GODWIN78: I,M a living witness,my girl friend that put to bed for me,was a virgin,though she born me,or she. Is a Virgin,I met her will nt guarantee me geting married to. Her,just because we aint compactible,she is got hot temperd like me and we,shout for each other every now and then,she likes to be in charge,and domineering,though she Love me,so virginity is not a guarantee to happy marriage,my 2. Cent
So it was after u committed fornication with her u remembered she is hot tempered like you? I hope the child she has is a girl sha?
Carnations: This virginity thing. It seems a big issue for you. And it’s generating awkward contradictions in you. It’s the hidden reason you’re struggling with your emotions. You’re conflicted inside because you know you have no standing.
Okay, here’s the thing: In life, you must learn to use appropriate yardstick to judge and determine issues. You don’t use a ruler for example to measure the purity of water. That’s an inappropriate instrument though a measurement. Neither do you use a stethoscope to measure the pressure of a tyre. It’s a wrong pressure gauge. In the same manner, you can’t use dutifulness in church as parameter to determine the suitability of a conjugal prospect. It can serve as corroborative factor or even corroborant, but it cannot be the primary basis of consideration. A good church worker is not necessarily going to be a good wife, though the word “good” is common. Two separate issues. I mean, that she can sing down the heavens doesn’t mean she will make you a good wife. Vocal dexterity is not qualification for coupling. Choir is not a marriage context. If you base your marriage decision on her ability to sing, you’re clearly using a wrong means of measurement. A singing voice for example cannot help you determine if she’s clean or a relative of Unhygienix of Asterix fame. That’s how people arrive at wrong marital decisions. They use wrong parameters. And such a mistake can prove very costly to a man in particular.
Now let’s come to your issue. You want to marry a virgin. But there’s an inherent contradiction in your quest. You can’t test her virginity unless you sleep with her, in which case she’ll no longer be and you won’t marry a virgin. The truth is, all you have is her word. It’s what she says she is that she is at this stage of your relationship. You can’t even verify her word without compromising your faith. Now, here’s the irony of your quest for a virgin wife: You’re not a virgin yourself. At some point before you embraced your faith you engaged in sexual congresses. In other words, you have a past. In the same vein, she also has a past. But you’re willing to embrace your past but not hers.
As per your wife you want to be the man who “hit it first”, but tell me, the women you hit first who’ll marry those? In essence you can’t take what you dished out. The idea of someone being there before you consternates you. You can’t handle it, ironically. The reason she’s not giving you the confirmation you want on her virgin status is probably because she’s not. She likes you, wants you, but you’ve put impediment on progress: demanded for something she can’t amend retroactively. And so she can’t lie about her past, and she can’t tell you the truth either. Stalemate. You somehow think that her non-virginal status is indicative of a colourful and flavourful past. Perhaps. Same applies to you I guess. But you’ve not told me who she really is, just her sexual history. You didn’t indicate if she’s a loving and kindhearted woman. Whether or not she’s caring. You’ve not told me whether she’s trustworthy, whether she’s someone you can entrust your life to. And it’s not as if you’re accusing her of promiscuity. So the broken hymen just indicates she’s had sex in the past.
What I’m trying to say is, virginity is really not a test of whether someone will make you a good wife. You’re using a ruler to measure tyre pressure. Now if virginity is a psychological barrier for you, I’d say don’t go into marriage with her. You’ll keep judging her in the present because you can’t deal with her past. I’ll advice you keep your imagination in check. Stop imagining someone in the past on top of her. It’s unhelpful. But you have to reconcile yourself to the possibility you may not marry a virgin. Being real! Learn to be real in life. Your generation is very experimental with sex, and sexual imagery is so pervasive. Your music videos are highly suggestive. Think Anaconda. You’re being conditioned to accept raw sexuality. That conditioning generates results. Makes kids want to experiment with sex.
Be careful that your quest for virginity doesn’t make you miss a very wonderful and loving woman. Perhaps the first thing you ought to consider is what you want in a wife, what should you want in a wife. If this woman meets your criteria of a good wife to you I’d say go for her. You don’t want to regret not marrying her. If you marry an alternate, note that the virginity qualification will end on your wedding night. Then the marriage begins. You don’t want a wife who qualifies for only the wedding night do you? What happens in the days and years ahead? The faith you avow is very much anchored on Paul’s immortal words: If any man (or woman) be in Christ, he or she is a new creature. Old things have passed away. All things have become new. It’s either you’re going to accept God’s word concerning this lady or not. The decision is yours.
If you don’t however, that will be most unfortunate. I’m sure you’ve read about Pharisees. They were fond of using differing standards- one for themselves, another for others. Jesus had a running battle with those guys. You’re not a Pharisee are you? You can’t judge this lady by one set of standards and use another for yourself. It’s pharisaic.
