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coogar:
which people?

you should actually practise what you preach - you are a hypocrite....a born-again feminist. you have an identify crisis. i wanna be a christian & then be a feminist cos the term is "cool". pick one side & stop this self-mockery.

how can you preach the bible & feminism in the same breath? which is which? are you a feminist or a christian? how do you apply feminism to everything paul wrote in the bible?

Matthewbriggs:
Na I am not stating this because of you defending women ... Not at all.

I have done that a couple of times when it makes absolute sense. Their are tons of guys who do that ... When necessary.

I am just referring to the way you write and express your self. You sounds feminine ... if you are truly a male. Maybe that's a part of you that you are yet to fully embrace.

dinachi:
Funny how you bitter women think you are not being appreciated. Remove bitterness against men from your heart so that you can move forward in life. The first step to a troubled marriage is to marry sperm donors...who believe their stinking sperm entitles them to everything in life. Sorry to burst your bubble. Nigerian women have seen the LIGHT!

coogar:
we have pissed 2 points away...

the balance of the team was never right from the outset. we should return evans & wilson back to the reserves. i dunno why poor players rarely get injured. evans should never wear our shirt again.

EnlightenedSoul:
What was wrong with the presentation? Look at Matthew Brigg's post, and how he dramatized his gift-giving scenario with the MIL throwing the wife's food around and berating her etcetera etcetera. In your scenario, a gift was given. Finis. Unless there's something you're not telling us in the way of blatant disrespect displayed towards the husband in either word or behavior at/around the time the father decided to gift his daughter the new car, you have no standing case. In truth, the man is being blatantly disrespectful toward his FIL. And God forbid any man 'implode' on me for my father. That man is history, and as good as toast.

EnlightenedSoul:
What was wrong with the presentation? Look at Matthew Brigg's post, and how he dramatized his gift-giving scenario with the MIL throwing the wife's food around and berating her etcetera etcetera. In your scenario, a gift was given. Finis. Unless there's something you're not telling us in the way of blatant disrespect displayed towards the husband in either word or behavior at/around the time the father decided to gift his daughter the new car, you have no standing case. The man is being disrespectful toward his FIL.

sadguy:
The world we live in is kind of interesting as well as annoying. Its kind of funny how people think they know and understand when in truth, they don't . Things happen and a lot of people just come to wrong and biased conclusions fueled by belief systems built upon religion and culture.
A young boy of 5years deriving joy from seeing a lady get stabbed to death in a movie seems odd doesn't it. I didn't understand why I felt that way then. It was just the same feeling I felt when my dad bought me a new game console or when I came first in my class.
That quiet cute kid in primary five who was shy to talk in public and to his classmates and yet could answer almost all questions in Ugo C Ugo.
Growing up was a bit awkward because I was always asking myself lot of questions. Questions like why don't I have many friends like my siblings?, why do I hate parties?, why am i shy to talk to girls?, why do I feel uncomfortable in social environments? Anyway I grew up in a average christian family. Forced to go to church, attend mid-week services, read the bible and so on. I had a strict father who would not spare the rod and emotionally abusive words if I erred.
My parents normally always quarreled and had fights which often made me sad and cry. I blamed everything on my dad.
As I approached puberty my weird fetish kind of found its way into my sexual construction.
As a teenage I was a bit more outgoing and more talkative but I was still shy in social situations. I remember one time in jss1, we were watching a school drama where a girl who was poisoned fell down and died, just by seeing her die I had an erection immediately. I was surprised at this but didn't let it bother me. I consequently discovered that I had erections whenever I saw a lady die in any movie whether foreign or Nigerian. Funny enough due to the pleasant sexual feeling I experienced I started watching such movies where I knew a lady would die and I watched them over and over. The older I grew the more I wanted more, I didn't just want more, I wanted it to be better.
I watched porn once and I almost puked. It looked so irritating to me. The idea of sex alone doesn't interest me at all. Up till now I have never had sex, I don't know if its because I am not interested in it or because I don't have a girl friend. I have had female friends but never had anyone so close I would call my girlfriend.
When I turned 17 around the time I finished secondary school, my sexual orientation took another dimension. I started fantasizing about me killing a female. I couldn't get an arousal except it involved the actual thought of killing normally by strangling. Its something I just can't explain.
Thanks to the internet and my above average mind I found lot of sites that had the kind of videos I wanted. I downloaded most of them of had pleasurable experiences. The older I grow the worse it becomes. Whenever I see a beautiful girl those thoughts of killing flood my mind and wipe away any sort of religious and moral sanity. The thought of my hands round her neck and her struggling for breath as life fades from her eyes as I watch her finally give up as her eyes stare blankly is second to non. This has become a huge part of my psychology and I think it can only get worse. I have also become cold as in lacking some normal feelings such as love,pity and guilt
I posted this here on nairaland because I express my feelings better in writing and since I haven't told anyone yet about my little secret I just felt I should share it.
Do I need help?

