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YES Its very important that u call b4 goin 2 sleep, she cld be worried dat something bad has happened, or u r with someone else.

Besides if u love her, u wnt be complaining and i bet u would want her voice to be d last thing you hear b4 retiring for the day, Its only normal! Girls usually want 101% reassurance of ur love!

azeerellaz:
as for the space am so so sorry for that is the best i can do at least for now cos am confused,and as for the guy back home i think he mistook the gold he had as a clay and that is where i came in,so he came back after he realised he has lost a precious gift and i think he is still favoured because they have dated for like 2 to 3 years.so is not like she is cheating on anyone when we started going out.she called me while i was typing this telling me hope am not angry with her cos the text is a joke.

A joke hmm,

edlion57:
everybod needs 2 cheat as long as u are nt married.

Says who

Why do guys cheat on their girlfriend?

Really, i think Mr. Cork should have a mouth tuck,

coded777:
Exactly!

Nice one @all. You guys didn't gett the hint, my take is from another perspective. i'm beginning to be worried that she never asks nothing from me, not a even a dime.
What if she only pretends to be a good gal who doesn't makes demands but yet makes demands from other guys who are ready to offer her anything peradventure take her to bed . .
couldn't being nice just another modern way of Cheating on your B/F ?

Really, and u r complaining abou this??, most guys will sing there head out!, ok seriously, i dont think there is anything wrong with dat. How long have u both been dating, she's probably still waiting to get really used to u b4 she starts asking, also she may not be trained to make demands from guys (which is a good thing).

I personally am not used to making demands from guy except its highly neccessary, u on the other hand could choose to give her, she does'nt have to ask for something, take her on outings and buy her suffs u think she mite love to have.

Talking about pretence, what kind of girl is she?, the flashy type or the lay low type, if she is the latter, then u probably have nothing to worry about, just give her sometime.

Mr, Cork:
Goldieluks   <<<<<<  Dark Skin village House maid (Booooo, )

Odununu  <<<<< light skin wifey material (Mwaaaaah)

Hmm, Goldie n Cork

Inked_Nerd:
@OP: Please, let me start off by saying that I am so so so very sorry for all the things that you are going through. I know we are just faceless ID's here on a site but what you've just written is really tugging at my heart right now. What breaks my heart even more is the fact that you know what he is wrong and you're asking us if you should go back to him. I hope you love yourself enough to know what what this man is doing to you is WRONG!! I don't know where you live or what the laws of your regions are but you really must find a way to get away from this guy. You need to tell people around you. Make sure you inform others [particularly your friends and family] about what this person is doing to you. Only you have the power to put an end to this. You cannot make excuses for this guy by telling us the sort of person he was before he started abusing you because that may be something that will keep you entrenched in this horrid situation. You've acknowledged that there is a problem, now the next step is how to leave this relationship. Let me ask you something, is causing someone both bodily and emotional harm love? Is threatening their life love? This disgusting creature you call a boyfriend knows perfectly well what he's doing but it seems that you don't. Your excuse for being with him is that previously he was gentle and responsible, the commitment and the sacrifice you've made, and that you have and that you love him. . . Tell me, is this what love is? Please keep in mind, love isn't supposed to hurt. What kind of sacrifice is so great that you would put your life in danger? If you do stay in this relationship with this guy, what makes you think he will change? What would make you think the situation would get any better? If he's doing this to you while you're just dating, imagine what he would or could do to you while married. Don't allow this boyfriend of yours to keep using you as a punching bag. You really don't know how much this is breaking my heart to hear that this person is causing you so much pain. Please, I'm begging you for all that is good please TRY to see your worth so you can leave that monster.

If you don't mind, I'd like you speak to you outside of Nairaland. If you're interested, please let me know

Here are some websites that can provide you with information on how to tend to this situation:

(1) http://www.loveisrespect.org/

(2) http://www.thehotline.org/

(3) http://www.thesafespace.org/

(4) http://www.safehorizon.org/

(5) http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

(6) http://www.beckysfund.org/cms/index.php?page=how-to-end-an-abusive-relationship

(7) http://www.stanford.edu/group/svab/relationships.shtml http://www.safehorizon.org/

(8 ) http://www.gurl.com/findout/fastfacts/articles/0,,697185-1,00.html
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So well said, it brings tears to my heart, where were u when i needed this?
@poster, its never going to be easy to take a step towards leaving him, iv had a similar experience so believe me when i say it wont be easy. Like someone commented, u usually get to break up with a guy like this several times n back b4 finally leaving for good. And dont ignore letting your close friends and family members know about the situation, cos such threats to kill u n stuffs like dat mite not be just mere threats!!

