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This is insane. Why haven’t the rest of african countries demanded this?

chieveboy:
Can we talk in private?

Yes if you will still b down for it

bilag17:
@Roboclopp, you have the following options:
1. Live for Jesus Christ, unto a fulfilling destiny.
2. Live for the devil's demons, and commit suicide.
Whichever option is considered, life is still continuum, either in eternal joy or grief.
Choose 1, and live.

What does this mean ? One issue i have is that i cannot confide in my parents or mum because she is quite very superstitious and i believe it brings way more fear to me than a solution

Tnk u

Richy4:
Ok, that's the more reason why you should talk to a therapist...

I'm just wondering now how you can cope with a panel interview.. incase you wanna advance career wise..

Please do so now before it becomes major..

For some reason, I can manage this at work. It is more in an actual social setting that i will be triggered

Richy4:
I'm just curious... What do you mean by trigger?.. Do you become violent for no reason when people comes close to proximity? or do you just cry? How does it happen do you have an idea?

I freeze, blank out and have nothing to say. Sometimes I quickly fill the suspense with meaningless words when I notice.

It is annoying because i sometimes give the wrong response to questions because somewhere in my mind, responding to certain questions, being in certain places just brings memories I’ve tried to bury away. So I notice i may be evasive

How do you handle when it looks like you are completely avoiding someone almost disrespectfully when actually you are just trying to avoid the triggers you will get when they come around, especially when you are not confident enough to handle the triggers?

Socratiz:
You can send me a mail.

I am a professional counsellor with specialization in mental health and addiction.

I can help you overcome any trauma.

How do I contact you?

I am using a private email, so it will not send an email via nairaland For some reason it is just not working

yomi007k:
Bro, we share certain similarities;
1. I also don't trust people even my family members.

2. People also think I am snubbish.
I honestly dont care what any Nigerian thinks of me.

3. I have been depressed in the past and suicidal but I thank God I didn't follow that route.


Just be patient you will find peace and happiness soon.
If I can find it then you most certainly can.


Shalom.

How did you deal with the bit of loosing friends around you?

Karleb:
So I was watching Bill Burr special last week (Paper Tiger). The guy is a great comedian.

He talked about how he was sexually assaulted by a lady. The lady grabbed his crotch unprovoked. It messed up his mind just like it did yours.

His own solution was meditating and forgiving the said lady.
So, try to put yourself into their shoes, practice meditation and forgive them. You could go for therapy if you have the time and money or just talk to someone close in your life about it.





Or you could just take your revenge if you could.

Talking to someone, hmnn one thing that troubles me is how i tried to open up to a friend, but then he quickly dismissed it. I think thats why i can’t talk about it again because when the closest person to you dismisses stuff like this, mehn it can be hard.

Bro, tbh, someone even accused me of being stuck up not knowing I am being triggered in the moment and that is my best response. Hard to deal with this man.

Prechgold1180:
Try eat first

Bro, money is not the issue, I swear.
This is more of an emptiness and just no desire to keep going, because, what is the point

Something happened to me that till this day, the memory holds me. Basically, I was wrongly accused and humiliated in public even though I was trying to speak for myself.

Ever since then, I’ve been quite distant from everyone around me. People think I am snubbish, etc but the truth I realise is that the trauma just keeps coming everytime. I can’t shake it off.

Also it is so bad I just don’t know who to trust to open up about it. But i still feel it.

I wish i could really explain this to someone, but trauma is real.

Honestly, I can’t find a reason to still be alive because the incident around the situation broke me completely. I ve managed to crawl myself slightly away from it, but honestly, every now and then i still feel this heavy weight on my chest that I have to pull out . I can’t explain it, but I wish this never happened

Any advice

Anonymous blog posts

Are they truly anonymous?

Had someone read my diary earlier and ever since then I’ve just not been able to trust it again.

A lot is weighing on me, but I don’t know how to share. Can’t process it

Had someone read my diary earlier and ever since then I’ve just not been able to trust it again.

A lot is weighing on me, but I don’t know how to share. Can’t process it

Eseries:
I am alive because I don’t just want to die.
I don’t know how you feel be being alive seems much more exciting than the prospect of being dead.


You seen the dead?… they don’t look like they having some fun, … do they?

TBH, i am only alive because i am too much of a coward to stare at the unending death

And this is not the “you have family and friends”

I feel really empty and struggling with intense anxiety.

I can’t find a reason to fight this and continue because everything feels pointless.

Why are you alive?