₦airaland Forum

VinnyBaba:
No matter how Much we try to pretend, It is Really Painful when a Best Pal snub you as his BestMan for his Wedding.

For ladies, It is same.

You CAN'T be Friends with a Person for 20+yrs, then Not make him or her Best Man or Chief Bridesmaid at your wedding.

If you Favour someone Else, Explain Thoroughly to ur Pal, for doing so.

exactly. To avoid bad blood.imagine loosing a genuine friendship on your wedding day. A day that people came to rejoice with you and it now became a sad day for one of the people that came to rejoice with you

ugodson:
No fair

My opinion

exactly

abobote:
Talking about feeling entitled. Best man is not based on longevity of friendship, so many things are considered including social status

really? No wonder fake friendships ,eye service and pretenders full everywhere.

Una don create a society and social environment where people will be kneeling down for you and be doing rankadede, be hailing you in your front but will be winking their nose (yinmu) and be mocking/insulting you behind your back. No wonder alabosi don full everywhere. You disrespect people who are good and loyal to you over money and then you complain there are no good people again, koseyan mo.
You people don't value real people and people who show they're genuine, you choose a man with money over a genuine old time friend? Smh tomorrow una go dey complain women are gold diggers, women are too materialistic, they don't
stay with you in difficult times,they don't follow a man who genuinely loves them but doesn’t have money but will priotize a rich lout. are they not learning from the best with this type of mindset. Smh

zeyt:
In my graduation photo album I mentioned four of my classmates as my friends as required. But to my dismay non of them mentioned me in the album as their friends. I was shocked, and it still hurts after 14 years.

I know and understand but human beings will always be human beings that's why its important to love and value yourself FIRST, build a relationship with yourself 1ST so another person being your friend or saying he loves you as a friend is an added advantage and will reduce your expectations so if he no choose you as a friend it won't hurt you because he was just a second option in your life and you were the first option. Its painful and unfortunate but that's the world and times we live in so we all have to adjust.

If people hurt,betray or disappoint you,you're not disappointed because you didn't expect love or genuine friendship from them anyway

BABANGBALI:
Person wey no fit buy ordinary handkerchief wan be best man? Dey there dey play.

so your value and yardstick for friendship is money? No wonder my generation has fancy mansions without homes, luxury without rest. Of what use is having everything and not having genuine people around you?

dawnomike:
I see no problem here... That you're conduit tcfriend does not necessarily mean I must be your best friend.

see hen I don't even know where to start from. Can you see the pain in the guys face complaining about him no being a best Man? Probably the groom had promised him when he gets married the guy will be his best man so there was some form expectations. The thing is probably he felt that was a honour and acknowledgement the groom could have given him? Yorubas say owo matan, eyan lomaku.its sad how Nigerians value money and things over human relationships and its even human relationships that make money,positions and things valuable.

You don't know what help or things the complainer had done for the groom that he's that pained and disappointed.of course he's human and he will feel betrayed. I love Nigerians but one thing I hate about Nigerians is devaluation for people and relationships when your interests is no longer serviced.its not fair really. As painful as it is,that guy feels betrayed because his expectations has been crashed.moreover I don't think that the guy asked for something too much or unreasonable, he didn't ask for money,a special seat or to be the chairman, he just asked to be the best man.again I think the groom didn't handle the matter with wisdom, diplomacy and tact.even if you didn't want to use him as your best man for reasons best known to you, you for apply wisdom and explain things to him calmly not bull shitting him like that, haba.you don't treat human beings like that.

As for the yoruba statement I made in case you aren't yoruba, the yoruba elders have a saying, money comes and goes but its human beings that will be with you.

The position of the best man might look insignificant to you and to some others it could be like kini big deal,why are you making a fuss about something not that deep, are you a teenager but let me tell you something, as hurtful as it seems for the complainer, he needs to experience the hurt and disappointment,that will be a forever motivation for him to work hard to ensure that he's not rejected or discarded ever again. Something that looks like weakness has to die in a man for the man in him to rise and the only conduit to achieve that is humiliation and disrespect. If you don't experience rejection whether as a man or woman, if your ego is not smashed the man or woman in you will not rise

And to the groom and people like the groom there are better ways to handle things. Your day of joy or celebration should not be a day of pain or sadness for another person. Nobody should remember your wedding day as something that brought pain to another. Its dangerous for your marriage. You're setting a bad foundation and please I'm not talking about people pleasing but respect for your old time friends and that's why I like our parents generation. Their old time classmate since primary school are still their friends whether they have money or not but our own generation money, position or social status is the yardstick for friendship in our generation

Moreover I was surprised that the woman who baby sitted me when my mom was at work,till today theyre still friends and this is despite the fact that she is not as educated or or financially ok as my mom but I trust my generation they'll say I don't have any Buisness with you,after all I paid you for your services and my Buisness with you is over.i met the woman in a social function through my mom when I was in secondary school, my mom said SAMBARRY meet Mrs lagbaja she was the one who took care of you as a baby oya kneel down and greet her.abeg we need to learn maintaining sustainable human resources from our parents. They got it right in that part

