I can't even rent a house if I discover the landlord stays there

190daclown:


dont you have food to cook today

I am through, come and eat

What are you guys saying? Someone can be deflowered without her consent like rap'e, under the influence of alcohol et al. So if she chose not to have sex again until marriage, how is that a big deal?

So because the hymen has been broken she can go on having sex like its normal? Come on guys, a rap'ed victim still has a virtue.

Empty vessels make the loudest noise. Look at them blabbing like its a piece of cake to send a woman packing just because you found out she is not a virgin. How many of you are ready to forfeit the expenses you made at your wedding and the dowry you paid?

Probably, she lied to you because you made it known to her that you so much cherish virginity. I guess she doesn't want to lose you so she had to lie to you.
Pathetic!

9.Your Feet Can Grow Up To One Full Shoe Size

If you're wondering why your feet will get so big when you only gain 25 pounds, it has to do with the excess pressure on your feet paired with relaxed ligaments in your body. As your pregnancy wears on, your body starts to release the tightness of its ligaments to help with the birthing process. Unfortunately for your shoes, this also means your feet start to lose their arch and stretch out on the sides. The flatter, wider shape of your feet will probably be temporary, but if they grew too much, the change could end up being permanent. If your feet do stay a bit larger, it certainly will serve as a great excuse to buy more shoes.

The Father Might Show Symptoms of Pregnancy

It's surprisingly common for a father-to-be to start gaining weight, getting morning sickness and even feel cramps in his lower abdomen. The condition is known as a sympathetic pregnancy or the Couvade Syndrome, which comes from the french word couvee meaning "to hatch".

http://www.oddee.com/item_97595.aspx

Whether you're a woman who hasn't yet been pregnant or a man who wants to better understand what an expectant mother really goes through, these 10 things that occur while a woman is pregnant are all strange and often disturbing. These are the weird things that happen during pregnancy that people probably won't tell you about.


1.You Could Be Pregnant For Over A Year

Most pregnancies last for about 9 months and doctors are likely to induce labor if pregnancy goes on too long. That being said, it is possible to be pregnant for a whole year. The world's longest pregnancy lasted 375 days, strangely, the baby was only a little under seven pounds.
It certainly puts a whole new perspective on being a few weeks late, doesn't it?


2.A Male Fetus Can Get Erections In The Womb

Most mothers don't like to think about their baby boys getting erections, even when they are teenagers, but the fact is that many baby boys get boners while they're still in the womb. In fact, babies of both sexes are known to masturbate in utero, but boys are the only ones who can be caught while aroused on the sonogram.
If having sex while pregnant seemed a little creepy before now, just imagine what your baby is doing while you make love.

3.Your Entire Undercarriage Might Need Stitches

The last place any woman wants stitches is in her taint, but many mothers have to get that area closed up surgically. Nine out of ten women have some type of vaginal tearing after birth, but there are many degrees of tearing. Some tears only require a little care or a few stitches, but the really bad cases go from the vagina all the way to the anus. Some can even affect the muscles beyond your anus. On the upside, tearing that reaches the anus is somewhat rare and only affects one in one hundred mothers.
Massaging the area prior to child birth can reduce tearing, but even then, it won't completely stop tearing in most people.
Suddenly, getting a C-section started sounding a whole lot more appealing, huh?

4.You May Just Poop Yourself

During childbirth, it is extremely common for a woman to accidentally expel the contents of her bowels. There is a good reason for this –the muscles you use to push the baby out are the same ones you ordinarily use during a bowel movement. As if that weren't enough to get your sphincter ready to go, the baby directly pushes on the rectum as it makes its exit, helping to squeeze out anything near the exit.
In olden times, it was common for nurses to give enemas prior to labor, but this practice didn't end up stopping the mess from happening and often caused dehydration. These days, your doctors and nurses will be ready to help clean up the mess. In most cases, they won't even say anything about it so you won't know the difference.
It does make you think twice about filming the birth though, doesn't it?

5.You Really Will Glow

Saying a pregnant woman is glowing is a common expression, but most people chalk it up to the woman's excitement about becoming a mommy. As it turns out though, glowing skin is a very real thing for pregnant women. While you're pregnant, the amount of blood in your body will increase by 50%. The extra blood ends up showing through the skin in many areas, particularly the cheeks.
On top of this, hormones cause the oil glands to become more active, resulting in a softer, shinier appearance. When the increased blood flow combines with shine, the result is a noticeable glow.

