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qhutetomsel:
To me the girl might not see d need to inform him before d guy came over because he's not living with her perm. jst for the period of the post ume exams,d guy is her friends younger bro which automatically becomes her younger bro,meaning she's older than him nd he's not d one paying her lodge fee so she might be lyk 'Why must I tell him'?
come to think of it do u think she will open up just lyk dat if there's anything between them. nd again what if it was an impromptu arrangement lyk d boy being stranded nd d sister knowing she has a friend there called her to allow her bro put up with her for the exam. let's just reason with her also not in support of actions tho.


wat I feel scantee should be more concerned about since he has confirmed dat truly d guy is her GF's brother is d fact that he called her 22times nd she didn't pick nd had to hang up on him claiming network ish . lyk I said previously drive it to the point that you will have enough evidences to end d relationship

qhutetomsel:
I still think you should give her the benefits of doubt. Trust nd love her with your eyes open while you try to get ur facts.
its not easy buh jst do this for ur happiness she might be jst d one for you.

You can end the relationship when you have concrete evidences trust me everyone 'll be by your side then.
have a nice day!

jaxxy:
Did u confirm her story that it Ws actually her gf broda and he is taking post ume for her skol? Did d skol conduct post ume at dat said period? Hv u confirmed it Ws actually her gf broda and bt some other guy?

On the 2nd occasion she faked bad ntwork. My question? Y Ws it only on dat day d ntwork went bad? Or does it happen on other dat wen u call? If she didn't pick 22times then there Ws sm1 definitely with her or else y send u a text instead of picking up. That's shadey!

Now gals cheat and smtmes it can be ignore cos it's just bf/gf thingy BUT wen it's a wife to be bro dats dangerous cos it can creep into ur marriage hence u must be careful.

B4 u started dating her did u asked about her ex bf or past relantionship? If nt u better start asking. Cos I'm nt sure u Knw dis gal beyond wot people close to her hv told u. From wot u say it's her frnds, her parents, bla bla dat say she's a saint bt wot about u? Uve been with her for 3years so wots ur own conclusion about her? Tho u may mt have much to say cos u never arround and dat maybe ur biggest issue to unravel Cos ur relationship move faster than it shud even wen u haven't known her personally enough for it to get to that point. Don't be in a rush and look for time to get to Knw dis lady and who she is or u may end up crying u married a stranger(that people recommended as a saint) cos u alway 90% on water. Seems u know more about sharks than about u gal now. Quite dangerous!

baggy4luv:
my guy i pity you..
1.shes is the fish and not something is fishy
2.limit the calls...and wen you do call like a stranger.
3.stop taking dat relationship serious.
4.the lagos invitation should be a fucking spree.(start mirroring evrything she did to you.
5.Dont send that money again
6.Find a girl wey go replace am.
7.stop that your questioning of who are u with.

TonyeBarcanista:
@Scantee make you go siddon jare. You wey I de vex 4. If you be say you be my guy I for find confirm Star bottle take shave your bia-bia . But calm down, make you take things easy sha.


@HopeAtHand: Why you de cast me? Since them nominate your oga as minister your body just de sweet you. Make you carry me along o!

qhutetomsel:
I think you should take things easy, fine you want to break up with her buh get ur facts correctly jst like misspicy said. ask her Lodge mates about her movements lately, monitor her, stop d flow of money for now,try to win your big sis over to ur side,she could be of help. do all these just so you know you re not making a mistake.

you never can tell she might not be cheating on u even though her movement is suspicious.
It is well bro.

HopeAtHand:
I don't give relationship advice tho..

Just take the decision that brings you peace and comfort of mind...Life is short, it shouldn't be spent on unnecessary thinking especially the one you can smartly avoid.

Adios!

menix:
Wow!!!! Sorry to say this, I hate such family nd believe me u can't pull out cous the benefit supersedes ur marriage..

My uncle was denied his luv because of this same mutual benefit, all to give this igbo gal to a northern ex president son who had married his 1st.
There was nothing this family did not do to maintain this same "mutual benefit".

Well, I wish u well in ur life cous my dad being a hard fellow can't even try that with me.

focus7:
Guy in my own opinion your babe is a cheat, what you is your decision afterall you are not yet married to her.

Acidosis:
Yea bro, I perfectly understand your feelings.

Here is what you'd do. Don't just break up, find yourself another girl and keep living.

HopeAtHand:
You have called out the womaniser to help do what exactly??

bakynes:
The thing about most Nigerian girls is that they are smart, they know how to make you start doubting your suspicion of them. It will be very evident they are cheating but they will make it look like you are the one who needs to calm down and trust them. Me myself I don mugu too with this issue of ex bf came to do clearance in school has no place to stay nothing happened. That day she stylishly let me return to my house coz I wanted to sleep over on the excuse that, she was going to her friends house to copy lecture notes she misssed and that she will let me know when she is back so I can come back to her flat, na so I wait tire o not knowing the guy don dey her side na so I go there called her out in the night, she don tie towel ready to bath, omo I almost beat her that day, people sha told me to go home. I no fit sleep kept calling in the midnight ran out of credit, borrowed my friends phone kept calling after a while I give up. She came to my place the following day very early as early as 7am to swear with a bible that nothing happened even bleeped me join. So my brother like that Guy said Nigerian girls are not to be trusted. As for me I will not marry any girl below 28 years of age because even if they have messed up themselves before they will act maturely at that age they know what they want no time to be messing around any longer.

