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Next tip: Ratchetness

If you don't know the meaning of the above word, use Google. Akata women are naturally ratchet. Even the ones who look like beautiful goddesses are very ratchet. The darker the skin color, the more ratchet they are. They can go from civilized to ratchet in half the blink of an eye. And they don't mind being ratchet at any given time or in any given location.

Also they have a sharp mouth that moves continuously without stopping. If you can't stand mouthy women, they stay away from that demographic of women.

saaphiere:
A Facebook user took to his Facebook timeline to post pictures of a Nigerian man proposing to his lover against all odds.
He wrote:

https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=3531761563529759&set=pcb.3531762006863048
lalasticlala this is true love here.

Exodora:
She wasn't crying because you dumped her , she was only crying because she should have being the one to get out first . Seems you don't understand the game.

Munzy14:
Confusion.... smh..


Some people must have missed their partners due to one selfish case....Sometimes i wonder the fun in double dating some ladies do.

maybe one man is physical connection.

the other mental connection...

Munzy14:
Inside life, school boyfriend will hang their leg upside down and be pounding like say na national budget, but main man will only be getting a rationalised sex...


Some ladies sef...smh..

yomi007k:
Very funny.

Any wise guy will vet his woman properly and try and know about her past.

Only a low value man will ignore questioning her past for the sake of love. But the day he finds out, his eyes will open and the war will begin.

I'm amazed 21st century male folks still believe in the deception called Love.

purelyobjective:
She legit put the blame for her inability to find a man who would commit on the internet.Do most women accept responsibility for the choices they make?

Anonnn:
(LONG POST)

Growing up, I have never seen myself to be someone that would one day get married and live with a partner (no, I don't have any unpleasant past experience). I have only had 2 serious relationships and let me just say I did that because I wanted to see if I could overcome my fears by having a taste/feel of what it's like to have a partner.

I'm currently in the second relationship which is gradually moving to marriage and I must say the guy is a very great person. The problem is, even though I have tried to suppress all the feelings that it is not what I want, people I share it with keep telling me that it is not normal for me to say I do not want to have a partner. I have come to realize that the reason why they are saying this is because society has made it look like getting married is a huge goal ( I don't know the word to even use here)!

I'm left to wonder, why has society made it look like it is "compulsory" to have a partner?


Mama Partnership is not a must. We can choose to remain single for Life

Why has it been normalized in our society? Like, anyone who is probably "of age", or done with school, or has a stable source of income is expected to have a partner, or planning to get settled down with one (well except you are going the religious/clergy way). Sometimes, people do not even want you to finish school or have a stable income before they come with the question of when you want to get a marriage partner and settle down.

Why is it sometimes termed abnormal when someone thinks or says they do not want to have a partner?
Why is there also some stereotypes hanging over people who decide not to get married (I can't go into all that to not make this post longer than it already is)?

So, I'm really concerned, can't one just decide to live a single life without getting married or going the religious way? Of course, if one is scared of dying alone, there is always an option to adopt a family or an orphaned child you can train and grow old with.

Can't one just choose to stay dedicated alone; focus on themselves, live a good life, build a great career, render help when necessary and just not bother about having a partner?

Is there really any consequence for not deciding to settle with a partner or go the religious way?

Why has society made it look like you need a partner to be "complete"? Or to even be respected in some settings no matter your class/status?

Why are people who decide they do not want to have a partner always looked at like they are not normal?

I am yet to see where it is stated that it is actually compulsory that one must have a partner or be in the religious line as the case may be (please, let me know if I'm wrong).

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Yeah, I know I have asked many questions already, but they have all been pressing on my chest for long and I really needed to get them off to make a longterm decision.

I also apologize if some people see this as rude, I don't mean it to be that way.
And, if you do not have an open-minded comment/response, please, don't bother.
Thanks.

Escabado:
I meet one girl just two days ago, she said I should give her 70k so she can travel to village see her parents that since lockdown she have not traveled outside Lagos .

Please guys what do you think I should do . Should I give her the money remember is just two days of meeting.

ilegend

@zzor

@mamagee

@mrcork

Bro give her please.

Some folks need real scamming

@airforce1

@ubunja

@faati2001

@offpoint1

SkyRicks:
The bae was dam demanding Financially after months I have to make love bro she declined that am always after sex it ended that day but I kept quiet for months when she was serious about me I told her I don't want her anymore she cried and called for weeks bro my mind was made up.. I was hurt by her words because I knew she was cheating but the guy was a player and a sch (uni) boyfriend and I was the dream husband so I played her, her own card waited for what I wanted and moved on. My love for her died the day she told me she can't have sex with me

JohnspeakU:
Good day everyone!!
Most people in relationships believe that a relationship ends the day one party call it quit. But that’s far from the truth. An average relationship that ended didn’t end that day, it probably ended few days, months or years before �. So why didn’t the person just call it quit that same day?