6.Your Sense of Smell Gets Better

During pregnancy, your sense of smell increases drastically, as does your sense of taste. Scientists hypothesize that this is to help pregnant mothers avoid eating small levels of toxins that might not be dangerous to an adult, but could be deadly to a fetus. As smoke, alcohol and coffee are all particularly noticeable to pregnant women, this theory certainly seems to be on the right path.

7.Contractions Don't Stop After Birth

Most mothers will have contractions for the first few days after birth. The muscle cramps are the body's way of stopping excess blood loss. On the upside, if you give birth at the hospital, you'll still be pretty drugged up and will probably barely even notice.

8.You Don't Really Need To Eat For Two

Despite the widespread rumors that say pregnant women need to gain all the weight they can in order to birth a healthy baby, the truth is that most women will only need an extra 300 calories per day. That's equivalent to about one serving of yogurt and half a bagel. Most women only need to gain about 25 pounds throughout their entire pregnancy.
Of course, if you happen to be at the buffet and are having a tough time resisting the desserts section, go ahead and sneak a little extra. No one will give a pregnant woman a hard time if she pigs out

Taking note

lorretta u: All this protocol for wetin?
Hian

Just wear his loose tshirt without a bra.
If you have big bouncy booobss better for you. The moment u walk by innocently infront of him. The deal is sealed..

Lol. I do that a lot

The point here should be ''After wedding, what next?''. Its not about your getting married that matters but how prepared you are to face what comes after wedding.

Your man may be having some financial issues, more like ''Psycho-financial issues'' as I termed it . Maybe he is going through some family responsibility pressure.

Dannylux:


The Devil isn't mortal. There is a difference.

We should not even start from the stone age because we can still change things presently. The men should not point accusing fingers on us always like we are the villians in this world. To an extent, they blame us for having female children when the fault is from them

Nonso23:

He's not a man either

So why blame the female gender alone? Why not blame the both since the Devil is neither the two sexes?

Dannylux:


A woman. Eve was the first to disobey God by submitting to the devil.

And the Devil is a woman?

anselm791:

That's not true jor, its only because men have more important things to worry about and that's the one job God gave the woman to do, which is to keep the relationship or home. Fine, we would help you from time to time but its all your fault if it goes south, you can fully blame us when you don't see food on the table, so you better listen to those advice while we take the 'Hustle 101' class.

In other words, abusive relationship is the woman's fault?

Dannylux: It's always been the girl's fault even from the beginning of time - Eve.


It's merely history repeating itself.

Going with your point, who initiated the idea of the sin? A man or a woman?

Sijo01: They tend to code their dating advice if at all they seek for one because they don't want to appear weak.
some of them dey die go emotionally, yet them go dey form superman.
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speak up and seek advise guys, in an emotional issue, dey nor dey see superman.

Well said dear. Their egos are becoming annoying

DonHummer: nawa oo, so even for marriage grls still de form...

Lol. Not really.

Since you can only control yourself and since you are only half of the relationship equation, the best you can do is to be the best you can be on your half. 9 times out of 10, that’s enough: your improvement spurs improvement in the overall relationship and it’s an upward spiral. You can be the catalyst that starts the positive momentum in the relationship – by putting in better energy, you get better output.
As human beings, we’re all in this together. Yes, there are bad men. And there are bad women. The majority of humans are good though. And loving. And desire love.
In terms of advice to women or to men… my particular brand of advice could be boiled down to this: Find happiness within yourself and your life fully FIRST and relationships will never be a problem for you.

Hope that helps,

Eric Charles


http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/dating-advice-girls-fault/

This article just explained what has been itching me each time I visit the Romance section and see that alot of threads talk about what we ladies do. Its becoming a norm here .

Yeah, an epistle but educative.



