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letskeeptalking:
1. I guess it’s just the fear of the unknown for me at this point!

2. I definitely know I want better for my kids. But my oldest recently told me that she knows I no longer want to be married to her Dad, but she doesn’t want to be from a broken home. She wanted him to “forgive him” and “give him another chance”. Of course she’s 12, and doesn’t really get it. So it got me thinking if she’s just being a kid, or if she will end up resenting me in the future.

3. I always have a choice, it’s my kids I’m worried about.

1. If you don't try, you won't know but are you ready to pay the price of what you want to try out? That's what makes us adults.

2. Most people stay because of them or pretend to play the role until a stage. This one will stay with you for a long time because we marry our childhood trauma so she is likely to carry this into her own future but her ask is very important to consider, for her mental health. Both of you need to consider this request she made even if you decide to separate or role play because children don't listen to parents, they watch them.

3. Back to number 1 and the crux of the matter.
There have been cases where the couple decided to role play for the kids sake till a certain age. It was a loveless marriage but they created the love story for the kids. You don't go out often as a family, go out once in a month. Create events. Children remember memories and they learn from them.

It isn't easy pretending to be happy when you are not or when you have mentally checked out but if you are so worried about her, that is my suggestion because the cost of your daughter's mental state when you leave is likely going to be more expensive than the current state of affairs. And you know what that means.

Someone told me that my children will love me more in the future when they see what I endured for their sake. But will they, really I mean they see us live seperate lives and they know it’s not right, or they will eventually. Again, what kind of example am I really setting for them?

You are not in a position to tell. Children will eventually grow up and know the truth either way. It will take time but what they need now is a PARENT, not an evaluation of who did right or wrong. You can't predict the future and you can't see how she will view life in the future. What you think is the red line can look blue to her and she will not understand your rationale, so it's better to look at it 360 than what will people say type of decision.

They say it's an old fool who judges a matter listening to one side alone but how has your husband responded to her state of mind that believes mummy and daddy must be good together and what else does he do that makes you fight? Is it the cheating alone or there's something else? Or does stepping out creep into the resentment at home and it causes an argument? Do you have a son?

What childhood trauma are you and him dealing with? Him here is your husband. It's something most of us run away from. What is the family back in Nigeria saying about your issue or they don't know about it yet?

Edit: I could have easily told you to leave and do this and that but because of that child you mentioned, I am careful. The only one I have seen people try is that pretend role and the children never know about it until both partners stop acting the script. Director: cut!

Where are you? Doesn't sound like it's in Nigeria, is it? Your location can shape this story.

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Meta said you should talk to your neighbours as if they can hear you. That's how you know artificial intelligence from real. Have we tried talking to our governments? How Nigerians became comfortable with this thing is insane, some people use industrial generators that work with diesel. Now everyone is going solar too because of government negligence. Tinubu himself changed the power supply at the Villa to solar. GCFR
Generator Commander of the Federal Republic.



https://www.tiktok.com/video/7532602447609564421

Generator noise is not the loudest of your problems, it is the fumes that are the silent killers and probably one of the reasons for the increase in cancer cases in Nigeria without us knowing. Polynuclear Aromatic Hydrocarbons (PAHs) are a major component of fuel generator fumes. Carcinogenicity of these compounds has long been established. Those pollutants are not safe for your air and direct contact with your skin, water and environment. Imagine sitting behind the exhaust of a vehicle. That's what we are doing to ourselves.
If you cannot sleep well because of the noise, your health is affected. If you cannot hear well, because of the noise, your hearing is affected.
If you cannot breathe well because of the smoke, your health is affected. If you have the money, switch to solar but what sense does that make if you still live in an environment where your neighbours still use generators? You see why Nigerians need to solve this problem as a collective instead of doing I beta pass my neighbour competition.


