₦airaland Forum

Stephen0mozzy:
When a man doe not set boundaries on what he'll tolerate in his own nuclear family, that's when extended family will misbehave.

My family know that I love them to the moon and back, they also know that I'm a wicked person (no-nonsense tolerated), so there are things I won't let them suggest about my own wife/children, so that even when I'm no longer around, they'll respect that - but note, you must not become an enemy to your own family sha, because na your wife fo suffer am, they'll say she turned you against them, even though she MIGHT? be innocent.

Respectfully sir, I still insist that when someone is dead, they cannot do nada to those alive. They only pretend while you are there. Trust me, I have seen this a lot. Strong man, strong man, wait and see what happens if that man has one illness or problem. Don't trust anyone but yourself. Do you know how people keep things inside them for years? They pretend for long as they are allowed buy we can never read their minds. We are still animals at the base, I have seen how people change depending on circumstance that's why there are certain things money can never ever ever buy, chief of it is CHARACTER.

Stephen0mozzy:
If you have kids when you marry:
Write a Will!
Write a Will! Write a Will.

Don't completely cut out your immediate family from your assets sha, but ensure properties are willed to your kids and wife - clearly defined - WITH A CLAUSE THAT WHEN SHE REMARRIES, THE OWNERSHIP MUST BE PASSED DOWN TO YOUR OWN KIDS - AND IF THE KIDS ARE YOUNG, THE PROPERTIES CANNOT BE SOLD UNTIL THE KIDS ARE OF ADULT AGE.

If you feel your wife is a skosko, then will the properties to your kids and hire a Lawyer as an executor of your estate, abi as them dey talk am.

Meanwhile, the government (Ministry of Women Affairs) should take that family on an excursion to prison.

Is it even enough? What about honoring contracts?

Men, you can't trust your family entirely because the attitude they display is because you are alive and there. People can change and you can never trust the human instinct not to succumb to greed. If you are alive, do whatever you can to give it to her in her name while you are alive, don't wait for death. The world is not smiling. Families are usually entitled to their sons and see the woman as a foreign entity that came to share space. They don't even look at her as someone who came to expand the family and left her father's home. They just treat her anyhow they like. Only a few with conscience do unto others what they wish done to them. Therefore, in this life, since you know human beings are unpredictable, do what is predictable and within your control. The dead have no fight in the game of the living. Love is not enough.

HacheNoire:
My kids don’t even speak any Nigerian language. The little I tried to instill them will cause a severe accident if they speak it, so I just prefer that English so I don’t die early in life.

How come other ethnicities who migrate are able to not have an accident but we do?

I'm not attacking you or your parenting choice BTW, just open to discussion.

ZombieTERROR:
you mean, Rudeboy

Mr P is so immature and shallow

I hope Pete Edochie doesn't see his tweets

it would break his heart

As in! I don't know what is wrong with them. It's so bad, they are not even hiding it but washing their dirty dishes in the market square. They say blood is thicker than water but twin blood is


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7312109122005060896?lang=en

In the 1960s, Dr. Peter Neubauer and the Louise Wise Services adoption agency launched a highly secretive psychological experiment in New York City. They took identical twins and triplets surrendered for adoption and deliberately placed them into different homes. The researchers specifically chose families of varying socioeconomic backgrounds, ranging from working-class to wealthy households. Crucially, the adoptive parents were told they were adopting a single child, completely unaware that their new infant had a living identical twin or triplet.
The primary goal of the study was to settle the age-old nature versus nurture debate by tracking genetically identical individuals raised in entirely different environments. Dr. Neubauer and his team wanted to find out exactly how much of a person's intelligence, behavior, and personality is programmed by genetics, and how much is shaped by parenting and environment. Over more than a decade, researchers visited the children under the guise of routine adoption follow-ups. They filmed the children, conducted rigorous cognitive testing, and interviewed the families to chart how closely the siblings matched each other as they grew up.
Decades later, the children began discovering the truth by accident. In 1980, Robert Shafran, David Kellman, and Eddy Galland discovered they were identical triplets who had been separated at birth. They initially marvelled at their strange similarities, like smoking the same cigarettes and sharing a unique vision problem. However, the truth of the experiment quickly turned their joy into rage. The triplets, alongside other separated twins like Elyse Schein and Paula Bernstein, realized they had been studied like laboratory subjects without consent.

