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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujrxoWBJkVM



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0MLtQNIbEw

Correction

Former INEC Chairman and Ambassador Designate Mahmood Yakubu

AI should not be doing the job of people who have a portfolio to show workings. Quite unfortunate that what the spokespersons should be doing they don't do, they play politics and attack dog on behalf of the President instead of talking policies.

AI is known to make mistakes so I won't waste my time telling it to qualify propaganda. Just know that the common man on the street knows how to feel than being told what to feel. If you read between the lines, you will get it. If you don't forget about it.

Wickedtruths:
The day you get a US visa, you will abandon all these nonsense you are typing.

This does not disprove what he highlighted. The day you abandon this type of thinking, you will see clearly. Mind you, not everyone wants a US visa even if they give them free. That is the wicked truth you should be aware of.

The investigation is to find how he fell. If he fell himself or he was felled. IYKYK

fasho01:
I'd say just be kind and respectful to your in-laws but be yourself 100%. They'll like you and reciprocate respect to you based on who you are not based on your eye service and what you are pretending to be.

Ps: I am talking from a man's perspective though

💯
You won't be able to satisfy human beings. We are fault finders by default and unsolicited advisors. Most of the problems we have in marriages come from family. They have one advice or the other on how to run your home and men are naive because, unlike the past when men dem tutored boys on how to be a man, these days, we have dropped those teachings. Men are no longer being mentored by other men dem on how to be a man before marriage.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7511713893325049093

Nollywood was not being dramatic in showing those movies of bad mother in laws. And we all know why it's usually the mother. Also, your family always has an opinion on your choice. You chose your own flower but they just don't like it and they will never like it no matter what you do. It's the attachment theory where they find it hard to see you go and cannot believe you have moved ahead as an adult by choosing another person in your life. Lastly, our people love aproko. They never mind their business. They are always looking for how to make your own decisions for you. This is why marriage is for the discerning. What they don't know, they can't destroy. Even at family events, don't assume the belly of everyone is clean. Some people like drama and it's what they know about you they want to use as agenda for family meeting. If a man should stand his ground, with no fault of the lady, our people will assume that it's the woman controlling him, why? Is he a dunce that cannot think for himself? What are we afraid of losing? I understand sha, many men don lose themselves in the name of marriage so they always put a check on them to shine their eyes Men have an easy pass as inlaws but they are mere property in the eyes of their families. And it's the inheritance they are after so the meddlesome interloper (your wife) does not take control of your assets.

After some time, marriage becomes a chore where you play your roles as husband or wife, father or mother or in laws. In playing various roles, you lose yourself and you forget how to love yourself. Slowly, that person dies. And if you can't give what you don't have, love becomes a drug, which is a dependency on another person, instead of giving it out to the world 💔

“Every crow thinks its own chick is the whitest.” (Parents/family overlook their children’s faults.)
Blood is thicker than water so think about it. Your inlaws are wilfully blind. They will tolerate the excesses of their sons and daughters who have lived with them for 20+ years but if you show any bad behaviour that their own child does, they will come for you. Meanwhile, they can't do anything to their own child because there's nowhere to send blood to but you can always send this stranger out. If it's the man, they are afraid of rebuking him so that he does not stop sending support money to family. If it's the woman, they are afraid of rebuking her too because more women take care of their family through support money than a man who is trying to build his own new house. They also want to protect the so-called family honor so they are never wrong in their own eyes. The lizard that ruins its mother’s funeral is the one she praised most.


Inlaw, outlaw....
“One law for them, another for others.” (Double standards.)
As a man you quickly learn how to protect your own nuclear family you are building from your siblings and parents and extended family. Don't take that girl to the slaughter house and being a man is how you use tact to avoid situations that will make her the subject matter. Don't be a manipulated man because women are always cunning, your mother and sisters too. Don't let your family run your own house on your behalf and start running your own show. Be careful what you tell your family about your wife and your household. It is the information they know they use to attack you, trying to run your adult life when they should know their boundaries. I know you find this difficult to believe but marriage will open your eyes and you will know how to manage women. We are wilfully blind and someone who cannot take care of their own house has the best advice for other people's homes. That's how our families are to in-laws. We want to teach her how to wash vegetables when our finger nails are dirty. True righteousness is being fair even when it goes against your own people. Injustice is the opposite. This is why we have elders in the house, usually a patriarch who wants the family structure to be held and knows his own people and their manipulation tactics.

