Osombo:
OP I know of a situation like urs, lady wasn't picking her Dad's calls even when the man was reaching out each time. I will advise U to see the biological father, meet him and if possible if U can bring him to the mother of ur fiancee and her family to make peace and if possible let them fine him and he pays, then let him be rightful person to collect bride price and he can as well handle same to his inlaws since he wasn't there for the daughter, that's respect and he can bless ur marriage, we men hardly talk, we overlook so many things. Let me ask U, U want to built ur foundation of beef? Don't U think death can be inevitable if U go ahead without his consent, even if he is dead, he has family What if ur children ask after their grandpa, will d stepfather ne their real grandpa when their real grandpa is alive? The fiancee sef no try, don't she know U avn mock her one day, ur blood is ur blood ooo Who knows maybe it was cos infidelity he left the Mom

Biko, if the man is fined and he pays her bride price which he would have done since if he wanted honor from the woman and her child, do we conclude that the woman married 2 husbands?..... We don't even know why the woman and child ran from him, some men can be wicked, deadly... Some don't even mind to wipe any trace that will make them look irresponsible in future incase he desires to seek one higher position or the other....

It will also be very embarrassing if the man doesn't fully welcome this man as inlaw. He is even creating future problems for himself especially if he wants him to be giving him things as in law and this oversabi gives it only to the stepdad, he may even start wishing them problems in the family unconsciously so that they must see him to resolve the issue and 'dash' him things.

I only accept good traditions, anyone that will not benefit me, I dump it.... Imagine bringing ex to matrimonial home of someone u never wished to be married.... He will even be surprised that the woman could get her life back and marry ( because this is NOT even a remarriage).

It is well

Micheal56:

Bro a very long story
Trust none
I didn't knew my roommate mom was a strong witch a very big one for that matter
I say bro my roommate confess Watin he mama dey do Na watin mak am mad
Since then he no leave me rest
Trial upon trail to get me mad so that no body will beleive my own part of story
Before he eventually got mad finally patapata
I Dey live with witch bro I have no choice I don pay house rent
Where I won run go
Porverty Na bad thing




The funniest part about the story Na hookup gal mak he carry first talk say a lot of demons Dey the house I no believe
She started praying
Called her spiritual mom that demons are after her i no beleive
I actually insulted the girl that you that came for hookup Na u Dey see demon not knowing she knew what she was saying
The guy open mouth for bed Dey sleep
Na wen he wake I tell am everything
Say hookup girl call am witch

Things are happening. As a rule, I don't do video calls with strangers.... It is very disrespectful for those I don't know or trust to try that with me besides not being in the mood or properly dressed.

Even this Nairaland, some werey dey ... They will leave Nairaland and begin stalk/'haunt', raining curses on themselves..... This one no be guy oooo, WOMAN.... But people are different .... Good to always be in prayer mood though my 1st thing is to send back the rubbish prayer to the person and block the line..... Dem go still use another line and I repeat same.

This man, in trying to win this case at all cost even had to mention that he has a 1st wife, 1st wife that he may have long had anything to do with

We need more female judges.... Females occupying positions which were usually occupied by men, because if we are relying on our men to do the right things to alleviate the sufferings of married women or women generally in the land, we will just be wasting time.

Why didn't he get consent from the wife. Some people are already psychologically and emotionally attached to a house and cannot just leave it, not even for a wife of 10 yrs or more.

Knew of one man who sold his house and pushed his wife and son ( in his 20s- later had psychologically issues)out. Thank God, downstairs the woman had a container she built. That was were they started living. This is after toiling with the man( whether or not she contributed to buying the house). Some men don't think b4 acting. This man even tried sef to give them a smaller substitute.

More women need to know their rights from day 1 ie marry legally. Don't allow any man sweet talk u against it. Men who foolishly support Hakimi's style( don't has been proven to be a lie), forget that when omen suffer, their children ( including males) suffer too.

2 great stars left the world within 1 week:

RIP Chief R. Dokpesi 71yrs

RIP Mrs Tina Turner Bach. 83yrs( almost 84 yrs)

If M was checking Y's fone once in a while, all this emerging embarrassing nonsense would have been checked since with no baby outside the matrimonial home.

happney65:
Her mouth looks like that of Bruce Jenner. You sure she isnt trans?

Only you reasons like me..... Keep it up( lol)

Love800:
I thought pap is akamu, how come pap is now our usual semovita?

I use to see big brother titans south africa house mates using bread to eat soup! Please is that normal in S.A?

Im guessing that what SA calls pap is what Cameroon and Cotonou ( Benin Republic) call fufu corn though both eat it with soup which is common there. Samantha please clarify this.

Moroccans also eat bread with soup or sardines using their hands: This is an African thing.

