₦airaland Forum

jadelyn007:
Economy has carved out a different role for everyone. Moreover society has evolved much.

tearoses:
Please lets get something straight.
Signing a page in the marriage registry does not change anyone especially something that someone has done for 8 years of his life.
You don't suddenly wake up the next morning after the wedding as a totally different person. You still are who you are before you went to bed last night.

The man has not changedo
The wife wants him to change

He has always been like this
He has put his cards on the table since day one
He has not put down a dime since the day they got married, so how was the wedding paid for?
Leading up to the wedding what were the discussions on their finances and how they will be managed?
I guess the poster paid most of the wedding expenses
Alarm bells have been ringing for years but were ignored maybe due to other positive traits that the man had or "he will change"

He came as a whole package, so one just cant pick the things that one likes about him and discard the others
This sounds like a man who would thrive better as a house husband. There are few men who are like that.
He should have married someone who was comfortable with that kind of set up and that is what I don't like about all of this.

I don't think he will change
Both hubby and wifey are in for a long and bumpy ride because they have different expectations.
Going back to her parents house will even give the man more opportunity to be even more lazy when he knows that his wife is being well looked after at home.
It will even take some of the guilt away from him.

My only advise is to do what you have to do to deliver your baby in good health and go back to work and face your cross.
Pray pray and pray that your husbands projects materialise and when he does get paid, pls find a way of re investing that money so he doesn't squander it all before the next project comes along.

Safe delivery and all the best.

jadelyn007:
Why is it a big deal that your man must be the one financially responsible for the home? If you can pick the bills then do it, life is too short to argue over who should do what. Like you said, he's an amazing man in every other aspect, so cut him some slack please. What if you were not married, will you not pick your own bills?
Plan your finances, cut all extra costs you cant afford.
Get a job for yourself, there are single pregnant mothers out there who are able to making a living for themselves.
Do same for yourself and don't give yourself high blood pressure!

Acidosis:
Hmmn


What can a man do when the job is not available?

I don't think I'm in a right position to blame your husband cos I would probably be sleeping if I were in his shoes as well. The current government is frustrating entrepreneurs. I've spent N1000 on T-fare only today searching for fuel to power Generator.

PHCN is currently on strike, and the Mcomfort ter of Petroleum who also doubles as the GCFR is somewhere gallivanting with South African president. Honestly, the kind of hardship I've undergone today is enough for me to charm Mr. President so he can go and join his ancestors. In this mood, I'd not want any woman to nag about money or getting a useless job somewhere that can hardly feed a family for 3 days.

Sometimes, all we need is words of encouragement, a little positive push without nagging. Nobody loves poverty, but tell me, what can someone like me do in this condition where all I do revolves around electricity. I've gone to over 6 filling stations and no one is ready to sell in Jerry cans, mind you only 6 out of about 50 stations open their doors for vehicles. I don't think I can ever beat or fight a woman but if any one mention Sai Baba or Change around my dwelling place, such a person may not see the next minute. Things like this kills motivation, will and drive to achieve anything. It makes you lose your clients, their trusts and of course money.

May be your husband's project is being hampered by some wicked forces in government.

This is not a period to advise a man whose business worth N200k/month to go out there and search for a N5k/job. Such a man can kill his employer.

Sorry I'm harsh but it is the hard truth. Ever since you've been doing your business, why don't you put him through since you get paid frequently?

The Nigerian situation is no longer funny. Wives, please do not nag your husbands into frustration and depression.

HKCOMPANY:
Pl sir do you need drivers,

desoul:
what business can I do with 1,000,000.00(one million naira)...I am ready to partner and can equally put in more money if the proposal is good...I stay in Abuja...interested persons can email me at desoul89@gmai.com

bebe2:
My niece in law, she died oo

She was 19yrs old.

Dats not the worse part, she died in severe pain. A week before she died her dad returned her to her mum saying he is tired dat she is not getting better.

