lefulefu:
u dont like yahoo boys? They spoil ladies with expensive gifts nau.

Lol sorry love, I don’t fall into that stereotype.

ranmoor:

The truth is, if you see the good guy u will probably abuse the relationship and take him for granted especially if he is upcoming...

The truth is you are assuming my personality based on probably your personal experiences. God should just test me and send me a good man.

BestDude:
what is your definition of good man?

A man who makes a honest living. Has good morals and values and understands how to love and appreciate a good woman.

lefulefu:
Hm and the guys doing yahoo yahoo and yahoo+..if u ask dem why dem dey do such they will tell u dat they doing it cos naija babes dont wanna date broke men. Hmm na wao.

You do have a point there I must agree. But there are still some of us who want legitimate hard-working men. We don’t want 30 bill for the account, just enough to take care of each other. I provide, he provides too. Room for loving each other more.

jackobi:
It all depends on the factors you tend to expose yourself too such as relationship values, physical desires and the environments you are exposed too.

Can you expantiate because if I understand you clearly, let me just put a disclaimer that I’m not about money. In fact I’m quite the opposite, flash money in my face and that’s a big turn off for me tbh

Millenniumlady:
I tell you girl same thing is happening to me right now.....you see a guy shoot his shot at me next thing in my mind will be maybe he's a yahoo guy I'll just let him pass

I know right! Such difficult times we ladies find ourselves in right now

SilentWisper:
Mabe you look like Chinese, no

fair skinned but definitely don’t have the Chinese eyes.

chiefolododo:
Desperation

My only response for you ‘WOW’

Just super curious, why is it nearly impossible? If it’s not yahoo-yahoo. It’s rituals, if it’s not that it’s love scams. All sorts have taken over the good old days of loving relationships. On another note could it be my looks? On several occasions all manner of people, usually men who are strangers refer to me as ‘China’ or sometimes ‘India’. Is there a street meaning to this or do they mistake me to be a Chinese person?! I’m tired, maybe I should just give up on love

gasparpisciotta:
know

September 1st too...great to know

Hello birthday mate. Looks like our day is fast approaching

912:


That's one of the two things involved if there is a side chic. Be happy because that's the easy solution. The second option had two things involved but there is no need talking about that since you have taken the right and easy option

Thanks dear. Just curious what the second option is.

Thank you all so much for all your advise. I’ve read everything. Apologies I won’t be able to respond to each and everyone of you but I appreciate you all a little update for those who may care, I have discussed this issue with him amongst other issues we have had and we had an ‘amiable’ breakup. Moving on now I guess...

912:
Two things involved:

1) he learnt it from watching porn or discussing with his buddies

2) he learnt it from a side chic or Olosho

if it is number one then you are fine no need bringing it up because since he saw it on your face that he almost killed you then he is most likely not going to do it again. That might be why he hasn't brought it up and if you bring it up he will be embarrassed since it will show he is a learner that can't even choke his lover right.

if it is number 2 then two things involved


1) Olosho has been doing something to him

2) A side chic that is more adventurous has been blowing his mind while you guys were apart (or she is still by the side even now that you guys are close)

If it is number one then you are fine as long as he used protection with the oloshos then there is nothing to worry about.


if it is number two then 2 things involved......But that is a story for another day because I need to go back to bed.

Hmm very in depth. Much appreciated

nasdgov:


You're welcome to nairaland Rabella.Don't let the negativity affect u. Enjoy!

Thank you
Crazy how wanting to be welcomed to a new forum and members out of the blues are so rude even going as far as insulting me, calling me a troll and whatnot. Well thank heavens I look nothing like a troll but I guess putting my picture would be too dramatic.

MrRichmond:


Op I think your bf is just an adventurous guy.
He's just experimenting with things he has seen somewhere...
Although he is clearly an inexperienced choker. You should bring it up and let him know u ain't feeling that shii...
Sometimes I wonder why people in a relationship who have probably seen each others unclothedness and use the same toothbrush get scared talking to each other about certain things..

it baffles me..

Sometimes it’s more difficult to discuss issues as these. Thanks

Hi, Rabella here again or Bella for short. Seeing as this is an anonymous forum; I decided to put this out here to get opinions of others as I am unable to summon the courage to discuss this with my friends or anyone for that matter. Ok straight to it.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, he is the first person I ever had a proper sexual relationship with so I am not very experienced at all. We hadn’t had sex in a while due to distance but fate had it we were able to break that as he now lives in the same city as myself.

