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Idonki:
If he trys to find out,,,
1,He s nt a gud man
2,he knws wt he's doing
3,definitely, he earns mur dan 70k as he said,...

Becus i see knw man n his ryt senses looking forward by all means to knw hw much dy wife earns n a month........

so what's the whole essence of allowing the girl child go to school and work like men if not to take on responsibilities?

please kindly teach me why a man in his right senses shouldn't know his wife's salary.

thanks

cococandy please read the guy I quoted and address him. since most of you ladies avoided his comment. thanks.

Mayflowa:
I am going to disagree with your first sentence. When a man pays most of the bills, they act like God. They are control freaks and demand every form of loyalty and respect from their partner. Often, the women are very will to yield to him. Men are sorta wicked!

When it is a woman turn to pay all the bills, the man still wanna call the shot, do little or nothing to help and still hope to get all the respects men providers get. Nay... you can't have it both way bro. Men are very inconsiderate. I have looked into this as a research.

in every society even the family structure yes there must always be a god. but remember even God has Jesus and the holy spirit as allies.

society and nature has given the man the roll of the god. and any proposition that deviates from this is seen as a taboo. money or no money.

there are good people. there are bad people. men or women

Blade21:
before I started working my hubby was taking full financial responsibility he always complained at a point I felt really bad bearing financial responsibility alone is not easy both for a man and woman so her complaining is only natural in fact she's a good woman

yes she's indeed a good woman going by the impression she paints. all that need be done is talk this out and probably pray.

if this should escalate it won't go down well.

eyinjuege:
Even a man taking care of 100% of the bills always complains. So don't fault her for complaining. Its not easy to be honest.
Op is still taking care of all the other aspects of running the home, despite being the financial pillar. I can't imagine a man bringing in the money , and still doing the cooking, housework, childcare etc. You can see there's no equality in that either.
Her husband brings in less than 10k ( used for water and electricity bills) monthly. I'm sure even as a bachelor, he didn't use10k as living expenses.
How much more as a family man now with 2 children, and he's comfortable bringing in 10k?
A man earning peanuts compared to his wife should be giving her his whole salary (save for transport and small daily expenses for work), so that she can disburse the money as necessary. That way, there won't be any resentment from her. Rather he's taking out loans on frivolous things, and putting further financial pressure on his wife.
Infact he should be given cane everyday

I made that statement to those who were already calling the man useless up there.

nice point though.

when a man takes care of the bill 100% there's no problem. when a woman does close to 90% there'll be problem. so much for gender equality nonsense.

on that note, please keep paying the bills but leave out some and get him tensed. like make him understand its not enough. don't push too far with this though.

anyways, I think he is too relaxed because of your pay. talk sense to him or talk to his family for help.

and yes am not married so this advice is based on common sense.

In Africa. love does not exist.
go get the money and be a god.
kapish

Bumbae1:
lol

meanwhile, you didn't answer my question. you live in lagos or UK?

Bumbae1:
Lol na dis kin tin u dey like

no really why would someone do that. not even a cucumber. A cassava? Crazy

Soo funny

Bumbae1:
Haha d imagery too real fear dey ketch me

you see your team?

Rastamann:
No mata what, do not hit a woman!

no matter what?

i don't think you know what that means.

9jayes:
You have been heartbroken before

No.

Bumbae1:
But the guy loves her too

But that is his mum .. he too doesn't know what to do about it and he can't tell his mum how to act .. you know its big taboo

thats the path set out by nature. he should get another. and if his mother complains he should damn her

let's say he dies, wont she love someone else again?

love is never written on stones.

9jayes:
Love conquered all things

Love conquers nothing

wake up

she should walk away. for how long will she fight?

love is never written on stones. she'll find another

pocohantas:
Apart from sex, what else do Nigerian guys offer?
Apart from sex, what else can Nigerian guys accept happily?

Like I said in another thread , both the lady offering just sex and you that is accepting are both senseless and deserving of each other. You're what you attract...

How many of you guys that ask this question, have taken your time out to ask your girl her career goals? Some of you dated series of girls in university, did you ever ask her GP or challenging courses?
How many of you have ever bought a book for your girlfriends? Let it na be that she didn't read it.

Once babe come to una house, next thing is to buy lacasera and buns, put on i-pass-my-neighbour-generator, then start playing one mumu sex inducing movies from an old laptop.

