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Everone that posted comments above me; did u guys watch a different video?

proper investigation would cost bode 3 months in prison...anyway, since he took the water and laid beside the corpse and nothing happend to him; Innocent he is!!!

Oscarjax:
Can you do that to your son?....... Seems you are from akwa ibom but sorry for ma first comments

Sorry for yourself, and stop generalizing!

Oscarjax:
Wtf!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can a man do that to his OWN son? Akwa ibom men are shit

Get your head examined young man!

May his soul rest peacefully in God's bossom!

RIP to this lovely kid...

Under d watchful eyes of the FG crack squad

Lalasticlala, u knw the drill #PicturesOr...

All I see is Pot belly

jnrbayano:
Have you ever heard of the name Rocky Marciano before?

I guess he hasn't!

moscobabs:
but u sud av corrected me if I was wrong instead of laughing

Noted!

moscobabs:
What?

I have never heard of scramble game before; how is it played?

So sad

moscobabs:
Play chess or scramble game

For all the girls that commented on this thread; if guys still tell you all these lies, its either you're still a teenager or you be proper old cargo!

fem29:
Yes oo, I don't mean It in a bad way but let's be honest most women of that age do feel a bit desperate. It's the biological clock see. I encourage anyone in that predicament not to think they are missing out on much. Marriage isn't all that . It's just the fact of wanting kids and society frowns on single mothers

Okay oo, but marriage is beautiful n it isn't all about wanting kids

Moana:
see as single +35 men give advice on what they know nothing of lol

And singles +39 women taking it

gloriana:
Please can we have some fresh air in here? Aa aa, single ladies dis single ladies dat. Its an obvious problem dats staring at us in d face. So coming up here to post an article just stating d obvious n giving us statistics won't solve d problem cos I've had more than enuf of dat. If u don't av any practical solution to d problem pls b more creative n write about other tins. N dat reminds me....I av an idea on how to reduce d number bit by bit but will need some pple to actualise it .

Let's hear the idea...

qbd2:
Hmm but how come most of them r blaming their parents?
I personally blame our culture of elaborate celebration dats difficult for most men to afford. Also, d attitude of ladies jumping about from one man to another, or this reckless attitude of thinking ur still young.

Your sincerity is noble!

luxanne:
Just being curious, what is the topic of this project? And don't you think researching on the alarming Number Of Unmarried men (28 - 39 Yrs) would be more informative?

And why would it be more informative researching on the opposite sex? And don't tell me u fall into the category of women discussed? Cuz I'll so love to hand u a questionaire.

kaboninc:
And your inference from your thesis...

Till I get it approved n published, okay? Besides I said its an excerpt from my dissertation.

lalasticlala:
Source?

None, excerpts from my M.Sc Project.

Cc Lalasticlala

When unmarried girls reach a certain age, depending on the societies they live in(tho it differs from society to society) people begin to refer to them as “old cargo" etc.

Especially here in Nigeria, people still look upon a young unmarried girl as though she were to blame for her state. Fingers are pointed accusingly at her regardless of the reasons or her own circumstances. The girl soon becomes the butt of ridicule, accusations, and meddling by those around her and even those closest to her.

The reasons for the girl’s delay in getting married or in not getting married at all are many and varies. But the most prevalent delay of a young Nigerian girl getting married is insecurity, especially financial security. However, there are social circumstances and pressures that also create delays in getting married for the ladies.

There are also other reasons such as high dowries, which may make some young men run from getting married on time. Little wonder why most marriages you see today are consumated by older men and women . Then there are families which demand that a prospective suitor have certain characteristics or else they will not allow their daughters or sisters to marry him.

What do girls in Nigeria say about why they are not married?
How much do they suffer because they are not married?
Can "RUNS" decide on when a girl gets married?
[b]Can a girl begin a new life and start a family no matter how late?

Ekaette, who is 38 years old, said: “I tried to imitate some girls in my family by carrying the banner of ‘No To Marriage’ — at least not until I had completed my education, graduated and worked as a accountant. As time passed, I became increasingly involved in trying to achieve this goal and to be fair, I received many proposals at that time from North, East, and Western parts of this country but the men did not meet my standards. And my friends and family agreed with me because they wanted me to have what I wanted in a partner. My mother, however, God rest her soul, disagreed and used to try to convince me to take the proposals more seriously. She told me over and over not to imitate my cousins since they had not received proposals as good as mine in the first place. But I didn’t listen to her and thought that as I was still young and attractive, I had plenty of time to consider different options and choose the right man. The days and months flew by and with the deaths of my mother and father, I was left alone. Most of my friends are married now; I’m still alone and my looks are fading with time. I realize too late that I’ve wasted my life setting impossible conditions for the men who wanted to marry me.”

