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Hello Ma

I'm a member of Dominion City. Your case is such that your husband wants you to join his church, his words are final on this matter and you just have to go with him.. Pray to God about this, open your heart more to His church system, do it from the place of genuine love and concurrently, join Dominion City service online or watch their YouTube videos. There are alot of people who follow the Church's sermon online and are pastors or leaders in their respective churches.

Don't let the church matter bring division into a home God has built on covenant. Jesus won't want that as well.

Cheers

I think you really need to ask her what she likes so much about you, because what's the guarantee that she had stick with you if she could Break up with her ex to focus on relationship with you. For all I know, there is always going to be another guy sweeter than you, in that case what will she do...

I advise that you focus more on her values as a person and not the feelings attached to the relationship because the later dey expire, per time which will reveal her true value system.

On the body count part, well I think that should be a decision you take personally, we can't advise you Sir, nevertheless, the risk subsist that such a lady overtime might start craving for more than what you can give. Regardless, personalities are different right, she could be different, you could as well be the person to show her a different perspective to relationship and bring out a better version of herself. She will have urges right, so you had better introduce her to something with higher satisfaction power to deal with that. No Man does that transformational Job best other than *Jesus*.

Jus my one Kobo opinion

Hello bro, I respect the fact you understand your battles and ready to fight head on. As a christian and psychologist, you can reach me via this email :oluwaseunoluwafemi23@gmail.com, let's discuss and find a long lasting exit for this.

Hello OY.
This really is a pathetic situation, its a pity that men atimes tend to ignore the feelings of people close to them when dealing with there own issues. Most times this attitudes are not intentional.
From what you have said, u have really done well. Your husband's drive is at its low ebb, he is d kind of man dat derives his importance from the ability to provide and take charge, not being able to do this has affected his mannerism hence the nagging and all that. Notwithstanding that should not be an excuse to act the way he is doing.
1. First step is to take charge of ur home in the place of prayer, God honors d prayer of a faithful woman in desperate need of divine intervention.

2. Continually be of good character, love and respect him. Its not easy providing for the home but don't lose faith its going to be for a shortwhile.

3. Find a fatherly figure ur husband respects and request they speak to him about issues bothering on the housekeeping, I feel that should not be a thing of argument. If you handle point one, den this should slide.

4. Deliberately find a day and hangout with ur husband alone. Probably a beach walk... Let the hangout be filled with recreation os love sparks of d days of dating and courtship.. Then towards d tale end if u realise u have his attention, pour out ur heart to him in the most respectful manner.. Tell him how is his queen has been hurting and he doesn't seem to realise. Use choice of words that shows him is d boss.

Submission is not weakness, it is strength under control, it is a weapon of influence. This weapon will till the tide in ur favor. It is not in man's place to change any man (man meaning male and female) when a man is malfunctioning, take him to his maker who designed him... Am referring to the importance of point 1 mentioned above.

I pray your home finds peace and evergreen love.