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Originalsly:
Hmmm..... before I advise you.... let me find out who is the deputy governor of Anambra.... and which of his permanent secretary has a daughter doing IT at the Ministry of Health. I'll find her and hear her side of the story. While you wait. ...go ahead with the marriage plans.....nothing better than one big family.

Monaco2:
Bros how old is ur gf

She's 21yrs according to her

ayamAgenius:
You still dey reason marriage?
Your mumu never do bah?

riyanxeally:
my dear pls move on it wont be easy o buh pls.......tomrrw ahe ll sleep wt ur father n ur more handsome brother n ur friends...she knew how young ur brother was n is yet took advantage brother run fr ur life n pls forgive ur brother it is well

oyakhilomeh:
Brother, there nothing to be ashamed about.It is painful. ..Yes. a broken relationship is better than a broken home. Talk to your bro, you need no prophecy to know she's isn't the one for you.
No offence intended...You seem to be more bothered about her family status, than your own self.

generationz:
I am a lawyer in equity, so I know the provisions of the child's rights act as to who a child is.

However this has nothing to do with criminal justice system. This is a family issue
Are you aware that in developed countries such as the USA 16 years old are already working and own drivers licenses.
A 16 year old can impregnate a woman true or false
Except the boy is mentally retarded or was under a spell his action is nothing short of betrayal to his older brother and benefactor
It's also a sign of gross disrespect.


In a country when 10,12 and 13 year old boys are already frolicking with their house helps and nannies, and 15 year old have girlfriends who have committed abortions, you are here telling me about being cajoled without his will

Even a sharp 5 year old , has been taught how to say no when they are told to do the wrong thing "no my mummy will beat me".

No, the boy knew what he was doing he should go back to his father and mother before he poisons his brother or his brother poisons him out of hatred, because you have no idea what can happen when love turns to hate it is ten times stronger.

The boy has seen his brothers unclothedness he would never respect him till drastic action is taken

If you don't know I'll refer you to the Bible
When cannan saw his grandfather Noah's unclothedness, Noah cursed him
When Reubens slept with his father's wife, he cursed him

Brownish24:
I unstnd ur pain right nw,but d best tin is u shld forget d wedding for nw because dis is a life contract. Nd cum to think of it what if u travel is dt d way she will be flexing arnd men,bro don't count ur looses bt think of d future nd one last think forgive her,nd u guyz shld go ur seperate way.

generationz:
Amen my dear.
I hope God gives you a clear mind and the wisdom to take care of this issue

CHESTER48:
Emm. In life we have court.. And purpose of that is judgment.. Now if u go to court, do the judge hear only from 1 side of the story. No.. Everyone gets fair hearing.. And u never mentioned it in Ur comment, which finally made Ur comment pointless.. If u send ur brother packing without asking you what happened, because you have girl. That is not your wife, u said the boy is 16 years.. Oga a 16 year old boy is a juvenile and in court wouldn't be treated with same punishment as an adult.. At 16 he can be manipulated, convinced brain washed.. Now u see.. It holds no water anywhere.. The best thing is to overlook the boy as a kid.. And warn him strictly. The gf is the one that needs the flogging. If she is above 18

Chuksyd1:
Where do i even start from?
First of all, i'm so sorry you have to go through all this bro. With what i've read you seem like a very emotional person.
My guy, you have to be strong and take back your rightful place as a man. Shit happens in this life especially what we don't expect but life will surely continue.
Honestly, this kind of girl is not wife material. Don't make the mistake of continuing the relationship, do away with her as quickly as possible as for your brother, well, just pray for him, observe him closely from now onwards. Blood will remain.
Most importantly take care of yourself, you can only count on yourself.

ukpa:
@ Op , you prayed & shortly after put your hand in her NUNU , for crying out loud , what did you expect when she went into your brothers room ?

oglalasioux:
Is it what you spent or your love for her?

Run away now that you still have the opportunity. This girl will ruin your life permanently in future. You are lucky to find out now.

The only logical reason she did this with your brother is if she has evidence that you are impotent which doesn't even justify the action. Just run.

Rorachy:
Don't forgive her, how could she stoop so low to sleep with your brother in your house?

Never forgive a cheat, she can go ahead and date your brother.

Rorachy:
My dad too will tell any man coming to marry his daughter to wait till final year, because the stress in school is lesser then and if she get pregnant, she will give birth after she graduate.



