₦airaland Forum

NaijaLandGuy:
Stop bodyshaming people

No employer body shames anyone. They all need an employee that would take the business to the next level, meaning more customers, more sales, more profit. And if such a person does not deliver, his or her services would no longer be needed.

D111:
What about the senate president daughter,Aparbio
She dey work for nnpcl, she's *2 of this stature

Senate president daughter is not looking for where to work or serve.

ILoveNG:
Have you heard about something they call genetics?

If she can't do anything about her stature due to genetics as you say, let her go and open her establishment and employ people like her and let's see how long it lasts. Go to well run businesses like banks, eateries, supermarket, factories, count 20 staff and see if one person, male or female is as fat as this and get back to me. If you see, maybe it's the owners child and not an employee. Also ask how long the person has been there. The owner or his wife or kids can be fat, not a hardworking employee.

Bahamas95:
Where dem post her go? I like to know before any further comment.


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Just imagine say na eatery or milk factory dem post her go, give me one reason why dem nor go reject her.

She can't work in a service industry business wise, unless her employer is sleeping with her.

Efuaye:
I would sue them in court if I were her. Some Nigerians need to be taught a lesson to serve as a deterrent.

Go and open your business and employ people like her and see your business close in less than 6 months.

faceland:
I can't hire a obese person.

They would kill your business. That fat is pure INDISCIPLINE.

I have had about 11 girls, working for me. I may be biased, but from my experience, all the fat girls, steal your sales money, steal your shop items, are lazy etc. Surprisingly enough, most of the slim hungry girls are dependable, your full money is intact, your items are not missing. I would always choose slim girls as staff, to fat girls from my experience. And it may interest you to know that in customer service, the slim girls attract customers and look at how to make the business improve. The reverse is the same for the fat girls who just want their salaries to be paid. I do dash the slim girls money due to sales even today, I don't do that for the fat girls due to poor sales. This is not discrimination. It's a 3 years experience. I can pay any amount for a good staff and ensure to make the staff happy even though, I'm running at a loss.

[quote author=fabolouz1 post=139966782]Women are breaking up the ceilings
Hopefully soon ,we will get a female president [/quot
It's difficult here because women don't like to spend money.

opera1:
What were the men doing for God's sake. Well, what a man can do, a woman can do better

I once taught in a prestigious private school. It's surprising that all the best students👩‍🎓 are girls. In one instance, If you decide due to the poor results of all students to add 10 marks, so most can pass to their total score, the best👍💯 girl would be cheated as you can't add anything to her 100 over 100. Because she would get 110/100. I taught SS1 students Maths and Further maths. Her home lesson teacher was her dad who worked in Shell. The girl was too good👍!

Assassina:
Igbo Ladies are more beautiful than Yoruba ladies

It's not everything you know in life that you say. God rewards people for a reason. Being humble is one of them. Be humble and do not always say your mind.

nlfpmod:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DahsAw9CENx/?img_index=1&igsh=MWJlMDd3dzVwYmxmag==

. Congrats to you two✌. I love seeing intelligent women!

gtassure:
Where is His bank account number?

If you do not have a trusted religion account number to credit, give it to other humans without expecting anything in return. God loves a cheerful giver.

Techu:
Do you recharge the solar like nepa bill every month ?
Does it run on meter?

Or you just install and use.

Install and use, the bright daylight or sunlight☀️ from God is given to all free. God does not ask for anything in return. You can make a voluntary donation to God to appreciate his free sunlight.

nlfpmod:
Nigerian influencer Kayode Ogundamisi shares a video footage of a solar inverter and battery system that began smoking indoors, was moved outside, and then caught fire on a dirt compound, issuing a warning to stay clear of smoking lithium units due to explosion risk.

