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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by dalass(f): 9:39pm On Jan 09, 2020
Deliverance from olosho spirit. They don carry your matter as regular customer to babalawo. grin

Seriously, its the prostitutes and brothels part that's scary..

Be a part of fasting. Most churches fast like 30 days or more at the beginning of each year. make sure you fully partake. You really are sincere as you've confessed to others.. That's the spirit. I believe in you brother. You can defeat this. Ask God to help you, get married and that gives you the ticket to regular sex. It will keep your mind off lust for proustites.

Get off porn.it will only add to your sex-filled imagination

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Riscawendy(f): 9:39pm On Jan 09, 2020
I think you need to ask yourself some questions.
To every effect there must be a cause.
What are the things that leads you to this addiction.
If is pornography stop watching it.
If is loneliness, you have a girl friend call, chat or stay with her when you're feeling lonely.
If is the books you read stop reading them.
If is the friends you keep dissociate yourself from them.
I hope this will help.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by geunik(m): 9:41pm On Jan 09, 2020
Change your circle of friends

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Stillwater10: 9:42pm On Jan 09, 2020
How has it ruined your life in particular? Does the lifestyle take all your money, time or focus?

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Sunshine009(f): 9:42pm On Jan 09, 2020
Visit any mountain of fire � and miracles ministry church nearest to you for deliverance.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by H2ho(m): 9:43pm On Jan 09, 2020
ZombieTERROR:
Sex addiction kwa..

Just move to Lagos
The stress and hold up alone will reset your brain... It's a promise
cheesy
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by tenry(m): 9:43pm On Jan 09, 2020
Most people make mistake of stopping an habit outrightly. In other words, they make a resolution to stop an habit instead of setting a goal to stop it. Set a goal to totally stop the habit within a specific period of time. For instance, if you indulge in that habit every week, a goal of quitting totally may reduce it to once in a month and so on until you finally stop. This is just a human effort of stopping an habit, though!. The real and permanent solution lies with God. When u give your life to Christ, he ll clean you off stuff like this.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by AngelicBeing: 9:44pm On Jan 09, 2020
Foundational problems sad
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Theoarhics: 9:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
You need deliverance bro. That's the only way out. Sexual immorality is one of the greatest weapons the devil uses to short change people's destiny. God help Will help you if you sincerely seek His help.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by LyfeJennings(m): 9:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
I have tried many times but failed.
I know a lot of things I can do. But I am still open to learning. May be to ensure that I don't relapse again.

So long U have the vibe to start again
U are on the right path homeboy
Don't pity yourself
Start again
I'm no different from U
I am currently suffering from the same and I made a vow on New year's Eve to do a straight year.
I pray God helps me
The money wey I dey dash olosho. I go take am polish myself. Join a gym, live a better life and do better things.
Alaye, don't full
U are on the right path
Start again!

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Qadaffi2idiamin: 9:46pm On Jan 09, 2020
tydi:


You could also try out porn as a career.. You never Could know what is left for you on the other side. grin
You have a real damn point..

Maybe you're a would be porn star tongue

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Greenback: 9:46pm On Jan 09, 2020
soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man)
or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry

Fixed

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by oyoolima: 9:50pm On Jan 09, 2020
Op should not marry,it's not by force.
He will cause his wife untold pain plus infections.
Marriage will not change man addicted to prostitutes.
Stay single and do what you do best.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by abdullkabar(m): 9:50pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









@Op, since you weren't born with this addiction, definetly you can overcome it.
One thing I know about addiction is you can't easily overcome it if the triggers to it are very much still available.
Maybe its due to your hangout spots, kind off friends you keep, your residence or anything.
Know the triggers, then you know more on how to tackle it, and also, addictions are not that easy to loose. Give it time
Days of relapse are part of the healing(just quickly call yourself to caution and know what triggered your relapse)





Easier said than done
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by 21sailor: 9:51pm On Jan 09, 2020
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Cypherfx: 9:51pm On Jan 09, 2020
Start meditation
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Brightgem(f): 9:51pm On Jan 09, 2020
Think all the consequences of sexual laxity. Some are not even physical. I used to think that was crap, but you don't keep joining body with just anybody, na so some kain evil spirit or evil destiny go begin follow you.

Also imagine one of your kids having a behavior like this and how you'll feel knowing this, cuz they might start at such a young age. So get rid of the spirit that's making you tempted.

Now more seriously. Even when on a diet, you derail sometimes, get back up, don't follow trails that lead you to what you don't want.

What you feed your mind is very important. Not sure I'm saying anything that hasn't been said. Good enough that you identified you have a problem

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by sheunex: 9:53pm On Jan 09, 2020
Hello bro, I respect the fact you understand your battles and ready to fight head on. As a christian and psychologist, you can reach me via this email :oluwaseunoluwafemi23@gmail.com, let's discuss and find a long lasting exit for this.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by jclassiq(m): 9:53pm On Jan 09, 2020
Sorry bro

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by anochuko01(m): 9:54pm On Jan 09, 2020
ZombieTERROR:
Sex addiction kwa..

