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amatenten:
Well if you`ve not talked to her about it, you should. Some people might be unreasonably arrogant and silly without realising how much they hurt people they love. Discuss it with her and be as straight forward as you can (don`t be apologetic about it so she won`t think you can`t do without her or something). Give her ultimatum to change (she doesn`t have to know about it though but let`s say if she does it two more times consecutively) then if she doesn`t change you know you over-justified to do as you please. Please in the mean time be looking another lady that knows how to treat good men that care for them because the chances that you bae will change is LOW. Trust me I`ve been there too. But please give her a chance for change.

Okay sir. Much thanks

fashionale:
My brother, she's not into the relationship as you are, I doubt if she truly loves you. She's in for your money.

Solution: first, make up your mind to be the man in your relationship. Call her and communicate with her on this her attitude, how you feel about it and if she doesn't change, you will not be in the relationship. Because this her attitude is as a result of lack of respect for you. And there's no true without respect.
Secondly, check how you correct her when she how's wrong. Do you do it with harsh voice or you usually latch out on her even in public. There are people who don't like been scolded with harsh voice or in public.
In all, communicate calmly with her. But if she refuses let er go bro. A woman that loves you will do anything to make you happy.

I don't correct her harshly or neither do I latch out at her in public. I just don't seem to get why this behavior. But quite a lot of comments here I'll learn from.

majekdom2:
There is nothing to work on really. You are with an emotional unintelligent lady who is not mature too. The word "I'm sorry" saves loads and it takes emotional intelligence to tell when one is wrong and say this word. You will be unhappy with this lady if she feels she can't be scolded, can't realise her mistakes and say I'm sorry. This is because a man is wired to want respect. Forget all that cooking and stuffs you are seeing. It won't keep you happy. If it did, you won't be here. I tell you all these from experience.

Thank you Bro. What a piece

donstan18:
I'll advice you to break up with her and allow her learn the hard way from a hard and tough man.

But incase you want otherwise, then read.

She's taking advantage of you because you seems to be a good and caring guy, and one of the habit of a typical Nigerian lady is to take such men for granted.

All you need to do is to pay less attention to her nagging attitude for a while. Give her the same attitude in a higher measure. Allow her understand what "Correction" is all about by putting an end to your act of begging her after correcting her on something.


She's taking your kindness for a ride and indirectly wanting to turn you to a MUGU with her nasty attitude. Man up and go aggressive/less concerned on her for a while. Just a while.

She'll change if she really cared for you, but If after she fails to change. DUMP her for a respectful lady who will give you peace of mind with no nasty attitude.

A good one here. Thanks bro

pocohantas:
So, are you (still) single now?

Yea. I consider myself, because I'm ending this for good.

pocohantas:
So, are you (still) single now?

Yea. I consider myself, because I'm ending this for good

walesalak:
ijebu shey?

Correct

marooh:
Because God later add Extra teeth for you datz y u can't close them!


Bros! Sorry oooo
Ur case na matured case! And I forgot my matured mind before coming online!..
Hoping not to see matured mind like the. Guy above me with dot (.) as comment

Lol.

aaronson:
This is a tough one to deal with.

She is emotional selfish, Narssicist and rude but if you still do love her like you claim, Over look her flaws, loose your self esteem but don't loose your brain in dealing with her the matured way you have been doing. Or plan B, Call it quit, maintain your self esteem and keep looking for more decent girl.

Hmm. Nice one bro. Thanks so much

biafraisdead:
Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.

I understand. Ohh she's from Ogun state

This post is directed to the matured minds in the house.

I've dated this lady for close to a year now and I have the intention of having her as my wife because of my love for her. She's got good qualities, cooks well, supportive in a little way but temperamental and easily provoked.

But there is this challenge I'm having with her, she puts up surly attitude and would always keep to herself whenever I correct her, and she won't talk to me for as long as we stay together, call or try to get in touch while away. This might last for as many days not until I come out to calm her down. Over times shes been doing this and the only way I've had to let things be normal is for me to talk to her again and beg her not to be angry. But I'm feeling I'm loosing my worth. This is someone that never admits she's at fault, talk less of apologizing. On several note I have had to take blame for her errors even when I'm not at fault just to make sure we're fine.