Acidosis:
Loooool


Dating a student? Planning a marriage with her?


You're about to spend your hard earned money on a girl that has given her body to POST UME Jambites.


Think well bro, love is a cloud, don't let it becloud your reasoning.

KRILMIJAY:
with everything I've experienced, Can't believe people still date in dz part of d world, Most Nigerian girls especially those in d Univ r extremely wicked dnt just waste ya time except for a few who should b trusted. Op, ur babe isnt just a cheat, but also pathetic liar dnt just risk d happy family u intend to have , for her all in d name of Love, most bitches dont know wht luv z infact dey mistake sex for luv. u said she luvs u, dnt listen to dt, luv isn't enough anymore, people claim luv but if given gun dey'll shoot u. Focus on ya career , relax & dont rush into Marriage with her or anymore 'cause u might rush out, tk ya time to avoid mistakes & had I known. FINALLY, LET HER GO.

mulki:
sweet story, bros stop lying ....free the babe abeg

MarvellousGod:
You're such an insecure guy! !! Give the girl a rest please. ..

You practically control her life yet you say you trust her... she's probably fed up with your insecure attitudes. .. just look at all your comments on this thread.. monitoring and questioning her all the time...
Don't even know your stand, you say she can't cheat on you yet you want to cancel the wedding cos you suspect she cheats...

Please cancel the wedding, it will do her good....

Until you get a clear evidence, she may or may not be cheating on you. .. quit making assumptions. .

I really can't date an insecure guy like you. . More like monitoring spirit

menix:
Sincerely!! U re in ur Mid twenties...
What mutual benefit is greater than ur happiness..

Am beginning to doubt ur story, thou I know what love does, it's makes man stvpid.
Remember when a female neigbour gossips seeing my gal (the same one I visit @ akoka) with another dude if she goes visiting her friend, I would always feel shez blabbing nd jealous until the thing do me voom 4 eye..

Ur problem is ur availability, u think if u dump this one u will find it hard getting something closer to her..
Oga do marry her, I go even come help you dey deposit sperm afterall u will be offshore most time..

menix:
The number of years does not matter, My broda I hate cheats like hell..

And inviting u her hostel does not prove she ain't a cheat, the gal I would say I have ever loved would always invite me to her hostel at Akoka but the day I caught her came, she was suppose to come over to Festac that morning, missing her badly decided to go over her place nd pick her without informing her, my broda nah there I know say Woman re bastardts..

Do I tell u of anoda, we spent like a year plus, Infact I have concluded that she is my wife. Had to set aside a million naira waiting to complete it wiv 500k cous I had a budget of 1.5mill...

Was doing this without telling her cous I wanted everything to be like a surprise instead she surprised me.
I don't go through her phone but God just directed me that day, behold the gal was planning her wedding with another dude.

When I confronted her, she started crying that we Igbo's hardly marry outside thus she decided to give someone a chance.


Sincerely, if marriage ain't a traditional rite from where I come, I swear Nigerian gals re not worth it..

Justdulla:
I For Fit Help U Investigate am Since I stay around the South East.. Well if I were you, cancel her scheduled visit...keep talking fine like everything is okay....Then Pay Her An Unscheduled Visit( I hope u have gone visit thee before though so u fit catch am red handed for I'm house)....Just take an evening trip to her krib on a cold weekend and Knock on her Door @ exactly 8 p.m. There u wud get your answer...since she's a student, she's likely to reserve weekends for Balling

pinceprinz:
I'll need to hear the woman's side of the story too op

emma4ureal:
Bro After reading the advice from different foks ....and you keep on defending the so called crime your bae committed against you...i think yo still want to be with her...why not invite her,you guys should sit down and find a common ground to what is really going on....see if you can make her to me more committed to you .....because as i can see you are not yet ready to leave her...

BUT...i think the best advice is to leave her and find a better lady.....

misspicy:
Okay,let me tell u a story,a guy told me abt a girl he was dating in school,she has a fiancee,d guy in school knows her fiancee,talks to him,d fiancee do send him money sef,fiancee taught d guy is just her friend,dey will finish fvcking,fiancee will call,d guy will pick talk to fiancee,now d fiancee later married d girl buh sent her packing after he caught her fvcking her school bf on their matrimonial bed o....


Note,dat guy in her room could be her bf,i dnt tink he is her friend brother from ur writeup...


Goodmorning,am off to sleep

menix:
@scantee...