It’s mainly because the party involved just wants time to enjoy the benefits they’ve been enjoying. It may be the gifts, money, sex, the trips etc.

So let me share mine. I was dating this girl sometime ago and it was going on very well. So I was in her house on this particular day and we were arguing about something that has to do with the male and female gender. I’m an unapologetic alpha male and I support my gender with all I have but this was a problem with her. She said something that annoyed me so I told her I was going home. The next thing madam said was “who the hell do you think you are? Every time you'd just be getting angry as if you’re God”�‍♀️ As if that wasn’t enough she pushed me out of her apartment and told me “get out of my house and go and die�‍♀️“.

As a gentleman I didn’t say anything but deep down I knew the relationship was over but I didn’t end it that day or week or month.

So when did you know that the relationship was over?

Lalasticlala mynd44 seun

Sixfeetbelle:
Thank you for the interest but I'm a bit skeptical about accepting too many requests at any one time. I like to keep things grounded and controlled, if you understand what I mean?

CosmicPhoenix:

We all know you are looking for a man to tie down with marriage, just say the truth

Sixfeetbelle:
Chim ooh! Local girl is tired. Ole ihe bu ihe nkaa?

The Genesis of the matter.

I just finished watching a romantic movie and I've been sighing longingly for over an hour. What is in this "love" that people are falling into everyday yet I've been unlucky in finding that place? And although I hear people say "there's no love in Nigeria", I can't help but doubt them when I see my timelines on Facebook. Wedding every Saturday, love in the air. Or is there own feem trick?. Does love segregate?

What pushed me to write this thread?

I just realised that as old as I am, I've never been in love before and I'm suddenly coming to the unpalatable conclusion that at the rate I'm going, falling in love may never happen to me (wails uncontrollably). I want to love somebody's son and I want somebody's son to love me back. Is it hard to do?

There was a time I thought I knew how to achieve this feat but conditions are not favoring my initial plans of travelling abroad, doing a whirlwind romance and falling in love like they portray that they do over there, so I've decided to cut my coat according to my cloth, literally, and just do the type practiced here. So early this year, I made a research (Aproko) on how best to achieve this and voila: Nairaland Romance section popped up in brilliant hues.

Romance-land and the word "love"

But contrary to my expectations, romanceland has failed woefully in trying to help me attain this goal (these peeps here don't know what love is). With their incessant need to discuss on repetition topics ranging from preeks and kitten to redpill and feminism, even broke guys and entitled ladies all day long, I've found it hard to actually pinpoint a topic/thread that centers/teaches on love and how to fall in it. Thus asking, should I consult another section and try my luck over there? Maybe politics section? Those guys over there "sound" vicious enough and since the violent taketh it by force...

What I need?

So I've taken it upon myself to make the necessary clarion call on behalf of all the single people like me who has never been in love before, and for those who wish to experience it again to get the directions they need. As I am ignorant about how to go about falling in love, I'd implore those with expertise to help us with plentiful knowledge on the matter so that we can all learn and apply it.

Specifically, I need clarification on: where the entrance called "love" is located so I can go and fall inside or is that it is no longer accepting applications at this time? Has the door of love finally closed?



Thank you.


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Godoverevery:
I will go first....I think the lack of finding true love for men is based on the orientation.... Every lady wants a rich husband and men don't want women who don't have source of income.

The solution for me is both genders should place less importance on money when choosing partners.

Made619:
Imagine if ur response will determine if you will be giving the money or not. What will you do with 20millon naira Nairalanders?

IntersexSherry:
Not every intersex person want to alter their bodies to fit in. Maybe we just love being different the way we are naturally. The problem is many don't understand us so may not accept us this way.
When you are in love with a girl, you find out she is intersex. She got no ovaries, no womb? Or she got testes? She got male dna? Or she got two organs? Or she got a short vagina? Or she got a penis? She has no genital at all?
What are your chances sticking to this type of woman??
I got lot of chasers but always turn them down because am scared of ignorance. I'm already a woman. Hope they don't judge me. Wish they understand
Update: One day i met a man in a bus, we were sitting close and were chatting, became very friendly to each other. I was trying to expose to him the type of girl i am, when i saw his facial expression, i just laughed and said i was joking. He gave me his number to call him and up till today, fear no gree me call am. Am too scared

Peritome:
First, are you a techie savvy? What area of ICT do you love most?

I'm a developer now but before I became one. I'm a geek force on mobile phone so the passion for it drove me to be a developer.