coogar:
a bïtch-ašs hubby would let his FIL overrule his decision. a sane hubby would flip you a bird & return the car back to you in a bubblewrap. i am the head of my household, not your daughter!



if i could cook for myself, i won't need a wife.



her food isn't delicious enough or her care lacks quality. i can make that excuse too.



he should have done that before he married her off. after brideprice has been taken from me, i get to decide what is acceptable & what isn't? i am the head of my household, not my FIL. if he insists on superseding me, he can have her daughter back.

coogar:
exactly!
2 become one after marriage. calling your daughter aside to present her a car regardless of the hubby's feelings or consent is a miskick! anything i receive as a married man is for me & my family.

in his shoes, i wouldn't have reacted badly or start a shouting match. i would just ring my grandma in the village to bring me a young beautiful maiden that would be making my food & taking care of my general welfare.

it will also amount to a grandma's gift for a maritally-stressed grandson.

coogar:
change my tone?
so letting 2 adults sort out their family palava is in equal weight with the murder or physical abuse of my daughter? come on - the analogy doesn't fit at all.



but he's sharing with the wife.....
if her father is going to get involved at all, he should have called both parties & present the car to them jointly - let them sort the rest on who should drive which car



ok......

coogar:
beating her at all, never mind beating her to death is a crime. sharing a family car isn't a crime. if the FIL didn't find him competent enough as a hubby, why did he marry his daughter to him?

what kinda father in law revels in causing havoc in his daughter's marriage. how about calling the couple & presenting the car to them jointly? what kinda FIL undermines the self confidence of his son in law? if he loves his daughter so much, he shoulda married her himself.

shirley, you no watch our game?

coogar:
i would let my daughter & her hubby handle their marriage as responsible adults without interfering. this is what i would expect from a responsible father but then responsible fathers are not common in this day & age.....

you are still a colonel save-a-sket though!

SirShymex:
Lol, biitch, you are a stark illiterate! Just read what you wrote up there - are you dyslexic?

You write like a Sec. Sch dropout, and it is a pity that all the se.men you and ya slutty mum have swallowed never added even an ounce of intelligence to ya IQ, you panda IQ having clod.

Anyway, did you slap ya mum for not allowing ya biological dad raise you? Tell that biitch I wanna bust my nuts on her fvcked face - she is a disgrace to humanity and guilty of breeding a dysfunctional black sket as her daughter loool.

Last reply to you, biitch - you have reduced my IQ by 10 folds. Now you know not to fvck around with me! Bye, cum bucket!

craziebone:
his getting married to another woman is a sign that he is taking a bold step and solving his own issues. The op mentioned that they've been married for about a decade. The man literally put up with the woman's abuse for about a decade! No wonder he caught BP. No wonder when he met another lady, who offered him LOVE, he responded authomatically and naturally. And when he was explaining his actions to his estranged wife, the wife, who is a woman like you and had the option of keeping this info to herself in order to win sympathy, said it with her own mouth/fingers that he was so emotional and said he wouldn't want to die of preventable causes. I am struggling to understand why her hubby is not getting any sort of sympathy from you resident feminists on NL even though he had put up with her for a decade!

