TOPE2000!:

Biko, i have a brother ooo
Honestly there is nothing bad in spending on your bf, but he must be spending more on me.

is he cute? just kidding lol, but yea i get wut u mean and i understand y people think its too much,

TOPE2000!:

So buying your bf Flat screen TV, 600dollars giftcard, Mac, playstation n all sorts are all gifts?
How many times does he do bday in a yr?

haha funny lol, mac and flat screen tv were 6 month/1 year anniversary gifts, 600 gift card was a christmas gift and ps3 was a bday gift, anyways this thread was about if its wrong to give in general

TOPE2000!:

Yea. . . . . if you going to spend money on your bf atleast spend with sense.
Why the heck do u have to buy him TV, do u live together?
u bought him Mac and all other rubbish.  u r not his mum. i wud even prefer if u help him with his tuition fees.

i would never spend money on a guys tuition, bills, rent or anything of that sorts. the guy can get a job and do that on his own or ask his parents to help him out. Not moi. i give gifts thats all. All these gifts were done on a special occasion. I dont just wake up one morning and decide to spend just for fun, i'll buy little things here and there but not like that.
no we dont live together, i live on campus/home

@ theblessed i should get a life? i have one thank you very much. A very happy blessed one. if u read through this post u would see that i said i am naturally a giver, i give alot to my friends and family. On my friends bday i gave her a tiffany's bracelet and ring so its something i do for everybody that means alot to me. i enjoy seeing the happy faces on people when i give em something, I give to the underpriviliged 2. i have family back home who dont have alot and i make sure i send em stuff.

Funny but if it was a guy who came on here and said he gave his girl all this stuff, none would complain, i always said it should be 50/50 in a relationship. obviously someone can afford more than the other but both should give back. its not the amount that matters but its the thought, i would appreciate a card and a love note on valentines day more than a designer purse so my point is its the thought.

franklampard082:

Not a bad thing to spend so much on your guy but girls that I know like that are either obesse or look kinda like weird mc or just straight out ugly. Now am not saying that you look like a boy or something but some girls do this to feel more secure in a relationship. Please don't kill me for telling you the truth cuz sooner or later, someone else would tell you the same thing.

first of all i'm far from being obese and ugly and second all ur telling me thruth on wut? i'm not doing any of tthese to feel secure in any ways, i did it coz i wanted 2 and plus when we broke up he came back to my house to return all the stuff, i didnt even ask him 2 and we got back together but my point is if he was using me he wouldnt return my stuff and tell me he doesnt want it after we broke upp, i would have been the one to ask for it

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I have done that and I had no regret and my girlfriend still tells me everytime that she was happy I hit  her becos she came to her senses after everything.
  I did that twice and I hope not to do it again.We have not quarrel much after the two times and believe me It is always happening at the end of every year.
   But don't blame a married man hitting his wife, Number 1 poverty will make a man loose his temper, I do not blame all of you here saying beating a woman is bad.
  You do not understand when a man don't want trouble, there wasa neighbour of mine back in the days, He lost his job and was always thinking of how to get a new one and all other stuff, plus paying lite bill, house rent and children school fees, instead madam to allow the man straight head she will always call the man  names even  outside their home.
  Evryone hater this woman becos of this, But when they came new to  this compound, they use to be the eveny of all, look what poverty is causing, sumtimes I feel for this man becos he doesn't beat the woman on regularly basis, But I will say this particular woman deserve beating every hour.
  If this man should beat this woman, It will be him crying and telling people that he never wanted to beat her, The woman will be inside shouting, you go kill me today and other than.

  So don't blame any man who beat his wife or girlfriend, It is condition, A men in his right sense will not raise his hand on any woman.
  So you guys here use your brain and not your head to think , I will beat if  that is wat will give the woman good sense of reason.
  Not until you kill me before I will react.Women who are troublesome will not dialogue with hubby or BF, They prefer scene.

  I rest ma case. Make una curse me 

i pity any fool who dates u,  its a condition to hit women? thats the dumbest excuse i've ever heard. Guys shouldnt hit women period. Wut if u do something to piss your girl off, does that ,ean that she has the right to hit u? i dare any man to touch i'd smack back and cal the cops and hire the best lawyer and throw him in jail.
i pray nobody hits your daughter coz trust me u wont like it

its not just naija chics. African girls as a whole dont like to excercise,  at my gym i think i'm the only blck chic i see there,  its really sad,  working out is not just so that your body can look good but its also good for your health, Me and my bf work out together all the time. couples should learn to work out together and guys should make tehir girls work out sha. i hate seeing girls with fat stomachs wearing skimpy bikinis at the beach,  puke,  no hate lol

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What I'm doing commenting on Male Beauty?
Well, if you are willing to spend money on me, i'll make it worth your while
i'm not a trick but wut do u plan on doing?

chic2pimp:

For Real (No Homo) but c'mon I have friends in all of those schools(especially howard) and I can categorically say Girls don't find dudes from George Mason handsome ooo.

i didnt say alot of guys from these schools were handsome but there are alot because alot of people from md and va chill in dc on the weekends so there's alot of variety to pick from. dark chocolate, milk chocolate, caramel, they've got it all

chika98:

Death!!!

