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izzou:

I totally understand why she's 18

She must have seen job vacancies with requirements like

Candidates must possess the following
- A Bachelor degree with a minimum of Second class honours(upper division) from an accredited university in Nigeria
-Must have completed NYSC
-Must have a two year post NYSC work experience
-Must have completed his/her Master's degree
-Must have an international passport
-Must not be older than 25 years old by December 2018

With all these requirements, our aunty decided to be 18.

You just nailed it

I trust the CP. He doesn't joke with officers that take advantage of innocent citizens. May God help us in this country. Everyone taking advantage of less priviledged

oyb:
All these people advising play this game, give timeout etc, need to understand that marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime. Once they are married, what options are available to manage her behaviour?

More to the point, this is the woman. The best that can happen is that she will temporarily suppress her character, maybe for a week, then back to status quo.

There are people who are made for women like that, but you aren't.

Thank you jare

aribasoye1:
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Have ones been in this shoes before, I love this girl from ogun too but her character and lifestyle puts me off from her, and this is the girl. I was planning of getting married to. one day I then asked myself, will I want my daughter to take after her, in my mind I know she's not the kind of mother I will like my children to take after, I prayed about it and took the bold step to QUIT, it really pained me and I cried cost this was the girl I know I love dearly and leaving her was so painful but was the best thing I need to do to live long. Bro since you have known her character and u ain't too cool or down with it and If u wanna live long, JUST QUIT. You are not loosing she is,

Thank you. You really understand what I am going through

chimhigher:
Nawa ooo!! urinating in a bush now warrant an arrest

Buhari has made everyone confused even Navy now don dey find yahoo boys

Ohh. You mean yahoo Boys on top of water or where? Na waa ooo

ewawumi:
Since na question you ask, make I answer ypu: I NO DEY CRAZE! The fact remains no home trained guy seeks a fvck buddy or answer questions with questions! Shey oo ni photo arugbo nile ni? Shomo age mi no? #Receivesense!!!

Don't mind him jare, baby come to me for real

timidapsin:
na WA oh..
But Nigeria have gotten so bad that beggars now use our music to beg for money, today i saw one beggar with plate singing: " U know say my problem solution na Ego"...
Wen he saw me passing without giving him money, he changed the song to:
"if u no get money hide ur face"..

Lol. What was now that your reply?

ADA. Association of Divorced Actresses. Maybe they intend to hold a re conciliatory meeting

Munzy14:
Building material traders can relate... lmaooo anything can come from edo.

Honestly

This is Nigeria ��. Where things happen the other way round

LabUdegbe:
Pls explain this line...

What I meant was that in any area of the house we were supposed to have physical contacts, like pass by and hit each other, and touches, she avoids them

Cumtroller:
I pity you. Spineless Bastard. Guess you are menstruating already. Bitch Nigga

I know your brain is already working anti clockwise. And like I said, not everyone is a bastard like u

Angelb4:
I am not interested in this topic pls. I want to see Fayose wailing. All the posts before Ekiti elections should report that Fayose is crying. I will be very happy.

Biko why nah?

hollagokay:
Bro i can relate and feel your pains. is she from the heady tribe- i mean Ondo and Ekiti if she is from those tribe, na their way oo. they are so heady and full of themselves even when they don't have nothing. i am currently going through thesame drama with my wife and it's not the first time. we have been at this since sunday and still on. we ignored each other right under thesame roof and i have stop eating her food since the same sunday when it all started. and guess what happened that led to all this, i inquire to know how come the money we have in our business account and the one we have in the safe has gone so down. i reminded her that the agreement was for her to give me daily updates on any money that leaves and enters the account and safe daily, but she doesn't. i have deceided not to beg her nor settle things i don't even care anymore sef.

Really? Women could be funny atimes. Thanks for the tip anyway

Victoriaomotola:
It is well o... Person we get head no get hat

So pathetic

SlimBrawnie:
Before you eventually break up with her, I want you to do something please, next time she does something wrong, laugh, smile and jokingly tell her, tease her in the process of correcting her, try not to be rude. I used to be like her, and maybe I'm still like her but not towards my partner anymore... I hate it when someone corrects me rudely, with a loud voice, shouts at me or with a stern face...it could even make me cry. Imagine it was someone like Basket mouth or Bovi trying to tell his wife to close the toilet door, she will definitely find herself laughing while closing it because of the humour attached to the correction, and in cases where she is at fault and you are angry, always let her know that she doesn't need to defend herself but say a simple "I am sorry"...with time it will sink into her brain and she'd find herself apologizing especially when you are angry. If she doesn't love you, then all these won't work. It worked for me, and surprisingly, I and my partner hardly remember any offense now compared to when we were dating and wanted to kill ourselves our minor misunderstandings. We laugh and joke over almost everything while taking corrections. All the best