A recent development was that she came for holiday and was using the rest room within my apartment, I was passing by and asked her to close the door, she murmured, closed the door and she hasn't been talking to me since then and even when I do she'll answer reluctantly for like five days now. I am tired of living under same roof with someone that never feel anything keeping malice and I want her to realize her mistakes and apologize, but she won't, she'll rather stay back in the room, and whenever I go to the room, she be making avoiding moves.

I watched her closely to observe if she's into someone else but I haven't got any traces of that.

I have decided not to call her to terms again not minding if it costs a break up, but then am thinking I might be taking things way far.

Pls How best can I handle this? I really do love her tho and I am afraid of loosing her but I am loosing my worth and this has made her not have regards for me.

Thank you all

Greizman:
Bite his dik while giving him bj...
He will respect u forever

Lol U bad gann ooo

tammyboy1:
Oblongated Yansh

Really oblongated... Elongated sef join

OP great topic, but from my point of view as a security personel, this will only work or work effectively if we run state police. Considering the fact that our police are managed by the federal government, hence there are no stationed police but that doesn't mean it can't be achieved though, just that it will cost our government quite a huge sum of money which they might not be ready to spend..

God is great

Why are Nigerians this bad? Despite the man's humility?

pocohantas:
Definitely a Nigerian woman, married to a Nigerian man.

She answered the question logically though.

As for the one asking that question, she just wants to start a war. Doesn't she have parents? What are the best parts of her mother being married? Therein lies the answer to her question.

You just nailed it. You get sense die � � �

ClassRep001:
If you got HIV share it with everyone you come across.

An eye for eye

U bad gann ooo

flexyrule:
The principal's explanation is not tenable.
DSS cannot just wake up and storm your school without valuable intel which must have been sent in my a mockingbird.
There is no smoke without fire.

Thank you brother. And to buttress this, the principal said some people collected pvc of teachers to make copies, why must that be done. Definitely the DSS must have gathered intelligence report as to what's going on and what is about to be done. But let's all keep our fingers crossed till DSS come with their report

QuitNotice:
Corruption everywhere. Let's kill it or it will kill us.
Buhari till 2023

I stand with you and I stand with Buhari all the way. Go go go

Team APC all the way

troublemakea:
Eyah and abuja police are very nice and calm o

this is not good at all

I just hope their private part are intact

Lol you're funny. They say alfa got burnt, you're asking if his beards are intact. My brother leave matter ooo. May they all rest in peace

Make your call at some distance away from the incident. There could be an ignition, which is so so dangerous as well

FortifiedCity:


Buhari's government is just riddled with too many tragedies.

Please insist on getting your PVC

Before you pour out your vexation for Buhari's govt, Do you really understand what's being said?

sirugos:
Sick and tired of this country called Nigeria...

There is no Nigeria without its people. Nigerians are the problem.. If Nigerians are well and could do away with selfish interest, then Nigeria will be a perfect place to live and a great Nation

N'a here police go come dey do shakara, for plateau no them dey hide face

Did you sight how many extinguishers were on the floor?

Partnerbiz3:
This is tragic.

No fire extinguisher..

Just hope it was insured, otherwise he just lost huge sum in this booming economy.

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I guess it's electrical fault though

weekdays:
cursed country!!!

Can't you say something good to your country? Even if all aren't going well. That statement is way much. A prayer would have been fine

Doctuur:
لا حرج

لا جرام

somegirl1:
Competing with the bottom of the barrel instead of the top, typical of the mindset of the perpetually poor.
The report compared numbers. The countries you mentioned don't have even half the population of Nigeria.

I quite agree with you. But I'ld love to see where those countries ranked for Nigeria to have ranked number 1 or is that they were not recognized?

Capital lie. Are they saying Nigeria is poorer than Zambia, Somalia, Benin, Tanzania and the likes, Nepal, Tahiti and the likes? Hell no. I know Nigeria is poverty striken but not on the scale of no one. Different organizations releasing different result to make us feel they exist. I totally disagree.