Oh I have an oyster . nah I try to be careful jor. Una face too strong around here sha. People no dey smile nothing

i'm in maryland but come to DC, the clubs there on the weekends are packing with fine boys ofcourse there are plenty of wowo ones, wowo boys are everywhere lol, schools like georgetown, howard, george mason have alot of cute guys

i dont know wut some of u guys are saying  but there are alot of cute guys in the usa i grew up in the uk and i think the guys in the usa are cuter than the guys in the uk

@ fl gators
your the first person i know who has told me i look older,  how old do i look 2 u? just curious

na2day?:

the question i have to ask, is what does he do in return, what has he gotten u? how does he treat u? to answer your question generally, NO but it has a comma in it. i will explain better when u have answered my questions

 He treats me good and he has bought me stuff here and there. Not in the same price value as wut i get him but he cant afford to do that being a student so its cool.  He tattooed my name.

@ayettymama i dont agree withe veryhting that u say but i love reading ur posts lol. btw love the shoes on ur profile

@ Fl gators yea i'm in college. i get weekly allowances from my parents

how come i cant qoute on here? i dont see the qoute button on my page
@fl gators i am 19 and he is 22

My boyfriend didnt even know i had alot of money when he met me.  He's not broke. he is a college student so he cant afford to buy me half the stuff i buy him. it doesnt mean he doesnt buy me gifts. he does but they arent in the same price range but it doesnt matter to me because i think tis the thought that counts not the amount. A guy  can buy u alot of expensive things and still not  treat u right. it goes both ways. Why is it that women feel that when a man spends alot on them, the man loves him but if a girl does it, the guy is using her? a guy can also spend alot on u coz he wants sex

@ Lamii thnaks

@ Pweety4me yea i think he really appreciates it because he always brings up how grateful he is. he never asked for the gifts. this post wasnt really to ask people to judge whether my boyfriend is using me or not, just wanted to see if its bad to spend on a guy in general

i'm not trying to buy anybody's love. i did alot of those out of the kindness of my heart. in reality i'm naturally a giver even  with my family and friends. my boyfriend didnt ask me for anything. I did it because he told me that growing up he never received gifts just money so i wanted to make him feel happy thats all. i am not stupid either if i feel liek ur not treating me the way i want to at the moment, i wont keep doing things fOR U. NOBODY WILL EVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME. I have a good judge of character but ofcourse guys are fools and they do stupid things, even though i know he loves me very much, i found out he randomly talks to some chicks on facebook so i decided i wont be doing anything for him. got him nothing on valentines day.
I dont think its wrong to give. i would only say its wrong if the person demands it. in a relationship, it should be 50?50

i am not just talking about material things. there are alot of females who cannot afford to buy their guys alot of things but they still do alot for em as in cooking, taking care of em etc,

@Pweety4me He has done stuff for me but not as much because he is a college student and he cant afford to buy me the things i buy for him. I am a college student myself but i can afford it

i've been reading through alot of the threads on here and i notice that alot of guys are complaining about how girls offer nothing in relationships and all they care about is money and never give anything in  return and blah, blah blah. My question is what about the girls who give alot in their relationships but dont get much in return?

Is it wrong for them to spend alot on their boyfreind? i ask this question because over the course of my relationship with my bf, i have spent alot on him,  i bought him a ps3 and video games and ralph lauren perfume for his bday, helped him pay for his car, bought him a mac for our anniversary, a 52 inch flat screen tv and $600 gift card for christmas,  alot of my friends tell me that i shouldnt be doing that and the guy will take advantage of u if u do.

So my question is, is it wrong for a girl to spend alot of money on a guy she loves?

if ur A SUCKA TO LET A GIRL SPEND ALL UR MONEY AND SUCK ALL UR WORTH, THEN Y ARE U COMPLAINING?LOL, i dont understand y people are always complaining about my girl used me for this and blah blah blah, ur not forced 2, there are ton of other girls out there like me who dont need to spend a guys money. go out there and look for one

her virginity. j/k lol, flowers, candy, chocolates, teddy bear, card,,, all the cute stuff. girls love stuff like that and for a girl, u can give ur a guy video games or a ps3, watch etc, things u know he enjoys

how old are u and how old is she coz that tells alot. Alot of girls at the age of 25 and upwards feel pressure from their married friends, parents and society to get married. tell her that u still have alot of things u want to acomplish before u get married and see if u guys can come up with a compromise and if she doesnt want to compromise then let her go

@ poster the amount spent or the effort put into a relationship should be 50/50. Any relationship where one person puts in more than the other, one person will start to feel underappreciated at some point. our society has been cultured in a way that its the man's job to be a provider but i don't feel like its a man's job to spend all his money on a woman. if your a guy and u feel like u have to buy your girl this and that to impresss her, then dont complain when she milks u for all your worth. Make sure rthe chic or guy is worth it first.

its not just girls that do that. guys do it alot 2. After a woman sacrifices alot for them, they'll go and cheat and not give a lick.

Whats with the obsession on how girls look like on here? i browse on here sometimes and i rarely post but i notice that there are always threads on the hottest male or female,  na wah oh

He must be doing something right!
^^^^^ like?lol

i bought my bf a macbook pro, a 52 inch flat screen sony tv, $600 worth of shoes, expensive perfume and a ps3 with games and a gshock watch, paid for his car and other things, wut can i say i'm a giver, lol, sad thing all i've gotten in return is a dolce gabanna perfume set and a burberry teddy bear, always claims to be broke