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'Life without a mom' from tender age is a life with a vacumn that cannot be filled. 'Mother' has a special place in every man's life that cannot be occupied by any other. A life without a father is preferable. There is 90% - 100% possibility of a woman occupying fully the place of a father in a child but the reverse is not the case.

The duties and responsibilities assigned to women to their child naturally from the inception of the world is more personal compared to that of men. That is why a child who has no mother or has an irresponsible mother, no matter how caring his uncles, aunt, sisters or father are to him at that tender age, he will still feel the absence of 'motherly love'.

MOTHERS are specially made by God and no being on earth can take their place in the life of their children.

There are thousands of men who have never cheated on their wives right from the very point of courtship. Am not talking of the born again men only oh. there are men with strong principles who are still in the world who have decided from their heart of hearts not to cheat on their wives and no amount of temptation will let them do it. Although these species of men are rare but they exist in hundreds.

NOT CHEATING ON YOUR WIFE IS A MATTER OF ABSOLUTE DISLIKE FOR IT AND 'PRINCIPLE' and this will multivate the zeal to resist the temptation.

seun,

lets look at it from your own point of view. if it is natural to feel more comfortable with people you have lived with as a woman, it is also natural for the man to feel more comfortable with his people. Then why would the woman scare her husbands people away from him and invite hers? Then why make her husband see less of his people and see more and even live with her own people?

So you can see that marriage authomatically brings the two families as one. There is no way you can seperate them without trouble. That is why courtship is important. It gives you an insight of the family(not only the man) you are about to accept and after marriage with time the woman should be able to see her in-laws just the way she sees her own family members. That is the beauty of marriage. A woman is not married to a man to cut him away from his family.

Most women want their people around, even to live with them but frowns at every visit from their husband family.

Some foolish and irresponsible ladies that has no respect and love for human life will say ' if it is my child that will be a barrier for me to get married, I have no option but to drop him/her anywhere - so far as I drop money for his/her up-keep.

Queeneth,

Thanks so much for the clarity. Sorry to ask are you a Doctor?

My reason for eating so much vegetable is that I hardly go to toilet, sometimes a week and it is giving me real concern. The vegetable is not even helping.

Can you help me out?

It seems to make me add.

Cherish!

Wetin you dey feel like sef?

cherish:
Eny intresting should mail me jollydriss@yahoo.com

you think say as u write 'wife' all head go loose. Girls are no more facinated by that word. We are looking for 'sincere men' and we add more values to actions than words

Kusehin,

You wey dey look for God fearing lady u dey God fearing? Look around you very well, God fearing ladies boku one even dey with u right now, but becos u are not God fearing you cannot notice and value her.

So Kusehin, work on urself first

There is no perfect being anywhere on earth. If you actually need a perfect woman, then pray for death fast so that you could go to heaven. I think that is the only place you can find one. but if you are thrown into hell that will be a big PITY so get closer to God so that you can make heaven where your pecfect woman is waiting to embrace you.

Hi crazy ape!

Are u really 'crazy' and as ugly as 'ape'? Anyway I want to chat.

ruthogaly@yahoo.com

A woman should not be required to be obedient to her husband, because she is not a child or a school student. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership and not a dictatorship-obedienceship. And the bible says that both men and women should submit themselves to one another, anyway, so if you want to follow the bible make sure you also submit to your wife.

Seun,

I agree with you in your above post.

Marriage is a two way thing. Women doesn't have problem with respecting in as much as they are respected, valued and given the required attention by their husbands. Submission comes naturally to every reasonable woman if she feels love from the husband.

Gone are the days of our fathers when women were subject to the kitchen, bearing and rearing of children. Now the responsibilities of women have included that of men. So the full submission and attention given to our fathers by their wives in those days cannot be given to the men of this generation.

It pains and brings out the other part (stuborn part) of women of this generation when a man exact and command total submission - and this is one of the reasons of the high rate of divorce in this generation.

For me oh, Hunsbands and wives should see themselves, as mate (equals), friends (Helpful to each other, sharing daily experiences with love and sincerity), mother and father (respecting each other as you would respect your mother or father).

hazeleyes!

[if you are a single parent lets talk bout the issues of raising a child in london on your own]

As I nor come dey for london now how I go do?

'COHABITATION' as you call it is a disgrace to womanhood. The men has little or nothing to loose if it fails. It steals the value of being a woman from ever woman who indulge in it. 'cohabitation' is an unreal coverage for every woman who seeks marriage.

Yes, I have got and you. And how can we exchange.

He/she wants to marry you but does not want your child.

Well, Ono? I can't go further than this. Am very sorry. This na public zone

Ono,

Just as I  have said before, finding your missing rib/the rib you were made from is a highly priced thing that should not be forfeited for reasons such as child/children, because finding it is not easy.

Although, the question you asked is a very personal one but I will give you an answer. I found no love (peace and happiness) so i retrieved.

I am a lady and a single parent. A mature mind will see nothing wrong in it. The main question any mature mind would ask is 'do I really like and love him/her?', if the answer is 'yes' then the issue of 'child or children' will never be an obstruction. Why? if you may ask! Because love is unconditional, thus if you love him/her it means you love all around and in him/her. Accepting the child/children will even be a thing of joy to you.

It is only an immature mind that sees it as taboo - but it is funny! Dating and marraige is all about where you can find 'love (peace and happiness)' - your missing rib or the rib you were made from. So when you find it don't ever let it go because of reasons such as 'he/she already  has a child/children'. If you are able to find love with a child/children, is an added value to your life.