Afrobasic:
The way this lady annoys me enn... she makes Joey Barton seem like a nice guy.

Plus her face looks so punchable.

She proved me right on the other thread that women will bring drama that will bore the game.

Electoral art or act is not what we need. It's for the people to come out and participate in the process. One of the things they are counting on and they are doing it deliberately is to make sure you're not interested in the process so they can rig as usual. And they are relying on your disinterest to win like they do in LG elections. Electronic or not, it's about the people's votes count and our politicians in power don't want that to count because they know they can't even account for their current positions, how can they allow you to now count them out of second term

Tinubu Conceded Almost Everything to Make Buhari President

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7XCqsYMRWY
Even Lai Muhammed said they had to threaten fire and brimstone to get to the position of winning the election

budaatum:
So, Omokri lost money he sent to his village and that's the reason he doesn't want election results transmitted electronically?

I think he should send more money to his village to learn how to ensure it gets there, and then he might see how efficient and effective it might be to electronically transmit election results.

He didn't even answer that question, he danced around it. Seun asked him a yes or no question if he sends money to his relatives in the village. Such a dishonest fellow. I listened to that interview knowing my brain cells would be dried up so I laughed all through his embarrassing responses.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrfJQMTEung

We should give you advice on how to fornicate? This is not a Fornication Advisory Forum.

^^^you will have to read to comprehend to understand the message otherwise I'll have to conclude that I'll keep explaining at ground level while the point is on the rooftop.

Who are the mods that push these low quality contents to FP?

Your moniker is enough to take you as unserious. I was going to say that you used your sample size of your aunt to discard out African culture and tradition. You are indeed the child who uses his left hand to show his father's house.

Are we on this topic again

I thought it had been exhausted last year on this thread:

9jatriot:
It has been more than 12 hrs, you have not been able to bring the so called public document that shows Obi was chairman of any bank.

For folks who want to know, one of the biggest lie ever told by hoedidient is that Obi founded Fidelity bank, that is a lie, the adjusted form of the like is that he was once a chairman of Fidelity bank, that is also not true. The only good thing about this lie is that I cannot find any record of Obi himself making the claim to being a chairman in any of these banks even though he has never made any effort to deny the lie.

And they brought proof for him and you too. You are not properly informed. You are just scattering here and there. If Reno says Obi was the owner of Etisalat, who is to prove that? He who alleges must prove. You now want Obi to waste his time when he tells you everytime to go and verify. First they said he did not chair Fidelity, now they are talking about shares. Get something better to do with your time. At least we can verify some of these things, the man that worked in Mobil and became so wealthy from working as an accountant, how do you explain that 🤡 They said he worked in Deloitte, those ones rejected that. All the record no set but it's this one you have time for. This one that there are public records of what he did before he retired to become Governor and he speaks about it. When have you heard Tinubu publicly talk about his time at Mobil or Deloitte and reference it? Why can't he do that? Because there is no alibi. Truth does not need backup. Go and verify vs go to court 🤭☺️

GloriousGbola:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onVs2quXMRI

the man did same and more for hushpuppy

Las las school no be scam. For he who is patient eats his fruits daily while the uneducated are tied to the apron of their makers. Education can never be underrated and if the only thing you have is money, then you are nothing but what money can buy. Na biggie talk say mo money mo problems. The educated man wey think say him life do spoil no know say the wisdom of his education na im make am de analyse for nairaland.com while those guys no rest for life or prison.

To measure a human being by money alone is to reduce life to the marketplace. In our culture, wealth without character is poverty. If education does not give you humility and respect for others, then you are not yet educated whether you sit in a university or on the internet.


