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Sunday Rice.

cutiereborn:
Yes o.
Carrots, cabbage, spring onion, sardines, green pepper with spices

Great!

cutiereborn:
Finally, pancake rolls by SIL dearest.
So that's all I have been up to.
By 3rd, we continue our weight loss journey

Is there something inside the roll?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Meaning?

Means I'm in support of your statement.

funmisticqueen:
In conclusion you are an effeminate beta male who is trying to use his own misinterpretation of the bible to explain why he should be a mix between a true man and bobrisky aka a dusty broke nigga

You sound comical, learn to read between the lines, read again and come up with something well reasoned, you can do it.

ZIMDRILL:
What is family? i think thats were the confusing starts
Usually before kids arrive, reference to the wife is WIFE but the moment a child is born, reference to wife is interchangeable with word family eg instead of saying i got a wife and child, you say i got family

Back to the the question who is responsible to look after the family? its both of you

From bible point of view adam and eve started to hunt and gather after the curse right meaning adam did the hunting while eve did gathering of fruits veg etc so they provided for each other

Then came civilasation were people stared to live in groups and permanent place, man looked after domesticated animals while women had small garden And both provided for family

Then finally came industrialization, no more freeland to hunt and gather good land belonged to someone rich, now work for the owner mostly manual labour which suited men, therefore the little the women provided is gone, she just look after the kids, while hubby brings in money from work and men then took advantage of new way of life by saying" i will take care of you," and this the same period women had no rights to own land, vote or inherit property even education

Now things have changed women work and provide financially but they want men to 100% responsible at the same time some feel to be responsible 100% but there is catch to it eg divorce traditionally the wife walk away with nothing as he man was the sole provider

Now the challenge with most female providers they think men was always the sole provider but history through bible or civilisation dont agree

Men and wife provide for each other
So is men, wife and children

Nice analyses.

UyaiIncomparabl:
What do you seek from us now?

To chastise your father or curse your sister further for being a spoilt brat?

There's little or nothing you can do right now, or do you want to get your father arrested? Get it done with immediate alacrity. And your sister? Let her be taught that all that glitters isn't gold, perhaps be used for BENZ. After all, you said you don't care if she dies or not. So you see, it's a WIN-WIN situation.

+1

thickminaj:
August 3rd

August 4 here

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mogbojaiye:
Am going to make this logic as simple as possible.

Things have changed over the years,marriage of 1996 is not the same again as now. The truth is no matter how wealthy a man is no man wants to marry a liability, the economic of 1996 is different from the current economy worldwide,.

A woman that gets married to a man with the sole aim of the man providing everything thing for her even close to buying her pad for her will not only loss her respect but also her value in the house. Her daughters will also end up losing their value and will eventually resort to hitting up on guys for survival or men for survival which brings prostitution to the table, that's why you see some ladies whose means of lively hood is opening their legs just to eat indomine and egg in university because when u just take a walk to her hux u will eventually find her own mother doing nothing at home.

Then when you take a walk with the boys at home, their brain have been wired that you must give to a woman when ever she ask for financial assistance, ,,thats where some turn out to b mumu (after all I did for her, she still left me) untill day wise up,
They too wil now understand that a lady can also feed for herself without support

Now let's take it to a house where both parents are supportive to one another, the children will also inherit such attitude and will also attract their type and when they jam d opposite they call them (self-centered) or stingy


You attract what you are, starting from your upbringing,

I was brought up with my father doing all d expenses and all the dropings so I don't expect the woman I will marry to add a penny to me, me kw send cus am a hustler till I die,

But note :no man wants a LIABILITY

Some nice points!

Acidosis:
Marriage is based on both cultural and religious propositions. If you don't define marriage on both terms, on what grounds would you define marriage?

You have a point.

Feel free to share your opinion about this subject.

Whose Responsibility Is It To Provide?

Relax and read this to the end, I bet you will learn something New.


The scripture below seems to be the anchor for this argument.

“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” -1 Timothy 5:8 KJV


I want to shake some tables. I have read books; listened to messages from renowned pastors; all saying that it is the responsibility of the man to provide for the home and the usual anchor scripture is the one quoted above.


The effect of that message is that generations after generations of ladies have come to see themselves as the responsibility of the man.
It is classic conditioning at play. You hear something too often and you begin to believe it as truth.
Not long ago, I read a post where a lady was advising guys to go for ladies their size because you cannot expect a lady who has been using a very expensive body cream to lower her standard because you, the guy who is now dating her, cannot afford the class of body cream she was using.



As expected, most of the ladies who commented were in support. Ladies who have seen the four walls of a university. Ladies who should be able to apply logical thinking to spot the flaw in such a statement were all in agreement.



I have tried to look for the rational behind that post. A lady who, obviously, was buying her cream by herself, now has a guy who is interested in her, and suddenly the new guy has an added responsibility – to start buying her cream for her. How that makes any sense, I still cannot fathom.


Unfortunately, the story is not different all over the world. For some ladies, being in a relationship with you means you cater for all their personal needs.


The questions that beg answering are then,

1. Who was responsible for those needs before they met you?

2. What happened to the source of income that met those needs before they met you?

3. Why does all that have to stop just because they met you?

I don’t deny that the female gender is pleased when her man shows certain gestures like buying stuff for her. But surprising someone and taking responsibility for their needs when they are not handicapped are two different things.

Then you get into the marriage institution and you see the same mindset at play. It is the responsibility of the man to provide for the family.
“Says who?” You ask
“The Bible.” They answer.
“Where in the bible?”
“1 Timothy 5:8. But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
But is that verse saying the male gender is responsible for providing for the home? Why don’t we back up a few verses before and read further a few verses after? Let’s say from verse 3 down to verse 16.


