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After 12 years of marriage? what took them so long? i empathise with the woman. Let them adopt |
Jbluv55:ok thanks bruv...much appreciated ![]() |
Op why not ask specific questions? |
Jbluv55:thanks bruv, only a chilled bottle of water will do ![]() |
chimkaire:thanks, will be chatting you up in here from time to time ![]() |
EfemenaXY:When they both agree on 4kids and they get them, then they can start family planning. However, its the mans prerogative to make the final decision if they don't agree on a number of kids and not the wife's. Also tell me in which part of the world only wife does family planning. ...and why wont i think women deserve a career? or haven't you seen where successful women combine both family and career almost effortlessly without making any fuse about it like you lots are doing?, a hallmark you can find only in unselfish and submissive women. Now i will throw my question back at you again, where will you classify your 'its my body i do what i want' stance? medical? financial? where? be courteous enough to answer please |
EnlightenedSoul:Thanks too for your troubles |
EfemenaXY:Enough is the number they decide/agree When does having two kids equate to breeding like rabbits? Medical and financial is just okay, so in your own case 'its my body i can do what i want', what grounds do we classify it in? selfless? |
EfemenaXY:thats the selfishness i was talking about...and why cant it be the woman to budge? after all it is even better to have your kids at once (just 2kids for that matter in this case) Since its her body and feels she has the final say, she shouldn't also complain when the man does what he likes with his body, after all its his body too, fair innit? |
EnlightenedSoul:I never said its a sole decision for the man to make, the reason i used agreed...and if you read my comment very well and understood it, you'll see i gave instances where each party may not have the justification to decide alone |
Godmystrength:ok, i did explain why i mentioned abortion thou |
Godmystrength:Now you need to calm down, this wasnt where you first asked the question but in the said ops thread remember? and i already posted my innitial response before you corrected/updated your question |
Godmystrength:ok, didnt see the updated question before i commented, and i mentioned abortion (tablet) cos the man may have scored a goal which the wife didnt want to count as one ![]() If the burden of the child/rens upkeep is on the wife alone at the moment and the man has no reasonable income, then its logical if she wants a delay since she is the bread winner per say......simples |
aisha2:aisha with this, you stand the risk of derailing this thread. Dont forget women also nag and complain a lot too about their husbands 'inadequacies'/'deficiencies' in salons, churches etc...lets not derail pls,...lol |
I am not married but my inputs will be invaluable @babygirlfl Godmystregnth, as Pickabeau1 suggested, i think its better discussed here ![]() Ok,will need to do what she needs to do means taking pills to avoid pregnancy or abort the baby without the husbands consent (for the benefit of those who dont understand or missed the thread on it). First things first, is the husband bouyant enough fnance wise to cater for the number of kids? if the mans daily/monthly income is healthy enough, then he has a good reason to want another child asap. Secondly, if the number of kids they planned/agreed to have together is not complete, it is best for her to have all their kids once so that she can be through with child bearing once and for all and face other things squarly, career etc. I am actually in strong support of this position. If the wife's reason for wanting a delay is the normal lame reasons/rhetorics like; 'do you think its easy to give birth'? 'can you carry pregnancy for nine months'?, 'can yo go through labour like women'? bla...bla...and the one that annoys me most is 'its her body, she can do whatever she likes'...like seriously? what nonsense?, then she's being plain silly. However, if her reason for wanting delay is because she has tears from previous child birth and it isnt healing quickly or she normally gives birth through CS, then she has good reasons to want to tarry a while before she loads again, and its only a callous and selfish man that will insist other wise. Other than these, i think it is highly disrespectful and selfish for a woman to decide alone when she wants to give birth or not |
Lordlexyy:lwkmd...you'll no longer crush me on e-forum, its now on physical assault and the mouth making continues.... and you think you can square me up n a physical combat? you dont even know how callous i am in real life. Anyway i'll leave you to your delusion, dont want to hurt you more than this ![]() |
Lordlexyy:You are very stewpid. If you had a functional brain, you wouldnt have narrowed your comments to igbos if you werent so silly and you are here talking about acting right and arguing constructively. The FOOL is even talking about crush, i laff in ijebu....What an iddiott? You may wish to know that this is a lane i travel very often, so rolling you in the mud on a hangmans noose will be much like a healthy meal to me. You are just about losing your mind completely, a situation you can avoid if you just stop quoting me already. Now take your stewpdity elsewhere you IDDIOT. |
Lordlexyy:shhhhhh....SHUT IT! You displayed your uncouthness with a degree of idiocy and bitterness, yet you dont want to be pointed out. Why the apology if you didnt make a silly comment? Again i ask you, is your dad also sold out since he is in favour of GEJ project? You tried to sound smart but you just sold yourself out. BTW, What makes you think you can stand my verbal asault if i decide to go berserk on you?. I will only frustrate you further if you tempt me, dont even go there Lordlexyy:Welcome |
Lordlexyy:Delusion much.... Its rabid not rapid, Mr Intelligent |
dre11:Maybe a little more often now, as often as i can ![]() |
Lordlexyy:FOOL You couldnt resist the urge to take a swipe on igbos because only them support Jonathan right? You will also suddenly realise that your dad is a blind tribalistic igbo sales boy. Useless frustrated IDDIOTT |
dre11:Broda i dey ansa'o! Naah...Im always on full network, i go AWOL by choice only to hop in from time to time...lol |
chimkaire:lol @China babe i'm good, more like i just came out of the cooler. Since you didnt ask after me, i decided to come find you ![]() |
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Hmmmmm! here we go again..... He wanted out, but suddenly wants you back after giving some flimsy, silly and childish reasons and excuses. It surprises me however that you haven't sensed the need to flee from this guy who is obviously out to wreck and fleece you both emotionally and financially and that's worrisome, wonder why its taking you long to fathom this. ![]() Joke kor, play ni....and you believed him...chai! So if he wasn't at the risk of losing his job, he wouldn't have remembered you were his earlier 'rejected stone'? or doesn't that tell you something? You on your part need to get over this guy and concentrate on making yourself a happier woman without him and you here talking about forgive... .Please stop communicating with him already, how difficult is it? tell him you've moved on and ask him to let you be, and surely you'll meet a better man that will appreciate you. Enough of the dilemma you keep having over this guy and the advice you keep seeking on him. For the umpteenth time, why the haste?? The solution to your problem is MOVE ON with your life! FLEE from him NOW! ...your sister was right. Enough said. |
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So if he wasn't at the risk of losing his job, he wouldn't have remembered you were his earlier 'rejected stone'? or doesn't that tell you something? You on your part need to get over this guy and concentrate on making yourself a happier woman without him and you here talking about forgive...