The girl call me one day crying that her mum is beating her. I was so angry, I called the mum and out of frustration spoke rudely to her, she said the girl doesn't drink her medicine until they threaten to beat her.

I apologised and begged her not to beat her but to take her to the hospital the next morning. They said they are taking her to church and the pastor said the battle has been won.

After another round of shouting and apologising they took her and said the doctors has finally given her a diagnosis, dat it's not cancer like I said but Arthritis.

That they need money to buy drugs, I sent them money promising to send more. Within 3days the girl died , the mum ran home crying . The rest of the family followed her back to the hospital only to get there to meet that the girls dad has taken the body to his village for burial.

And dat was the end of osaherumwen.

bebe2:
am not going to talkj too much,

i have lived in europe for 15yrs, my hubby 18yrs.

before i started visiting nigeria, i wanted to moveback home becos i thot things might be better,

i will have my old frds just reminiscing sha,

i visit every year now, i will never move my family to naija,

the system is BROKEN, FACT.

BlackOyinbo:
To be honest his prices seem high...but the gospel truth is that it's not his fault. The prices he gives are live prices. If you go through his past posts you will notice how the prices of vehicles have been changing due to exchange rate.
Last year a 2008 toyota highlander was going for 3.8million but now it's going for 4.8 million.

Na dollar fall cause am....The worst thing is that, the exchange rate is getting even worse. I usually advise people to get theirs as soon as possible before their money lose value.

yellowdiamonds:
Hello! I just need some general advice or insight. My hubby, after living abroad for 15 years, now wants to return home. I and the children have never been there. It is a big move and I am excited but nervous. What advice do you have for me? And what can I expect in terms of housing, job searching and schools for the children? I know I am asking a very broad question but I would appreciate any advice at all. Thank you.

Tadeus:
Budget 900k for carina E and 750k for primera



Regards

Tadeus:
Always at your service

Nairasolutions:
That was last administration

osile2012:
[size=18pt]Hmmm, Interesting, hope i dont have to chase them around like bus drivers..[/size]

mrsage:
Uber is highly overrated in my opinion. You can set up your Cab Service business and get clients regularly without them.

Too many people jumping on the uber platform these days. Very soon they will have more cars than they need.

Again uber cab prices are too low. Good for uber and customers but not good for the car owners /investor. Remember as a car owner you handle repairs and maintenance.

Airport cab guys charge better than uber. (Murtala Muhammed Int'l Airport Lagos to be specific). That means more profit margins.

My humble submission : join the uber platform if you are a novice in transport business. They flood you with customers since you don't know how to get them.

Also join uber if you have a day time job and you take it as a side business.

When you gain experience and you are ready to play in the game called Cab Service. You will ditch them fast.

Warning : N250,000 monthly is not guaranteed. It is more of a marketing slogan.

osile2012:
[size=18pt]How lucrative is taxi business in abuja? How much do they return? Does anyone know about it or is into the business in Abuja?.[/size]

chigoizie7:
Someone is defrauding dem internally. Make dem go find out how and when.






Transport biz in naija is somewhat lucrative.


I ve helped my papa audit for "tracas". Even though na state own am, an d company de run every every, upon say dem de run regional. But, these people de make enough money.

Howcomes:
Abuja and Lagos are the two major cities in Nigeria, I have heard people debate over the two cities in terms of opportunities for Jobs and Small Business.

Please I want nairalanders who know the two cities well to give their opinion on this.

Most especially those who have business in the two cities or have worked there.

For jobs, its definitely Lagos. If its business, it depends on the type of business. If you can be more specific on the type of business, maybe I can comment further.


I just want to help a brother who is serving in Lagos dicide if he should stay back or come down to Abj to continue his Career struggle

Noliza:
Kindly post the pictures of the cars here bro.
I believe you will get better response that way.
Thanks.

Talk2MegaBoss:
Tried calling you but you are not taking your calls. Please I need to make enquiry of the Toyota previa.