The researchers ultimately found that genetics held a massive influence over human traits, as the twins frequently developed identical behavioral quirks and even similar mental health struggles. However, the study also proved that environment heavily dictated how those genetic vulnerabilities manifested. Dr. Neubauer never officially published the full study due to fears of public backlash regarding the severe lack of ethical oversight. He eventually had the study's files sealed at the (Yale University Archives https://yaledailynews.com/articles/records-from-controversial-twin-study-sealed-at-yale-until-2065), where they are locked away from the public until October 25, 2065.

AdolfHitlerxXx:
I hate when Africans discard their cultural identity. No offense but Igbos are often guilty of this.

Self hate is a thing. I don't like how Rude boy writes most of the time ...but I side with him here.

People saw Benue and Plateau people slaughtered for years now especially since 2015.... You never see them lament.

But " Cry for Paris " " Cry for Palestine"... Them go carry am for head like Gala. People wey no send us.

Love how Anthony Joshua and Israel Adesanya always identify with their cultural origins.

I don't understand a word of Phyno's rap but I admire him for being unapologetically Igbo.

One thing I love about African languages is proverbs. Some of them, English can never do justice to it. Maybe it's time for someone to give them a proverb but they may hear it, they won't understand its depth

ojuu4u:
The same way nobody can shame his brother, because they can able communicate effectively in french and other international languages.

Well this is a problem for many children born outside. They know their heritage but don't know their language. Semi colon unfortunately

That one no mean say Tinubu go say Je ma'pelle Bola

On a more serious note, you use the language of where you are. I won't blame them for using the language of their location at the moment. Even Achebe talked about writing with English and what was practical but still not losing his roots. It's just the mindset behind why we are doing what we do. It's easier for Africans to be proud of many things but theirs! Inferiority mindset

blackmantis:
Are you sure you are following the same story?🤔

Read it the backwards

They are the same to me but I will leave that message up the way I wrote it. Because I want people to pay attention or set a trap for unnecessary mention

Very very true Mr P. Your language is your identity. No one can shame you for knowing your roots except they are ignorant.

The problem with Nigerians is abuse. Once they know about something, they have this urge to Cho Cho Cho all the time. Looking at it, this is surely not from any reputable law firm but for catching cruise and gossip.

Typing:
No mind Tinubu. Guilty conscience makes him expose himself. But Nigerians are wiser. We will disgrace him from office in 2027

"Everyone claims to be democratic but not everyone is faithful to his or her word. We have governments that are democracies on paper, but not in function. They are democracies in form but not in substance. We have governments that only know democracy primarily through breaching it"

~ words on marble by Jagaban Asiwaju BAT on June 10, 2013

We will soon hear from his ambassador on free polls

christistruth01:
Reno Omokri is settling down in his new Post as Ambassador to Mexico
He doesn't have time for your Nonsense now.

He will return with a Megaphone when he does

.. It's true. The world cup is over now. He's an ambassador for free polls

favor914:
Oblivious Obidients that believe whatever negative nonsense they read about their president .

They are so delulu 🤡

Funny people in this country

This used to be something that was hidden until APC came and Buhari, his Vice and ministers started putting it to our face how much they loved Nigerian education

https://fij.ng/article/oseloka-obi-seyi-tinubu-gallery-of-nigerian-political-class-foreign-graduates/

Allow me to be ignorant but I never heard about him until today and I am surprised Ghana didn't promote him enough.

I have watched a lot of videos on the tallest man in the world and of course it comes with problems. That's why the man moved to the village. Sultan Kösen's height is 8 ft 2.8 in (2.51 m) whole this man is 7ft 4 in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HipdY8pWJ2k


I am also just finding out that the tallest African man is 8 ft 2 in

omooba969:
I remember that PDP boasted more than this during their days.

It's a matter of time.

They will rule for 60 years

They never learn

anonimi:
That is a more generic version of his statement to fight for power, grab it and run with it.