SA like us etc, also soak bread in tea to eat. Chicken and beef is a delight to them, one of them I once knew dreaded the thought of seeing chicken at a time because he ate it too much when they were young and had mostly chicken which the family could afford.

One threat to kids especially males are bullies...

An observant parent who notices this may need to stand up to these bullies to save guard the life of that child... Don't take things for granted..... Once the parent puts that fear in the bullies, they will know that they first need to contend with the parent before the child .

Do these 'big guys' take bank loans to invest in hard drugs ?

Very embarrassing for NDLEA dogs to leave other luggages/ consignments and focus on his own. For his mind, he will be asking,' which kind alakoba dog be this naw?'( Lol)

El Salvador has been a very rough country for many years now, not a place for sane minds.

Meanwhile, virgins that my redpillers are insisting to marry, when they marry them there is no special treatment inside the marriage but this one is already being over pampered as a girlfriend.

Jeff is just showing her that if she eventually marries him, he will be a fantastic provider to her not that she will be guessing if ever he will be able to, because he has been proving it as boyfriend which has become a good habit to him.

'Men are in sizes, life is in stages'.

blacksam01:
something wierd i observed in this romance session...

when ever there is breakup complaint here i usually read through and i notice, no single lady complains about pains of break up or idea to keep her failing relationship..

you can only read ladies do this inside marriage,

what do u guyz deduce from this..? only guyz love..ladies are so so stone hearted and dont giv a damn about how u feel ,they just dump u..

they are the problem of relationships

Hahahaha... Truth is women are more emotional than logical when it comes to love ...

Men hit hard when they want to hurt us and very fickle/ unstable in love as they think with their dicks( since u guys laugh at us that women have fish brains)...

But, when women DECIDE to begin thinking logically like men after men have taught them a lot through heart breaks, we dust ourselves, pick up what is left of us and courageously move on to a ready guy.

We are TOO busy crying over men especially when we know our worths and our God.

mariahAngel:


Sam, do one on South African foods next.
I want to see what y'all eat.

I agree she writes on their food though I know they eat a lot of meat....

These ladies shown, once they catch a man and want him, nothing can stop them , same with Gabonese women.

SA juju no be here oooo, can't easily forget Chaka Chaka's music video where she had 2 men to choose from( lol).

9jaRealist:


RIP…

He was such a PHILANTHROPIST…
Building hospitals, giving scholarships, etc.
>

We thank God

Though wasn't generous previously despite being rich

RIP

My mum's former boss.

bizzibodi:
Been an only son & last born surrounded by elder sisters he must have suffered by been raised,beaten,abused & controlled by women all his life sapping d manliness in him...so sad

Only brother to sisters are rather pampered and we fight to protect them....They mentioned their places of abode to show that even if they aren't from a wealthy home, they have individually made something out of themselves and not hungry or behaving like those who were paid.

Sometimes 2 good people marry, but their marriage may still not work out. Successful marriage is one that requires much work/effort from both sides with similarities while u complement each other on your weaknesses.

Some women don't like the man visiting so she can adjust and easily move on with her life without one ex telling her where and when to come drop children for him to see under her supervision or even him coming to her new marital home to cause friction between her and her new husband( if remarried)..... Men here usually say, ' law of Okafor' and women too are wary of it.

Krublog:
The widow don threaten them to debunk the allegations or never see the kids again.

This is according to sources privy to the matter.

Next you'd read will be battle for the kids.

Heads up:
The kids will not attend their father's funeral.

You heard it from me first...

It was alleged that she was even the one enduring the marriage as some people may be quiet but not necessarily good as portrayed. Besides, that the marriage ended many years ago. That they lived in her Banana Island house as a couple.

ZIMDRILL:


you are missing the point the fact that the guy noticed the regular visits and talked to her it means to him that he is not happy, simple

so yes mother in law is stopping him to enjoy his wife

Op may not be helping wifey with house chores and Mama wants to lessen her baby girl's work load, so her frequent visits which Op may not understand.

If they want to make out in the day time, they can still shift it to night time naw when Mama is in her own house or even go into their room for it and lock the door, with time Mama will understand the handwriting on the wall.

Wisdom is profitable.

Penguin2:
Almost all of them are Yoruba.

Even the way being touted for Minister of Petroleum is also Yoruba, a deviation from what has been where Southsouth indigenes are appointed into the ministry.

It’s obvious Tinubu is coming to run a government of the Yoruba by the Yoruba and for the Yoruba.

#NotMyPresident!

No naw, Mofe Boyo is Deltan.... Don't even know if he is the husband or related to the husband of Actress/ Producer, Ego Boyo.

Many names will still come later, some as Special Assistants or just officers.... Let's trust BAT's selection process, he knows all eyes are on him as expectations are high.