So after a few months of no sex, he comes over to mines and things get steamy very quickly next thing, he was on top of me when half way through he held the top of my neck and pressed on it or more like strangled it, I was literally gasping for air then he noticed and stopped. We finished and that was that. No mention of the whole ‘event’ where I was almost suffocated.

I’m really bothered because in all our three years of been together, this has never happened. A lot of things have been going through my mind including if he’s cheating but my problem is he has not ever brought it up in conversation and I don’t know how to confront him about it either

Im really confused as to what this is, am I supposed to have enjoyed it? What’s wrong with just having sex, why did he have to make me feel like I can’t breath

Sorry for the epistle.
I look forward to your solutions
Peace and love
xxxxx

Thank you all for the welcome, the good ones, the bad ones and the plain ugly ones. I see I’ve gotten a lot of private messages, I don’t know how this works but if you need to send me an e-mail. It’s rabellasmith@yahoo.com. Cheers.

Question:Please how do people get their topics on the opening page, is it free or paid for? If paid, how much?

karli4nia:


The name Rabella is new to me... Sounds like a medieval Scottish name.
Sounds cool to me anyways..
In any case, welcome to Naiarland. If I may offer a little heads up, this forum is one helluva sick place.. I mean damn interesting. There are a heck of great Souls here and we also have many souls that can come across to me as almost lost cases..
I have personally met a lot of great ladies and Guys here.. You can't be too careful not to loose your guard and be Nairalandernized at some point if really wish to maximise your stay here...

But try not to lose it all or get so identified with the dramas in here.This isnt the real deal... I personally see here as an important psychological training ground to know your psychological flaws and level of emotional intelligence and thus work to develop the quality of your Soul.
If u keep these in mind, you should have an eventful and rewarding experience here.

All the best QueenRabella.
Cheers!

Hi Karli, it’s actually an Aramaic name, not very popular. Thanks for the compliment. Haha I have learnt all too quickly there are a number of sickos on here sadly. That been said, I hope to interact more with the non sickos lol.

I will try to keep all you’ve said in mind. I love your point about the psychological training ground. That should be an interesting experience. Once again, cheers for your heads up and your warm welcome.

Muchos appreciated

Fvcknames:

Replies really cracked me up
Especially the fight me bitch

U are welcome anyways, just learn to take everything as a joke, lots of trolls on here

I hardly get upset anyway. I just hope they ain’t all like that truly. Thanks for the warm welcome

Ladydelight:
They have welcomed you o. With the horrible replies you are getting already, I say welcome to nairaland.

Lol thanks ladyd

yorubakid:
You are new so what, When I was new I didn't open a thread disturbing the peace of NL..If you have nothing sensible to post why not switch off your phone and go take a sleep..Awon attention seekers.

Lol I’m beginning to get the feel rudeness is the normal on here. Crazy shit

Gaspardd:


Im serious, i really reported u

What a nice way to treat the new kid

Mama Jamjam! My role model, my hero. Love ya Tiwa

Lol another sister lost to greed

Let’s be friendsies

Gaspardd:


Now i am offended

Reporting you for making me feel bad
Enjoy ur perma ban

That’s rich coming from you!

krattoss:
Can I ask u one question please?










How do u moan when given a head?

Why don’t you cum find out for yourself

Prognose:

They'll share it with their friends and use it against you one day. Maybe in a month or a year from now. Personal information can be used against you to beef you.
Keep it simple. Keep it anonymous. And you'll do just fine.

Hmm noted, cheers.

Man2utd:
Welcome dear, so much love from the other side.

Thanks hun, I see you also support the best team on earth

AngryNigerian22:
welcome to Nl what ur former moniker

What or who is moniker

Prognose:


Ha.
I want to believe you're just pulling our legs.
But if you're genuinely new then you better grow some thick skin fast.
Most nairalanders get thier kicks from bullying others , trolling and making them feel miserable.
Romance section is actually not so bad.
Family section and politics section however are full of sickos.
There are a few good guys and girls.
But as a rule treat everyone with suspicion until you get to know them better.

And no matter what you do, no matter how nice they make you feel, DO NOT SHARE YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION with anyone here.

Hmm ok, thanks for the heads up. If I may ask, why can’t i share personal information especially if I connect well here with someone?