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CoolUsername:
No, it's about upending a family's settled lifeby committing infidelity and deception.

Because of this deception, the biological father may be deprived of the knowledge that he has a child out there. The child is deprived of accurate medical knowledge because a family history of certain diseases (such as diabetes) are strong indicators of genetic predisposition.

Corrections:
The reason things that work in other countries not working in Nigeria is because of CORRUPTION.

Ashirioluwa:
Because DNA doesn’t available then.

socoharley:
Only a "half man" will accept another man's child knowingly and stay dumb.
Do you know the amount of sacrifices, effort and finance we men put into raising a child? And then you happily raise a child that's not your own because your "unfaithful wife" brought home her sins?
Guy abeg die this matter and wake up!

socoharley:
may such befall you....Amen!

QuinQQ:
Can you please kindly point out which parts of it are dumb?

Dbrave2:
No need wasting time here. A woman pass through the stress to give birth to a baby for you... Stop this nonsense trash. Is the baby not yours? Na woman get
Pikin oh. Women benefit more from their children. You are in that box so your oy choice is to push this evil agenda. No worries your son will raise another man's children thinking it's his. In the olden days the gods was running the DNA testing so the woman back then behaved but now you women are loosed.

joseph1832:
This is exactly what you're doing, playing the devil's advocate and trying to make deception legit
DNA has been in existence since the dawn of time. Human beings just didn't know how to access it. Just like human didn't know how to use machines to fly, until sometime during thee last century. And the survival of humanity doesn't depend on DNA, it depend on the truth, and the truth, is what DNA testing gives and proves, never try to claim or take what isn't yours.

How can government put a stop to a man wanting to know the truth? Or it's people trying to know the truth. Surely, for the very fact a man decides to conduct a DNA test for his kids, it shows he doesn't trust the woman who bore him those kids, so how can the government put a stop to a man wanting to know what's his, and what isn't his?

A family can never be settled when there is suspicion, lies and deceit around. This is what you should know, instead of playing devil's advocate here.

socoharley:
Only a "half man" will accept another man's child knowingly and stay dumb.
Do you know the amount of sacrifices, effort and finance we men put into raising a child? And then you happily raise a child that's not your own because your "unfaithful wife" brought home her sins?
Guy abeg die this matter and wake up!

Kobojunkie:
Again, this is absolute nonsense and you know this. 🥱

socoharley:
it is morally wrong in every way because you can never justify paternity fraud which is an offshoot from a deceitful partner.

GreatUniben:
If you are a man, some street girls have rub juju on your head and if you are a woman, it looks like you may have cheated!

joseph1832:
Who is talking about adultery?

We are talking about, lies, deceit, betrayal, fraud, emotional blackmaIl, mental and emotional breakdown. We are talking about a man, knowing if the child he is suppose to be responsible for, i biologically his. If the woman he is married, has been true to her vows.

Ignorance isn't always bliss. Infact, it isn't bliss, not in this case or any case, as long as it involves being lied to and deceived.

If a couple decided to adopt a child, and take care of that child, fine, not when the woman deceived the man into believing and taking care of a child that isn't his. That is among the highest order of wickedness. Such women can kill. So, don't be an advocatus diaboli.

joseph1832:
Shes just playing devil's advocate.

She should even ask what will make a man even decide to do DNA test for his kids, in the first instance. Isn't it because the woman have shown signs of being a liar etc.

Ishilove:
What kind of "happy family" will thrive on paternity fraud? You are conveniently ignoring that side of the conversation.

socoharley:
I know your type very well,they say one thing and do the complete opposite....BTW,are you sterile?

igwethompson854:
Now i see why many women were messing up,, they don't no that life is spiritual, every family has an ancenceral blood line, and bringing another blood line to the family has a consequence, training a child that is not your blood is not bad but if you die, in the spirit realm you don't have a root on the earth

franchasng:
You are correct.


If you observe that after you have nurtured the child to a certain age, to me, the best thing is pretend you don't know and let the child continue to be your child instead of throwing the child away out of anger.



In the west, many families raise children they never gave birth to and they take them as their parents.

As for me that love adopting kids, I don't think I have a problem with your suggestion at all.

But jokes apart, there's elements of truth here o. Because after the love and bond with my children from pregnancy to infancy to adolescent to adult, many times we've shared love, sufferings, laughter, pains and joy together then one idiot from nowhere wants to drag me to go and do DNA, as how naw? The fact is that, I will never ever want to think whether the children are mine or not. Children wey i nurture from pregnancy till now

Ishilove:
What kind of "happy family" will thrive on paternity fraud? You are conveniently ignoring that side of the conversation.

Philosopher1979:
You are just making it easy for married women to cheat and for men to get away wth secing married women. There is a lot of adultery going on right now. You are just making it easy to cover up

Kobojunkie:
. That's absolute nonsense, and I am certain you know this.

