wildly angry.” Youths often bring vexation upon themselves by getting romantically involved long before they are ready for marriage.

Nevertheless, some young adults may be ready for marriage and have pursued courtship honorably and seriously—only to find themselves heartbroken when a relationship does not work out. Can one recuperate from the bitter heartbreak of a wrecked romance?

“READING romances is an escape,” said one avid reader. “Losing myself in a romance refreshes me, makes me better able to face my own problems.” Her comments are rather typical of those who regularly devour romance novels.

Some claim that the stories are an effective stress tonic. Youths view them as a harmless peek at adult pleasures. And for some they are a way to add excitement to a drab existence. Since the novels are generally short and inexpensive, reading them has become an addictive habit for millions. Rivaling the audience for most popular television shows, 20 million in the United States alone are estimated to be readers. And young people number prominently among this total. But should you read them? Pls i need your views.

Are u surprised? why u again?

i am for real and i am proud of it.what about you?

How many people on this site are trully married? Pls kindly indicate as that will show maturity and i expect all to be proud of that.

But women can not do all house work alone especially career women with children how will they cope? What about the madam whose husband is hardly at home and she has a house boy alone with her in the house, i guess that is equally dangerious.

Well enough experiement to make one not trust any house boy or house girl.Some are into witch craft others sleep with their ogas. If you ask me the best is to do get a very young house girl age 16 and below.

Most women now a days are afraid of employing house girl because of their husband picking interest and even sleeping with them. Same goes with house boy in case of the woman. In your own experience please which one will you prefer to employ to work with you at home?