Jagaban of Borgu was never a democrat. He only pretends to grab power and dump those who help him get it, once they are no longer useful to his next goal.


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The man abs his wife are insecure. The other day, the wife was telling us how oyinbo people look at her. Like what's that

MissOpe:
Six seven, u sha wan lo mi lofun ...
Okay you don win me oooo..

I accept..

Men, sha too stubborn people , dem no dey quick give up ...chai..

U don win me ooo i agree

Hahaha it's not fight na. You funny women. I wrote cunny but I'm sure autocorrect is female

Why is there so much cancer today that there is even cancer for babies

nairalanda1:
Not sure about this theory, but it does make some sense, and it may also account for why APC lost votes in the North.

EVEN THEN, APC lost far too many votes in 2023 compared to 2019 for this to be the only reason

(BTW, the cashless policy of Buhari was a good idea, but as EL-Rufai said around that time, most Nigerians, especially in the rural areas, don't have access to POS, talkless of banking service).

Let him be chasing straws instead of the real issue.

Factual list of Nigeria’s presidential election winners since 1999, including each winner’s name and the percentage of valid votes they received.

1999 – Olusegun Obasanjo: about 62.78% of valid votes.

2003 – Olusegun Obasanjo: about 61.94% of valid votes.

2007 – Umaru Musa Yar’Adua: about 69.60% of valid votes.

2011 – Goodluck Jonathan: about 58.87% of valid votes.

2015 – Muhammadu Buhari: about 53.96% of valid votes.

2019 – Muhammadu Buhari: about 55.60% of valid votes.

2023 – Bola Ahmed tinubu: about 36.6–37% of valid votes.


Fact: Tinubu remains the most unpopular president to have won the Presidential elections.

MissOpe:
We no dey do without gini??

You no dey see say lesbians dey marry?

Even though them dey get their issues tooo but you no go hear say them return bride, them do this when the relationship pafuka.....

Why does one lesbian behave like a man?

What about the fact that lesbian relationships have the highest rates of domestic violence than other ones? That's men too 😃

Henix:
They just have to support their son and be happy with life. There's no need to try to control or dictate the life of an adult.

Happiness is free!

Exactly my thought! Parenting is not easy. I see them playing politics with this challenge and it may just open a Pandora's box that should never be opened

SixSeven:
"They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you."

seunmsg:
The bold caption appeared on February 2, 2009 of the Scroll magazine.

I wanted to quote this one too. Back to back

Barrister Darlington has done it again. He should be warned to speak to the issues and analyze them. I watch them but their bias is obvious.

Okay we have heard. What about this one?

The people deserve the leaders they get.

MissOpe:
Without us e o ni wa ni ile aye now......
You wont be alive...

We have the ability to kill and make alive....
When i found out that I was carrying the pregnancies of male children, I aborted them danu danu and I forsee a world where women will come together and birth only female children, without the help of men....
Then we will enjoy the Matriachal system as opposed to these patriach's world ...

Ah. Èwọ̀

You terminated the next generation. No wonder. It's those boys that are disturbing you now. Dem no go let you rest

You ladies cannot do without us too. Have you heard of invisible woman syndrome?

Invisible woman syndrome describes a social phenomenon where women over 50 feel overlooked, irrelevant, or unseen by society. Around 70% of women report experiencing this shift, which stems from intersecting ageism and sexism in a youth-obsessed culture

The same men they despised so much, they now want their attention again. Na still man wahala. Women. I no de follow dem argue. What they say and what they do, na only una understand yoursleves. That's why you need men

Boys to the world 😎

MissOpe:
Six seven, chai your wahala too much ooooo.

Leave me oooo.

You wahala too much o jare...

Sha let women breath...cos I know it's us against the world of men.....

Let men breathe too Obìnrin!

I stopped here

He loves talking about prostitutes—

I don't believe this. This is clearly an AI article. I can see the signs already.

