Hi, Rabella here again or Bella for short. Seeing as this is an anonymous forum; I decided to put this out here to get opinions of others as I am unable to summon the courage to discuss this with my friends or anyone for that matter. Ok straight to it.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, he is the first person I ever had a proper sexual relationship with so I am not very experienced at all. We hadn’t had sex in a while due to distance but fate had it we were able to break that as he now lives in the same city as myself.

So after a few months of no sex, he comes over to mines and things get steamy very quickly next thing, he was on top of me when half way through he held the top of my neck and pressed on it or more like strangled it, I was literally gasping for air then he noticed and stopped. We finished and that was that. No mention of the whole ‘event’ where I was almost suffocated.

I’m really bothered because in all our three years of been together, this has never happened. A lot of things have been going through my mind including if he’s cheating but my problem is he has not ever brought it up in conversation and I don’t know how to confront him about it either

Im really confused as to what this is, am I supposed to have enjoyed it? What’s wrong with just having sex, why did he have to make me feel like I can’t breath

Sorry for the epistle.
I look forward to your solutions
Peace and love
xxxxx

Why don't you bring it up when you guys are chatting?
Ask him how come he almost strangled you during sexxxxxx?

This gonbe next Onila

It's totally normal babe, some people like it while some don't, i think he should have asked you first at least

Don't you watch porn? Women get strangled during sex in porn too!

It all depends on your sexual preference. If it isn't pleasurable to you, I think you should talk to your partner bout it. Strangulation is pleasurable to some.

Take for instance, spanking. It's pleasurable to some (men or women) but not to others during sex. It's all a matter of what tickles.

Sex is supposed to pleasure both parties, not one of both

PS: I saw your first thread on NL

Two things involved:

1) he learnt it from watching porn or discussing with his buddies

2) he learnt it from a side chic or Olosho

if it is number one then you are fine no need bringing it up because since he saw it on your face that he almost killed you then he is most likely not going to do it again. That might be why he hasn't brought it up and if you bring it up he will be embarrassed since it will show he is a learner that can't even choke his lover right.

if it is number 2 then two things involved


1) Olosho has been doing something to him

2) A side chic that is more adventurous has been blowing his mind while you guys were apart (or she is still by the side even now that you guys are close)

If it is number one then you are fine as long as he used protection with the oloshos then there is nothing to worry about.


if it is number two then 2 things involved......But that is a story for another day because I need to go back to bed.

@Op, I believe your boyfriend is the type that gets very physical during se.x. Truth is some men are like that, they'll smack you real hard,squeeze your throat until you are gasping. They derive sexual pleasure from inflicting pain during the act. I would advise you talk about it and let him know you ain't cool with that, but be warned it might affect his desire to have se.x with you. I guess because of the distance between both of you previously you really haven't gotten to know him properly. Bottom line is you need to communicate your feelings about it, don't bottle it up.

do well to communicate how you feel about the whole thing with him, don't bottle it up and assume everything is alright. he might enjoy doing that during sex but the only problem is that he didn't seek your permission to know if you will be cool with it or not. some guys/ladies loves hard sex, it all boils down to individuals preferences. he probably picked the act from porn or someone he had a fling with taught him that, whichever way it is, talk to him.

Babe, so you go keep quiet till somebody kill you?
Sincerely, I find it hard to believe some enjoy such painful sexual exercise.
I think sex should be done easy - easy like Sunday morning...you know what I mean.

Shebi he sha no kill you.

BDSM at play, better send senses to his brain, you're not fit for such fun, there are clearly some ladies who like it that way, before u ended up passing out and he uses slap and kpanshing to wake u again.

What's gonna be left for your husband to enjoy?

masochism is the best... pull her hair...squeeze the neck... smack the butt till it turns red... bundle her with cuffs... fold her arm behind her back and smack the punany sore...lol

abimic:
BDSM at play, better send senses to his brain, you're not fit for such fun, there are clearly some ladies who like it that way, before u ended up passing out and he uses slap and kpanshing to wake u again.

Bad guy, You don watch porn scatter . BDSM is the name..

Queenrabella:
Hi, Rabella here again or Bella for short. Seeing as this is an anonymous forum; I decided to put this out here to get opinions of others as I am unable to summon the courage to discuss this with my friends or anyone for that matter. Ok straight to it.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, he is the first person I ever had a proper sexual relationship with so I am not very experienced at all. We hadn’t had sex in a while due to distance but fate had it we were able to break that as he now lives in the same city as myself.

So after a few months of no sex, he comes over to mines and things get steamy very quickly next thing, he was on top of me when half way through he held the top of my neck and pressed on it or more like strangled it, I was literally gasping for air then he noticed and stopped. We finished and that was that. No mention of the whole ‘event’ where I was almost suffocated.

I’m really bothered because in all our three years of been together, this has never happened. A lot of things have been going through my mind including if he’s cheating but my problem is he has not ever brought it up in conversation and I don’t know how to confront him about it either

Im really confused as to what this is, am I supposed to have enjoyed it? What’s wrong with just having sex, why did he have to make me feel like I can’t breath

Sorry for the epistle.
I look forward to your solutions
Peace and love
xxxxx

you need serious pounding from me. that is the solution i can think of.

1stNumeroUno:
Babe, so you go keep quiet till somebody kill you?
Sincerely, I find it hard to believe some enjoy such painful sexual exercise.
I think sex should be done easy - easy like Sunday morning...you know what I mean.

If he does it like Sunday morning, they will still complain he is not doing it well

He is a sadist.

Tlk 2 him about it nd tell him u aint cool with it...i bliv h'l adjust

weyreypey:
What's gonna be left for your husband to enjoy?

I just tire nowadays sef. Las las, d guy no go marry her & na one faithful boy go dey chop left over. Chai

He strangled you and you are still alive? People just use words carelessly in this Nigeria without knowing the meaning. Choke would have been better used.

Anoda fool has spoken.... Sex and die

imagine wetin dem dey take person future wife dey do.

Kii ursef for sex if you like ooo cos one day he myt just hold on for far too long...anyways ma people check our signature for some 18+ naija content

He probably thought he was riding his horse

Queenrabella:
Hi,
So after a few months of no sex, he comes over to mines and things get steamy very quickly next thing, he was on top of me when half way through he held the top of my neck and pressed on it or more like strangled it, I was literally gasping for air then he noticed and stopped. We finished and that was that. No mention of the whole ‘event’ where I was almost suffocated.



Sorry for the epistle.
I look forward to your solutions
Peace and love
xxxxx

Op I think your bf is just an adventurous guy.
He's just experimenting with things he has seen somewhere...
Although he is clearly an inexperienced choker. You should bring it up and let him know u ain't feeling that shii...
Sometimes I wonder why people in a relationship who have probably seen each others unclothedness and use the same toothbrush get scared talking to each other about certain things..

it baffles me..

You enter car by 3 o'clock...and d driver dey drive rough till na,u still dey inside...u beta jump out now.to avoid ghastly accident...wey ur people fit no see ur head.