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WORDS ON MARBLE:
"The mind. Its the only sane thing we (humans) have, without it i'm not me." - VIVLY


CLASSIC!!!!

You all please come in here and show some love

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Thavik:
I vote jennimma and vivi

vote one of them

vivly

samflexxy:
[s]you're a big fool you did that your self ediott[/s]

You are a bleeping bastard. Why not point me out if i did that you dimwit?

The desperation is getting too much, a lot of rigging machinery has been put in place

Do not vote with alternate accounts, and if you do make sure we do not find out, the ban may be permanent

Judges you can begin with this one first

Caseless:
I vote rozzay.

[quote author=Phame post=27831906]I vote rozzay.

Judges, do the needful now
CC:
Dygeasy
teeo
mizmycoli
Kachisbarbie
AbuMikey[/quote]Judges please verify and apply appropriate sanctions. If the poster i quoted is still commenting then you all are suspects.

#Puts on my microscopic lens and zooms off to the viewing center for a hunt down of more culprits

Do not vote with alternate accounts, and if you do make sure we do not find out, the ban may be permanent

The poster below (caseless/phame) is one and same person

Caseless:
I vote rozzay.

Phame:
I vote rozzay.

Judges, do the needful now
CC:
Dygeasy
teeo
mizmycoli
Kachisbarbie
AbuMikey

Question 9: What cant you do without?

vivly: My mind. Its the only sane thing we have, without it i'm not me

CLASSIC!!!


MY HONOURABLE VOTE GOES TO:


VIVLY

EnlightenedSoul:
I just wanted to see where he was coming from, and what the point of this whole 'headship' thing was to him.

ok

EnlightenedSoul:
Lol you've obviously never been drilled.

have been but not on this your level...'class drilling'

Hope you not planning to drill me?...lol

thegoodjoehunt3:
Best version of Waving flag is Waving Flag by the Young Artists for Haiti.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nB7L1BIDELc

Really?

will watch it after game time...

Vivly:
Sorry.... my mentions are much

Noted!

We in it together

thegoodjoehunt3:
Waving Flag, not Freedom. Well it is one of my favorite songs of all time. By K'naan.

thank bruv! it was my favourite during the mundial in SA 2010.

Ceremony over


Dayummm...this stadium is world class


Akpabio is da bomb

i love the song playing, Freedom (waving flag)by Kanan

Ok.

Reality setting in....'superwman' gradually giving way


More questions please

pickabeau1:
The drilling was major..lol

But shes not into the wars which happen here so i answered her

lol...you right...

i noticed too, she isnt like the annoyingly aggressive and 'toutish' type

pickabeau1 why is Enlightenedsoul drilling you like this?

she will be like...'na me send you open thread?'

uchetobi:
[s]How will one more kid hurt? When it's not the man that will be lugging around heavy weight in his abdomen for 9 months[/s]

lame excuse

[s]He is not the one that will be doing night vigil or breastfeeding endlessly. Having 3 kids under 5 is not easy[/s]

Lame excuse

Yes, it's a decision couples should take together but if there is any disparity, the person that wants the lesser amount should win because:

[s]It's unfair to put a woman through 9 months of belle things and 3 extra years of pursuing pikin if she is not up to it.[/s] The onus is also on her to take the precaution if this is the case

If it is the woman who wants another kid and the man doesn't even thou he has the money to cater for more kids, will you still describe it as unfair on the woman?

Also it's unfair to put a man through the financial strain of having one more kid of he doesnt want to. And similarly, the man should be the one to take precaution on this scenario

I agree, a couple shouldn't have kids they cannot adequately cater for

Vivly:
vote for Vivly

lol...Being hitting on your mentions almost deliberately, no acknowledgment ...till now, thanks to annypie..

FrancisTony 'attacked' and tore my mind into two, if only this came earlier your 'case' would have been a done deal...

Annypie:
She is still in the race.

lets help her win...The crown wuldnt fit anyone else better

Erm....i know

My mind isn't completely made up on who to go with, but it certainly between Vivly and Jennimma

God help me

Annypie:
nah hun...haf jabo,thanks for all d support.

i haf sha taken my crown oo..dnt knw wah dey r still contesting for.Team vivly

welcome dear

You are still a winner thou...whats up with vivly? she was my favourite in the previous round

FrancisTony:
Lol. Na so we see am O.

Final things.

I was supporting both too and had to switch.

issorai...its sure gonna be a tough final

i might just switch to her too since you are on my neck on her case

Jbluv55:
The one to save is Rozzay sire .

Sure...every one needs a saviour

FrancisTony:
But badly, you have to save only one.

Dafuq

There's a deviation from the norm then, you could vote more than one in previous finals...now that a tough call

FrancisTony:
ShizzleStar,

Your vote for Jennimma was wonderfully appreciated.

It won't be bad if you come back tomorrow.

Thanks

lol...welcome bruv!

You can always count on me for a vote...sure thing

Not happy annypie didn't make it thou, but its all good

My 2 other favorites Vivly and Jennimma still in the game...t'mrow is a date

Annypie didn't make it to the final?