A solar inverter started smoking inside a home. It was moved outside before catching fire.
If your inverter or battery starts smoking, stay away. Lithium battery fires can explode. pic.twitter.com/G6x7pJAHYJ

— Káyọ̀dé Ògúndámisí 🇳🇬 (@ogundamisi) June 27, 2026

He said it himself that they convert Lithium battery one by one. Don't purchase solar system from someone who has not installed solar system for perhaps over a 100 people. Don't buy locally made solar materials. Don't give 20k to someone to install for 2 hours if an experienced person ask for 100k, go for 100k and listen to their advice. If they ask for big wires costing say 100k, don't use small wire of 50k to save money, also buy everything they ask you even if others use it well without.

henrylaptops:
Generator vs Solar: Which Saves More Money?

For many homeowners and businesses, one question continues to come up: Should I keep relying on a fuel generator, or is it finally time to invest in solar energy?

With rising fuel prices, frequent power outages, and increasing electricity costs, choosing the right power solution has become more important than ever. While generators have served as a dependable backup source for decades, solar energy has rapidly become a more practical and cost-effective alternative for long-term energy needs.

Both systems have their strengths, but when it comes to saving money over time, the difference becomes increasingly clear. This article compares generators and solar energy across several important factors to help you make an informed decision.

Understanding the Difference

Although both generators and solar systems provide electricity, they operate in completely different ways.
A generator produces electricity by burning fuel such as petrol or diesel. It requires continuous refueling, regular maintenance, and mechanical servicing to remain operational.

A solar energy system captures sunlight through solar panels and converts it into electricity. When paired with a hybrid inverter and battery storage, excess energy is stored for use at night or during cloudy weather.

The biggest distinction is simple:
Generators consume fuel every time they operate.

Solar systems use free energy from the sun.
This difference has a significant impact on long-term operating costs.
Initial Investment
Many people choose generators because the initial purchase price is relatively low.

Buying a small generator often costs less than installing a complete solar power system.

However, the purchase price tells only part of the story.
A solar installation includes several components:
Solar panels
Hybrid inverter
Battery storage
Mounting structure
Electrical protection
Professional installation
While the upfront investment is higher, these components are designed to provide reliable service for many years.
Daily Operating Costs
This is where the financial comparison changes dramatically.
Every hour a generator runs, it consumes fuel.

That means owners constantly spend money on:
Petrol or diesel
Engine oil
Filters
Routine servicing
Replacement parts
As fuel prices increase, operating costs rise as well.
Solar energy is different.
Once installed, sunlight costs nothing.
The system generates electricity every day without purchasing fuel, making operating expenses significantly lower.

Maintenance Costs

Generators contain moving mechanical parts that experience wear over time.
Routine maintenance usually includes:
Oil changes
Air filter replacement
Spark plug replacement
Fuel system servicing
Engine repairs
Unexpected breakdowns can also result in costly repairs and business interruptions.

Solar systems have very few moving parts.
Maintenance generally involves:
Cleaning the solar panels
Inspecting electrical connections
Occasional battery and inverter inspections
This translates into lower maintenance costs throughout the system's lifespan.
Fuel Costs Over Time
Fuel expenses represent one of the largest hidden costs of generator ownership.

Imagine a business operating a diesel generator for several hours every day.
Monthly fuel expenses can become substantial.
Over several years, the total amount spent on fuel often exceeds the original purchase price of the generator.
Solar systems eliminate this recurring expense by producing electricity from sunlight.

Instead of buying fuel every week, businesses can invest those savings into expansion, equipment, or staff development.
Electricity During Power Outages
Both generators and solar systems provide backup electricity during grid failures.
However, the experience is very different.

Generators require:
Fuel availability
Manual starting
Engine noise
Exhaust emissions

Solar systems with battery storage can automatically continue supplying power without noise or fuel.

For homes and businesses that experience frequent outages, this creates a more convenient and reliable solution.

Noise Levels
Generators are well known for their loud operation.
Noise can disturb:
Employees
Customers
Neighbors
Students
Hospital patients
Solar systems operate almost silently.
This creates a quieter and more comfortable working environment.
Environmental Impact
Fuel generators release carbon dioxide and other pollutants into the atmosphere.