What you will find is a mentor, Apostle Paul, writing to his protegé, Timothy, instructing him on the subject of catering for widows, not on the subject of marriage.
He mentioned three categories of widows:


1. Widows indeed – elderly, no family members to cater for them.

2. Widows – elderly but with family members that can cater for them.

3. Younger widows – young, vibrant, with strong sexual desires, advised to remarry.

It was while addressing this subject of catering for these three different categories of widows that the verse of 1 Timothy 5:8 was sandwiched in the mix.
In that verse, Paul was specifically instructing Timothy that widows who still have family members around should not be a burden to the church.

That it is the responsibility of the family members of that widow to cater for her. For he (or she) who cannot (refuses to) provide for his (or her) own (widows in the family) has denied the faith.


Paul was not saying it is the responsibility of the man (male gender) to provide cooking money for the home. That was not the subject he was addressing. Unfortunately, that has become the twist we have given the verse.

There is nowhere in the bible where the male gender was given the responsibility of providing cooking money for the home.

The places where responsibilities ware meted out to the male, they were the responsibilities of;
1. Leadership. The man is the head of the woman.
2. Love & Protection. Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself (died) for her.

Beyond those two, no other responsibility was given to the male gender.
In fact, when the wisest man who ever lived wrote about the virtuous woman, one of her qualities was rising up early to provide for the home.
Of course, that does not in any way imply that it is the responsibility of the woman to provide for the home. But the virtuous woman did that.
If providing for the needs of the home is not the responsibility of the man and not the responsibility of the woman, whose responsibility is it?.

This therefore calls for wisdom.
We must be mindful of taking cultural practices in the bible and turning them into doctrines. The bible contains both the word of God, the word of the devil, the words of angels and the words of men.
It is not anything that Israel practiced as a nation that automatically becomes a doctrine. Bear in mind that certain dispensations bestows certain responsibilities on people.


The physical structure of the man reveals that he is more suited for manual labour than the woman. So in an agrarian culture, the man farms while the woman takes care of the home. It was the dispensation that bestowed such responsibilities on them.


As time changes, we must also be ready to change with the changing times. The era where only the man went out to work is over. Why then should only the man shoulder the responsibility of the household?
In my home there is no financial responsibility that is mine. All financial responsibilities are ours – my wife and I. Whether from rent to cooking, we are both responsible for the provision of whatever is needed.
When we prepare the budget, it is both our incomes that fund the budget. It is not my responsibility to provide for the home. It is our responsibility. It is our home.

Now, I earn more than my wife so I bear more financial responsibility. When we prepare the budget, I fund a higher portion because I earn a higher income.
If she was earning the higher income, she would bear more responsibility. It is not my home, it is our home. It only makes sense that we must do whatever makes the home work.


Maybe, out of my personal pride as a man, as my income grows, I can decide to fund the budget 100% and ask her to keep her money. But that is a separate matter. It does not make it my sole responsibility to provide for the financial needs of the home.

Now, even though I earn more than my wife does, I don’t have a 9 to 5 job. I work from home, so I am at home all day from Monday to Sunday. My wife, on the other hand, has a regular job. She leaves in the morning and returns in the evening.
Seeing that I am at home all day and my wife goes to work, who should take care of our daughter? I, of course. It is only logical that the one who is at home should cater for the baby.



So I clean her up, change her diapers, and change her clothing when she needs changing. Those are not the responsibilities of the wife. They are the responsibilities of the parents.
It will be stupid of me to say that because I am the man then I cannot do such tasks as changing diapers. That my wife must take the baby with her or find someone else to do them when I am at home all day doing nothing besides checking Facebook.

Only two commamdments were given by Paul on the issue of marriage.
The first is, husbands love your wives. The second is, wives submit to your own husband. Nothing outside of those two is a commandment.
There is no commamdment that the man should be the provider of the home.


There is no commandment that the woman should be the one to bath the kids.
There is no commandment that only the man should work.


There is no commandment that the man must earn more than the wife.
Different dispensations only bestowed certain responsibilities on the different genders that helped them cope with the time. And as time changes we must be willing to make the necessary changes to suit the changing times.

And to you, young lady, that thinks that any man who dates you is automatically responsible for your personal upkeep, that is so 19th century thinking. This is the 21st century. Human up!.
What do you think about this? Do you agree? Do you disagree? State your case on the comment section.

Written by: Mute Efe.

Culled from: https://transformend.com.ng/family/whose-responsibility-provide/

joessi:
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English pls

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lalasticlala dominuque seun myn44

Share love with your family this December, and share your experience about why family is over everything.

We are all looking for a paradise; some sort of asylum or utopia.
We feel the solution is to go to that perfect place where we will live perfect lives, keep perfect jobs, fall in love with the perfect person.


So we run… We leave our families. We say “they hold us back; they want to run our lives for us, push us around” so we run.
But soon we discover that life is not a bed of rose.
The perfect job we envisioned is nowhere to be found; even the imperfect one seems impossible to land.

Our relationships are turning sour; the ones for whom we turned our backs against our families for have turned their backs on us. We have gotten to the end of the road and that mirage of romance and bliss has faded.

Then we run back to our families; there is no place like home after all. We discover that we may have weaned ourselves a little too early from the breasts of our dear mothers. We go back to the hands we had bitten earlier; the hands that fed us.

Then our hands are held and we are taught how to walk properly, how to run, we are lifted when we fall, we are taught to rise again.
Then we realize that Paradise is not a place but a people. The ones who take us for who we are, those hands that continue to feed us even after we have bitten them.

Paradise is real! We have it with us right now. It is our family and it is love.

~ lovely ice~

Culled from https://transformend.com.ng/

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