TEAM VIVLY

TEAM JENNIMMA

aisha2:
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apologies...i missed the part in bold and edited accordingly. No one wants to get into an argument with you neither do i have issues with anyone, where is the shouting you talking about?

aisha2:
That is not true. This is the field i work, as much as we encourage consent, you as a health worker CANNOT deny any adult family planning services if she asks for it. You only are in a position to offer advice and let her make her choice. The constitution guarantees freedom to access health care services and any clinic that denies a woman this freedom can be sued or reported.

So a woman can access family planning services without consent however it is always better to have consent

**edited**
in other words FP should be a joint decision

Godmystrength:
making it when you are in her life or before you came into her life should make no difference really... Or are you saying you will not have respect for a woman you married after making all your money??

A woman who has no respect for you doesn't have it for you, whether she is rich, poor, was rich, was poor whatever......

If a woman wants to stop respecting you, before you can blink your eye, the respect is gone so forget about ''your respect is already there''

It does,.... a great deal.

@coloured, maybe in some cases but not entirely true

EfemenaXY:
Okay, in order not to derail this thread, I've posted my response to this in the thread where this topic originated from, here: https://www.nairaland.com/1975528/pills-without-husband-consent/5#27791303

Deal

aisha2:
Amen and amen. True on agreeing on the kind of home you want and working towards it

Agreeing isn't just enough aisha, its keeping to the agreement, that's if it wasn't built on lies and deceit in the first place. Remember in many cases, its not what you see on the outside when you get in.

In all, its the Grace of God.

EfemenaXY:
Okay, let me get this straight.

In your opinion, you think having four kids is the standard number of children applicable to a couple irrespective of their financial circumstances or any other curtailing factor, (assuming they both agree on that number). But in instances where the man wants a higher number say 12 and the woman only wants 2, 3, or 4 the woman must go ahead and birth those 12 kids simply becauseit's the man's prerogative to make the final decision?

I used 4 assuming thats what they agreed on, note emphasis, i never said its the standard anywhere. If he wants 4 and she wants 3, and there's no medical or financial implication, what stops her adding 1 more? The disparity you gave is ridiculous (12 and 3/4) and practically almost impossible, if that ever happens anywhere then they are better off living separate lives. No sane man will want 12kids except he is polygamous

Now you tell me in which part of the word something as ludicrous is / should be upheld simply on the man's say so - if not for the Dark Ages? Or better still, tell me what happens if it's the woman who wants more kids and the man is happy with fewer? His decision still overrides hers?

You didnt tell me the part of the world where only wife does FP without the husbands knowledge/consent simply cos 'its her body'- bright ages right? If she wants 4 and he wants 3, (where finance isnt a problem)1more kid shouldn't hurt. (Its okay if you are surprised with this)

You really don't get it. But then again, you won't be able to unless you experience it.

What sort of "career" will a woman have if she's got a full brood? Aren't you aware that the more kids she has, the more difficult it becomes to hold down any meaningful career? If the man, decides he wants 8 children, how is she going to combine looking after 8 kids with her job? How much time is she going to take off work (maternity leave) without it affecting her prospects? Have you any idea how much time a professional will have to take off i.e: career break to raise one child till they reach pre-school age? Much less if she's got so many kids?

i dont have to experience it personally to know how it feels, but like earlier on you keep giving ridiculous examples. I dont know if wanting more kids have to be 8 or 12? the man may want 1 more child than she wants, but if eg she wants 3 and he wants 5 vice versa, a median, (compromise) would suffice-4kids. Communication and understanding will do this much.

Let's put this in context. Ideally, for the absolute best chance of a child developing well mentally and physically, they should be with mum receiving 100% care from her till at least the age of 3. But how realistic is it - another topic on it's own. Now assuming the man makes enough to cover her 3 years out of work, if she then decides to go on and have 4 or 5 more kids with a two or three year gap inbetween, she'll be looking at 12 - 15 years off work, just to raise their brood.

As long as the child is through with breastfeeding, it could also develop well mentally and physically under the father, have seen husbands who are even better in this than wives. Again, if the disparity in the number of kids they desire to have together is this wide, (4-5) then they are better off living separate lives

Now you tell me, what employer would take on a woman who's been out of work for that length of time? How would she keep abreast of the technological trends in the work place? Would she even remember where the on/off button is on a computer? And this to you, is an ideal situation because she's being "selfless" as you put it - yes?

Why would she lose torch with trends in her work place or any other technological advancements?, having an additional kid will not stop her from keeping abreast will it? unless of course she has never been in torch anyways

I can't make head or tails of your question. But what I've gleaned from your post is that you advocate for the "slave" mentality of women. Sorry, it doesn't work that way, no matter what you feel.

And I reiterate, if the man chooses to be obnoxious with his demands, then family planning it is - otherwise he can go birth 2,000 more kids outside. It's his body after all too.

what you gleaned from my post is up to you, my comment has nothing to do with whatever advocacy you alluded to, its a pity that your so eagerly feministic stance and poise sees my post as such.

There's nothing obnoxious about having 1more kid, but taking pills and having FP without husbands consent simply cos its your body is stewpid and unheard of....and yes its his body too, but can you resist calling him a dog if he goes birthing 200 outside? yes?

who is that editing my comment