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get an educated, patriotic, fearless person, he would perform wonders! remember what soyinka did with FRSC.
He is no policeman.

Beaf:
Our police force is bad, but the principle of sourcing EFCC bosses from there is a good one. The EFCC's job is about criminal investigations and a novice picked of the street will quickly flounder in that environment.
I would like to know one country where the police chief is not a career person; that concept is quite new to me.

I also think you are wrong that we can't find an incorruptible nigerian police officer at that level. What about men like Marvel Akpoyibo?

we've heard of this and that nigerian police officer before. na today? lol!
tell me since 1999 which police chief performed in office. each time we appoint a new chief he goes the way of the former chief. abi dem nor go the same school? no be the same "roger" culture dem take grow.
on a very serious note, the most incorruptible officer are in the lower ranks but they may not be educated enough to  handle things like EFCC.

Beaf:
Tell them, bruv.

You could be right, but I believe the EFCC statute demands a police officer.

in other words, the EFCC act failed from inception. it is like making a labor law and saying only men should be affected by it afterall men na jaki from time. we only end up losing the labor skills of the other 50% -the women population. nigeria never gets anything right. there are many countries where police chiefs aren't even career police people. and to think anyone can find an incorruptible nigerian police officer at that level is mere fantasy.

robbing peter to pay paul is immoral and will fail. he stole people's pensions to build roads.

Beaf:
She doesn't have police experience.

@topic
The story is an usubstantiated rumour.

so why did the two former efcc bosses fail though they were high ranking police officers? i think that what we need is someone willing, fearless and intelligent enough to pursue thieves in public office no matter how high and how conneted. anyone fearing powers will fail, even if he is the best police officer in the world.

if you need help, i can recommend some pray books written by powerful man of God to empower you and your husband to take the fight to the enemy. I will be checking this thread often.

i said that because the plot to deny you motherhood started very early in your life (shabby surgery) and has manifested itself at every turn(shabby surgery always!). Imagine the last surgery! punching your bladder and still failing to fix the tubes properly which led to the IVF failing!
Nne pray for God to rise in his anger and fight for your defense!

I don't usually comment on this type of thread, but girl! @pslm23  you are one classy and tough lady!
Your husband is also a real man. i will pray for both of you and i will pray for you especially.

Please, if possible, ,memorize Psalm 20 and meditate on it daily because i believe you are under a wicked plan by your foundation (your place of birth, the god(s) your ancestors worshiped, your family lineage or ancestors themselves) to deny you motherhood and fulfillment. Just my spiritual hunch.
Ask for God to fight for you!

Psalm 20

1 The LORD hear thee in the day of trouble;
       
the name of the God of Jacob defend thee;
2 send thee help from the sanctuary,
       
and strengthen thee out of Zion;
3 remember all thy offerings,
       
and accept thy burnt sacrifice.
Selah.
4 Grant thee according to thine own heart,
       
and fulfil all thy counsel.
5 We will rejoice in thy salvation,
       
and[b] in the name of our God we will set up our banners:
the LORD fulfil all thy petitions.[/b]
6 Now know I that the LORD saveth his anointed;
       
he will hear him from his holy heaven
with the saving strength of his right hand.
7 Some trust in chariots, and some in horses:
       
but we will remember the name of the LORD our God.
8 They are brought down and fallen:
       
but we are risen, and stand upright.
9 Save, LORD:
       
let the king hear us when we call.

It is well with you my sister.

only God knows how many false HIV results these labs are handing down daily.
is anything working at all in naija. this is so scary.

[size=14pt]Nigerian labs below WHO standard – Survey[/size]

By CHIOMA OBINNA
A NEW study conducted by a group of researchers at the Nigerian Institute of Medical Research, NIMR, has called for concern on the accuracy, reliability and timeliness of clinical results generated in Nigerian laboratories.

The cross sectional study entitled “Establishing an External Quality Assessment Programme in Nigeria” shows that medical laboratories in Nigeria do not attain 5-star grades as recommended by the World Health Organisation, WHO, was conducted in two phases and suggests that presently, the laboratory infrastructure and test quality for all types of clinical laboratories remains weak in Nigeria.

From their findings, the researchers led by the Principal Investigator, Dr. Rosemary Audu of the Department of Human Virology Laboratory, NIMR, Lagos, established that 106 out of the 111 laboratories randomly selected from the six geopolitical zones of the country, attained an average of 65.3 per cent which is equivalent to a 2-star out of the maximum grade of 5 star.

The study therefore shows that despite the fact that the grade attained was by self reporting and not by an audit; it indicates a very poor culture of quality management system prevailing in the Nigerian laboratories.

“Also evident from the assessment was the poor maintenance culture reported by the laboratories as most of them did not have preventive maintenance policy, thereby undermining the quality of results generated by the equipment they use.

According to the researchers, only 27 per cent of the laboratories were registered for HIV, TB and malaria External Quality Assessment Programme, EQAP. [/b]They recommended that concerted effort was required to train Nigerian laboratories on quality management system.

The second phase of the study on HIV and TB diagnosis, show that although there was consistent improvement in performance for each of the rounds when some form of training was provided it was not sustained in the last round.