Continuous generator use contributes to:
Air pollution
Noise pollution
Greenhouse gas emissions
Solar energy produces clean electricity without combustion.
Using renewable energy helps reduce environmental impact while supporting global sustainability goals.
Equipment Protection
Poor-quality electricity and voltage fluctuations can damage expensive equipment.

Modern solar systems with quality hybrid inverters provide stable power suitable for:
Computers
Televisions
Medical equipment
Office electronics
Security systems
Industrial control equipment
This stable power supply helps reduce the risk of equipment failure.

Reliability

Generators depend on fuel availability.
If fuel becomes scarce or expensive, operating the generator becomes difficult.

Solar systems depend primarily on sunlight and stored battery energy.
With proper sizing and battery capacity, they can provide reliable electricity throughout the day and night.
Long-Term Financial Savings

Let's compare long-term ownership.

Generator
Recurring expenses include:
Fuel
Oil
Repairs
Maintenance
Replacement parts

These costs continue for as long as the generator is in use.

Solar System
Major expenses occur during installation.
Afterward, operating costs remain relatively low while the system continues generating electricity year after year.

Over the long term, many homeowners and businesses recover their investment through reduced fuel and electricity expenses.

Which Option Is Better for Businesses?

Businesses benefit significantly from reliable and predictable energy costs.
Solar energy can help businesses:
Reduce operating expenses
Improve productivity
Protect sensitive equipment
Lower generator dependence
Increase profitability
Enhance environmental responsibility
Many companies now combine solar systems with battery storage to reduce fuel consumption while maintaining reliable backup power.

Which Option Is Better for Homes?

Families also benefit from solar energy through:
Lower electricity bills
Reduced fuel purchases
Quiet operation
Reliable lighting
Better protection for home electronics
Increased property value
The convenience of having clean electricity without constant generator maintenance makes solar an attractive long-term investment.

Can You Use Both?

Absolutely.
Many homeowners and businesses use a hybrid approach.
A solar system supplies most of the daily electricity, while a generator remains available for extended periods of poor weather or unusually high energy demand.
This combination minimizes fuel consumption while providing additional peace of mind.

When Does a Generator Make Sense?
Generators are still useful in situations such as:
Short-term emergency backup
Temporary construction sites
Outdoor events
Remote locations where installing solar is not practical
However, for everyday residential and commercial electricity needs, relying solely on a generator can become increasingly expensive over time.
The Verdict: Which Saves More Money?
If you're comparing only the purchase price, a generator usually costs less upfront.
But if you're looking at the total cost of ownership—including fuel, maintenance, repairs, and daily operating expenses—solar energy often provides greater savings over the long term.

By generating electricity from free sunlight, reducing dependence on fuel, and requiring minimal maintenance, solar systems offer a cost-effective solution for homeowners and businesses seeking reliable power.

As energy prices continue to rise, investing in solar is not just an environmentally responsible choice—it is a smart financial decision that can deliver savings for many years.

As someone who has used solar for ten 🔟years, the answer is a resounding solar. The huge cost of solar setup I did last for 247 light was recovered in just 9 months. I have used it for over one and a half years. If I need to change anything in years to come, it's only the battery

henrylaptops:
Generator vs Solar: Which Saves More Money?

For many homeowners and businesses, one question continues to come up: Should I keep relying on a fuel generator, or is it finally time to invest in solar energy?

With rising fuel prices, frequent power outages, and increasing electricity costs, choosing the right power solution has become more important than ever. While generators have served as a dependable backup source for decades, solar energy has rapidly become a more practical and cost-effective alternative for long-term energy needs.

Both systems have their strengths, but when it comes to saving money over time, the difference becomes increasingly clear. This article compares generators and solar energy across several important factors to help you make an informed decision.

Understanding the Difference

Although both generators and solar systems provide electricity, they operate in completely different ways.
A generator produces electricity by burning fuel such as petrol or diesel. It requires continuous refueling, regular maintenance, and mechanical servicing to remain operational.