Who did this to us All I want to say is they don't even care about us

After some time, marriage becomes a chore where you play your roles as husband or wife, father or mother or in laws. In playing various roles, you lose yourself and you forget how to love yourself. Slowly, that person dies. And if you can't give what you don't have, love becomes a drug, which is a dependency on another person, instead of giving it out to the world 💔


At topic, she's testing you. You asked a question, close the survey portal. Don't solve the problem. You are just a passing time. If she wants you, she will leave him. Women love fantasy, don't be an actor in her dreams, wake up and smell the coffee ☕

I just watched Natasha clash with another Senator, now this. Aside from the fact that this Senate is the worst, they don't act like they were schooled. And we have APC to blame. For letting the leadership of the Senate to go to someone as experienced as Akpabio lead the house.

Senator Natasha Walks Out On Committee After Argument With Senator Ndubueze

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Yn0Mu_JCPs

APC should use the state resources to help us remove the candidates with questions so we know who is credible enough to challenge Tinubu in the coming elections

I remember when Oshiomole tried to say that just because he was once a Governor, he was a senior in government. His colleagues immediately reminded him that this is the Senate, you are not a senior here. 🤡 Ndume was seated there that day. If you are not careful they will ruin that place with their executive rascality. They had so many sycophants when they were governors so the reality of being among equals in the Senate is not normal to them. You can already see it in Akpabio. If the Senate does not want to ruin itself, stop letting governors who have not been schooled be your leaders but we know those who were chosen and those who were chosen by Una Oga. Listen to Oshiomole, you must listen to me just because I was a Governor. They keep making a phool of themselves because they are so full of themselves.

Oshiomhole to Ndume: Keep Quiet When I Talk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKxjxjVlPwE

When you hear Akpabio talk, he doesn't talk like someone who represents the people, he talks like he is your master. He talks with disdain, haughty and always insulting others that they don't know how the legislature works 🤡 Saraki was once a Governor and became SP but IYKYK. Let me off my mic 🎤

I thought of this man yesterday

anytexy:
Nawaoo! People are just condemning the Doctor without even reasoning to figure out why he made such suggestion which to me is in order if both parents agree to that

That doesn't make him a family counselor. Brother in law? How's that his business?

Didn't they say he is a democrat? A builder of men? A visionary? That man is just a greedy old man. Who was it that said if you let Tinubu in, he will grab more than he can take? Think about being a landlord of Lagos and Rivers 🤡

The greedy can never be satisfied. What they condemned when they were in opposition, now they are doing it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtjpjOPjuUk

Those who wanted to rewrite his story just made me chuckle. Guy didn't want Fashola serve a second term simply because he wanted to be President. He didn't want anyone to have a record to be compared to him or outshine him. They are just lucky Fashola did not show craze like Ambode did, someone they eventually sent away under the guise of GAC. They now claimed that he made Fashola, he built Lagos, Ambode did not follow master plan. You see how their stories are not consistent. They then called Osinbajo a betrayer. These ones are lords and serfs. Those who refuse to learn history are doomed to repeat it

Amaechi's Defection To APC Is Root Of Rivers State Crisis -- Wike Pt.1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWaYorTOuZc?si=KB-Qbb9SJ5X5AYK-

I hope this news serves as a warning to the owner of Sahara Reporters too.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJux0aoWUqI

I will keep reposting

This is a BIG HUGE DISGRACE to Nigeria. APC has failed beyond measure. Cowards.

There's no way they want to spin this story even if Tinubu meets King Charles, the people who colonized us. He goes to France more than Macron visits us. What is he running from? I thought this was something they abused Atiku for, saying that he used Saraki's diplomatic immunity to go to US when he eventually went to the US. Mr President, in international diplomacy, equals meet equals. You are our President, abi you no be jagaban again

APC touts the data that Nigeria is the most educated group in the US and they say our president needs to travel for so-called foreign investors. Why is he so scared of the US? It's a cowardly behaviour to put your wife that has no role in international diplomacy when you are the leader. The first family


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hd2rlCOO3bs


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jIVzzccJyHE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4Cn47ePFAU