Its simple!!, sure u'll leave him,but after u stop breathing!!

Its sick to hear of issues like this and yet u say "I know he loves me'' what??, dat's bull

If i were, and i am been very frank here, take a walk girl, a very long one and dont even look back!

Ladies, which would U rather have(if U had to), bust implants, booty implants, tummy tuck, jes wondering!

tosyne007:
re-occurence? sensible talk is same thing as taking blames and making amends and am sure "any other" includes kissing and the rest. guess we are both saying thesmae thing.

Sure!!, we are on same page

ideylaff:
Ooohhh my did tin don reach 4 pages,

shoo Omotola na Star oooo

who she go take picture with nextweek,  Simon Cowell or Mr Bean, or Kim Kardashian, 

hahaha i dey laff ooo, abeg give me some humour jor,

Thumbs down to d real haters here mschewwwww

Kisses means re-occurence.Depending on the intensity of the quarrel, more like sit down togther and have a sensible talk, any other can follow

ogugua88:
Nowhere in my post did I say Omotola is obese. The comment didn't make sense because you didn't read it properly.

Yes, there are actors in Hollywood bigger than her. So what? Does that make it okay? The ones bigger than her here are shredded by the media, trust me. Nigerian actors and actresses have it very easy. I'm willing to bet that most of the Nollywood stars we've seen in films are overweight according to BMI (body mass index).

Hmkay. Well I've seen this kind of comment a million times. Let me be the first to put my picture in support of my opinion. I usually don't wear dresses or anything of that nature, but I did the evening I met Van Vicker and Koby Maxwell. You only have one chance to make a first impression. She should dress with that thought in mind. Look at my display picture. I'm telling you now that I looked better that night than Omotola did with Michael Bolton. No hiding for my end.

I love this, we are all hiding behind the computer rite?? hmm trust me, if i were to strike a pose with a Hollywood star, Nollywood or whatever be d case, I would sure look hotter!!!!

HaveSense1:
Well, other than weight, do you see the accessories she has? Is that a toy watch? What the hell? Looks like one of those toys you find in a happy meal at McDonalds or something.

Being overweight is one thing, but looking like you don't give a damn is another.

Ouchhhhhh!!!

J12:
The girl on the left looks hotter.

Yep, she really does look hotter!

ogugua88:
Does Omotola even try to look good? She's not meeting small people anymore. She looked horrible at the Grammys, and again she's not looking her best with a music legend.

I'm not a hater, but Nollywood stars are supposed to look their best. They're very lucky Nigerian media is nothing like American and UK media. Every single one of them would be torn to shreds for their lack of interest in their physique. Except for Genevieve. She's the only role model in terms of physique that comes to mind right now. It's because of her physique she has any chance of crossing over to yankee/UK films. They are extremely strict with weight/appearance. Imagine Jennifer Aniston having to lose weight for roles. Omotola, Rita Dominic, and others would never be considered. Even if not for movies, for themselves at least. Overweight/obesity can lead to heart disease, heart attack, or diabetes. Being famous and having money doesn't mean they should become balloons.

I second that!!

dominique:
looks photoshopped to me.

hehehe, dont think it is, she always gets the stare!!

yomijnr:
Funny thing is most of you making comments about her looks probabloy dont look half has good as she does, but its very easy to hide behind your computers and pass judgement

No one is passing judgements, everybody has there flaws, celebrity or no celebrity, they are just comments dat's all, dont think anyone should be taking any of it personal!!

Tilapiah!:
Is she using your money or begging you for money? I hate this kind of mind with a passion.

anyway she has to stop ds her social climbing very soon or she go finish her money on top Virgin Atlantic and BA.  [/color].
[quote][/quote] , its a competition for her

rokiatu:
Where is beyonce?

The one with the red flag

I think Omo T need some glam grooming lessons, she dnt have to go skimpy skimpy all the time

Big deal

mikelangs:
Dat was a good one but lets face it naija gals no dey appreciate all those gentle man stuff!!! they will see u as a mumu and lok 4anoda guy wey no send dem. U know rough necks is wat dey like. U can only practice the Mr. GENTLEMAN when u are married believe me your wife will love forever and no your chick,

U are wrong, naija girls appreciate those stuffs, i think for gestures like these, we should be looking at already committed relationships.