Sincerely, I feel like insulting u buh y would I want to do that to a young man without experience.

U noticed all this nd u ve not used the nxt exit..

Bro u re a maga to the gal while the main fvckers re enjoying ur goodwill..

I had something similar, liked her nd I know she does too, call her one night she picked, god I almost went mad she was been fvcked by another.

My broda, ur confusion even small cous I no get myself.

Thou, I will certainly pay her, cous she priced me..

misspicy:
Lol,she is a nairalander? U shuld af coded d gist naw,if this make FP,she will surely see it,well ntn spoil she will know she is caught already,she will beg u buh sir do not accept,once a cheat is always a cheat....n if u marry her,u r done for...

No need to prank her anymore tho,just ignore her,if ur pman ask abt her let him know her offence,if her mum calls u,tell her her child is a love peddler,its ur word against hers,ur decision to make,no be ur pman go marry her,its u....

so play cool n let her go,it will hurt u buh u will b fine....

Note,stop proposing marriage to girls in their early 20s especially those in school,they are not ready yet...

misspicy:
Well from my experience everything is not always black and white ma,u need colours to spice ur life....the op needs to be diplomatic,i have seen alot of cases like this,that everybody thinks d guy dumped d girl not knowing d girl is a runs babe in school.alot of family blames u cnt ignore will come up,his dad might not believe him since d dad already likes d girl,he might insist op marry her,some pman are like that,he might reject every oda girl,more reason op needs evidence to clear his,name n proof he didnt dump her,she cheated,note,he said she do faint n all,her type can commit suicide,den scantee will b in big mess

JumpingChicken:
you seem to be making excuses for her. But the decision is ur though. But I think a decent will not share her bed with any male who isn't her man. I hate to see ladies using us men. But u need to make up ur mind urself.

misspicy:
lol,was pulling ur legs now back to evidence,i tink i af a few tricks up my sleeve,
note she already knows u know her game so she will be very careful not to get caught,she will deny,she will cry,she will faint... so u will act diplomatically,i tink u shuld not act like u know,send her money,buy her gifts,make her happy,act like a maga,she will feel comfortable n tink u did not catch her after all,now set her up,get someone to watch her every move, snap her activities,it will take time like 2,3 months but bet me u go catch am,please do not sex her during did period,let her crave for it,so she can run to her boyfriend....Pay her suprise visit one day,wen u feel like,it will suuprise u dat our minds can direct us

This should help

JumpingChicken:
If she ignores your calls for any reason other than she is about to die, then she is not a gud girl. She should know that you work offshore hence you naturally would be insecure so she has to always pick ur calls. And when ur fiance tells you that she had her ex or whoever it is spend 2 weeks in her room, dude u shouldn't even be seeking advise... Guy u dey craze? Abi you be yoruba boy? Bro wisen up oh.


I had a friend in the university, a very close friend and she was in a relationship with a guy who lives in lagos and we were schooling in delta state. She had issues with her boyfriend and he travelled down from lagos to see her, they resolved the issue,yet at night she let her boyfriend sleep in her room while she went to the next vacant room that had not been rented to sleep. She spent her night on the bare floor in an uncompleted room. And she was a virgin and 27yrs. That's a gud girl. Not a girl that let's her ex sleep in the same bed with her for 2 week when she is already engaged to another man. Bro unless you want to quit ur offshore job after u get married dump that chick o.... These are signs don't ignore them. You will feel heartbroken but trust me its o.k and it will only be for a while. Unless...hmmmnn. You may find urself raising another man's child or die of heart attack.


A wink is enuff for the wise.

2dice:
That is it Only Nigeria ladies that will watch Mexican Movies They will be Dreaming for a Guy as Caring as one Mumu *Eduardo* Now the Got what they want They will miss use it. Well when a lady is with you that is the Only time she is your Boo.. The moment she step Outside She is for everyOne Kindly delete the marriage idea for now IT IS ONLY NIGERIA GUYS THAT USE LAPTOPS TO SCAM Our Ladies Use their No.6 They scam you Emotionally Financially Spiritually Physically Scamming made Easy Tell me who does it Better than OUR LADIES??

misspicy:
It sounds so good and true right? Why because it is a one sided story,i believe every story in life has 3 sides d complainant,d defence and the observer,with this the judge can judge effectively

Now,i think lady is cheating,and its not scantee's fault buh in situations like this one needs to be diplomatic and sensitive so as not to be seen as bad,u said her parents and ur parents are involved,i will advice u to be patient,u dnt catch a fish by its tailcu catch a fish by its teeth,trap her and have reasonable evidence n.proof as ur defence to her parents and urs too till then,u r only working on suspiscion......secondly no gv me d i have never cheated on mx date story brother

niggi4life:
Bros, that girl is cheating on you, you know what that means? She is fcking another dude behind your back. It really hurts you know? If you can deal with the thought of someone screwing your wife to be then you can go ahead with the marriage, if not, kindly break up with her before it's too late o.
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage o....