Just move to Lagos
The stress and hold up alone will reset your brain... It's a promise
Lmao!
Like Lagos island to Sango ota things.
Even prick would refuse to stand.

Seriously speaking, regular fasting is all you need. It kills the cravings of the flesh.

There's a connection between a full belly and a hard on. I learnt this myself, and all I do is to go a while without food.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Melvict: 9:55pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.










I can help
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Kay25(m): 9:55pm On Jan 09, 2020
[quote author=Roadtorecovery post=85650312]Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









since u trust professional I won't talk let them do justice to it but I tell your self centredness is the reason u r yet to break away from it
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by patani(m): 9:57pm On Jan 09, 2020
fatymore:
Simple thing to do.

Fast everyday until what you can only think of is godliness and read your holy book constantly.

Also do away with things that might lure you into having sex... Delete all those oloshos number from your phone and change that route that takes you to the hotel you use.


And the best deal is to get married kiss
It works

Trust me this doesnt work for men.. Have you asked why many known pastors amd imam fall for sex like pack of cards?
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 9:57pm On Jan 09, 2020
Afamed:

Keep quiet, not everyone in Lagos jumps from one danfo to another like suffer head like una
Y do u type so bitter and dumb xo those who drive their personal car don't get stuck in traffic. u r nt op, don't drag other comment with yur bitter vibez

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by chudez0147(m): 9:58pm On Jan 09, 2020
soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry
I don't wake up with erection everyday. Do you think i have a problem?

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jan 09, 2020
You sound like a backsliding christian. There is hope for you to come back to Christ. Before you marry and put your fiancee into future problem, do these below;

go for deliverance and spiritual cleansing,

break free from soul-ties bonds due to multiple sexual intercourses,

break free from spiritual polygamy bonds due to multiple sex partners,

break free from unclean and immoral spirits (demons),

go for baptism classes and rededicate your life to Him,

be a fasting and prayer addict,

Study the scriptures everyday,

don't, I repeat, don't close your mouth to the gospel, it's dangerous keeping silent o! Tell people on and off here about Him who compassionately and mercifully save you. Read bible to see where they evangelise after miraculous saves, turn arounds and open doors by Him who's able. So, unashamedly speak of the saviour Jesus Christ and His gospel to the world.

Without these, you are putting your future, salvation and spiritual life, wife, marriage, family,.............. in danger!!

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by jaxxy(m): 9:58pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.










How old are you? I ask cos there’s an age ur hormones are wild and almost untamed because ur just beginning to explore bt once u understand the terrain and know ur left from right u begin to have or work on better self control.

The answer to ur problem is simpler than u think. Don’t see ur problem as some huge thing. It’s actually very simple if u learn the ropes.


Understand the art of self discipline. Self control and restraint.

Break ur addiction cycle/habit cycle.

Engage is serious physical, mental training/discipline.

If ur Christian u may apply spiritual training/discipline as it helps alot though u can still break almost any habit without it.

When u have a relapse which is almost inevitable at 1st don’t stay down in misery get back into the program and continue the routines.


If u need more clarification i can break it down.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Emmanuelcann: 9:59pm On Jan 09, 2020
[/quote] Any form of addiction is bad. Sin separates a believer from the saviour who died to save us from it's consequences. The first thing is whether you are saved, because that is a factor in your being able to change - 1 Corinthians 5:17. If you have the new nature (of God) and the holy spirit it enables you to love God and to hate what God hates - sin.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by fatymore(f): 10:00pm On Jan 09, 2020
patani:


Trust me this doesnt work for men.. Have you asked why many known pastors amd imam fall for sex like pack of cards?


It does... Except yours is beyond redemption
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Enemyofpeace: 10:01pm On Jan 09, 2020
What's wrong in being addicted to sex? Abeg give me the addiction if you don't want again

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by madridsta007(m): 10:02pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.










Sex is that powerful because there is powerful spirit behind it; that is why, after a while, a husband and a wife begin to look like themselves, behave like themselves. Sex is powerful, hence when you engage in immorality, it is very difficult to stop. The fact that you have had a number of sexual partners, tens of them probably or hundreds, persons who have had their own hundreds of sexual partners, those partners have had theirs as well.
Essentially, you are in a close-knitted web.

Spiritually, the Bible tells us that merely having sex with a woman means that, spiritually, you are married to that woman. This is why it it very difficult to stop, come out from because you are essentially trying to come out of tens or hundreds of "marriage".
Hence the instruction, "to flee".

But you have started well, which is admitting that there is a problem.
2. You need to go for a serious deliverance session, where
3. It would be followed with teaching and Bible-based instructions. I can give a recommendation here. If you want to.
4. Adhere to those instructions and work out what you are taught by Faith.
5. Stay of ANY form of immorality, even with the lady you want to get married to. Even kissing. As long as you are not married, you are not married. Dont pretend to yourself. Stay off her.
6. Make sure you remove every form of "sexual reminders"; videos, pictures, accessible condoms, magazines, etc.

You will be fine after strictly complying with everything I have written. If you are serious that is.
All the best.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 10:02pm On Jan 09, 2020
wen u think u've made money and u want to cruise yur self. Lagos traffic will remind u of humility. Be humble, sit down. grin grin

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