A solar energy system captures sunlight through solar panels and converts it into electricity. When paired with a hybrid inverter and battery storage, excess energy is stored for use at night or during cloudy weather.

The biggest distinction is simple:
Generators consume fuel every time they operate.

Solar systems use free energy from the sun.
This difference has a significant impact on long-term operating costs.
Initial Investment
Many people choose generators because the initial purchase price is relatively low.

Buying a small generator often costs less than installing a complete solar power system.

However, the purchase price tells only part of the story.
A solar installation includes several components:
Solar panels
Hybrid inverter
Battery storage
Mounting structure
Electrical protection
Professional installation
While the upfront investment is higher, these components are designed to provide reliable service for many years.
Daily Operating Costs
This is where the financial comparison changes dramatically.
Every hour a generator runs, it consumes fuel.

That means owners constantly spend money on:
Petrol or diesel
Engine oil
Filters
Routine servicing
Replacement parts
As fuel prices increase, operating costs rise as well.
Solar energy is different.
Once installed, sunlight costs nothing.
The system generates electricity every day without purchasing fuel, making operating expenses significantly lower.

Maintenance Costs

Generators contain moving mechanical parts that experience wear over time.
Routine maintenance usually includes:
Oil changes
Air filter replacement
Spark plug replacement
Fuel system servicing
Engine repairs
Unexpected breakdowns can also result in costly repairs and business interruptions.

Solar systems have very few moving parts.
Maintenance generally involves:
Cleaning the solar panels
Inspecting electrical connections
Occasional battery and inverter inspections
This translates into lower maintenance costs throughout the system's lifespan.
Fuel Costs Over Time
Fuel expenses represent one of the largest hidden costs of generator ownership.

Imagine a business operating a diesel generator for several hours every day.
Monthly fuel expenses can become substantial.
Over several years, the total amount spent on fuel often exceeds the original purchase price of the generator.
Solar systems eliminate this recurring expense by producing electricity from sunlight.

Instead of buying fuel every week, businesses can invest those savings into expansion, equipment, or staff development.
Electricity During Power Outages
Both generators and solar systems provide backup electricity during grid failures.
However, the experience is very different.

Generators require:
Fuel availability
Manual starting
Engine noise
Exhaust emissions

Solar systems with battery storage can automatically continue supplying power without noise or fuel.

For homes and businesses that experience frequent outages, this creates a more convenient and reliable solution.

Noise Levels
Generators are well known for their loud operation.
Noise can disturb:
Employees
Customers
Neighbors
Students
Hospital patients
Solar systems operate almost silently.
This creates a quieter and more comfortable working environment.
Environmental Impact
Fuel generators release carbon dioxide and other pollutants into the atmosphere.

Continuous generator use contributes to:
Air pollution
Noise pollution
Greenhouse gas emissions
Solar energy produces clean electricity without combustion.
Using renewable energy helps reduce environmental impact while supporting global sustainability goals.
Equipment Protection
Poor-quality electricity and voltage fluctuations can damage expensive equipment.

Modern solar systems with quality hybrid inverters provide stable power suitable for:
Computers
Televisions
Medical equipment
Office electronics
Security systems
Industrial control equipment
This stable power supply helps reduce the risk of equipment failure.

Reliability

Generators depend on fuel availability.
If fuel becomes scarce or expensive, operating the generator becomes difficult.

Solar systems depend primarily on sunlight and stored battery energy.
With proper sizing and battery capacity, they can provide reliable electricity throughout the day and night.
Long-Term Financial Savings

Let's compare long-term ownership.

Generator
Recurring expenses include:
Fuel
Oil
Repairs
Maintenance
Replacement parts

These costs continue for as long as the generator is in use.

Solar System
Major expenses occur during installation.
Afterward, operating costs remain relatively low while the system continues generating electricity year after year.

Over the long term, many homeowners and businesses recover their investment through reduced fuel and electricity expenses.

Which Option Is Better for Businesses?