I have noticed that you guys (and most dating advice sites, actually) focus a lot on things women do, but do you send men emails to help them with things? It just seems like women are somehow always the problem. It should go both ways to help a relationship, shouldn’t it?
Why is it that women are the ones who have to work on making the relationship better?
Believe it or not, when I started out with the whole dating advice thing, I worked with men exclusively.
In fact, my thought was, “My god… guys REALLY need dating advice… women have this all figured out but the guys… wow… this is heart-breaking.”
The vast majority of men just want to meet a girl they can fall in love with who will love them back. They want to meet that one special girl and settle down with her. The vast majority do not want to be the player-type that’s crammed down everyone’s throat by the media.
As for being into dating advice, men seek it desperately. The dating advice for men niche is ENORMOUS compared to the woman’s dating advice niche.
The thing is – men seek their dating advice very privately. They don’t want anyone to know they are seeking dating advice help. Men would be less embarrassed having their mother walk in while they were looking at porn than having someone they know find out they sought dating advice.
Why?Because seeking dating advice help to most men feels like a defeat… like they are some kind of loser.
A fraction of men are more open minded and look at learning to be great in relationship as just another life area to be educated in, like fitness or finance. But this is few and far between.
Make no mistake though –men are terrified of being trapped in a bad relationship, not being good enough, not being attractive to the woman they want, ending up alone or being cheated on by an ungrateful/unfulfilled spouse. Men have these fears and desperately want to know how to never end up in that place.

In today’s society and culture, it is readily acceptable to blame a man or hate a man or condemn a man… simply because he’s a man. There’s this air that men have bad intentions and are out to take advantage of women.
The truth is that only a very, very, very small percentage of men are scumbags in the dating world. Most are great guys who just want to love and be loved… but women have been so traumatized by myths about what is going on in a man’s mind that they suspect that these good men have bad intentions.
There are forums all over the internet of men privately and anonymously pouring their heart and soul out there, hoping that someone can answer their dating question.
They talk about their insecurities. They talk about how they don’t feel women are attracted to them or even notice them. They talk about how painfully shy they are or how they are deathly afraid of rejection. They talk about how no matter how hard they try, they can’t seem to get a girlfriend or make their girl happy.
And these aren’t bottom-of-the-barrel guys. These aren’t losers at life or freaks or weirdos. The majority of them are normal people who just want to be happy – with themselves and with their relationship… just like you.

My point is that most men really do want to be as good as they can be in relationship, but also don’t know where to turn for help and would never want the world to know that they looked for help. We all value relationships with therightperson, but men have a lot more trouble ponying-up when they need help… but men do care.
As for A New Mode and the Ask a Guy column, the reason why I talk about what a woman can do to improve her relationship or what she could be doing wrong is simple: This is a female audience and, in the end, you only get to control one side of the relationship–yourself.
It’s not that anyone is to blame – blame doesn’t get anyone anywhere. No progress or improvement started with blame.
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mikael78: @topic!! It is beleived that any woman that initiates sex especially in marriage will give birth to a slowpoke......Don't just initiate only sex,also initiate paying the bills and all that

Anyone that believes this is a nitwit

A lot of women especially African women find it hard to initiate sex in their marriage. They see it as being loose or sex starved(I stand to be corrected). Apart from making babies, how do you feel initiating sex? Have you tried it before? If Yes, why? If No, why?

Being occupied with a boyfriend or a husband?

In today's world, having a boyfriend doesn't mean a woman is occupied. There is no security anymore in having a boyfriend . Not every girl is occupied, just that many girls are not lonely

smurfy:

No, I'm not. Don't go abusive on me just because you're Igbo and my point bit you hard.

I can't abuse you and I have not done that. I just stated the obvious

shegzi: since you know better pls do share your perspective

Of what?

smurfy:

Ehn! Don't tell me you don't know o!

The more expensive the wife, the more the bragging, beating, etc.

Not true for all Igbo marriages sha.

You are confused

smurfy:

I think the return-the-bride-price trend started among some yorubas when they saw what the Igbo men were saying and doing to their expensive wives.

What were they doing to their wives?

shegzi: The yorubas belief that they are not selling out their daughter out, so when you remenber that you didnt pay bride price, you will treat her well thats for the wise men or groom i guess. Yap

Irony

Hmmmm. Cool

vizboy: I like my private life private. So am not use to such things

Good for you

Ggd si garte

The age gap is not that much. It is better to be 13yrs older than her than vice versa

There is nothing wrong uploading a girl's picture on your wall. What matters is what you tag it or how she appears.