Naija no be your mate. Go and ask Ramaphosa to meet our President face to face. I know that envoys have their own role to play in international diplomacy but this is cheeky coming from South Africa. Send envoys to speak to their mates, not our president

Ramaphosa that did not waste time flying across the continent to meet Trump when he claimed there was white genocide is now sending envoys to us. He went there himself. He knows what he's doing. He's testing us like Morocco. Envoy ko, enjoy ni

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXI6f6JEiA8?si=upjHJwgLSq1WwDB3

MissOpe:
It doesn't necessarily protect the woman, the rites are not paid to the woman but the woman's family who get to enjoy the ;Ddidun obe that comes with the rites....
And once the rites sre paid, the family of the man now sees the woman as their properties, where she has to respect everyone in the family, submit to the man, abide by the rules and regulations of the family....which to me is outright nonsense if it is not mutual, one of the nonsense that irks me the most is that a woman would be calling children old enough to be her child aunty just because they didn't give birth to such child in her presence....

In my honest opinion, man and woman should just agree as partners in business to come together for marriage, no rites must be paid to Nobody, every party should bring 50/50 to the table, both contribute their quota to ensuring the relationship thrives, not one person seeing the other as glorified slave abd servant just because they paid bride price and rites ......

rites are not paid to the woman but the woman's family who get to enjoy the

Now I know you are whining me because she is not property. Again you are proving my points for me. We cannot take the bad cases and use it to judge. At a point in time, fathers stopped collecting what they should collect because they claim they are not selling their daughters. But the bride price was for both families to be accountable for protecting and preserving the marriage. This is culture again. It wasn't the items, but the symbolism of it. This is why we need to understand culture. What is it trying to do? Why is it there? Abuse is inevitable if you don't know why we did things the way we did/do. The bride price is even a collateral for the woman that in case. Even the laws the British left us to be using for marriage were from our culture. However, the British did not simply adopt all traditional customs as law. They modified, restricted, or rejected customs they viewed as incompatible with colonial policy or English legal principles. And that is why we have confusion today. On a more serious note MissOpe, every system will be abused, even the best of them but culture is who you are. It carries your history, values, traditions, language, and the ways you understand and connect with the world.

If I support men today, women will think this one is part of them. If I support women tomorrow, the men will call me simp. Truth hurts when you call out the manipulation of each gender but if you think culture doesn't matter, you will eventually get into issues and realize that it's lack of culture that did not make you understand why people behaved in some way.

I don't believe a man should do 50/50. I've written about that before. It doesn't help men.

SixSeven:
Repost👇

I made a post about their women too. You are just a tool to give them babies and provide for them. The same reason some women want to have babies, a getaway card from life responsibilities. Dem no de tell person when life show you shege



As if what I wrote here wasn't enough, I just read this study that reveals what women would do if they won a $1m vs what a man will do but look at this one where women marry and divorce men, what do they say? It's hard for them to be alone when there's no provider

“I’ve divorced four times and each time I’ve had a party.”

In Mauritania it’s thought half of all women get divorced at least once with some remarrying multiple times. Many choose to celebrate their divorces but for the poorest there are serious consequences. pic.twitter.com/TC7il1ottH

— Unreported World (@UnreportedWorld) May 10, 2024

A man will provide without conditions most of the time but that very same thing is very hard for women to do unconditionally, another reason why they become bitter.

I am reminded of this movie 👇

While he was struggling financially he found out is wife had $280,000 in her bank account pic.twitter.com/CVdqSdxrwm

— Abdulkabir (@olawale__01) May 14, 2026

Men, know this and know peace, WOMEN ARE NOT BUILT TO BE PROVIDERS. The moment you know that, you would have figured out a lot of things you need to know as a man.

Kalulu44:
See eh! Let's even leave men being broke at that 19, 20 or so and mileage or body count of women of 30 and above.
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The truth is 90% of the time if a 20yr old boy and a girl stands together now. You will call the girl either the boy's elder sister or aunty.
Girls are naturally bigger and matured than their male counterparts of same age.
Like for example I had my first child at 25 by a girl of 18.
Honestly eh! At that 18, she was way bigger and matured in stature than me.
Only what I beats her in is in intelligence, knowledge and ideas.

That knowledge and intelligence is security to her. That you know the way the world works better than her and boys her age.

I have a question for you.

Is it good to take food out of a buffet?