Don't marry her, she is a cheat and don't have respect for you

Sorry for your heartbreak, I no its not easy especially for emotional people like you but you have to move on with your life, you will find another person.

nwachukwu9:
My brother the only heavenly Advice I have for you, is to forgive her first, After forgiveness look for a living church where both of you would go and receive deliverance. After deliverance your life would change for good. Both of you must maintain your deliverance. After deliverance you CAN Pray to God to know if she is your wife, if GOD say yes GO ahead and Marry her. I always recommend SYNAGOGUE CHURCH OF ALL NATIONS FOR YOUR DELIVERANCE. THIS MAY BE A FAMILY CURSE THAT NEEDS TO BE BROKEN.

klenton:
just sharrap if u dont have anything to say anu ofia

generationz:
Is the brother a child? When 16 year old boys are already Fending for families and getting married


If it were my brother I would send him out of my house that kind of brother can kill me. Imagine a boy I changed his diapers, he is not afraid to sleep with my girl friend.

It means his brother doesn't fear him, I'm not saying the girl isn't bad but how many years have they been dating? Highest five years, whereas he has know his brother since the day he was born good 16 years.

Blood is thicker than water, likewise blood betrayals shouldn't be taken lightly, you have to watch the sibling closely because na the rat weh dey inside house dey reveal secret to the one wey dey outside.

ClearDway4me:
Leave the girl and move on with your life, please make it faster b4 they blackmail you

ultematecj:
sir with all humility I write this to you,i understand your emotional frustration,but then sir u have to let her go,in know its hard knowing in your heart how much u value what you guys share together,even at that the decision you make now will shape the rest of your life,what your brother did ws wickedness on his part but u should not let that burn the bridge between u and your brothee...pls let her go for your own sake

generationz:
I understand how you feel

There's no doubt that with what has happened you might just have to let her go not because you do not have a forgiving spirit, but because of the future consequences of her staying with you. It could be very dangerous to your life who knows what the both of them could begin to conceive in their hearts, what if they continue and he impregnates her and passes the child as yours etc

However I would like you to apply wisdom too
Maybe you would call her and ask if the problem was if you couldn't satisfy her sexually. If that's the problem and it lies with you then I'll advise you to find a solution not because of her but because of your next relationship, because if the problem is with you history might repeat itself and this time it not with your brother bit with outsiders

I'm not condoning cheating from either a man or woman, but gone are the days a woman dies in silence at her man's in capabilities in bed these days many ladies are helping themselves out, cheating us even as common among ladies as it is among men the ladies are just more coded about it.


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Yoshy:
Your gift is possessed and demonic, she is a chronic harlot. I detest such people with my mind, body and soul.

Your life is your biggest investment and right now, she is a threat to it, so cut your looses and move on.

As for your brother, you have a lot of work to do on him.

I sense you were not a good role model to him though.

mystery22:
bro,i understand how u feel dats y i don't do love,d best tin to do is use her back,make her invest heavily on you too,but remember to withdraw ur heart from her completely,when she is so much into d relationship,strike and leave her asap,cos she won't stop cheating.bro take heart once again.

Frankicent:
Really bad... with all due respect how old is she and your browser?

khain:
Tell the them family the truth and forget about the girl and the money you spent on her cuz if she can sleep with ur kid brother she will not stop if u end marrying her... God just save you from further destruction.. A broken relationship is better than a broken Marriage my dear.

Divay22:
Jesu
And the girl?

Divay22:
Jesu
And the girl?

IamKashyBaby:
Ooohh...i see..U mean his younger brother?

OP, u have 2 options here...

1. Kick that girl out of ur house & forget her mad azz ...
2. Forgive her and give her a chance...

But, the only thing is that she got itchy NUNU..maybe u cant satisfy her sexually.. This cud be another reason why she had sex with ur younger brother..If u wanna save ur marriage, both of u need a marriage counseling sha...


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Stevengerd:
OP. how are sure its only ur brother dat is shagging ur gf u beta discard her and let her go... al dis love stuff, na why i knw deh chook head

Divay22:
How old is your younger brother was the question he asked

Shmourda:
Tell your parent what happened, you and your brother can go for prayer, you know how we black people believe na. i pray God be with you and help you recover all your losses. BTW is your brother and her of the same age?

NCANpatroller:
I want to be soft. I cant
You calculating your expenses on a girl that cheated on you with your kid bro?

In my court; the girl is sentence to death by hanging literally. I ll cut my losses immediately!


There is nothing to think about.

A cheating woman is like a trojan horse
That ll eventually hurt your progress spritually and financially.

Kick her out now! If you dont

On behalf of your parent. I ll place à curse on you.

Reuben was cursed cos he slept with his father's wife!