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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by zeb04(f): 5:49pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
dein77:Amen brother |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 5:52pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: EfemenaXY: How wicked and bad their wives are. How feminisim is spoiling their wives How the west is running marriages after all their mothers tolerated cheating and black eyes small slaps and ordinary affairs now these women will be threatening to leave How unsubmissive wives dont welcome them with hot food even when they find them cheating pet them and kneel and ask them to forgive their inadequacy that pushed them to cheat. Thats how submissive women are supposed to " tame" them not all these gra gra efe them 8 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by 2CatWoman: 5:54pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by EfemenaXY: 5:56pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
aisha2: Lol! If feminism is what it'll take yo prevent a woman from becoming a dead Mrs (i.e: from domestic violence, STDs, or depression from his cheating) because all men are polygamous in nature, then so be it. 3 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by shizzleStar: 5:58pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
I am not married but my inputs will be invaluable @babygirlfl Godmystregnth, as Pickabeau1 suggested, i think its better discussed here Ok,will need to do what she needs to do means taking pills to avoid pregnancy or abort the baby without the husbands consent (for the benefit of those who dont understand or missed the thread on it). First things first, is the husband bouyant enough fnance wise to cater for the number of kids? if the mans daily/monthly income is healthy enough, then he has a good reason to want another child asap. Secondly, if the number of kids they planned/agreed to have together is not complete, it is best for her to have all their kids once so that she can be through with child bearing once and for all and face other things squarly, career etc. I am actually in strong support of this position. If the wife's reason for wanting a delay is the normal lame reasons/rhetorics like; 'do you think its easy to give birth'? 'can you carry pregnancy for nine months'?, 'can yo go through labour like women'? bla...bla...and the one that annoys me most is 'its her body, she can do whatever she likes'...like seriously? what nonsense?, then she's being plain silly. However, if her reason for wanting delay is because she has tears from previous child birth and it isnt healing quickly or she normally gives birth through CS, then she has good reasons to want to tarry a while before she loads again, and its only a callous and selfish man that will insist other wise. Other than these, i think it is highly disrespectful and selfish for a woman to decide alone when she wants to give birth or not 2 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by LewsTherin: 6:03pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength: The wife practicing birth control without the husband's knowledge or support is a wife practicing deception in her marriage. That's the beginning of the end. Both of them have discussed and the husband still wants another baby. Well he is the head of the house and she accepted that when they got married so except there are medical reasons against another pregnancy, I believe she has to do nothing actively to prevent a pregnancy. She can ask God to change the husband's heart if she believes in that but she should not be deceptive about it. That's a wrench in your marriage you don't need 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by EfemenaXY: 6:07pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
LewsTherin: So medical reasons are the only reasons why a man should understand why the wife may not want more kids? So if the man wants a dozen kids, as a submissive and dutiful wife, she must comply? Where does finance fit in? Or her pursuing a career for herself after birthing two kids in five years? 8 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Godmystrength: 6:09pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Godmystrength: 6:10pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 6:11pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by shizzleStar: 6:12pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
aisha2:aisha with this, you stand the risk of derailing this thread. Dont forget women also nag and complain a lot too about their husbands 'inadequacies'/'deficiencies' in salons, churches etc...lets not derail pls,...lol |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by shizzleStar: 6:20pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength:ok, didnt see the updated question before i commented, and i mentioned abortion (tablet) cos the man may have scored a goal which the wife didnt want to count as one If the burden of the child/rens upkeep is on the wife alone at the moment and the man has no reasonable income, then its logical if she wants a delay since she is the bread winner per say......simples |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 6:23pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Following. 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by shizzleStar: 6:23pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength:Now you need to calm down, this wasnt where you first asked the question but in the said ops thread remember? and i already posted my innitial response before you corrected/updated your question |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Godmystrength: 6:24pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 6:27pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
shizzleStar: Is it not selfish and disrespectful for the husband alone to decide when and if the wife will birth? 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by shizzleStar: 6:27pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength:ok, i did explain why i mentioned abortion thou |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by edwife(f): 6:28pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength: Godmystrengh,i do get where you are coming from,but my only worry here is if you dont want to have kids because of financial reasons,then be straightforward with it.Do not deceive your partner,let him know that you are on pills,no matter what he says..... Don't go behind his back,that is wrong.... Let your yes be yes and your no be no..... 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Godmystrength: 6:28pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by beeevan: 6:30pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
LewsTherin: There is nothing like a man with substance and depth, keep it up Sir. 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Godmystrength: 6:30pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by beeevan: 6:33pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength: You got to do what you got to do, when communication isn't making sense, you gat to stop talking and do the needful. 6 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by edwife(f): 6:34pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by beeevan: 6:38pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Godmystrength: If after much talking ,the man is not budging , i will do what's best for me, the woman runs the major risk in child birth, whether she is breeding or not is 70 percent her call. 9 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by 2CatWoman: 6:39pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
This was the guys initial post mygeeZ: |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by shizzleStar: 6:44pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul:I never said its a sole decision for the man to make, the reason i used agreed...and if you read my comment very well and understood it, you'll see i gave instances where each party may not have the justification to decide alone |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by cococandy(f): 6:45pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
2CatWoman:male child to seal the deal. Smh So their marriage hasn't been sealed all the while? 3 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by babygirlfl: 6:47pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
LewsTherin: Thanks and may God continue to bless your home. We are asking if you happily married men can kindly comment more in this section. We know your are busy but do comment when you can. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by EfemenaXY: 6:47pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
shizzleStar: They can discuss from now till "thy kingdom come". And if AFTER all that could be said has been said, with the man refusing to budge, then the woman has the final say. And yes, it's her body. 9 Likes |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 6:51pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
I love Godismystrength but please can we get back to the real topic? Your question are already being answered on the previous thread. You know i love you, you can ask every living soul on earth what to do but at the end of the day the bulk stops at your table Can we get back to mentoring from happily married husbands please 1 Like |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by babygirlfl: 6:55pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
dein77: Please your contributions in this section is needed. |
Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Nobody: 6:59pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
shizzleStar: I read it. You basically listed different instances, and "blah blah blah" as being silly and unfit for consideration. Plainly speaking, only if she's "still in tears" does she have a voice. The man decides so long as he has "the funds". Did I unknowingly sign a surrogacy form? |
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