Grace wants to find Prof. Peter Okebukola of LASU( Physics) again, who was for many years trying to become VC there but due to Politics and that he is an Ondo man (was into JETS club which was televised on NTA).... God helped him with NUC job through OBJ miraculously.

Some tribes will naturally head the force without fear or favor: Igbos and Northerner( with the heart of Marwa). If Yorubas head Force( Military), it is only to avoid massive killing of herdsmen by Igbo Force leader which may be misinterpreted by the Northerners.

id4sho:

Your mind dey there, this is the tactics bad women employ. They isolate you from your friends, family and hobbies . Then decent on you finally. Dude was an introvert

The tactics is not what bad women or even bad men employ alone but 5he strategy of the devil to use people and circumstances to isolate one .... Once the devil succeeds in this isolation, the person is 60% gone and with depression the deed is close to being sealed.....

Depression itself can open up a person, lower his immunity to allow sickness into the person using his/ her mental pathway. We need to be able to have people we can run to when in any rough situation and open up to them as a problem shared is half solved. Some people marry, cut off their friends including families from themselves. Too bad

Ireportlive:




Sanwolu really gave the event needed publicity


No bad blood even if she supports Obi


.

Why do you people do this? Same way u did to Gbadebo.... U play this your politics and think people aren't watching/ reading?

U are just die hard APC non repentant followers and just want reasonable Nigerians to accept every nonsense..... People may have varying opinions, it is their choice....

Dirty politics that we play and think that the negative effects of any government won't affect us? Nigeria is for ALL of us : SE SS SW NE NW NC. Na everybody go suffer bad governance especially the poor masses, so let's not put politics in everything.

transient123:
The guy went through a lot from this memoir Tee just penciled. Everyone has his or her baggage, most people are challenged secretly without others knowing......sad Mr Obi transited not wrestling his major challenges to a stand still.....such is life atimes, may God give his family the fortitude to shoulder this huge loss.

Amen .... Though I heard he is separated/divorced and this impacted negatively too on him.

Dialpad:
RIP........ unbelievable, Murphy was a talented actor.

The cause of death is scary.

He must have slipped and hit his head hard on the floor.

Builders in the house, how can we have safer bathrooms to avoid occurrences like this.


We can all try get this b youathroom mat

Many don't know that this is one salient way that people die especially elderly folks with few people around them. Always keep floors dry.

Having a bath tub in one's home is also essential.

Bad policies and mostly bad implementations and not knowing when to stop 2hen it increased the pains of those they were serving.

Hoping the new government will do some things fast in the first 6 months of office to salvage the situation eg $ to N.... Use of our Naira debit cards for international online payments.....Price regulation of market products especially rice, food stuff, building materials.....Security: CCTV almost everywhere, street lights almost everywhere, drinkable boreholes....

MuslimIgbo:

Truth is always bitter.
My words usually just hurt the guilty ones like you.
You're talking about Nigerian girls not having interest in guys?
Lol
Who that one help and who go lose at last? It's definitely you girls.
It's guys that have the advantages of options and picking in all ramifications.
Let's be honest here, ON THE AVERAGE, WHAT DOES A NIGERIAN GIRL BRING TO THE TABLE IN A RELATIONSHIP? THE ANSWER IS SEX USUALLY!

If sex is the basic thing you bring to the table and you're not even a virgin and you still sleep with other guys, WHAT NOW MAKES THE SEX SPECIAL?

The only time you see a girl doing something meaningful for guys or a rich girl marrying a very poor guy is usually only in the movies.
An average rich girl will never want to "SETTLE FOR LESS", they always want someone higher and better than them, whereas, a rich guy doesn't care about a girl's pocket.
All that matters to us is for her to be
Beautiful
Corporative
Young/youthful/virtuous (not a whórë).
IN TODAY'S WORLD, HOW MANY MEN ARE HIGH-VALUE?
The reality if this is that, average and Rich girls will tend to have few options for men they can "settle" for, whereas, men will have abundant options because of our interest and preferences.

At least the money is there for her to spend rather than not having both man and money: never good to be deficient in both.

I guess u are speaking for your sisters and female relatives whó do not have or know their worths unlike those who do know and have the God advantage.

post=123123608:
From Styleblender ...

Problem is he should reduce the noise he makes and behave as if he is humble. Bragging to a woman is not the best. Though I enjoy his English( lol).

There is Civil Partnership laws in some of these countries abroad eg NZ, Spain etc and once you stay even up to 3 years( Spain's shorter), u are like a wife, worse is if u have kids..... I know someone who had a girlfriend of 19 years while he was 29years and both lived till she was 40 years and he, 50years. They had 3 children together but no legal marriage. With time they started having problem with their union and the man is someone that even when he is hurting the woman feels he is doing nothing wrong while the woman is an introvert. Like play, one day they met her dead as she committed suicide.....Some women spend 3 years in the life of a man like 20years.... Every year in a relationship matters to a woman, reason why they MUST define the relationship from day 1.

