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jidegirl12: Don't mind her jare ....when she was doing the Nikai did the Alfas mentioned for better for worse ?

ferhyntorlah: @jidegirl12, please no vex.

@rukayatd, from your last post, the tone I'm getting is that of a temperamental person. Please, take it easy and cool down; there's no need to get yourself unnecessarily worked up.

Your definition of disrespect might not be the same for another. You see nothing wrong in beating your daughter when she does wrong but your husband isn't towing that line with you.

Both of you need to find your equilibrium, that is your mid-point, where you both agree on the appropriate punishment for her.
Fanks really unlike pple who won't make a point but rather judge you thinkin they are better off.you have been a rock fanks

Please be tolerant of your husband's views and I also hope he tolerates yours too. Sometimes in marriage, one has to give in to the other's request for peace to reign.

I'm not in the marriage with you; you only know where the shoe is pinching. If you value your togetherness as husband and wife, madam, you've to listen, give in and control your temper.

Good luck!

jidegirl12: You haven't said what you're doing that's pissing him off at you.... and enough with your attitude... who force you to post on NL? I see why your hubby is pissed!( rolled eyes!)

ferhyntorlah: This is what I can deduce from her post:


The man loves her too much; he won't divorce her but the poster has been exhibiting acts of disrespect, which the man is tired of.

I want to believe he must have told her several times whenever she disrespects him but she didn't take him seriously. So he feels inorder to earn the respect he so yearns for, he has to take another wife with the mindset that doing so will make her buckle up.
Fanks.u r on point.i guess i take the things he takes serious as jokes


Poster, I'm of the view you married a sensitive man, who doesn't take things lightly. Some things that might not be a big deal to you may be to him.

I think you didn't take time to study him well to know his dos & don'ts when you got married or as he kept exhibiting his traits in the course of your marriage.

He doesn't like you beating both your child, then please DON'T! You both should find another method of punishing her when she does wrong. You both must work in union in training your child since you both conceived her.

Regarding you talking back at him while playing, I will say this is a sensitive matter that has to be handled with wisdom. Like I earlier wrote, he has a sensitive nature.

I want to believe he doesn't like being:
*talked to angrily/rudely
*shouted/snapped at
*cut short in conversations.
*disrespected when his instructions aren't obeyed.

My take is when you both are playing/not playing/discussing, either keep quiet or be mindful of your choice of words around him and also the tone of your voice.

Like jidegirl12 said, he might have decided to take another wife but just using these as excuses to justify his action.

Dear poster, I wish you all the best.

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BlueDiva: Your husband should get real.
I don't think he is the same as you met him either.

For weight loss, eat normally but in smaller portion, that way you consume less calories.
Do exercises like 3 times weekly.

It's good to be trim but you must realize that genes play a role. There is a limit to how slim some people can go.
There are big women who manage to stay sexy and slim women who look shabby

The important thing is how you present yourself. Wear clothes that fit and look and smell fresh always.

payless: what year?

payless: I am in the U.S, I have my contacts in Nigeria that I can give their phone numbers, but all transactions have to be transparent and I expect anyone to do negotiation with me on this very forum, so the whole world can see what we are doing. My contact number in Nigeria is 08055201823, but don't call yet until I give you the go ahead to do so. What kind of car are you interested in? Let me know, then we can proceed from there.

pDude: Do I look like a mechanic?