They reduced us to the level of Haiti, Somalia. So sad. I have no nice words for APC because what they did in 2014-15 is documented. Wicked souls. When two brothers fight over inheritance, it is the stranger who takes their father's house. They sabotaged this country's sovereignty back then and look at where we are today. Jonathan was so hit, and I didn't support him but you will think the critics were any better. No, they are worse. That's why they are cowards. They got the power and abused it. When Jonathan said they were bitter, you will think this was election sound bites but listen to it again, he is so right:

Jonathan Slams APC, Says There's "Bitterness In Thier Hearts"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32aKgc0j0Ws



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtjpjOPjuUk

Elimination process has begun. I like this. You may hear El Rufai in this too. Since we are now using the US for our elections and not UK anymore, this fight go long. I like it

Obi/Saraki recommended

PheelzAlmighty:
Nigeria has been reduced to a comedic contraption

They reduced us to the level of Haiti, Somalia. So sad. I have no nice words for APC because what they did in 2014-15 is documented. Wicked souls. When two brothers fight over inheritance, it is the stranger who takes their father's house. They sabotaged this country's sovereignty back then and look at where we are today. Jonathan was so hit, and I didn't support him but you will think the critics were any better. No, they are worse. That's why they are cowards. They got the power and abused it. When Jonathan said they were bitter, you will think this was election sound bites but listen to it again, he is so right:

Jonathan Slams APC, Says There's "Bitterness In Thier Hearts"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32aKgc0j0Ws

APC is a disgraced party for using Remi Tinubu to play the Trump card. If PDP tried this back then, they would have screamed red murder.

They are the realest definition of hypocrites.

Mrs Tinubu traveling when people are killed back home, her husband going AWOL in January when people were killed. All of these they would have never accepted if PDP was in power. They cried foul when Jonathan traveled to Brazil and said he was a trainee president who didn't care about us. Look at them today.

If you listen to her interview, she still made it about herself. She will make diplomatic blunders that will put this government into more trouble and Trump will come harder for you.

I saw this comment online and it just captures my thoughts on the recent efforts of propaganda using Mrs Tinubu.

Begining of comment 

Mrs Tinubu has no official role in this government and I am surprised no one is calling her out as ACN/CPC and civil society did when they were in opposition. Mrs Tinubu is only the wife of the President. She cannot order the armed forces, sign any executive decisions or pass laws even if she was a former lawmaker. The Tinubu government should be bold enough to use our institutions and stop hiding behind shadows in dealing with the US. They know these tactics because they too use it in their politics. What is Tinubu afraid of? Buhari met Trump. Yar Adua met Bush. Obasanjo met Clinton. What is Tinubu afraid of?

If Tinubu passes away like Yar Adua did as President, Mrs Tinubu will not take over like Turai, she will leave and let the number 2 man come in. If Mrs Tinubu passes like Stella did, the Presidency will go on like normal and they will recognize a day or two for personal mourning. I don't know why we never learn from history. Pump this money you are using for propaganda into our institutions. We have well qualified people who can do this work, stop going through the corners.

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This is a BIG HUGE DISGRACE to Nigeria. APC has failed beyond measure. Cowards.

There's no way they want to spin this story even if Tinubu meets King Charles, the people who colonized us. He goes to France more than Macron visits us. What is he running from? I thought this was something they abused Atiku for, saying that he used Saraki's diplomatic immunity to go to US when he eventually went to the US. Mr President, in international diplomacy, equals meet equals. You are our President, abi you no be jagaban again

APC touts the data that Nigeria is the most educated group in the US and they say our president needs to travel for so-called foreign investors. Why is he so scared of the US? It's a cowardly behaviour to put your wife that has no role in international diplomacy when you are the leader. The first family


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hd2rlCOO3bs


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jIVzzccJyHE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4Cn47ePFAU

Mirasteel:
I thought guns are prohibited in Canada? too bad.

May those that are dead may their souls rest in peace.

It's the same thing in Nigeria. For some reason, we have Gunmen in Nigeria

Copied the wrongest behavior from the USA.

Mbanda:
Why is the picture in black and white and, what is the model of the car in that picture?

The photographer is Sunmi Smart-Cole and it was published in a BBC story in the picture below (2019). Look for it and see everything in the story. They were all black and white.

