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Thanks mate. She looks older and acts older than her age. I will need to ask her of she is truly ready for such commitment.

I am 29 and my lover will be 21 by November this year. I want to settle down soonest but the only woman in my life I consider to be too young. I have discussed this with her and she said she will be my wife if i want her.

She is a very good girl, she sees me like her big brother, father and lover. I love her so dearly. I dont want to take advantage of her, I just want her to make her choice not just for me to be happy.Sometimes I feel like is she too young and still need sometimes to really discover her her self but i cant wait for too long since am ready.

Please advise me on the best way to go about this. Matured advise pls

I need a matured lady for a relationship. You can mail to benblues76@yahoo.co.uk

The Original thread was "Was Asked to Quit Few Weeks to Marriage".

Thank you all for your care, concern and love.

I have learnt from all your post and my mind is made.

How can I go about a clean disengagement? It`s obvious that she wouldn`t give me this without a fight (because she will fell hurt and dumped). And I wouldn`t want this to bring problems to the two families especially now that they are expecting the best from us.

Please help.

Thank you all for your care, concern and love.

I have learnt from all your post and my mind is made.

How can I go about a clean disengagement? It`s obvious that she wouldn`t give me this without a fight (because she will fell hurt and dumped). And I wouldn`t want this to bring problems to the two families especially now that they are expecting the best from us.

Please help.

@sistawoman

We are planning to go to the alter next month (by end of May)
I am 31 while she is 26
We have courted for three years (we got engaged last December)

I was not a regular visitor of nairaland until my friend brought my case to the platform weeks ago. He told me to visit the site to see the response of people on my case.

I met a girl way back at school. I grow to love her and finally got engaged with her. My parents went to a pastor who said she is not the right woman for me. I told them that I will never leave her for anything. Ever since then my parents has been very helpful on the relationship despite the fact that a pastor warned them on the relationship. Except for my mum who in one on two occassions pointed to me that this girl will be in total control of your life if I am not careful, that she has seen it in her.Late last we travelled to Ghana to go see her mum (because she is seperated with the dad and now base in Ghana). The arrangement for the wedding has reached it finally stage and now.

Early this month, she handed me the list of people she do not want me to associate with and the list of those she did not want to see in the house anymore (my cousins and friends inclusive). She said that they could be a threat to our marriage. Honestly she has her good side which I admire everday. She is a hardworking lady who quickly rise to the top management position in her coy. Her attitude towards my folks and her temper this days is something I cant bear. I have spoken to her on this issue and she has refused to change

I am always the one who try to understand her whenever she do something wrong but if i go wrong for anything she can rake till thy kingdom come.She was not like this when we first met at school. Now what do I do to change her . I am thinking of pulling out of the relationship. What do I do good people of Nairaland?

Matured response please.