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izuch:
Angry people commit suicide, what are you waiting for?

babyosisi:
You loved everyone you met
You saw the best in people
You always had a smile and a testimony
You went out of your way for everyone
You would give your last dime to someone in need yet your sickness took everything you had worked for
I believed with all my heart and with every fiber in my being that you will bounce back
I had plans of having you here just to share that testimony with my friends here who don't know you but have prayed for you,what an encouragement that would have been

Last time we spoke,I told you,your voice was very weak and you laughed and I reassured you all will be well
I believed it and so did you
I told the same to your kids continually
That mom will be OK
So I have lied to them all
Aunty told them a big fat lie
I told them you will be healed
That was a lie
You died
This hurts girl!

ddami:
I ve bin 2 oda countries no matter how perfect dey are nig. z still d best 4 me.my grandma will always say God dint make a mistake by dropping u in dis country and not elsewhere. I will contribute my little quota to make naija lyk dose oda countries.last month our road was paved by d CDA and i was so proud of dem d@ z 1 less bad road in naija.......I will b a good Nigerian ambassador and not fly 2 1 fuvking country where I know i will always be a stranger........patriotic Nigerian

PAINGAIN:
lol. No shaking but make ur own no b like Airforce1's never ready album.

byrron:
You missed the point again and your lengthy essay remains an unneccesary digression from the Issue In question.

The OP has explained to u in clear terms that xenophobic attacks going on in some places in SA is restricted to some areas and not in all states in SA and that he is also safe were he is but u chose not to accept that and went ahead making generalized comments as if you domicile over there in SA and now know more than someone residing there.

He even gave u an example of what is happening back home in Nigeria were there have been several killings of fellow Nigerians residing in the north but that does not indicate that every part of Nigeria is experiencing such ungodly killings but u failed to follow such line of rational reasoning and sounded as if USA was immuned from societal issues simply because u domicile over there which prompted me to remind u of resent events in the same united sates but I am not generalizing the crises unlike u.

Im gonna say to u again and again that every country has its own problems.

We are not here to compare crisis going on all over the world ok!

OneNaira6:
Was I talking to your idiotic sef. Did I mention you? Attention seeking mofo. You've been noticed now swerve and go play in traffic. Ewu

ucheokpara100:
but u are supose to bring this kind of advice when i 've ask for help or cried out that my life is in danger na.

OneNaira6:
I'm not competing you. I'm trying to open your eyes. Dude is best to go to another african nation and do what you do for a living if you don't want to return to Nigeria. There are several African nations you can go and rebuild. Staying in SA is counting down the days you'll live. I'm sorry but that is the truth. That country is not safe for African. Idk why you came in defense just because I asked you a question in the beginning like as if I'm arguing with you.

OneNaira6:
Are you seriously comparing Ferguson and co to xenophobia? For real? No doubt that police brutality to the black community is a problem. But let's come of it, the police are not going around looking for black people to harass, beat up and kill nor are the amount of blacks killed or physically harmed as high as the amount of foreigners killed in SA in just one week. South Africans or rather Zulus are deliberately seeking foreigners out. We've watched videos of them physically killing many foreigners the most inhumane way possible without any kind of remorse whatsoever. We've heard and seen that some of their police supports the act and actually look the other way or laughing when they witness such. Let's come off and embrace the truth. What SA are doing is not in comparison to what's happening in USA or any other western or even African nation, excluding Nigeria. Lets stop all this comparison to west just because SA is an African nation. Let's tell ourselves the truth. The dude life is in danger whether we, himself included, like to accept it or not. This is not the first time SA went on a xenophobic killing spree and I highly doubt this will be the last. It's best for other Africans to leave that nation for them. Even if the guy does not want to return back to Nigeria, I don't blame him, I don't want to either but there are several African nations he can go and rebuild without looking over his shoulder everyday if this is today they will come for him just because he's a foreigner. If he was in middle east, would you be comparing what is happening to west? No. Rather you'll be asking the guy wtf is he doing in a terrorist infested region or wondering if he's safe with the increasing number of ISIS activity happening over there.

Marylong:
Thanks for pointing out those issues. I am aware that men are head of the family. I also knew my responsibility as a wife but I think my own man is different from others. He shy's away from his responsibilities and I have never complained about it. As a helper, I try to cover his mistakes and assist him.

Yes dear, he asked me to leave everything and resign from my work. I can't keep the business going because I relocated to where he was. I sold off everything and saved part of the money in my account. He knew he wanted to breakup but wanted to use my saving to complete his last house. You may ask how do I know this? He came requesting me to bring my savings and even tried to withdraw the money from my online account

Prior to the wedding, he has a job and no investments. Our houses were built because I supported him but his family did not know about it. I was optimistic that we can make it together as a family. When I moved into his house, I got a very small job and took up other responsibilities while he pay the house rent. He was happy about the idea but gradually he started complaining about the house rent too. When we have no money to pay house rent he travels out of town and I have to borrow to pay it. He still does not pay me back even when I request.