If a woman was being emotionally abused for 10 years by her husband, would you have said what you just said?

And no, she is not endangering the lives of her children. Didn't you read it in her last post when she said that the new wife is a good woman? Or do you think i wrote it for her? Didn't you read it that the woman accepted to live together with her in the same house!

There is this idea feminists have about, not polygamy pe se but polygyny in particular. You all think a man having more than one spouse while the other ladies having just him as their spouse means oppression. If that's what you think, why not have the same militant behaviour against polyandry too?

Polygyny can, has and will continue to breed strong, well balanced and well adjusted children in this world. I am from one so i know what exactly i am saying. My younger sister from the same mother is currently in my older sister's house (from different mother but the same father) she is helping her with her kids and she is well taken care of. In fact, she looks better than those of us back home with our father. Polygamy is that beautiful!

craziebone:
don't mind her. After reading the lady's last post, she still had to put up that deceptive post of her's.

From the post she replied to, the op was able to give details she didn't give before. Now that she has given the details and it is clear she bullied her husband out and she is taking responsibility for that, this lady, babyosisi, thinks she is apologizing because her hubby may be feeding her extended family.

From the op's last post, we could see that the man was taken advantage of by his wife, he was nagged to the point he got high blood pressure. The marriage literally became abusive! Now that he has take a step even feminists would advice a woman to take when in a similar situation, they (feminists) are all up in arms crucifying the man.

If the feminist claim that "patriarchy hurts men by not allowing men to voice out and show emotions and therefore should be dismantled" is genuine, why then are they not showing sympathy for a man whose wife has said is now being emotional?

Emaprince:

When I was in school,one of my female friends(married at that time) bought and sent me a 400naira airtime after we travelled back to our different states..by the time school resumed,it wasn't even long before she used it against me infront of my friends..she even claimed I waisted it in calling other women ..eversince then,I don't like collecting anything from any woman..
When I was living with my uncle,our neighbour who was living in a duplex paid for by his wife saw hell..I pitied the man so much..this woman was barren o! But she still had the mind to show the man who was young enough to marry another woman peper..the man dey form crisytain sha..
If the woman travel,their generator no go work until the night she comes back...now tell me what this man is gaining from marrying a rich woman apart from the house?..he can put together some cash and rent a self contain and live hapilly...over here in naija,we always believe that "a woman's money is her own"..and they are proving it right...women are always drunk with money and power..they abuse it a lot..see,all the female hypocrites in this thread will NOT want to have a woman as their bosses in their various working place.a thread have created for that before and they(women) all rejected the oppoturnity of working under a fellow woman citing reasons like abuse of power amongst many others.

Any sensible man just needs to work hard for himself and make his money..no matter how rich a woman is,her money is useless to the husband!

SirShymex:
Stark illiterate and a product of a vicious rape, when you put two and two together in this context, it becomes catch-22 - lose lose biitch. And that makes you a perpetual loser and a failure, you obnoxious tart.

At least I'm my father's son. But it is obvious you never had a father figure in ya life, hence you are bitter, frustrated, and acutely depressed - and you find solace in viciously attacking guys for no reason. Biitch, I'm a different breed, and after this one, there will never be another one cos you will start watching ya caustic putrid mouth.

Your mum is ya nemesis for denying your biological pops the opportunity to be in ya life. If I were you, I will slap that biitch for the way you turned out loool. I'm in ya head now!

humilitypays:
I pity most women shaa.

But all these ladies advising her and other ladies to have a career, have a PhD, have money, bla bla bla before u marry as a lady, does that solve the problem

If u like be richer than Mrs Alakija or Serena Williams, if u have bad behaviour and character, no man in his right thinking sense would marry you and remain with you forever!