He has taken many of the most recognizable family portraits of the Obasanjos, including a historic 1979 photo of the family at the time of Obasanjo's first handover of power from military to civilian rule. Smart-Cole was chosen to accompany then-President-elect Obasanjo on a 28-country tour before his inauguration. This journey was intended to restore Nigeria's international image, and Smart-Cole captured historic images from the trip, including Obasanjo's meeting with U.S. President Bill Clinton at the White House.

You can learn more about him here


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUc5lV97-S0



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l86SXTQ_010

Baawaa:
This poster is a mumu,this is not 1998,show the picture to your daddy and he will tell you the year

ZombieDredd:
This is not 1998

Because Nigerians do not like to give credit to sources they use and they are not punished enough for plagiarism in schools, they do not understand the need to reference and reference properly. Attribution doesn't take anything away from you.

AMINDA:
Who else have noticed that threads from Reno and FFK now have all comments on the first page from obviously sponsored trolls and bot accounts? Is this how they intend to show Tinubu that they are working and deserve the ambassadorial posting? They definitely need to do than this.

They wait for you to sleep at night then open their cyber cafe to load the comments. When you wake up, you think the opinions of the common man has changed. Weak propaganda. Truth does need PR. IYKYK

World class restroom?🚽

I don't normally insult people but I must say, you guys are nuts with this description of a 🚾

Shit business is serious business - Late Otunba Gadaffi 🪦

I advise everyone to watch this interview and educate themselves. It is so sad that we have more wrong information than correct information and we are not hearing from the experts in charge.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhfhzUheH40


We have the world's leading expert on treating snake bites yet no one has heard from him. E are hearing bloggers and uneducated people talking about snake bites. Chai

Prettychild:
If catering for the family is what makes you a man and good father, then that’s a shame. I know many women who do that too does it now make them a man/good father?

Many women who are the providers? You are indeed a pretty child...

Diamond098454:
Politicians and there propaganda

I can't trust his protest anymore. He is protesting again.

chrisxxx:
Odili/Marshall Harry. Nobody remembers this.

Time changes yesterday. Harry Marshall!

When you know the function of the legislature is to represent the voice of the people and do that job they are elected for and that's why they are called people's Rep, that's when you will see who are the nay sayers or neigh sayers.

You clearly don't know how democracy works and the role of opposition in a democracy. That's why you call a protest, a constitutional right agents of destabilization. When this man here protested, what was he? 🤡


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtjpjOPjuUk


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPUG_vLjn44

The joke is on you my friend.

When you know the function of the legislature is to represent the voice of the people and do that job they are elected for and that's why they are called people's Rep, that's when you will see who are the nay sayers or neigh sayers.

Iamajike:
Lagos is the headquarters of politics presently in the country, so who's the 001 in lagos state?

If you can solve this, you have answers to your question.

If your question implies that Ogun, Katsina and Bayelsa were the HQ when the Presidents were there, then the logic is flawed.

Wake up and smell the coffee. Are they there for you or are they there for what you have, what you are and who you are? A sage says pretend to be dead and you will know who mourns you.

Hmmmmm2024:
You are not current. In accepting Yusuf, ganduje made it clear that Yusuf is the 001...go and look for the video..." In our own State, the governor is the 001"

This is how you fail simple questions in examinations. Cho Cho Cho Cho. Thank you, your answer has been noted Mr Current.

There's no way they want to spin this story even if Tinubu meets King Charles, the people who colonized us. He goes to France more than Macron visits us. What is he running from? I thought this was something they abused Atiku for, saying that he used Saraki's diplomatic immunity to go to US when he eventually went to the US. Mr President, in international diplomacy, equals meet equals. You are our President, abi you no be jagaban again

APC touts the data that Nigeria is the most educated group in the US and they say our president needs to travel for so-called foreign investors. Why is he so scared of the US? It's a cowardly behaviour to put your wife that has no role in international diplomacy when you are the man. The first family


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hd2rlCOO3bs


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jIVzzccJyHE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4Cn47ePFAU