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Odingo1:
I need an opinion, I live in 1 bedroom room flat, room and parlour with dining of 800k per year, the landlord recently increased it to 1m but my wife insisted that we move to another room and parlour that is smaller and far from town only that the house have POP design at 1.6 million. I told her that the place we are staying is better and we can save 600k then unprovoked she said she have finished making arrangements with the other house that I must pay the money that day. To my greatest surprise she started physically pushing me around, bring out our wedding pictures and throw on it the bed and went to kitchen looking for kitchen knife. She was looking for kitchen knife but couldn’t take it finally but went for a lighter and threatened to use fuel and lit 🔥 the house. She bring out all my bag and ask me leave the house or she will smash all my belongings including labtops and phone. Is a shock to me, yet to recover. Note I am a sole provider in the union, she contribute nothing, I gave her monthly upkeep of 120k, I take care of every Damm expenses in the house. I started a lab business for her with 3 m. The marriage is about 10 months, no kid yet. We have not have major issues except minor issues which we resolve.
I haven’t involved families yet, I want see opinions first, mod pls front page.

This is serious, why will she do all this things just because of changing of house or there is an underlying issues before.
I hate domestic violence with all my might, be it from the husband or from the wife.

I think you should involve someone you both look up to or get a Marriage counselor because if you don't nip this at bud at this early stage, it will lead to a more serious problem, using knife or fire in a argument is a very serious situation.
Try to talk to someone you both respect or a counselor but if your wife have been showing aggression even during dating stage then you should reconsider the marriage before you start having children.

segaloo:
it hurt me I swear was very upset about the whole thing .he's been given it to the same people

The people using different accounts to collect are the problem.
If it's random selection it will be way better because than it will be by your luck.

segaloo:
you're not wise sir, the person u just select na the same guy...

Your own na to just rush dey insult person.

You can lay your complain with throwing insults

What exactly do you want??
She is married so nothing can happen, just forget about her or even block her, don't be a homewrecker.

Even if she is interested in you, it's falls on you to have the moral high ground

There are so many businesses around, just look around you

aerolagos:
Congrats, please put details on bio

Good afternoon Sir, I thought you were going to change the selection process from "First to comment to random selection", the formers winners have started using their second acc to post.
This new account is obviously Mr Novo or Notorious.

Anyway it's well it's their luck

NothingDoMe:
Lol. She's just feeling bad that she's a single mother.

No amount of money can replace that feeling of not being completed by a man.

Lol you are funny, I am laughing 🤣🤣🤣

Happy new week.
Wonderful thing you are achieving here

Yes

Emeka71:
Initially they don't pay moderators back then when this forum was seen as a play thing but now that this forum is becoming a big hub hence the reason to engage and pay moderators and that Romance section is a very busy section and also the Politics section these sections are more busy than the other ones and hence they need extra hands. What to do is frequent participate in this forum especially the Romance section so that when they come up with advert of moderators needed so you can apply and be taken.
BTW romance is sweeter than sex.

Okay

eejo:
Happy New year to all and 2026 marks a new era in our great Country Nigeria. Majority of our political leaders, Activist and social media influencers are using Nigerians for money and fame with no intention of solving our problems. Nigeria has about 95 percent poverty rate, 30 million children out of school, 100 million youth unemployed, life ends at 40, 180 million people cannot afford healthcare, 60 percent of our roads are worse off. 2026 is the year of action to change these ugly statistics. I have plans already and over the course of the year Nigerians will see my action more than writing.

Happy new year

I went for an HIV test on the 24th of December, I know I didn't have it, so I wasn't scared but I had to do it because I was very depressed some months ago and I lost so much weight, my Aunty insisted I go for full medical test because the older generation don't understand the concept of depression.

You have to have something physical doing you for them to have an explanation but when I was waiting for my results I keep thinking of people who have waited before me and they told them they are positive, what goes through their mind, how do you relate to living with HIV in this country where there are so many fake drugs, health care is very bad and the stigma of the disease.

Even tho I have been very serious with my health, I don't share needles or personal things with others, I do regularly check up on BP and sugar level, I exercise daily, I want to advice other to be very intentional about their health because when you live in a society like ours you have to be extremely careful so you won't die a premature death.

Seun:
What is your plan/agenda for the Romance section?

Good afternoon Sir
So my Agenda or plan for the Romance section is this

1) Post more engaging Stories

2) Reduce the gender wars

3) Give rewards for Accounts that posts engaging Topics to drive more traffic

4) Create a monthly competition between the male and female members or for all members in the Romance section

5) Create a Topic about marriage counseling, where members who are married or about to can engage in.

There are many more Sir

Emeka71:
Do you think they pay moderators ? which section do you want to moderate ?

I think they pay Moderator, I mean it's a job, a Remote one.
I would like to moderate the Romance section if possible

Happy new year Mr Seun
Please give me a job as a moderator 🙏

saintbillion:
The bank staff attending to us knows I actually borrowed him my powerbank, cause he wanted to set up his mobile app after collecting his atm. It was when i was been attended to, that was when he left prior to my notice. So immediately i alerted the bank staff. She sort the man form and extracted his number cause it wasn't that long. They called him at first and ask him to come immediately for his atm card verification. He said he was close he is coming. I waited until around 3:45pm. They called him again and he said is that guy that he collected his powerbank still there abi? Then he cut the call. I waited again until after 4. I told the bank staff to pls give me his phone number. They said no. That i should come back on Tuesday they will reach him. So they said i should drop my contact details which i did. On Tuesday i went there again. They called him but he began blocking their numbers. I went to the a police station near by. They said the bank staff suppose give me his number since they are aware and the man also admitted he collected the powerbank. So they said i should write statement. And I'll also need court order and it will cost me money too i just left the police station cause i presume the stress won't be here

Sorry about your plight it's very painful but if you get money follow the case, make sure he return the powerbank and the other expenses you will spend.
The man is very wicked Chai
But if it's too stressful for you that man will met his Karma 🙏

Sorry OP, this is very painful but also very funny.

Like the man had the mind to say he won't bring the powerbank back like the audacity, he isn't even scared that they will trace his account number or anything.

The way Nigerians steal nowadays eh and they don't even see it as stealing, this man go don talk say he dey smart and God don butter his bread.

hartson:
reallyso how will it bring the happiness as tinubu tax net has been fully spread to catch millions of impoverished nigerians so where will the happiness come from I ask you?

Dude if you like no happy,
It's your personal choice.
Tax or no Tax we go survive because we no get choice

Thus year try change even if na small

Happy new year my people.
This year will bring happiness to all of us

2026 is my year to become one of the richest 🥺💃💃

ComeComing:
Which one of them

Any directions

Send half the money first, I will tell you step by step

ComeComing:
Is it easy to do? I'm using Samsung..

Yes it is

Pixelcut or Adobe photoshop

Merry100 Thank you so so much Ma.
This is the best Christmas gift for me.
You don't even know me but you choose to help.

I pray everything works out for you Ma, have a lovely weekend Ma and Happy new year in advance 🙏🙏

Merry100 Thank you

eejo:
Merry Christmas to all Nigerians and it is sad that nearly 200 million people have no access to Ambulance, Fire services and emergency security services during incidents. Too many lives and properties have been lost due to this circumstances. 2026 we will make it happen by God grace. I will pressure the Government until it is done.

Merry Christmas

Tinubu no make Christmas sweet again

Wishing everyone on nairaland a beautiful Christmas, this holiday will bring peace and joy to you guys and wishing you all your heart desires as you enjoy this holiday