Businesses benefit significantly from reliable and predictable energy costs.
Solar energy can help businesses:
Reduce operating expenses
Improve productivity
Protect sensitive equipment
Lower generator dependence
Increase profitability
Enhance environmental responsibility
Many companies now combine solar systems with battery storage to reduce fuel consumption while maintaining reliable backup power.

Which Option Is Better for Homes?

Families also benefit from solar energy through:
Lower electricity bills
Reduced fuel purchases
Quiet operation
Reliable lighting
Better protection for home electronics
Increased property value
The convenience of having clean electricity without constant generator maintenance makes solar an attractive long-term investment.

Can You Use Both?

Absolutely.
Many homeowners and businesses use a hybrid approach.
A solar system supplies most of the daily electricity, while a generator remains available for extended periods of poor weather or unusually high energy demand.
This combination minimizes fuel consumption while providing additional peace of mind.

When Does a Generator Make Sense?
Generators are still useful in situations such as:
Short-term emergency backup
Temporary construction sites
Outdoor events
Remote locations where installing solar is not practical
However, for everyday residential and commercial electricity needs, relying solely on a generator can become increasingly expensive over time.
The Verdict: Which Saves More Money?
If you're comparing only the purchase price, a generator usually costs less upfront.
But if you're looking at the total cost of ownership—including fuel, maintenance, repairs, and daily operating expenses—solar energy often provides greater savings over the long term.

By generating electricity from free sunlight, reducing dependence on fuel, and requiring minimal maintenance, solar systems offer a cost-effective solution for homeowners and businesses seeking reliable power.

As energy prices continue to rise, investing in solar is not just an environmentally responsible choice—it is a smart financial decision that can deliver savings for many years.

As someone who has used solar for ten 🔟years, the answer is a resounding solar. The huge cost of solar setup I did last for 247 light was recovered in just 9 months. I have used it for over one and a half years. If I need to change anything in years to come, it's only the battery.

AccidentedCars:
You will find love without money, but only when you're a boy. When you become a man, that grace is taken from you.

There's a level of affection you will NEVER experience, even from good women, if you can't afford a basic, livable income.

I am not even referring to sending money in its monetary form. I mean just the things that make life easier to go through.

My partner had a job interview in another city last year. Not a local thing – a real opportunity, the kind that could shift her career.

The interview was at 9 AM on a Monday.

She told me about it on Thursday evening.

By Friday morning, I had booked her a bus ticket for Sunday, reserved a decent hotel room near the venue so she wouldn't be scrambling on Monday morning, and sent her money for a new blouse because the one she planned to wear had a pulled thread she hadn't noticed.

She did her prep on Saturday. I sat on a video call with her for nearly 3 hours while she practiced her answers. Not because she asked – because I knew she was nervous and wouldn't say it.

Sunday evening she got to the city. She called me from the hotel room.

"Babe, it's clean. There's hot water. I feel like a human being."

That sentence hit me differently.

"I feel like a human being."

The bus ticket, the hotel, the blouse – maybe ₦85,000 total. Not a fortune. But it was the difference between her showing up stressed, underprepared, and exhausted from an overnight bus… and showing up rested, sharp, and confident.

She got the role.

This isn't a one-off. This is just what being present looks like when you can afford to be.

I keep a stocked kitchen whenever she's around. Not fancy things – eggs, bread, rice, the basics. But ALWAYS stocked. Because "there's nothing at home" is a sentence I don't allow in my house.

I handle data and subscriptions without being asked. Netflix, the Wi-Fi router, her Spotify. Small things. Maybe ₦15,000 a month combined. But she never has to think about them. That's the point.

I can't stand the heat. I physically cannot function when it's 35 degrees inside. So if I can't take it, how can I let her sit in it? That's fuel money. Every single day when there's no grid power. 5 to 7 litres. Daily. Especially when she's staying over.

We don't do "let's manage." We don't trek to places. It's always a cab or a keke at minimum.

That's not luxury. That's what I consider basic.