I understand you. Even though I don't sound rude when talking to her, and of course am an adult too, I would definitely address her the way I want to be addressed, so I do that with some humor, but I though not all times but in most cases. But the later you said, about her not defending herself is what I'll put into trial. I have decided to call it off, but I will give a last chance with this you've said and if it ever repeats, it will be our last moment together. Thanks a millie

SOPAW:
For your sake i signed up in this forum. My advice is flowing from the first response you got underneath your post--which urged you to discontinue with the relationship.

Your post about the girl you want to marry is very striking, it's a perfect description of my wife of 9 years, whose 'i don't care attitude' has caused me my worth as a man; up until today I've not stopped thinking of divorce and how to go about raising my kids single-handedly.
Take my advice, leave her as fast as you can, and build a relationship with a woman who would welcome your chastisements with gladness. The easiest way to kill a man is to strip him off control and authority! If that happens to you, you might not survive the complications that would follow such as stress and high blood pressure.

What you are seeing now is just a tip of the ice berg. By the time you marry her, and she bear a child, you would be surprised at what she would become; she doesn't love you, your money is providing the comfort she needs. Remember, she might not cheat on you but she would make sure you are reduced to nothingness.

I am a daredevil person, i take a lot of risks, otherwise I would not have married my partner. Today, I've lost self-worth, happiness and drive; which are the essentials that keeps a man going; that is why i said I've not stopped thinking of a divorce...

Ohh thanks for signing up and the rich advice. I would definitely learn from you. Thanks a million

isybeke:
Don't beg her dis time, ignore her totally nd see if she will calm herself nd make peace but if she didn't then tell her u are tired of her attitude nd break up with her

Yes. That's what am on now. It's painful tho, but I'm trying all my best to do that and I think I'm having headway

urose93:
Op see one of them here o. Confused feminist.

I don sight am tey tey and I don find him size give. He's obviously bittered

sammylink:
Dear Brother, please drop the lady as soon as possible. I am a 51 years old man. This same mistake i made years ago. i married a lady with similar characters with your lady. The marriage with 02 children collapsed irredeemably after 7 years. Though i have moved on with my life (remarried and have other children) but am yet to recover from the consequential negative effects of the collapsed marriage. It gave me a serious drawback. Please drop her now now.

Hmm. What an experience. You surely gave me a way and I appreciate it. Thank you sir

Abdogood:
Please are you sure we are not dating the same girl here. Because I am exactly passing through the same thing right now.

There are Rich posts here. Please let's learnt from the good and bad

Abdogood:
Please are you sure we are not dating the same girl here. Because I am exactly passing through the same thing right now.

There are Rich posts here. Please let's learn from the good and bad.

Cumtroller:
Weak Bastard. You’ll soon get tired of the free pvssy she’s giving you and come to your senses...

The fact that you are a bastard doesn't make everyone here a bastard. OK? It would have made sense you keep your mouth shut, else we'll teach you some sense here. Fucking fool

Cumtroller:
Weak Bastard. You’ll soon get tired of the free pvssy she’s giving you and come to your senses...

The fact that you are a bastard doesn't make everyone here a bastard. OK? It would have made sense you keep your mouth shut, else we'll teach you some sense here

Mac2016:
It's all wrong to ask you to break up with her as many people are suggesting. I am certain she does all these cos she knew you are afraid of losing her. Bro, brace up and switch ur status from lovey-dovey to platonic. Let her realize you wanna be her true friend and that's what you've always been when correcting her and not that you dread losing her. Openly keep female friends and let her observe by herself that you are not worthless and rejected by even ladies more beautiful than her. Keep her close thru all these steps but not the fuckin partners u guys might be. Be her friend and keep other friends openly... Let her see how much other ladies crave for you. She might love you but scared you love her more and dread losing her.. That's repugnant to most ladies.
Don't call it quit yet, she might eventually be the most loving wife it all depends on you.