As an Ibadan boy, I thought Freeze would understand the virtues of character. Instead he zeroed it down to a foolish comparison of people who don't make up to $200,000 advising this guy. You wey make 200k per year, no be sense make you know the value of cars. You go crash car dem give you? If education is expensive keep trying ignorance, you gonna learn. It's okay to advise people to put in work and learn something but it's the sound of an educated man to think that all content creators will make thousands of dollars. It's an emerging economy depending on a tech platform. If Trump say make YouTube close do Nigeria, wetin you wan do? What other skill do you have? Who will pay you to be a jester? Was it eeditots that built the platform they are streaming on? Them no de argue with people who zero everything down to money. It is like arguing with a fool, you will look foolish to them because all they will say is who you epp? How much you get 🤡

This message is for Peller and those who think the same way


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7601687491996912926

Schooling is not the only path to knowledge, but arrogance is the clearest sign of ignorance. The truly wise person does not mock others, he understands that every path has its discipline.

Were they trying to sell a product here? If you read the interview, this sounds like the 19th-century snake oil salesmen” tactic. Our fathers did not take that your melecene to fire at 80-90. Na white man de cause problem, na im de sell solution. You are nothing but consumers to them. Where they cannot profit from a problem, they don't bother solving it. Where they cannot sell a problem, they don't mind creating it. Abeg, give me our local herbs and vegetables jare, proman ko, promax ni.

Tell the Nigerian government to release the list of sponsors of the terrorists. US is coming for us because they have something against us and this is the result of having people without integrity leading you. They will throw you under the bus to save their fake reputation. Truth never minds being questioned. Lies are always at the mercy of ransom.

This was where they should have taken that ishowsoeed guy to. Authentic experience. They will stream the theft of his phone and it will go viral

SixSeven:
If the young man went to Alaba market or Computer Village where they could probably steal his phone, that would be original content. He didn't need to visit places Nigerians think are places. I wrote on the other thread that Nigerians think when they go to shops abroad, they have traveled without realizing travel is about experience. If he took the train, that is experience but I give it to him using a danfo because that is authenticity. It's living like Lagosians. Many people have shown this to our governments but they don't get it. The yellow buses and taxis represent something important in the state but our officials always think that we must look like Dubai (as Ambode once said) or one foreign place instead of being ourselves. I once saw the old Oshodi artwork in a museum abroad.

You may be right about the Ghana sabotage but they still made me laugh when I saw the jollof they made

BlakKluKluxKlan:
If Obi dares to contest in 2027, his outing will be so abysmal that he may almost run beserk and many obidients may suffer HBP.

Doctor, no kill yourself na

Why are you so fixated on Obidients? Aren't you worried about the atikulates? Wasn't Atiku the second in the last election and these children tweeting in a room without money for PU (polling unit) agents were merely deceiving themselves on the internet where there's no polling booth. I wouldn't waste my time on them or don't you think?


Dem no de give shishi. They don't even have money. They are not worth your budget, innit? 🤭

budaatum:
He makes it seem like the 9 or 12million on benefits are mostly immigrants when the facts suggest otherwise. But us he suggesting immigrants are Man U's problems too?

Your question is hilarious Onana, what's my name 🤭

Their governments will have to explain the reality of why immigrants are let in in the first place and why it was difficult for their people to raise a family and care for the family because of the cost!

dbestcno:
Not all jobs there are exploitation. Some are genuine housemaid jobs which many are doing and are successful. Some are also construction companies, they might be harsh on blacks but it doesn't mean it won't favor everybody. Some well-to-do girls in Nigeria now went there and made their wealth.

For that environment, they are slaves. Have you heard of Kafala


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CuhE00lqsr8


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7222472544207506730

colossus91:
Omo ehn people are still being trafficked in 2026? Omo

To Iraq!?

The people trafficking them are wicked. They are the descendants of the slave merchants machinery. No difference.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7530798402649754902

Why don't they have Association of Cultists' Mothers like they did for association of Yahoo 🤡

letskeeptalking:
He tells people I'm the best thing that ever happened to him, so people never get it when I say I want to leave.