Add it up over a year:

Fuel for the generator. Transport every weekend. Groceries restocked every week. Subscriptions renewed every month. Random needs – a drug she needs at midnight, airtime when her line runs out during something important, data when she's on deadline.

That sums up to well over 2 million naira each year. And I'm not talking about MONEY sent as money. I am just referring to basic convenience.

The things that make a woman feel like she's with someone who has capacity. Not wealth. CAPACITY.

Your best bet as a young man is waiting until you're certain that love is ALREADY present before following through with generosity.

So yes, you can find love without money.

But there's a level of love you cannot preserve without financial stability, not because your partner is a bad girl, but simply because this is the fucking planet, and the nuances that make life beautiful, or at least livable, are expensive.

In summary, you'll find love without money as I did all through the years when I was a boy.

That grace is removed when you become a man.

Why have you not married 💍her so you can stop counting and wasting her time⌚?

shortgun:
You never jam better juju

See dem advocates. Nothing like that. It can only affect you if you are greedy or believe it.

glolomoh:
Letting a woman know your earnings and how you spend it especially for your parents is a grade A simping and foolishness.

Give her what her dues and keep quiet.

I concur. You as a man have done enough. A man earns 6 or more digits pay and nothing for himself on a monthly basis. Not even the least 5k. Savings are for capital projects.

silibaba:
I can't even allow my partner know my total take home self.

It's never a wise move in my own opinion.

Rich4god:
If the wife has brothers... The man has no obligation to send any money to her family.

But if the wife has no grown up brother, then maybe the man should try and squeeze out something for them.

Squeeze out something from 50k remaining for his transportation, house rent, light bill, clothes, house 🏠repair? Please the man has done too much already. He may occasionally assist the wife's parents like once in 6 months or so, but he is not under compulsion.

marlow1962:
Don't meet there parents yet, just keep playing along. Only time reveals the one you will choose or the one that wants to be with you.

But what's women with "when are you coming to see my parents" talk, lol.

That's the right thing for a woman 👩. You can't be sleeping with her and not ready to take the relationship to the next level. Wicked up is doing it with 2 at a time. Very bad.o

sonofthunder:
Do you have any debt you are servicing? Car repayments? The business you set up for your wife?

How much do you spend on accommodation monthly and how much is upkeep at home?

Do you have any projects you are servicing? Land or house acquisition? Post graduate degree?

Approximately how much goes to charity? Family n friends support? Tithes? Etc?

You should be saving more to the best of my knowledge.

You answer to the above can help narrow it down.

Barring and extreme life circumstances, you should be saving 2m+ annually

2m annually is low. Minimum of 4m. Savings above 300k a day.

Slizzords:
Good afternoon everyone, I know that nairaland is filled with a lot of reasonable and experienced people, am a young man and I need guidance please.

So am married with a 8 month old baby, and make about 1M naira monthly for the past 3years now , it's not been easy from a financial aspect because we live in lagos and I discover that as I write this, I don't have up to 3M naira to my name, I don't know how money disappears, please note that am not a lavish spender, I don't party or go clubbing.

Please how do I save more money, because God forbid something happens now I don't have any money to fall back on. No landed property or anything. Please I need help thanks.

Save at least 400k to 500k monthly via monthly insurance savings for a 3 year plan. You can do two plans. If you are driving 🚘in Lagos and it's taking over 200k a month, consider entering public transport. 3. When you have small money buy cheap land elsewhere maybe Ogun state. 4. Open a shop for business. 5. Make extra money like 400k a month to augment that salary. Stop depending on salary. Even when salary is paid, give yourself 2 or more days to plan how to spend that salary before touching anything. In essence, survive without salary.

Vergovert:
The vendor has to provide the suppliers and ultimately, the producers of that trash.


That way, the funds would be returned, the vendor and the manufacturer jailed and the community is safe from the fraudsters.

How much did she pay for this? Vita foam tells you the price of this size is three or four times, you buy a cheaper one. That's the problem here.

truthhurts2:
How expensive is the court fee is really my question...


Thanks though...