Instead of my brother dragging this issue, he can settle her quietly with somethings and beg her, afterall he too will have daughters in future but NO, our man want to prove themselves or maybe he thinks she can't match him in strength( lol) which is already obvious.... If she goes to court with a good Lawyer, she can get something from him and still enough to pay her Lawyer/s so let him act discreetly/ wisely and do things peacefully. They can even part ways and still be friends.... Women can come up with anything even claim of pregnancy while in the relationship etc.....

harmony75:
This is very shameful so if they're the tribes that returns the bride price to the groom.

From the post, the N250,000 covers the wedding ceremony of which the brideprice should be part of.

They will make the bride ashamed.

Preshieben:
Akwa ibom not calabar

AkwaCross, Niger Deltans, SE are very good cooks.... Though generally all Nigerians as we learn fr each other and some have strength in some type of food over the other including pepper soup, jollof, rice and stew( some are good in jollof but won't fry their stew well in rice and stew).

But just across from AkwaCross, one would be disappointed that the Cameroonians don't match the AkwaCross neighbors in terms of good cooking and sense for good combination of food eg imagine someone wants 'local snack' of soaked garri and fried fish in Nigeria, a Cameroonian will prefer soaked garri and fried egg etc

This is where intermarriage is a very dicey issue and it is good for open minded person's only.

A Western guy looking to marry a girl from SS or SE whose mum is a widow and expecting them to carry some of the expenses will be in for a SHOCK. It's better if the guy has some money even if on average level also, both should do something small. If u are NOT ready to marry as a guy from SS SE they don't enter into it. However, guys from West who are in their 20s knowing there is awoof from wife's family, in terms of helping with wedding cost will rush into it with usually his age mate Western wife to be ( who will eventually do 50:50 with him ..lol.... They started this and the situation in the country necessitated others to look into this)even if he will end up starting his family in his parent's house.

Same thing when they need to name their kids, some married from another tribe but so closed minded such that they don't want their kids to bear their other spouse's tribe's names... Too bad.

MuslimIgbo:

Her bodycount might actually just be ONE OR TWO before the guy met her.

BUT HERE IN NIGERIA MOST GIRLS IN THEIR EARLY 20s ALREADY HAVE MORE THAN 20 BODYCOUNT.

I'LL CHOOSE THIS WOMAN A MILLION TIMES THAN CHOOSE ALL THESE CERTIFIED
USELESS
LAZY WHÓRËṢ AND HOOKUP BASTARDS THAT HAS ALREADY BEEN PASSED AROUND BY MULTIPLE MEN, NO MATTER HOW BEAUTIFUL THEY APPEAR TO BE.

GOD FORBID LEFTOVERS.





IF YOU KNOW HOW MANY ABORTIONS SOME OF THEM DON DO, YOU GO FEAR FEAR.


WASTED OLOSHOS

PURE LIES.

Some of you here your wives are on Nairaland viewing the page probably as a guest, but when they see the nonsense u guys write about women generally and Nigerian ladies in particular, they hiss and choose never to have anything to do with you here on Nairaland or even with Nigerian guys generally.

You guys portray the most archaic of persons and want to mingle and eventually marry these already open eye ladies abroad with future intention of treating her the Hakimi way. Anyway, Hakimi has taught both men and WOMEN lessons to learn from and improve on.

Keep on castigating your Naija gals in the hope of getting virgin whites( lol).

I'm very happy for this guy that married a white, hopefully he will treat her kindly and with respect. He entered a profession that his people have natural calling for. They can both get a surrogate to have kids for them, even if it is only 1 child

Samantha124:
I'm not gonna lie, I don't know anything about the Hottentus, I'm hearing about it for the first time.

As for the Bantu people, what I know is that all black South Africans apart from the Khoisan are Bantu people.

It's not a tribe, but an ethnic group of people mainly from southern and East Africa... I'm also a Bantu person.. Our languages can be similar here and there.

For example, in Swahili when they say no problem, they say "hakuna matata" but in my language which is Sepedi we'd say " a gona mathata"

We don't have Swahili in SA or in our neighbouring countries, but because we're Bantus, our cultures and languages can be similar.

I thought the Khoikhoi were the Khoisan, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

There are Bantus in Cameroon( Central Africa), small number in Nigeria..... I think Shaka the Zulu is the Father of this tribe or just from Bantus tribe.... Correct me please if I am wrong.

sageb:


You remember that Tiwa savage Vs Seyi shay clash that year.
Today , Seyi Shay is now a mother

None is a saint including GN and Atk