[b]“The major issue with HIV diagnosis was the none use of the national testing algorithm, even though there was a decline from 83 per cent in the 1st round to 47 per cent at the end of the 4th round. The approved algorithm, according to the researchers is serial testing involving the use of determine, unigold and stat – pak.

Recommending the kits be made available to ensure the algorithm is adhered to regularly, the study was to ensure accuracy of test results.

“Challenges observed with TB results showed a high level (20 percent) of false negative results. There were also 8 per cent of reported false positive results which will unduly expose individuals to drugs which are toxic to their systems. Meanwhile patients who require anti -TB drugs are sometimes not privileged to access it due to stock out.”

Calling for urgent need to increase the accuracy of malaria diagnosis by training and retraining of laboratory technicians, the study recommended a dire need to imbibe the culture of quality management system in the Nigerian laboratories if they are to play the strategic role in providing evidence for clinical management of patients especially in the interest of the common man.

The researchers in the second phase followed 44 laboratories out of the 106 (20 per cent Government and 80 per cent private) that completed the questionnaires and indicated interest in participating in the EQAP for the three diseases, Malaria, TB and HIV.
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2011/11/nigerian-labs-below-who-standard-survey/

the man is trying hard to win abians and bring them to his side. if he succeeds, he will win the battle but lose the war because other states will target abians bitterly.

they should give that job to Dora Akunyili. all you really need is someone dedicated and fearless. she can be supported with experienced EFCC operatives, then watch her perform wonders.

Outstrip:
joystick enlargers do not work o. You just make the best of whT God gave you.

i don't even think it is all about joystick size. it is more about body chemistry. a guy the same size as the OP may come along and fk the living day light out of the wife. that is why this is dangerous. the OP might do once like most husbands do, role over and play dead. this other guy (because she/he know this may not happen again) may do 5 - 10 times in one night. it is that bad. i think this is really the issue.

on second thought OP, i think this might be your personal fantasy! a lot of guys these days fantasize about their wives having se-x with 'studs". some people actually carry it out and do so serially. like i said before, it is a mine field. anything, just anything can go wrong. if she doesn't get a bad STD, she may fall hopelessly in love with another guy, or still worse, she may become pregnant for him, because this won't be a one time thing. it is like the forbidden fruit, unless if the other guy doesn't enjoy her goods. if both of them did, be rest assured that both will have s-e-x for much of their remaining active s-e-x lives. that is why s-e-x is for married people.

aside note, this is why i don't believe in not having s-e-x before marriage. once married, both couple must grow together if they want to stay married. the OP "problem" is part of that growing up together.

OP i'm sorry to say that i think she has already done it at least once, that is how she knows the difference. ex-virgins never know the difference because their experience are limited to their husbands, so how did she know how good a big d-ick is?
she is a good woman though and doesn't want to hide anymore. just wait for it, she will introduce someone soon! haha
this situation is very tricky though because a lot is involved. i worry about diseases first before anything else. i believe that marriage is between two people and both can decide to do whatever in it provided they both agree. the danger is always in the third party who may "fall in love" with your wife after tasting some good shiit. lwkmd!
there is also always that danger that she may enjoy it more now, and from there she can fall deeply in love (women are emotional by nature) with him. so it then depends on how the other guy responds to her love overtures. a guy don't initially fall deeply in love with a woman until he sleep with her. i know it has happened to me several times. there is something powerful in s-e-x. so, if you are confident in her love for you then go ahead and try it.  if not beware! i decided not to bring religion into this because it may not help. somebody somewhere has already made up his or her mind.

isn't it easier for Nigeria to simply call a national conference to address all local issues and fears? are the same people preventing that too? people should stop blaming the wrong people. sort your local problems through good old dialogue before foreigners help you do it.

that candidate is ngige if he wants it. he has to work hard at it tho.

if bk land for eko, yawa go gas.

in the olden day, this would be shocking, but in today's internet world where a 14 year old can go online and view s-e-x actions involving women older than his own mother, anything is possible in his head. and there are more cases of young boy/old women relationships these days. his main issue is that he is still a minor and he tried to r-ape someone.
my take is that if you want a good child, don't start praying for it after he has arrived and started acting. pray BEOFRE he is born. there are too many devilish children seeking homes these days. the world is about to end and they must come before then.
btw OP i suspect that your sister may have given him green light somehow. my 2 cents tho.

on paper, there is nothing wrong, BUT be aware of a few things.
i would advise you to ask your brother how he feels about that, and find out why he is not yet married. if money is the problem, then, you may want to help him marry first instead of wasting the money on a "lavish wedding party".
i'm saying this because no one knows tomorrow. you may marry ahead of him and kick his feeling aside today and he will have that in his mind always. if you by chance come to be at his mercy any time in the future, he won't spare you!
I say this because i know of a similar case which happened many years ago. suffice to say that the only son of the older brother became stupendously rich while the sons (many sons) of the younger were struggling seriously. the result was that the son of the older refused completely to help the sons of the younger (his own cousins) because his father told him how their father married ahead of him without considering helping him.

so, my friend, be wise. be very wise. no one knows tomorrow!