Dr. Nkechi, a single woman in her 40s, said: “I wronged myself by going along with my mother’s decisions. My mother refused every suitor on the basis that he wasn’t worthy of us. And what made things worse was that my father was so much weaker than my mother that she had ‘the’ say in everything related to my sisters and me for more than 20 years. My sisters and I never had the courage to disagree with her or challenge her. And if the suitor was up to our standards, she would make up conditions that were impossible to fulfill. We never knew what she wanted from a prospective husband. The situation continued until we were no longer young but were still being called ‘Miss’. Now whenever anyone asks us why we are not married, we justify ourselves by saying that we are too involved with our professional lives. Our mother still dreams of a perfect husband for each of us; in her eyes, we are still ‘little girls’ even though we are all highly qualified adults.”

Temilope from Ogun state, who is 35 and still single, said: “Yes, it is not easy being an unmarried woman in our society. Girls who refuse to marry don’t do so without a reason. Very often the reason is her family’s attitude and that is the reason in my case. Today I’m 35 and I’ve been getting proposals since I was 19; my father, however, refused them all since he was influenced by my stepmother who accused every man of being a gold digger, greedy for our money and social status. At the same time, she managed to marry off her own daughters to men who were not always up to the standards she set for me. The result was that I focused on my studies since I had no other outlet. I had to dodge the queries about my being single. People pitied me and said how strange it was that with my looks, education and status that I was still unmarried. Even after I graduated and began working, suitors approached my family but all were turned away. We have reached the point where no one will ask for me since it is well-known that everybody will be refused.”

Kudirat, who is over 30, said: “My love for children surpasses everything in the world. I was so eager to get married and have a family but my mother refused every man who proposed to me or my sister. When I asked my mother why she refused them even though many came from prominent families, she answered that this was in accordance with our late father’s will that we not marry anyone outside our tribe The years passed by and our younger brothers and cousins got married while we have remained single.”

Kemi and her sister are teachers and together earn more than NGN 1,200,000. every month. They say their father refuses to let them marry because of what they earn; if they marry, he will lose access to their money. He treats every man as someone who wants only his daughter’s salary. He does not want to lose it.

Leyefa from Bayelsa, who turned 34 only recently, said: “My chances of getting married are decreasing if not already ended. In this day and age, young men are unlikely to marry a girl they’ve not seen — or at least one which their relatives have seen. After all, this is how girls get married; someone from among the man’s family or friends sees the girl and recommends her. Since I’m not allowed to leave the house or go out or work, no one will see me and so I remain unmarried. These conditions are the ones I have lived under since childhood; my mother didn’t allow me to go anywhere but school and so I didn’t make many friends. In order to have friends, you must be able to come and go and that is what I was not allowed to do. And even after I graduated, I wasn’t allowed to work. This made me ask my family what had been the point of my education and my degree if I was not to be allowed to work? They said both would be an advantage when I raised my children. I have now gone to a matchmaker in hopes that she can find a husband for me.”

Blessing, who is 37, said: “My not being married is a matter that is out of my hands; I am the firstborn in my family and we aren't rich so I cannot settle down now, I have to work to provide for them, I travel a lot, Abuja, Lagos, Kano etc. I just hve to make money!!! If I just agree to marry a man now, will he be providing feeding money for all my siblings and poor parents?

From the above explanations, I can draw my conclusion;
People differ in the age at which a woman is considered an ‘old cargo’. Much depends on the practices and ideas of the society the girl lives in. We often see today that the marriageable age is linked to the stages in finances because of the responsibilities of making a living and supporting a family. Women no longer feel that their worth or status is dependent upon their husband. Another factor in delaying marriages is the recent craze of "runs" a lady prefers to hang out with Politicians and others just to make ends meet then in the long run, no sensible man will want to approach her for a relationship talking more of marriage.

Also that it is now possible for women to having children when they want rather than getting married first, thereby earning the title "Baby Mama"!

According to latest statistics from The Federal Ministry of Women Affairs and Social Development 4 in every 10 ladies aged between 26 - 39 are unmarried!

Bull Trash!!!

what is the current position of the Indictment proceedings against Kashamu? Isn't it still valid? Or has it been quashed?


Anyway I blame those who voted for him and also blame his opponents who couldn't bring his indictment to limelight, even if it was his brother!

D|ckhead

Sauce? as my yam don ready!

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Linus Ogonus