Ernesthugo:
make ur own money bro

who b thi one again

Nomercie:
Oloriburuku Eru vdm, you can continue sucking his ball as Eru that you are.

vdm slave

E pain am say I dey mirror am

The way I dey force am to have the taste of him medicine dey sweet me

Sholo stupid ni

All of you should getat with your useless fight wey no get head

Sleekfingers:
.so they shouldn't be seen together ? Because some of them are not in the same party.
They are wine and dine together. Talk on the phone etcetera

I'm not saying they shouldn't dine together, I am saying people have died defending them

Angelfrost:
When I tell you Clowns that these men you fight over are not enemies, una think say I dey misyarn.

They are all wealthy, highly placed, and well connected.

They all have easy access to the best of Nigeria's resources.

exactly.adeboye and gbenga.

So all these people they shot during the last election fighting for pdp,lp, apc etc just die tuehh for nothing.

Inherit politicians battle at you own risk because if you know how this people are united to perpetuate evil hen.smh

Even rotimi

See Rhodes vivor, osibanjo,obi and rotimi.

Trust these politicians at your own risk

All this girls with itchy legs wey their legs no gree stay for one place una no just dey Hear Word. With all the psychopathic men,r@p1st,kidnappers and werey alasho all justifying femicide,pedophilia and rape una still dey go visit online strangers.

If you want to see the level of hatred and disdain naija men have for naija women just enter social media .infact nairaland is enough and as for those meeting up with men on nairaland you do so at your own risk

Smh

Smh

Naija police always behave in a way that makes people show them empathy and respect

As much as I have my reservations about the agege people, Muslims and killing na 5 and 6 clearly their pedophile prophet Muhammad encourages killing

Ishilove:
I never for once thought she embarrassed her family because I had a strong feeling that she is a reflection of her family. That behaviour is not a a spur-of-the-moment outburst but rather, a pattern. Her parents did a piss poor job in raising her and if she continues like this in life, her life story will not be a palatable one.

well for her parents to have the knowledge of her misconduct and still have her back then she's clearly from a dysfunctional and violent family and her parents don't see anything wrong in the violence she displayed.unfortunately it's the husband I pity because whe will likely be violent towards her husband and when the husband complains they will say they're fully in support of her actions.

Anyway oyinbo don talk am finish,an apple doesn't fall far from the tree and people that know her mother haven't been speaking positively about her.they said she's aggressive too

Nomercie:
Oloriburuku Eru vdm, your mother is Eru and fvck your Eru father, that's why you are here slaving for VDM

eru vdm

Vdm living rent free in your cockroach brain

Konji don carry this one go where he no know

Ishilove:
That behaviour put up by that young lady is definitely a learned behaviour

obviously. For someone who knows her to say she has the support of her parents, then it'd obvious where she learnt violence from

EmperorIsaac:
If it is schooling, "abroad" always asks for letter of recommendation from any institution you claim to have attended.

some stupid clowns are already offering to send her abroad

ppogba:
This is the first topic ever in Nairaland where majority condemned what is wrong in it's totality going by the comments so far.

Kudos Nigeria.

don't rejoice yet o.some money miss road are already promising her scholarship .check Linda ikeja blog

Nomercie:
Eru vdm Omo ale

eru vdm,onilara vdm,omo ale.so iya re do okunrin imi ninu oyun e

Nomercie:
Oloriburuku Eru vdm

eru vdm onilara vdm

Nomercie:
Aye e ti baje

aye e gan ti baje

Low budget lizzy anjorin

Nomercie:
Iku oro lo ma ku t'ebi t'ara.iku gbigbona ti di tie lati oni lo.

back to sender

See how envy is making him sweat profusely

See what envy has reduced him to

Male version of lizzy anjorin

jaxxy:
Nonsense. Some of u do worse in ur daily lives but here forming holier than thou.

violence is a no no.conflict and disagreement is inevitable in every form of relationship but with violence, its unforgivable and should be curbed from society immediately except yo have a thing for violent girls which I suspect

All of you should getat with your stupidity. We have bigger and more serious issues to contend with.fuel price ,transportation and food prices are going up and you're disturbing our social media space with your foolishness

jaxxy:
Do u lack comprehension? I said the punishment was harsh. Something moderate would have also served as a correction and deterrent to others. However her false rape accusations made her matter worse.

harsh? The punishment was a slap on the wrist because there was violence involved here, she should have been prosecuted not just excelled so her fellow violent colleagues will sit up

jaxxy:
Then I don't need to read any student handbook. What's wrong and right and I have stated my position.

go and marry her .those are the kinds of girls you deserve. Na una go dey ginger girls to be messed up and loquacious then turn around and say i can't have anything to do with her.

If you like sef born pikin and no train am,if lecturer do wetin she no like tell am to slap the lecturer sef.shebi una want us to be woke,oya na let's be woke together