QuinQQ:
xxxxx

Oakenshield:
u dn carry belle for seun wan come give dangote all this bitches with weird thoughts

Guestmale:
Though it is true not only biological way a man can become a father, but such a man deserve to know and consented to it but not through unconfessed infidelity.

Peero1:
May God deliver you from who ever brainwashed you.

Kobojunkie:
. First of all, I am certain you have not really researched this one. The tradition you reference there applies to a small percentage, a minority of those from the Eastern parts of Nigeria, and the primary reason for this system was to give power to the husband in deciding whether or not to accept a child born in a marriage or not. In practice, many men did not accept children who were suspected of not being theirs in the marriage. That is why in many of the same Eastern cultures, sending the woman and her children packing was also commonplace. And bear in mind, this all took place before the DNA-testing age.

2. Second, children from one's own loins were considered a wealth status, mostly by the rich, not the poor. Also, this excluded, for the most part, children who were considered bastards.

Diamond098454:
Absolutely right🤣🤣🤣🤣

Josbreed:
So as you dey like dis, it is ok for your wife to go and cheat on you for like 6 to 7 years and bring 5 children from 5 different men and pin them on you when you have a healthy sperm. If you yes, you do not belong to the beotherhood.

Hmmmmm2024:
Either you are a man or woman, may you partner cheat on you to raise another person's child...day amen

Usmanovic95:
Mr abi Mrs OP ,NA you get this prayer come type amen.

rapcy:
You keep talking about few people who choose adoption.

It is a fraud because you made a vow, why deceive your partner to believe the minor is his? It is a fraud because you're depriving the real father the joyhood of his child by keeping him with another man that is not his father, it is a fraud because you deprive the child of knowing who his real father and source of gene is by keeping him away from that gene to be shaped by the real owner.

Akir2025:
Men Use Your Brain ..Don't Train Bastard ( OMOALE) Simple as ABC ,don't be Fooled or Cajooles by this Nonsense Here .

Father of a Child should Take care of His Child .

The Mother should take the Child to the father simple .Don't Suffer to Raise a Child For one Lazy man somewhere then Coming Back to Lay Claim to that Child after U have Finished Training them ..

TrainPark:
This one is planning to pin a bustard on an innocent man. Does it also mean that any child that a man has with another woman is his wife's child?

SamuraiXXX:
You need this advise more for yourself

addictiv:
OP, you are completely wrong on this.Nobody is saying sperm is the only thing that makes a man a father. A man can knowingly adopt a child and love that child completely. The key word is knowingly. He made that decision with the full truth in front of him.

What you are describing is completely different. You want a man to be deceived, denied the truth and forced to raise another man’s child simply because he has already developed an emotional attachment. That is not fatherhood. That is fraud.

Like someone said, the same woman defending this argument would not be happy if she discovered that her baby had been swapped at the hospital. Nobody would tell her to accept the child simply because she had already cared for the child, loved the child and developed an emotional bond.

She would demand the truth and want her biological child returned to her. Nobody would accuse her of being heartless or tell her that biology does not matter. So why should a man be denied the same right to know whether a child is biologically his?

Women regularly check their partners’ phones looking for evidence of side chicks, even after the man has repeatedly said he loves them and is faithful. They say they need reassurance and want to confirm that he is telling the truth. So why should a man be insulted, threatened or emotionally blackmailed for wanting confirmation that a child is biologically his?

Paternity is not a small issue. It affects a man emotionally, financially and legally for the rest of his life. It also affects the child’s identity, medical history, inheritance and relationship with the actual biological father.

This is why DNA testing should be compulsory at birth. It should be treated as a normal medical and legal procedure, not as an accusation against the mother. That way, no woman can claim the man does not trust her, no man has to beg for the truth and no child grows up under a lie.

If the test confirms that he is the father, everyone moves forward with certainty. If it shows that he is not, he deserves to know the truth and decide for himself whether he still wants to raise the child. That decision should be made through love and informed choice, not deception.

The child is innocent and must never be mistreated. But protecting the child does not mean protecting the person who created the deception. A woman should not be allowed to use tears, threats, shame or accusations of distrust to stop a man from confirming paternity.

Fatherhood through love, truth and choice is beautiful. Fatherhood imposed through deception is not.

But jokes apart, there's elements of truth here o. Because after the love and bond with my children from pregnancy to infancy to adolescent to adult, many times we've shared love, sufferings, laughter, pains and joy together then one idiot from nowhere wants to drag me to go and do DNA, as how naw? The fact is that, I will never ever want to think whether the children are mine or not. Children wey i nurture from pregnancy till now

Cj4charles:
You totally nailed it here...... don't mind the op