@ nautybride, please, forget about my issue. I thinks its my destiny. Thanks for your concern

Marylong:
My dear, I do not know whether to call this summary because I can't complete 5 year story here oh

By the way, someone suggested that the poster should write down her thoughts on paper and give to her husband. I did the same thing then but my own backfired. In fact, he sent a text message to inform his brother He refused to eat, did not talk to me and slept in another room. I ended up apologizing for doing that oh!

I saw myself pampering a grown man just to have peace in my home. I was always crying on the street like a mad woman and sad when I want to go home. It was so bad that he will never discuss anything with me. I kept asking him why he came to marry me and what went wrong after the marriage. He said nothing went wrong. Another problem is that no one can advise him not even his mother.

He was always comparing our families and every good news from mine family made him sad. While his family are fine but he does not see it.

However, I decided one day to ignore him. I stopped asking him about his work, his health and what he wants to eat. That worked He suddenly changed his behaviour and apologized to me. He promised to take good care of me when he has money, that he loved me and is only worried he cannot take care of me I told him to relax that I only needed peace and nothing else (But, for where ) The show began again after few days.

One day, my sister in- law decided to bring her pastor to the village for family prayers. I traveled to village without my husband and my mother in-law was happy about the whole idea. During the prayers the pastor said that my womb was tied by someone in the family. I was kind of expecting such prophesy from him But, when the man started praying oh! My mother in-law became very angry and asked the pastor to stop. The pastor refused and suddenly wanted to go outside for more prayers. My dear, my mother in-law rushed and locked her door. She warned that no one should pray in her house again. Imagine, 3 wives yet to give birth and our mother in-law suddenly became excited about the whole thing. she was shouting old cargoes throughout that night. We were dumbfounded. The pastor stayed in doors and prayed before leaving the next day, he prophesied breakthrough for us and death for the suspect. My mother in-law swept the pastors footprints from the living room to the gate.

I then decided to stay away for sometime from my husband, I applied for further studies in another state and left. He called to tell me he has divorced me

This is not Nollywood story oh!

Marylong:
@ Op

I understood you story very well because I had the same challenge with husband. Our marriage lasted for almost 5 years and we divorced few months back. Even though, I married in my 30s, I was a virgin and had no experience on how to handle men. I think we started quarreling 7 months after our marriage but I did not notice it much because I loved him so much.

Prior, to our marriage, I was a civil servant had 2 businesses and a mortgaged house yet to pay which I got from my office. I contributed a lot to our wedding even took up the responsibility of buying our food when I moved into his house.

After our wedding, he asked me to relocate to where he was, I resigned from my job, stopped my business and followed him. When I moved in, I united him and his brothers, supported him to help them solve their problems. I also contributed when we built our 2 houses in the village. Being a hardworking lady, I never requested money from him and even use my money to buy things for his mother. I did all these because I wanted to build my marriage.

My dear, my husband changed 7 months after our marriage. We started quarreling over any little thing. I noticed if I am happy he is sad but if I am sad he is happy. Every single thing has to be my fault and I kept apologizing all the time. I was equally emotionally and psychologically abused. I tried to discuss with him on many occasions but he will never listen to me. It got to a time we got use to being sad My sister, I kept fasting and praying for peace in my home. The worst part of the whole story is that he stopped praying and when I pray alone, he walks to me to tell me to stop disturbing God. Since, I moved into his house I had constant nightmares and my period does not not stop. Yet, I kept praying and visiting hospital for 5 years. But, when ever he travels my period will be regular and normal

I never complained to any one but God. He even tries to discourage me from calling his mother and brothers wife. During our IVF he does everything not to go to the hospital with me and says I should not depend on it. He kept saying everyone must not have a child so I should worry less. When I had stomach pains he was watching football and refused to take to me to the hospital. I had to crawl to the hospital all alone. When I got to the hospital I was admitted and he called me because he needed food.

When he pays our house rent he complains he had no money. When we won lottery of about 1millon Naira, he listed the things he will do with the money and bought secondhand clothing for me from it. I was happy and thanked him. Yet, I bought and cooked our food throughout our stay together. My dear, I wash his cloths, clean the house and stock the house with the money I made from my former business. The money he gave me after our marriage I gave back to assist him. In fact, I was ready to give my life for this guy because he was my first love. I also paid our house rent on may occasions. I tried my best to make him happy but he is never happy expect I carry all the house burden.

On his birthday, I buy things for him and prepares his favourite meal. On my birthday, he forgets it and when I remind him, he says everyday is birthday. He always try to annoy me but he is so nice to people outside. Friends envy me because they do not know what I was passing through. Yet my sister, I kept praying to God till....

Elkewwty:
Awon drunkards.

. Awon wo ni drunkards?..


And na una type full there pass,wanting and begging to be karid