I don't think I will ever stop loving him. Despite everything, I chose this man, and it was real love for me. But I know that I deserve better, and he's incapable of change. It's not his fault too. I don't blame him, he is who he is . . You have to be living with some pretty heavy demons to become that way!

Your previous decisions have been reasonable. I mean, still giving him the chance to get back to his senses. He needs some time to grow and this is not about age. I guess because of familiarity, he has taken the current situation for granted. Men love the chase and sometimes when you are not available, they will have to find you. He will look for you. Even when men step out, they know who is a good woman and you sound like one. Let the other women show him small shege but never lower your standards because as much as a good man is a good example for daughters, the decisions you take will guide your daughters in future as well. The man who's not disciplined cannot be cautioned. The temporary separation may give him the space to think and live in his own thoughts and really decide if he can really walk the talk. You are not his mother and you cannot raise an adult. They have to come to their own senses to accept responsibility and accountability.

I always tell men to always improve themselves, keep getting better but no kill yourself for women o lol. I can see you complained about how relaxed he is but I have heard women complain about this. The man they married vs the man he has become. Let him meet you to your new standards because it's for his own benefit and his own good. Listen to this video below when you can. Signs of narcissists are there and how to handle them. Meanwhile, involve your family and give those children a sense of love and community. They don't understand everything that's going on for now but as your daughter is getting to the teenage stage, she is going to face influence at school and boy-girl matters will come up. Which is why the father figure is very important. Children are often impressionable until they get sense. So do not play his own game. What some women do is use the anger in their relationship to shape the mind of the child and you now have bitter children who are feminists and redpillers giving advice on man and woman because they lacked love and structure when they were young. Create an environment of care and standards for the children and you too should get help in this trying time.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPVdK9v0CK8

I still see a ray of hope in this relationship but it will have to go through some bitter washing mode before the clothes come clean! It's that wisdom and tact in this current chapter that you need (to ask God for) while writing the story in your book of life.

The reason I asked you for the church you go to is because of what will people say. Nigerians are very good at public display of good character but you don't know a man until you live with him or do business with him. There is a danger of a single story and the usual Nigerian way of being sentimental instead of calling bad behaviour out. Whether you like it or not, people will judge you. What you must do is ask yourself DO I LOVE MYSELF ENOUGH?


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7363741629842279722

At this stage, I think he needs a reality check. Your family needs it. Sometimes, a temporary separation makes us understand reality and like junkie said, this environment is not healthy for your daughters. When we have a distance relationship and we don't have an environment that checks our childish behaviour, we are woken to reality. You have seen all the signs and past behaviours. What I will recommend you do this time is let the families meet and mention the problem before taking your decision. Make sure you record it and write it. It is easy for people to make judgment and of course each family will support their child. Record it and write it just the way you are writing to a public forum like this. Write your part, let it be discussed among the family. I am saying this because you come from 🇳🇬 but live in 🇨🇦. You can be free in 🇨🇦 but play your cards well.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7080170125286051077?

If you want to handle a manipulator, you record their actions and document your steps for posterity sake. Your conscience will be at rest eventually. I wish you and your family the best.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7275126599253577003?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMTqbc6L6BQ

letskeeptalking

What made him go home to beg for you? Is he the type that wants to look good to people outside? Was it about his social status? or did the reality jolt him to his senses? Do you attend 🇳🇬 church there?

You didn't respond to the last question about who he respects and who he looks to. Who are those in his circle of influence?

You are describing a narcissist here but you cannot be a mother to your children and be a mother a man again.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7196265732341058858

I am not one who quickly takes in women and their subs, if you read my posts here, you will see but I also don't tolerate weak men. I champion for men when they are responsible because men's stories are not often loud. I almost went with the last comment junkie gave even though I don't normally agree with her too. Again, at the risk of being judgmental, it is difficult to judge unless one hears both side. Life experiences has taught me this one and it can't fail.

I know it's a lot for you to spill but what has he got to say about you or what were the things he said about you in his own story?