I ashamed of this write up. I can't even allow lads see it. I guess the writer is suffering from low self esteem. Reading it was pointless as the conclusion and comments from your fans suggest what you wasted your time to type if not copied and pasted.
tuna4servi: At first don't u have parents or relatives dat can assist u? U are both working toward sumtin or u both want to achieve sumtin. U barely know him and u are demand money from him.
Go back to read the story again. English dey worry u? Questionnaire
Secondly what is help? Help is asking for directions,asking someone to watch your bag while you go to he toilet. help is buying lunch for a starving person. Paying rent for what is an ELITIST pursuit is a lot more than help. If you are not financially ready for studies get a job!! Asking for money is BEGGING that is not help. In life nothing is free and this is the fundamental problem many young Nigerians have they want to get something for nothing. If she is asking to borrow money then one may call that help assuming she does not pay interest. If you are interested in stuff you cannot pay for and insist on having them then you are a thief. If she cannot afford the hostel then forget about that till you are ready. How are you better than those petrol attendants of bus conductors? But you can afford to operate a mobile phone and browse the internet. There is no justification collecting money from a stranger for nothing such a person cannot have goo morals and while I indulge the story for the purpose of this thread I do not believe it.
tayebest: All this e-diots just want to get notice by force, and wana likely share from the goodies Audu left behind,.,
I wont be surprise if someone comes out and says she has a baby for Audu
Awon Mofos
Will u just keep quite and read if u don't have something to say or locate the log out link, I just spoke to someone in Abuja to be sure of this matter of the Audus and he just said I hope ALL the victims dead or alive get justice, hang up and switch off his phone... What do u know? Calling a rape victim or someone with evidence attention seeker. Can't you see she created an account in other to be on proxy?
Meanwhile dis is a rape incident. I don't care if d babe is a sexmaniac . Non concentual sex took place nad daz rape.
*modified* wowowow wait a sec. She accepted hoping he wud change. Babe u too much. STFU n let it slide. Note, I don't condone rapist. Infact all repist shud be given life imprisonment but u see, u don't go back to enjoy some diiick after d first " rape" incident and still scream rape. I wud have believed her if she said it was a one off incident. She had to be going there hoping he wud change. Like who does dat. Yet dude dehumanizes you, tmoro u still go back and call it rape later. Naaaa. She was blinded by the goodies around him that she was ready to endure anytin. But at 17 ? Geeeez. U started nacking soo early. Just take it as a lesson.
**Modified again** Now I feel pity for dis young lady. Why? After reading her odeal posted by Seun I can't but feel pity 4 her. At least it is obvious she went back after the first rape wen Mustapher started blackmailing her with a sex tape he recorded. Pathetic if u ask me. Dat guy is finished if daz true. He shud just 4get d governorship iss n prepare 4 jail. Babe kpele oo. Oh by the way we have only heard from her. Let's hear frm Mustafa too.
I try as much to read her mind in this "HIGHLY CONTROVERSIAL" rape story, the kind of Audu is a threat in the first instance and going to him could be out of the fear of what may happen to her, mind u, he sees him all the time and there is no way she could avoid him... Still crossed my finger until the story becomes TRUE
Shameful how some people allow an ugly man to be their leader for two terms,.. Their handsome/beautiful self could not stop the ugly him from ruling them... o ma se o... Smh for u...
Flets: Nigeria has gone to the dogs and no amount of propaganda can save her.
The rate of robberies in and outside lagos, the hardship, the sufferings, reduced power supply, fuel scarcity, increased bokoharam attacks, badly damaged economy, loss of jobs, political witch-hunting in the name of anti-corruption, small generator ban, poorly though-out TSA processes, IPOB agitation, pipeline explosions etc etc .... clearly shows we are headed downhill since May 29th.
Ambode the anointed one of Oba Akiolu of lagoon kingdom, his ogun state counterpart and the chief propagandist Buhari cannot do much to help themselves at this time. Failure is written all over them.
And if we are not careful, we will loose all the gains we've made in our democracy under 2 years.
So Buhari is at fault to ban I pass my neighbor, I pity it ignorance, u don't know the reason we have these bad electricity is cos of the high rate of the importation of generators, like life was not harder under your brothers watch when over 2billion naira meant to equip the army is been swallowed by Dansuki... You can't even see thing need to change, people like u blamed BRF wen Lagos was taking shape but now u are the one saying Ambode is spoiling the arranged bla bla... May God open your eyes of understanding. #blamegameshouldstop
Romance › Re: To The Nigerian Men Craving Virgin Wives by sammyxclusive: 10:17pm On Jan 07, 2016
o ma se o... Smh for u... 
