chaircover:


My dear I am only going by what you said

Plus life is ful of surprises

He may open a small business and eventually she may even spend longer hours seeing to that business than she probably does now. Business is not as easy as people think.

Its still down to compromise.

Why is she refusing to quit her job? Please advise your friend to sit down again with her hubby and work out between them the best way forward. Maybe a reduction of hours or transfer nearer home may be a better option and everyone is happy.

Alright.

The Falcons have overthrown the Eagles

Kimoni:


Can a frustrated woman who was compelled to quit her job bring joy to anybody in the home? Can she give what she doesn't have?

Must the husband kill his wife's goals and aspirations when there are couples going through the same situation and managing it well?

I am certain there are better ways of managing the situation and still keeping everybody happy.

The part she will get frustrated was why I created this topic. How can that be averted?

zeb04:
yes.
If quitting your job is best for the family then go right ahead(I am not sticking my point down anyone's throat) neither am i asking you to take my suggestion although, I am of the view that you can be successful both ways and still have beautiful Godly kids . that to me is best for the family.

Yes, the topic is possible but on a slim chance

chaircover:


Its a hard one and as I always say, each situation is different and we need to look at things in its entirety and long term
Look at this family for example. Hubby insisted that the resign so she can look after the family . .
Now she is getting a divorce
How has that helped the family?
You get what I am saying?

An unhappy woman being forced to give up her job and stay at home is of really no benefit to that same family that she is being forced to look after.

Compromise and support is what is needed from both parties.

A woman can have a career and a family. . . . Very possible. There are millions of women in the work place juggling things around. Its easier though if you have a supportive partner.

You are missing the point. The fact that her husband asked her to quit doesn't mean she will become a housewife. Its just that the nature of her job contradicts the happiness of the family. He was planning to establish a small scale business for her.

So I heard..

cococandy:

I totally agree with you.
Same applies to career men.
I think kids deserve to know that they come first as far their parents are concerned

Sure

LordReed:
Both father and mother have roles to play in building a family so when making career moves they must both consider the impact it will have on their family roles. A woman can have a successful career and have a happy home. It is not impossible to achieve it has been done by women and still is. Nobody should have to sacrifice family for career whether male or female.

My point

cococandy:
I'm sure the man knew who he married before he married her. He saw her love for career but felt he could change her.
Wrong.
There's no way every woman out there will be the baby-birthing-and-nurturing-career-sacrificing kind of person.
I'll advice the men to go for their kind of woman.
If you don't like career women,don't marry one and then turn around to force her to quit her job.
Some women are fine with being stay home moms,some are not.
It's a BIG wide world.

We shouldn't expect everyone to have the same plans and goals for their lives.

If they don't marry a career woman, who will? A lot men are afraid to marry career women. But at least, a career woman should make TIME for her family especially her kids

zeb04:
my dear compromise is good so long it is not under compulsion .

No one is forcing you to. You know what is best for the family, so do it

Kimoni:
Yes they can! Career women have had successful marriages in the past, still having and will continue to have. Numerous examples abound in every field. I would say celebrity marriages are rather not good examples cuz most are either based on faulty foundations or they just couldn't handle the success.

Agreed getting married to a career woman comes with its own peculiar challenges but both parties can overcome them if there is love and understanding between them. And I don't want to believe it's any different from the other type of challenges that comes with marriage, if they cant both effectively solve one, they will solve the other types of challenges as well eg couples who are effectively able to handle the challenges that come with having a career woman in the home are more likely to be able to resolve financial issues, in-law issues, delayed pregnancies etc

There are numerous benefits that come with it also, so couples just have to decide if they want to focus on the strengths or the challenges.

OP, In the example you gave, how does a woman quitting her job translate to joy coming back to the family? I am struggling to understand the correlation. Are you saying the moment she started working, her husband and children became sorrowful?

Time with the family is a basic necessity. It depends on the nature of her job.

experimentist:
Let's go chicks

Call them with respect, Mr. They are ladies

zeb04:
Asking someone to quit their is to the extreme.

Why do we take decisions without considering the other party.is it only the woman's duty to bring joy into the family, .......weren't our mother's successful family and carrier women .

You don't ask someone to make sacrifice you know you cannot do youself and marriages don't just pack up because of someone's ambition.

We all have purposes,ambitions,goals in life and we can do that carrying everyone along.

What about compromise? No one ask you to become a housewife

Go Falcons

I chose women as the subject because they are the pillar of the house. Shaky pillars is a warning to a catastrophic occurrence of a building. Today's women are really focused on their careers more than their families . An instance is the trend, or can I say the norm of celebrities especially the women having failed marriages. Does that mean our women have lost the motherhood qualities? They embrace their careers so much that it almost choke. Where is the love for the family?

I have a friend who was filing for divorce just because her husband asked her to quit her job and concentrate on building the joy back to their family.
There are things we just have to compromise for the sake of the future of our children.

lindaiikeji:
Hey ladies, I'm not d celebrity buh ma name is also Linda Ikeji.
Now to the point, I hav used dis technique to get any guy I want, not only to date me buh also love me.

Step 1: Identify d man u want. Look 4 d man dat has som of d qualities u want cos u won't see a man wid all u may want.

Step 2: Try and initiate a discussion wit him no mata aw brief, but don't be too friendly. Just speak well, dress well and smile a little.

Step 3: Try and bump into him or try and see him again buh mek it look surprised. Ensure he gets ur contacts. Men being men, he will contact u

Step4: Respond to his calls buh don't go out on a date yet, talk only on phone or chats, and discuss sensible tins. U ar tryin 2 paint a picture of a sophisticated lady.

Step 5: ensure u ar always in contact buh don't let him know u like or want him. Wen he meks d move 4 u, stall him. Its important u don't giv in easily.

Step 6: afta u go out wit him, pls don't hav sex wit him, don't french kiss, no orals pls, don't follow him home. Ensure u kip ursef for at least 4months.

Step 7: if u reach dis stage N he's still datin u, u've gat ursef a man dat Loves u and may marry u dependin on ur behaviour.

Hope it helps. Much love

That is the issue

pickabeau1:
Do a court wedding

on someone who is not ready to marry her?

The question should have been "How do I stop her from getting fat/fatter?" She needs your support and not your complaints

In Nigeria, if you are not on TV, you are not a celeb

My man has a ''grabable'' butt

A success story I guess?

My utensil are of good quality. Guests have no special one, but we can't eat with all of them so some were selected for guests

freecocoa: Why are people sounding like this man has done nothing wrong? Nigga should be arrested for statutory r*pe.

I was wondering if people can't see '' A 17 year girl'' in his story.

Anyways, it was all a fairy tale

*sighs*

Misleading topic

They should just switch to penalties direct jare

OkikiOluwa1: Aguero, the golden boot winner cums in to replace Higuain.
Last Bullet
That guy is a clown.
He told ww.goal.com that he ll win the golden boot.
I laugh in Arabic.

Which year e win golden boot?

manfred10:


De match don tey from una side oo

Boring match dey be always tey before e finish na

Just one shot on target since morning

Extra time go too dey boring

Ishsoph:
*yawns
Then save us the complaints

I did not complain. It was a request

Is he dead?