PS: you wrote to the other person that you pity him. Do you still love him? (if he changes for the better)

U09ce:
Why is she feeling over entitled to the moribund Ajaokuta plant? Just because you're the senator of the area doesn't mean that you have to be contacted about issues regarding its revival. The minister himself is also from the state. Allow them to do their jobs. Too many cooks spoil the broth

I'm sorry but you just contradicted yourself. Where else should she be concerned about the most? Auchi or Calabar 🤡

If you know the duty of a senator to represent the people of their constituency, you will revise this comment. Doesn't sound smart. And this is not about Smart Adeyemi. Kogi people don too suffer


[MUST WATCH] Senator Oluremi Tinubu scolds Sen. Smart Adeyemi at NASS plenary

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5isePNNupFI

Breaker001:
Next time, be sure you watch the video first, before you hit your keyboard. 😎

Hahaha. I don't think they will get the message you are passing there with that image. Subtle reference

seunowa:
Checkmating the minister doesn't mean one has to be tactless and aggressive but decorum should always be displayed.

. I can tell from this comment you didn't watch the video.

letskeeptalking:
But I have other kids, and even though my oldest is fragile, I worry about about the kind of example I'm setting for the younger ones too. My 7-YO told me that she's never going to get married, that when she's grown and rich, she will just buy kids



I don't think he cares too much about her 'state of mind' . . . He's just one of those men that just don't care about ANYTHING. I don't really want to pass any blames because I know I'm not the best person to live with, but he has said on several occasions that if I leave him I will raise the kids alone. He even told them that if I divorce him, they won't get to see him anymore. I know he's weaponizing them and I didn't care when I left the first time. But he twisted her mind so much that she physically fell sick from anxiety. A lot of things came out during counselling, that I don't want to talk about here, but I strongly believe that he doesn't care about the kids, even though he pretends to, and puts up appearances for appearances sake.

And no, I don't have a son. . . just daughters!

And no, cheating is not the problem. I gave him the go ahead to do that because he wanted a son and I didn't want to have anymore kids . . not for him anyway!



Like I said, I have my issues, but at least I'm aware and I'm working on them. He is refusing to face his, and I can't help him with that. I almost lost myself trying.

My family is aware and they support any decision I make. The first time I left, he went back to Nigeria and went with his family to "beg" for me to return . . made a lot of promises. I think I forgave too quickly.

Thank you for explaining the situation. I can see the manipulative behaviour you described though you have marinated your own behaviour in the carefully chosen words you used.

Telling the kids those stories isn't a good thing at all. I don't believe in using children as a leverage in a relationship that two of you formed before they were brought to this world. I am afraid that he would make matters worse when you are separated, if you two decide to do so. That's the number one mistakes most couples make, they involve the children in their business and it should not be. Your number one job rn is being a parent.

Have you guys gone home together as a family? When he ran home to beg and you forgave him, what did he do that changed your mind? Was it promises or he changed for some time? You have a child who is now asking questions and I was going to see how he will behave in front of family where children don't have filter. It doesn't seem that his family is looking for a male child because that could be a factor. Have you been here before? I remember a thread where someone asked this question about allowing him sleep outside for another child. That's his own problem and I would prefer him to man up about it. Such men will eventually find what they are looking for because in life, dem no de force person, you will find that thing you are looking for and life will humble you or humiliate you. It's called life experience. Your issue seems to have started before he talked about the search for a Prince.

What exactly is the problem? Did his father die early? Was he philandering as a bachelor? Does he have siblings? Are they like this character wise? Was/is his father like this? Do you remember what his vision was about family while you were both in love? Is he in his 50s? Did he change briefly when he came back from Nigeria? Do you know what triggered the lapse? Environment? Has he been a responsible man in the home or he just pays the bills? Does he teach the girls as a father or what role does he play? The father effect is strong for female children and he is the first example of what they see as a MAN.

I am reading your message one more time. Has he sought therapy himself? Alone? Does he have a mentor, formal or informally? An elder from his family. I don't want to believe that you made a mistake because I will assume he was a good guy before he became like this so if you still have anything to help your family (this is not really about love), what caused him to change along the line? Who has an influence on him as a man? Specifically, a man who he looks up to or who he reveres.