aro1:
do you use to cum insyd her during sex?

not really but it may have failed to some extent.. You know how these things works nah

Thank you all for the advice.. I really appreciate it.. Yes, we actually did the test today and it came out NEGATIVE. The doctor adviced her to come back next weekend for a proper test if she doesn't see her period..well, i have zipped up my John Thomas till after marriage.. . Aunty nifeseun , be rest assured that we will buy baby things from you next year

jidamsel43:
Go and marry her legally . before it becomes obvious that she is pregnant , tell your mum about it. women know how to handle situation like this . Never doubt statement unless you are ready to face the consequence. You are too young to die now.
if you can not work in offshore company as your uncle as promised, you can onshore if you are alive.
keep the pregnancy to avoid weeping and crying in 2020. I'm not a prophet but that child is a blessing

thanks very much for your input. The child will really be a blessing but not at this time..

24kmagic:
I will try as much as possible never to find myself in this awkward situation.

I will either abstain ( which is very unlikely) or use protection.

I no want born bastard abeg.

But OP...

Any girl that cannot abort for you doesn't love you. Does that mean she can't die for you?

Fake love every where.

don't blame any girl if they refuse my brother.. The fault is from me, I should have used protection. Probably withdrawal method is not a good idea

TONYE001:
Obviously, that's pure superstition.

Abortion remains illegal in Nigeria. Going on with this plan would only put the lady at risk: no qualified medic would accept to abort a foetus when there's no medical indication...so, only quacks would do this..

Sometimes, we tend to worry too much about what people would say about us. I think you shouldn't. Go get her tested as soon as possible; if positive, quickly start her on follic acid (one tab daily) and register her in an antenatal clinic immediately.

Inform your parents and face the consequences of your actions.

No one is born perfect. We all make mistakes. The difference is, some get caught and others don't.

Also note that engaging in unprotected sex exposes you to a lot of STDs. Avoid illicit, premarital sex as abstinence is the best protection. If you must, please use condoms.

Wish you the best.

thanks for your advice.. We have done the test already and the doc said it will be ready in 2-3hrs time.. So we are going to await the result before concluding on a possible solution..

Good morning landers.. I would go straight to the point and don't mind any typos..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for like 8months now and everything have been great all along. Then suddenly, I jokingly asked her if she has seen her period which she told me "NO".. She said she's supposed to see it last week and she's surprised nothing came. She's been sleeping carelessly these days and always complain of being tired..

We would be going to the hospital today for a check up but I still have my fears.. I had jokingly suggested we remove the pregnancy if its positive but she came up with her village culture thing that when you abort a pregnancy out of wedlock, that the father will die and any other person in her household and I was like " that's a superstition and doesn't hold any ground in 21st century" but she wouldn't listen..

I will be rounding up nysc by Feb/march while she's a 200L student in unical.. We are not ready for this baby and the news will shatter the both families, our church and friends around and notwithstanding, the news will definitely block my way as I already have my uncle working out a place for me to work in an offshore company immediately I finish my nysc...

Those from the ibo part of Nigeria, how true is this culture?? and what do you suggest we do at this point??. Though I'm praying it shouldn't be what we are thinking

simplemach:
U said one thing led to another and you had adult things. When the thing was leading u where it was leading you, you did not tell us where u were heading to. Now that u have arrived, you are seeking our advice.

i hate you for making me laf

Arysexy:
Can u vouch for ur brother?

Just last week I was on a queue at diamond bank akpakpava Benin branch ATM waiting to withdraw, next I saw two plain clothed security nab a young boy of about 15 years as He was trying to withdraw from d machine after duping someone claiming to be a pastor, unluckily for him hiss account was flagged , immediately He slotted his card, it alerted d ops manager who informed d ssecurity.

Youth of nowadays are into various scams nd they call it huzzling. Ur brother might be one of d " fake pastor" scamming youth.

Get a lawyer if u think otherwise.

i can vouch 4 him.d police are jus making new stories every hour.changing wat actually happen

MARKone:


Mr. Professor you are speaking as if you are not a Nigerian living in Nigeria. So if actually the poor chap is a con artist, what right has the police got, to charge N150k for Bail, ARE THEY THE FORKING LAW COURT!!! If they are certain that he is a "419" let them charge him to court for Christ's sake, or better still hand him over to EFCC.

This is Christmas period and you are bound to see many of this unholy arrests. OP like you've been advised let your folks quickly cry to a lawyer, the sooner it is done the better, before those Rogues change the Story to Armed Robbery, or sell him to ritualists those guys are heartless. While you guys are at it, start looking for money no matter how small, you must drop, even with the Lawyer, that is how bad and horrible the system is. Good luck.

ok.thankyou

ProfessorPeter:
ok, but have you heard from the people accusing your brother?

yes,the d.p.o called the guy they claimed my brother duped and he said my brother is among.The worse is dat he didn't even come to the station to check if he is the one.Asked the D.P.O how he got his number,he was speechless and beating around the bush.

ba7man:
Get a lawyer A.S.A.P, if possible now as we speak and go with him to the station this evening.

No begging the police as long as your bro isn't guilty........be cool and calm with them and look them in eyes.

ok

ProfessorPeter:
Before you blame the police let me ask you the following questions.
Are you sure that your brother is not into 419?
Are you sure that 150k he was asked to pay is not the money he duped somebody?

I trust my brother very well and i know what he can do..

I'm not a good writer and this is my first time posting on nairaland.
My brother was coming back from work few minutes ago and he met a group of people who told him that they are looking for a pastor along the street,and as a nice little guy he is,he offered to show them the place.And immediately,the nigerian police force just came out from no where and arrested just him leaving the rest people.
After several questions from my dad,the police told him my little brother is a 419,that he was seen duping people and according to my brother,he said he doesn't know anything and that he was just on his way and they arrested him for no reason.
The police are saying we should pay them #150,000 for bail for what my brother didn't even do.my dad doesn't even have any money at the moment
I know the police planned all this because this is christmas period.please people of nairaland,i need your help please.I dont want my brother to spend christmas in JAIL.