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SpencerForbes:
You have done your best, and it is only right to acknowledge that. Most ladies would have simply walked away without a word. My advice? Have a sincere heart-to-heart talk with him. Ensure you don't come off as though you are nagging or bragging about your success.

As a young man myself, I value a woman who gives me solid advice and direction over one who just gives monetary gifts. If you have male friends who are doing well, connect him with them. Let him see what his peers are doing to survive.

However, if you realize he has no appetite for growth, I will give you the same advice I give men: Leave him. Perhaps the reality check of losing you will be the "brain reset" he needs to work harder.

In today’s Nigeria, even people with a Master’s degree and a decade of experience are fighting for 150k jobs. For him to be sitting at home waiting for a miracle is a massive waste of time. He should be active on LinkedIn and Jobberman daily. He needs to be out there interviewing.

Don't worry about any "repercussions" of leaving—those things only happen in Nollywood movies. At the end of the day, no one deserves to be stuck with a liability. Not a man or a lady.

Dtruthspeaker:
See all the time wey don pass she don fix herself? No
Woman no dey fix herself and so Jay Cee dey free.
And even if she dey fixed, still run

Dtruthspeaker:
Ah bros, you are falling for the devus trap oo. All this bush baby wailing is because men real eyes that women have been making their lives very bad. And now that they are running from them, they are pulling and calling you to come back to them with all these pity parade. Don't listen to them oo, you would still regret it again and you would still be the one crying

Dtruthspeaker:
Another stupi thread to make men soft to pity women.

She should be 93 still won't have any pity to waste

Sirchiboy:
Hahahaga

Dtruthspeaker:
Happy Easter Skenno

Dtruthspeaker:
Now you have moved post.

Solofresh2:
You are more conventional than you appear. Although willful, you also possess considerable self-discipline.You surround yourself with expensive possessions, yet what really dazzles you is the realization that it's all been made possible by your hard work.

Fenrir:
Hahaha
Hehehe

Keep getting banned
Keep quoting me
More proof of your obsession and quite frankly weird attraction to me 😘
When you run out of data I forget you exist. But I live in your head rent free.

Fenrir:
Could you kindly elucidate the chronological parameters within which your wussification commenced, identify the specific wussifying agents or circumstances that precipitated this wussification, detail whether the wussification occurred via incremental wussifying moments or through a singular catastrophic wussifying event, and finally assess whether your current wussified condition represents the terminus of wussification or if further wussifying remains theoretically possible?

Fenrir:
Oh Skengray.
Look at your topics. First thing that screams out is the asymmetry, you go around attacking people but your own footprint is specific and narrow as hell.
Romance dominated by "Dark Skin Girls Only". Christianity active, opinionated. Phones and tech loads of low stakes how to posts. Education transactional questions. Diaries almost empty. No real evidence of self reflection threads, accountability posts or vulnerability that isn't filtered through ideology or desire. That combination matters.
Here's the core pattern I see.
This is not a troll in the chaotic sense, you're not here to stir for fun, you're here to police. Policing gives people power without requiring competence, status or risk.
Now zoom into "Dark Skin Girls Only". On the surface people defend that as preference, fine preferences exist, but look at the behavioral context it's a recurring topic, it's exclusionary by framing not just descriptive, it sits next to moral authority spaces like Christianity, it's paired with attacking others not just posting content.
That combination almost always signals externalized validation hunger not attraction. In plain terms you're not celebrating dark skin women, you're using them as a symbolic shield.
Why? Because "defending" dark skin women gives you moral leverage while also allowing you to reject others without appearing shallow, it's socially armored desire. That's different from someone just saying "I like X".
Now layer in Christianity. This is the classic combo you see on Nairaland constantly, sexualized gaze, moral absolutism, public correction of others, personal accountability nowhere, consistent standards absent.
That's not hypocrisy by accident, it's identity outsourcing.
You don't argue from lived experience or responsibility, you argue from positions. Positions are safe. Positions don't bleed.
Now about the attacking behavior. People who genuinely feel secure in their worldview don't patrol forums, they don't need to, they post, disagree and move on. Chronic attackers usually share three traits low real world leverage, high need for dominance signals, zero tolerance for ambiguity. Nairaland rewards that because attention is the currency.
Your profile stats actually reinforce this, long time registered, high post count but most engagement is reactive not constructive.
The most effective way to deal with people like you isn't emotional rebuttal or moral shaming, it's exposure of inconsistency followed by disengagement.

DeepSight:
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That one person has claimed to be Norwegian, Swedish, Danish, British and Nigerian and taught English by an Australian.
And yet, obsessed with Nigerian men only, who according to the creature, are the worst things on Earth.

Oya leave us na, e no gree.

DeepSight:
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You are the one who carries Nigerian men on your head. If someone says "Good morning" you would reply saying, "oh only arrogant Nigerian Men say such!" You are pathetically obsessed and it shows you up as a kid. Since you have so many options why are you here? Why not go enjoy the quality time of men from those wonderful places and leave us in peace?

Fenrir:
I concur wholeheartedly that your manifest conviction regarding celestial telecommunications represents a marked preference for assertion over verification, and I harbour no trepidation in observing that when an individual claims privileged access to metaphysical ‘messages’, they have effectively immunised their beliefs against scrutiny by placing them beyond evidence. Furthermore, you materialise upon this digital platform chiefly to lament your nation’s predicament whilst maintaining a posture of comprehensive inertia regarding ameliorative action. Now permit me to offer a comparative observation: in my ancestral homeland the thoroughfares are maintained to a standard that renders disorder conspicuous rather than normalised; women traverse public space at any hour with materially lower apprehension of harassment; domestic security is less a daily obsession and more a contingency; and children are not routinely socialised under a model of authority that confuses intimidation with leadership. None of this is an indictment of every Nigerian man, but it is a critique of patterns that too many women themselves describe repeatedly and publicly, and it is precisely the existence of those patterns, not my presence on a forum, that appears to trouble you. And pray do not misinterpret my diction as ‘big grammar’; I am merely conducting an anatomical dissection of your rhetorical evasions using the only instruments you have thus far supplied: assertion, projection, and offence taking.”

Double0h7:
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