The way u guys are talking as if having money as a woman solves the problem...there are millions of wealthy career women being butted out of their marriage by their husband, so its not about money or career or education but character and behaviour!

The lady did not complain of money or not having money, she's just insecure that because she didn't go to higher institution that her hubby will be chasing educated/working class women, which made her to start sniffing around her husband's phone, etc and hence killed her marriage with her bare hands.

Ladies stop thinking that having the best career or being so educated and rich will save you from heartbreak or will secure you the happiest marriage, its pure lie!!!

Many rich, working class ladies are single crying for hubby...many rich ladies have been divorced and being divorced why? Bad character, lack of humility and infidelity!

HUMILITY is a character every man desires in a woman! Not money, not career, not education.

Unfortunately, many ladies become horrible in marriage which scare guys now from getting marriage, and like I hear people say: bad wives come back to their good senses when their husband marries a second wife, and this is what's happening to you.

One of my senior colleague, 50something now said his first wife was so horrible and made his life miserable to the extent he nearly ran mental and ppl advised him to marry a second wife that the wife would change and that once he married a second wife, his first wife became an angel till date....three of them are living happily under one big compound, diff buildings shaa...

So to single ladies reading, be good, don't push your future husband to the wall.

Have good looks and be humble and watch men worship and exalt you!

@poster, sorry, all you can do now is pray and go back to his family that brought you to please help.

Your husband must have endured your bad character for so long before taking this bold step. He didn't do this because he met u via match-making, he did it because you were too insecure, and maybe arrogant, not humble and in fact stubborn! Change, cry to your God in your privacy, confess your sins and mistake and ask God to come to your aid asap!

Don't listen to all these people telling you its because you didn't have a career or education because I know a lady who happened to be a HR staff in one of the top multinational firms here in Nigeria who got butted out of her marriage last year and she almost committed suicide, almost left her job to run away if not for family/friends intervention, in fact, she nearly ran mad....so its not just about career....or money.

I wish you the best but pls renounce those curses you pronounced against your hubby and mistress.

Sweetlemon:
Gbam!

Don't mind all these wannabe feminists.

My aunt no sabi book but that woman can ask her hubby for N1m this minute and he will her N2m instead.

It's all about finding the right one for you. making sure you don't accept just any Tom, D.ic.k, or Harry's ring just because you want to marry.

Babyosisi and co should be preaching more of choosing the right partner than having education, jobs, etc. Those things are important for the woman yes. But that does not mean that a university girl cannot marry while still in school if she meets a nice guys that is financially comfortable enough. Finishing her education and getting a job before marriage to have "something to fall back on" does not automatically guarantee anything.

coogar:
you dunno your math or you are deliberately trolling.

a player has a poor first half where he completed 3 passes out of 10 attempted at half time. he then gets his mojo back in the second half and completes 45 out of his 50 attempted passes....

his overall stats will be....

passes completed = 45 + 3 = 48
passes attempted = 10 + 50 = 60

pass accuracy = 48/60 = 80%

you cannot just average the 2 halves - that's an amateur at work cos it means you are assuming oscar attempted the same number of passes in both halves.

come - what was your grade in SSCE further math?

coogar:
why are you talking like an amateur?
a player can have 0% in the first half and have 90% overall in the second half. do you think they do average of first & 2nd halves to get the true possession stats?

if herrera completes none of the 10 passes he attempted in the first half & then completes 48 out of 50 passes he makes in the second half, his overall pass completion will be 80%.




that is not how it's added, madam.
it's never the average of the 2 halves. they just add all the passes made throughout the game.

i already used an example up there.
0/10 + 48/50 = 48/60 = 80%

your own way of calculating it will arrive at 48%. shirley, i am starting to think you are a spambot.

coogar:
why are you talking like an amateur?
a player can have 0% in the first half and have 90% overall in the second half. do you think they do average of first & 2nd halves to get the true possession stats?