You can start from 150k, 500k, 2m or more. If you don't have money if it's not resolvable, opt for separation. You can divorce 👪➡👨👩😭after a decade or more, when you are financially okay👌.

OredoPikin:
We never marry
She organise my life.
When i met her, i was dating 2 other girls.
The first was just looking for a guy that was ready for marriage and she stayed because she hasn't seen😂
The second one was after what she can get from me
But when this one came, she was opposite of the first 2 in everything.
After dating/observing the 3 for 5 to 6months, i ended everything with the first 2 and focussed on only her and its been a year and 8months now. and no regret

Why are you delaying marrying her?

Because tomorrow, you may say she left you for someone richer, whereas you are wasting her time⌚ and perhaps avoiding pregnancy.

OredoPikin:
We never marry
She organise my life.
When i met her, i was dating 2 other girls.
The first was just looking for a guy that was ready for marriage and she stayed because she hasn't seen😂
The second one was after what she can get from me
But when this one came, she was opposite of the first 2 in everything.
After dating/observing the 3 for 5 to 6months, i ended everything with the first 2 and focussed on only her and its been a year and 8months now. and no regret

Why are you delaying marrying her?

Love800:
I was told that during dating(courting), the girl will be pretending, and its when you finally marry that you will meet her original version.

Not all girls. My woman👩 was not always demanding even she knows I have. We went to a restaurant and I asked her to order anything, she only asked for ice cream🍦. She also cook 🍲for me. I realized that she is the one.

Bendeco02:
This is ignorant statement.

Even your sisters demands money from you.

The Bleep up is dating a jobless girl. Where do you expect her to get money if not you?

Every girl will demand money from you especially when she have no job but the difference is the rate of which she keep asking or over billing.

Love doesn't stop women from demanding money. Just that a girl that love you can't leave you because you fail to give her.

You spoke right. Every man should pray to have more money than their woman👩 and continue to give her money even if she is rich

slipperyanus07:
Op u never see love u go even steal or sell ur phone just to make it up to ur gf or wife ajeh

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A very good woman👩 knows what to do to make a man spend all his money. The fact is that she has the keys🔑 to his pocket. Don't ever give to a manipulative woman👩 like that. Shine your eyes👀.

Namaster:
Tell her to bring the kid and BEFORE you say/do anything, go for a DNA test.

It DOESN'T matter how much the child LOOKS like you, STILL run a DNA test.

You are DEALING with a disloyal CHEATER.

If DNA confirms the child is yours, take STEPS to play a BIG ROLE in her life.

If POSSIBLE, tell the WoRHe that you're willing to take the chill OFF her hands so she can FOCUS on catering for the other two KIDS.

Your GOAL is to ensure that your DAUGHTER (as confirmed by DNA test) is NOT raised by a Single Mother.

If you LET your daughter be raised by a Single Mother, you may end up being the FATHER of a Nigerian Bonnie Blue.

ALSO, the claim that she DIDN'T tell you earlier because you were NOT "ready to settle down" is clearly a LIE.

After all, she was ALREADY firmly settled down with a WIFE-BEATER (allegedly) at the time she was FROLICKING with you.

She was ESSENTIALLY married.

And she did NOT want to LOSE her PROVIDER.

Now that that's done and she's STUCK raising THREE kids by herself in this Great Tinubulation, she's looking for another FINANCIAL CUSHION, aka YOU.

Anyway whatever you do, NEVER invite her to live with you.
Unless you want to be the BREADWINNER for another man's family.

If you LET her guilt-trip you into ANY kind of cohabitation, be ready to PROVIDE for 3 extra people.

And when she's SUCKED you dry, she'll tell the NEXT guy you were a "wife beater".

Have SENSE!

You spoke well. If I hear a woman say her man is a wife beater, I don't judge the man at all. I leave it to God to judge the situation, because based on my experience, the man beater or trouble maker wife may actually be setting up her man, while she is the problem.

Lovelink1991:
Are you saying that it doesn't really means it will end in sickle cell 100%?

Yes