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Nneka123:
Taking you to see his parents doesn't guarantee that he will marry you, he could flip anytime

Number 5, for where?

Number 8, He's prolly getting it somewhere, while waiting for you to be ready

damseyl:
What if he pretends

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]What does it mean when a man tells a woman that she's not a threat to anyone that she knows?

And is that an insult?[/color]

Tallesty1:
Do you know the strategies that players use?

shakazuldadon:
HAVE REBOUND SEX....

SleekyP:
1. Let the tears flood the pain.

You need to cry. Whether it is for 3 minutes, or 3 hours, let the tears drown your sorrows for at least the first night. Your hurt heart deserves to let everything out.


2. Occupy your mind.

Make yourself busy. Do not sit around and think because that could be very dangerous. Do activities that you find to be therapeutic. Paint, write, run until your lungs give out. Whatever it is that you need to do to keep your mind away from him, do it.


3. Do not question.

Why? What if? Is this what I deserve? Was it me? Was it something I did? You’ll never find the answers to these questions, and even if you did they wouldn’t benefit your situation in any way. No matter how many questions you ask yourself, or him, it doesn’t change the fact that he hurt you, and it won’t change the outcome. Know who you are, and have the confidence in yourself that you can handle anything, especially this minor mishap.


4. Use every ounce of your heart to not be spiteful.

He is not worth the waste of negative energy. It’s as simple as that.


5. Do not be alone, use your support system.

All of those wonderful friends and family you have, they are there for a reason. Reach out and use that bountiful support system that is always there for you when you need them. That’s the beauty of having such amazing friends, they want you to be happy and would never cause you the same hurt that he did.


6. Don’t feel that you have anything to prove.

You know you’re strong, and you know you’ll get through this. You don’t have anything to prove, especially not to him, because chances are he knows the wonderful person he gave up, and he knows you could replace him in a hot second. Don’t feel like you have to post 40 photos with random cute boys, concern yourself with more important things, like your own happiness.


7. Remember the warning signs you chose to ignore because you wanted it to work.

All of those red flags that you pushed to the side because you wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, well now is the time to reflect. He didn’t give you the benefit of the doubt, and you probably should not have given him one either. Use the various instances you attempted to ignore as reminders that he is not right for you.

8. Listen to what your loved ones have to say.

Now that the whole thing is over with him they will be wholly honest. Maybe they didn’t think he was all that perfect, maybe they saw something that you couldn’t because you were blinded by the idea of him. They are no longer afraid to voice their true opinions, and now is the perfect time to hear them.

9. Forget the plans you looked forward to with him.

Don’t dwell on the plans you made with him. They will not happen, and you need to accept that and move forward. Sometimes life doesn’t always go as planned, but that shouldn’t keep you from living it to its fullest. You enjoyed life before him, and you can enjoy life after him. So go do the things that you planned to do with him, and do them without him by your side. Your true strength will show in not allowing someone so meaningless to obstruct the happy memories you can potentially make for yourself, without him.

10. Make new plans to look forward to.

Plan a road trip with your best friend to the sinful city you’ve never been to, go to the amusement park and ride roller coasters until you lose your voice from screaming, get that tattoo that you’ve been wanting forever, whatever it is that will add a little excitement to your life, do it! Get out and have fun, and do things you’ve never done before.

11. Remind yourself this is not what you deserve.

No matter how many times you have been hurt, and how many times you have heard, “You deserve better,” do not even once think that statement is false. You do deserve better; you deserve the best. And just because you’ve been hurt before, and have heard it numerous times, you can’t begin to doubt it now.

12. Do not doubt your self-worth.

You should not give anyone the ability to take away your confidence. You have control over your own attitude, and you should not allow someone who hurts you to change it. You have the power to create your own happiness, so don’t let him take that away from you. Smile, even if it hurts.

13. Think of the lessons this hurt will enable you to learn.

There will be things to learn from this in the future. Maybe you can’t realize it now, but as time passes you’ll be able to recognize things that the initial shock blinded you from. Maybe you’ll realize that it is possible for you to let someone in, maybe you’ll realize that he was a childish jerk all along, whatever it is, you will learn something from this mess of a heartbreak.

14. Let this pain demonstrate things about yourself that you never knew existed.

You can let your guard down. You can give love a try. No, it didn’t work, but that’s because you let that guard down for the wrong person. It’s not because you chose to trust someone, it is because you chose to trust the wrong person.

15. Don’t think about all of the things you did for him.

Or gave to him, and wish you could take them back. You can’t change the past, and you gave him those things because you felt something that you thought was real. Now you know it wasn’t, and you can move on.

16. Do not regret the time you spent with him.

Do not wish away the memories you made together, but remember the lesson this has all taught you. Now go make new memories without him.

17. Remember you will find someone who will never hurt you the way he did.

wristwatch:
It's a pity that age is not directly proportional to maturity but rather inversely related as regards some guys.

Finding a good girlfriend/wife is a good thing but the personality of the hunter must be right standing.

Guys complain of the declining rate of good ladies whereby they fail to do the right thing rather do silly acts.

Therefore, let's take a look @ these silly things guys do.

1. Negative Assumption Towards all Ladies

In this present era, it's no longer a news that we have dense population of gold diggers among ladies but having a negative assertion that all ladies are thieves is wrong. This kind of mentality can make you loose the next good girl that comes your way.

2. Irresponsible Dressing

This point has been discussed time and time again. Acts like sagging, wearing tattered shirts/jeans, devilish tattoo, un kept hairstyles, etc is a turn off for a good lady to pick from these category of guys.

3. Ass /Butt Licking

This is becoming a major concern just like comparing it to economic meltdown/ebola virus/terrorist attacks/xenophobia. It is however a show of shame when you see immature guys defending senseless topics/statement/words put forward by adolescence ladies just to gain their favouritism. This act is anonymous to social websites and forums where some guys open silly threads as regards their obsession to big ass ladies.

4. Disrespect for People

An act of disrespect is a discomfort to all category of ladies. Such guys possess potential attitude of beating their wives like a wrestler. They abuse elders, their mates and treat their younger ones like shit. Example of such guys are the notorious agberos, area boys, etc.

5. Having uncontrolled Sex

Their urge for sex is insatiable. They are known as jonny walker in penetrating every skirt they come by. Even a Calabar Girl will reject their proposal as their brain is wickedly oriented with sex thoughts. These set of guys have countless number of porn video on their mobile devices.


6. Stealing

Stealing to prove you are capable of meeting her financial need is a shameful thing to do. Once any lady be it good or bad observe this, she will "magaed" the guy straight off and become available on transfer market for serious minded dudes.

7. Lying

Lying about something you don't have just to win her is a silly thing to do. Let her love you for "who you are not what you are". I have seen guys borrowing expensive cars just to woo babes. Some claim titanic containers awaiting their approval @ sea ports, etc.