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Tenderly1: girlfriend,responsible girls dnt go to clubs.

tblackE61: @real bitch let's be 2gether

Crown Prince: Single and very much available and yours?

omega25red: no offence but your question is (fill in the blank)

ArQueBusieR: "Get well soon".

Tattooboy: Hausas call it ''B. Haram''. It clears scar immediately. You can get it @ Bornu, Kaduna, etc.

Flashaldrin: which of the characteristics in both exactly??

nikkyshyne: Welcome back

Long One: Maybe they didn’t find the marriage qualities in the beautiful ones they dated. In the end, a man has to be true to himself, particularly when it has to do with long-term commitment.
Marriage takes something more than physical beauty to hold it together. ‘cos with time, everything fades away and everything is meaningless.

Yes, I have noticed it, and now I understand it.

JayKayMaybachz: Take a look yhu'll find what am talking about

Godmother: Where did you conduct dis ur survey

yankypusy: every other girls want 2 b my girl or even want me 2 marry them.

victorian: I thought marriage is a shared effort between two parties. You share the joy, the difficulties, the happiness and thorns that comes along with it, but i was dead wrong yesterday. My fiance and I had a deep talk yesterday about possible challenges we were likely to encounter if we ended up married. After drawing up a lsit of those challenges, I felt like I could work round those challenges, however the only one i could not accept is his claim that he will not assist me financially should I have any financial issues in future.

I was surprised at this and asked if he was serious. First, I rarely ever ask him for money even when I get broke occasionally like everyone else, but how can I be married or even have a fiance that wont support me financially? For God sake, I am not an island that breeds and survives on its own. I am a normal human being like everyone else. My fiance stood his ground in spite of all these points I made and said "nope, I aint doing that."

What even hurts is the fact that he helps his friends and family out financially when they are down. So why should my case be different? I have come to realise that the reason for this might be tied to the fact that I am successful. He is sees it foolish to be there for me if am broke and to cap it all, he expects me to take care of our needs financially at home when we get married. We once made plans to save up for a car, but he stopped paying and told me that I should buy the car myself. According to him, the reason why he stopped paying was because I own a buisness while he is a salary earner. Is it crime to be successful?

I feel so sad, disgusted and realise that I can't go ahead and marry him. If I have to feel single while being married? What is the use of getting married in the first place If i cant count on my partner to be there for me. I don't think it is all about exchanging sweet words. Mere words are of no use to me. I receive sweet words everyday, so its no big deal. I have female friends and we assist each other sometimes, because everyday is not Christmas and sad situations happen that could make one go broke. I have worked myself hard for years, and I wont add to my workload after marriage. It is not worth it. Nah.....too much liability.

Anyway, this morning I told him I needed a break. I think we both need the break to think things through. We need to find out if we are suitable for each other or not. As far as I can see, I don't think so. Not any more. I thank God, he told me this on time before I took such a huge step as marriage. Abeg,let me focus on my business and friends that truly care about me. Can you guyz imagine?

tellwisdom: Na LAWYER write this tin??