I understand you quite well. And I'll put that into action. Thanks bro

doskie:
its called emotional blackmail. browse and read about it. you are a victim of emotional blackmail. sometimes we often spoil and pamper our companions into this bad habit by not making them know from the onset that we will not be blackmailed emotionally. its a mind game. you cannot spend the rest of your life with her. i was once in your shoes, i called the girl and told her i want out. i explained to her that its not in my character to double date, else i would have done that, so to be honest, i want to be with someone who is human enough to feel guilty and feel disturbed when things are going wrong between us, you SHOULD NOT ! I REPEAT !!! YOU SHOULD NOT ALLOW YOUR HEART DECEIVE YOU INTO THINKING AN EMOTIONAL BULLY WILL CHANGE !!! You will always be her victim, and some are psychopaths, if eventually you stay long enough in keeping a grudge with her, she may increase the extent of her evil by attacking you one day with a broken bottle, taking solace in cheating on you thinking shes having her pound of flesh, or employing whatever machination necessary to keep you within her powers and manage all your affairs in her own liking. the world is full of beautiful, nice and submissive women. go for one

Thanks man. I learnt from this piece

jaxxy:
She has ur MUMU button and she doing rite now is manipulating u and yes ure lossing ur value and self worth fast. To break the cycle u have to do wat u wud normally not do bt this will be quite hard becos uve already let her control ur head and she sees she can control u quite well. U must do smtn totally different and unpredictable in ur actions. U might even have to be a little bit mean to her cos rite now she sees u as soft and naive. I will direct u smtn sm1 placed on NL dat might help u. Buzz me if u need it.

I'm all ears. You can drop it here

cityabbey01:
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I know you have read so many suggestions now and your head probably bursting. A stitch in time saves nine o...

I have an uncle we work in same office, he would come to office 7am leave office 9pm every day, he doesn't smoke, drink nor womanisel why? Initially other staff would question me why my uncle stay late at work that I should talk to him. Meanwhile, I know d reason but I couldn't tell them cause I lived with him before I got married. He married the wrong woman. When you close from work and u av a woman at home but no eagerness to quickly go see her, that kinda feeling of trouble dey house if I go quick, are signs that things are not well at home in the marriage. To avert such words "If I had
Known". So my candid advice stay away from her. There are multiple better females than her.

Thanks for the tips. Appreciate your rich experience

Pataricatering:
Who made you her father that you will be “ correcting” her ? Is she your student ? How would she not have a bad attitude when your house is a “ correctional home “ for juvenile delinquents! You think you will be telling an adult what to do and she will like it ? Obviously your attitude to your relationship is wrong ! This is not your fathers generation where they used to “ correct “ their wives like 5 year olds ! Of course you can dump her but I seriously doubt you are going to find any girl nowadays that likes being “ corrected “ ! Otherwise you can work on your communication and learn to deal with her as an equal !

But without been my mother she can correct me abiii. You're getting it wrong. The moment we feel we have it all, we start getting it wrong. That's why we should be for each other. As an adult, she do corrects me as well without me putting up any attitude

drnoel:
I believe that is what the Op was doing and why she refused to listen anymore. That thing I said about speculation

I have been reading your comment since you started this your advice or such, but the thing is you seem not to get it. Of course am not Mr perfect to warrant correcting her all the time. But then that doesn't mean I'll leave things out hand when errors are made. Over times she correct me as well and I heed to her correction, even more than I do for her. Does that mean she's overbearing? Correcting each other isn't bad in a relationship and the way I do it doesn't make me overbearing. Don't assume what you don't know if you can't get more facts. I kept quiet because I wanted to garner experience and tips from married people. And if you can give that, better not assume what you don't know.

drnoel:
I believe that is what the Op was doing and why she refused to listen anymore. That thing I said about speculation

I have been reading your comment since you started this your advice or such, but the thing is you seem not to get it. Of course am not Mr perfect to warrant correcting her all the time. But then that doesn't mean I'll leave things out hand when errors are made. Over times she correct me as well and I heed to her correction, even more than I do for her. Does that mean she's overbearing? Correcting each other isn't bad in a relationship and the way I do it doesn't make me overbearing. Don't assume what you don't know if you can't get more facts. I kept quiet because I wanted to garner experience and tips from married people. And if you can give that, better not assume what you don't know.

DonroxyII:
Her former crush came back (A once med colleague now Doc too n more endowed financially than me but no swagz ).....so she became confused.....

She started demanding from me what the dude promised her .... I can but won't simply because that ain't my priority for then based on available resources ..... She wants us to settle to avoid the temptation but we can't cuz we were yet to graduate from boy/girl into Man/Woman ....... we were evolving ....

I can't be chasing another man's dream, I gatz chase my own .... So, Demand n Supply no gree and market end .... Both of us are faultless !!

Lol