if herrera completes none of the 10 passes he attempted in the first half & then completes 48 out of 50 passes he makes in the second half, his overall pass completion will be 80%.




that is not how it's added, madam.
it's never the average of the 2 halves. they just add all the passes made throughout the game.

i already used an example up there.
0/10 + 48/50 = 48/60 = 80%

your own way of calculating it will arrive at 48%. shirley, i am starting to think you are a spambot.

coogar:
why are you talking like an amateur?
a player can have 0% in the first half and have 90% overall in the second half. do you think they do average of first & 2nd halves to get the true possession stats?

if herrera completes none of the 10 passes he attempted in the first half & then completes 48 out of 50 passes he makes in the second half, his overall pass completion will be 80%.




that is not how it's added, madam.
it's never the average of the 2 halves. they just add all the passes made throughout the game.

i already used an example up there.
0/10 + 48/50 = 48/60 = 80%

your own way of calculating it will arrive at 48%. shirley, i am starting to think you are a spambot.

coogar:
which of young, valencia & fellaini aren't capable of hitting good passes once in a blue moon? milner is animal shyte - he has no football intelligence, he's just there.

oscar can't pass to save his life - 45% pass accuracy in the first half at old trafford. he was that hopeless. they are water carriers, as soon as jose finds a replacement, oscar will be off.

PietroRico:
. Théres no way I'm agreeing with you on those.
When comes to threading a through pass accurately when a striker has started his run, only perhaps mata comes close.
There is NOTHING wrong with his decision making and only God knows what exactly u mean by 'awareness of space'

SirShymex:
Lol, biitch, if you actually know ya pops, you won't be attacking every guy and opening ya legs for every guy to smash, you worthless scum of this earth. It's obvious you've daddy issues. So, who's ya biological father and where's the eunuch from?

See with me, I got my game from my pops, hence I'm old school. And I like women that are traditional like my mum. Can you see why I'm different from you cos I've no parental issues, and I stay true to my roots?

Anyway, I can help you find ya lost pops, my service to humanity.

coogar:
they all have water carriers too.
oscar + ramirez + mikel(chelsea)
mangala + milner(city)

madrid are almost flawless but then their league is weak. we dunno how those pretty players of theirs would hold up in a league like ours.



or play blind in the back 3 like he did for holland to accommodate carrick in the midfield.

PietroRico:
lol. Is this a joke?
U just listed his strength ffs.

SirShymex:
Biitch, I don't need ya respect. Just stay out of my way and this will be your last time.

Nah tart, an overused rag is a sket who's a product of an illicit sex affair, and someone who has been smashed by over 50 different guys, and ra.ped a few times, with wall-less pu.ssy. Not shocking cos you got it from ya mum. It's generational!

SailorXY:
ogbeni, Shirley has typed a lot of contradictions in few minutes to make the grande finale of any negative world event. all these article you typed only heaps vomit on scat.
if she earlier said a playmaker cannot be the same as a deep-lying midfielder, then what is Pirlo & Xavi doing on your list? if Fabregas was a playmaker for Arsenal, what is Fabregas for Chelshit now? if Netherlands had no recognized playmaker & made WC final, why is it imperative we have one to play good football? Okocha did playmaking for Super Eagles from CM, just like Papilo did from basically a second striker position, so?
it is not written in any FIFA book that the playmaker of a team must be in center midfield. many games has flowed through different positioned players in different eras: Ronaldinho in Barcelona, Carrick in United, Pirlo in Juventus, Robben Sneidjer for Netherlands, Sneijder for Netherlands 2010, Sneijder for Inter Milan, Messi Xavi in Barcelona, Giggs in United when he was deployed in the midfield, Viera in Arsenal, Campo in Bolton, di Maria Alonso, now Kroos in Madrid, Nedved in Juventus, Finidi in Ajax, Baggio [b]Del pier[b] in Italy, Maradonna in Argentina, a lot of Everton games flowed through Baines as well; so she has, just like you, proved nothing!