What do some of you offer?
How many of you have resisted the urge to insert prick?
How many of you have looked a lady in the eye, tell her this relationship isn't about sex but us developing each other? Lemme see how that lady won't appreciate you in years to come.

I didn't answer your question because I know where it's aimed at.

whether you like it a not, seks is the most reasonable wager from a woman.

give and take make parties happy and feel fulfilled in every reasonable deal.

why do you think there are prostitutes? to exchange value for value.

as long as girls chase money and "successful"(rich) guys then the guys on the other hand will always demand for something that commensurate with the money, something of value. although that is subjective but a larger percentage of guys would prefer the Womanliness because that is what women value much.

Societies shape us and we shape societies.

and for your bolded. that is trash. talk about what is obtainable out there. a larger percentage of girls would spit on a guy's face if he says something of such.

the issue is. societies create benchmarks, and that is usually difficult to change since every kid born jumps in the wagon of what everyone does. blame no one and blame all.

Bumbae1:
Liverpool chai na u b dis

until both genders stop fighting over issues like this and talk about it with open mind, the problem will never go away. seriously

Bumbae1:
The possibility of cheating think more with guys
Ladies can hold out for longer time than males (fact) if you check stats most long dis relationship fail because of the MEN

Its just natural. dont blame us

Berlynn:
they look really lovely together


pretty babes

we don't want that in our society. period

Bumbae1:
Is this owliver ??
As u be liverpool supporter.. na my club b dat .. yh sure pm me

lolz. do ff bk

Bumbae1:
I own it ..

i'd like to call you tonight. for a chit chat. if you don't mind

Bumbae1:
Yup with few perks

few perks? what is that?

Bumbae1:
U know y I bothered honestly thought he was just playing around as i thought it was a bit of banter u know NL ... but can see now his insane
I don hear

are you a working class? if i may ask

no make up but edited pics? whats the difference?

LordAdam16:
Trust me, 95% of ladies reason exactly like her.

That is the sad reality.

-Lord

That statement shows she's still a young spoilt brat and probably deserves what she got from her previous relationship.
i guess they can only do that to puccies.

LordAdam16:
Seriously @ the bolded!!!

So the guy doesn't see plenty to choose from out there?

We're at a very awful point when it is acceptable to entertain offers outside because the flame isn't as bright as it was on day 1?

If ladies are so sure they're always going to get guys 10x better than guys they are in a relationship with, what's the point in entering relationships? Statistically, each of us has more than 1 person who is right for us.

So what, guys have to accept that they're just holding the gate until someone else (*10x better*) pops along? No wonder we hear sh*t like, the problem ain't you, I just don't feel it anymore. Then months later, they're back with the usual it was a mistake, I didn't know what got into me.

@Giel, I'm about going ballistic here.

A girl who has to turn guys down isn't doing her guy a favor. She's doing herself a favor 95% of the time. The other 5% has to be sacrifice for what they have together. If she decides what they have together isn't worth preserving, then yeah just call it off. Don't make it sound like a lady in a relationship is managing the guy.

And maybe this just beefs up the reason why guys shouldn't do next level sh*t with or for a lady who they haven't wedded. It's a bloody waste. Imagine the insolence. Even if she has to turn down Buhari's son, that's not on me. She has good reason to, if she doesn't, she can go warm his bed.

-Lord

thank you very much.

I saw her post and I wondered the kind of person she is. just imagine the way she reasons. I was feeling sympathetic to her own story until I saw that post and the next one. shows she is part of her problem.

Trash

tmgold007:
I have to make him wait cos i belive as a virgin if you sleep with a guy too early in a relationship he wont take you serious...he will take u as a cheap girl and apart from that i was very innocent...very decent then...never knew my right from my left so i was always scared to go close to a guy....

you took decision based on your thought process alone. next time think of the implications of your decision on the other party. think of how he'll perceive it. aside that, life is about decisions and risks are always tagged to every decision. it's sad that people learn the hard way. truth you were naive. young people make so much mistakes due to pressure.

tmgold007:
Yes i know but it always hurt when d guy waited for two years to take the flower...and after regular taking of d flower for good 8years and trusting him with my entire life thinking av found my soul mate i find out his noting but a user...it really hurt

why did you make him wait 2 years? makes no sense.
when people do that, it increases demand for that puccy and assumes a derivative value-like. and when he gets it after 2 years he comes back to his senses. like "is it really worth it"

Law of demand and supply in respect to diminishing returns. sadly