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You must learn when to say No in a polite way

People will tell you Nigeria is hard Nigeria is hard,but same person built two houses ..You abroad managing one small studio. The same person with two houses sent his children to Covenant university will ask you for urgent loan " 200k " Oya pay back the loan he refuses

pansophist:
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You think common sense is common

My cousin who just turned 18 has been billed since the first week he landed Europe. The billing didn't stopped until he changed his whatsapp number. This is a boy that is not working, not yet studying (waiting for next admission intake), and under my care.

The younger brother who is 14 has not been billed yet, but that one get luck. He is too young to have billers before he left Nigeria.

Many times, billers use a strategy called ''try your luck''. They will just throw a format to you, and its up to you to reject it. Its like how a market woman will give you a random price, and it is up to you to reject it, and haggle it down to your price range.

Hahaha 🤣 those ones are wicked billing 18 years old girl

Well said , however you need to apply wisdom and politeness when turning down some requests. For instance the lecturer that says you will take him to abroad ,his request is valid and not bad . You can tell him when you settle down you will assist him with information that will make his relocation possible. There is no need telling him you have siblings bla bla bla .I have not live in Nigeria since 2013 ,I know the kind of request I received everyday . Some are genuine requests while others are just " funky" requests. You have to help people based on priorities and relationship with them. I discovered that my close friends and family don't make unnecessary requests but I do assist in a little way especially anything that has to do with school fees and health matter. Unfortunately it is those who have not spoken to for decade that will ask 100k to balance iphone money .
Above all ,I will encourage you continue to assist in your little way don't displease yourself to please people. Be polite when turning down requests. People in Nigeria don't understand, some assumed working in harsh conditions are easy . There are people in Nigeria who are better off than us abroad ,they have stable business and personal houses yet they will ask for urgent " 20k " if you don't give they become angry .
Be wise ! Be polite ! Take care of yourself

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Kog45:
I repeat it eagles with Ndidi and Iwobi in the starting XI cannot beat Congo

The two players have no business in the national team,perhaps Iwobi can be on the reserve bench. I told a friend before the match against Congo that if Ndidi suspension is valid I will be happy and Nigeria will win but if Ndidi plays we are in trouble . Ndidi should not be in the national team , sentimental selection cost us the world cup ticket. A good coach would have benched him and Iwobi. We don't have a fantastic coach we have what we can afford .lol 😂

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Samantha125:
How people manage to completely leave their families without even constantly visiting them still baffles me.

I don't know if it's a South African thing or what, but I've seen a number of South Africans of all races returning back to SA after living abroad for a while citing home sickness as their reason for their return, that they couldn't stay away from their family members for too long... One girl who was studying in France even took a transfer back to SA after complaining of the language barrier and loneliness there... There was a time everyone went away and my mom was left alone in the house, I'd call her every morning and evening to check up on her despite my sister's house being only a couple of walks away.

Even those people I know who are working abroad are still very much involved in their parents' lives by renovating their homes, getting them caregivers, and visiting constantly. Only few abandon their parents entirely... So if you're going to migrate abroad permanently, the least you can do for your parents is build them a comfortable house, it doesn't have to be big, but it should be comfortable for their old age and get them a caregiver while financially supporting them once they're too old to look after themselves... And please, whatever you do, visit your parents constantly because they're old and don't have much time left in this world, every moment they spend with their children and grandchildren counts.

You are right 👍 South Africans have strong connection tied to their home country . I recalled working with a Zulu Prof in Durban , he got good offer in the USA ,he rejected it . He said " who will take care of my mum " I need to see her often

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Caroline2344:
Good day great minds,

I am Caroline and new here. I would like to pursue an Msc in Germany for any Environmental related course this summer semester, I hold a Bsc in Environmental Health Science which was completed in 2018.

I will appreciate if anyone can recommend an Msc course right now in Germany where I can get the admission quite easy and Environmental related for summer entry.

Your response will be highly appreciated and would guide me well in choosing the right course that would guarantee admission

Check the DAAD website and Erasmus you will see a lot of scholarships. Start from there

Dunkjames5:
Thank you
I have started learning German already lol
That language is so difficult.

It is not difficult . Learn and speak . Watch German movies with translation..find a learning partner

joelsteron:
The moment I saw him post that hotel video, I just said to myself, “This guy isn’t serious… At this moment? Content for what?”

Then he goes on with zero assists, zero marking or tackles, zero 1v1s or take-ons — yet he’s somehow the “most creative.”
“Eric Chelle should use him in his Fulham position”… too many delusions 😅

Honestly, there’s nothing Iwobi does on the pitch that Raphael Onyedika can’t do twice as well.
I’m open to an Iwobi vs Onyedika comparison, please.

Carry team for head he can't, attack attack.... Oya na dribble ... they will say they want sexy penetration pass.... I wish that 20 years old boy was CM or AM midfielder.

But bomb dy Chelle head for not using Onyedika.

The same question ❓ I asked my colleagues what is the sin of Onyedika. 240mins Onyedika was not used ..Even when midfield collapsed he brought Tolu and wingers ,how can wingers fortify the middle ?
If I am in Onyedika shoes I will quit national team for now for the sake of my sanity. Ndidi is old already , I told someone if Ndidi suspension was implemented I will be happy 😊 because that is the only reason coach will benched him ..Our coach is average but that is what our NFF can afford. Let him stay . He was confused 🤔. Iwobi needs to be playing from the bench. First half golden opportunity presented to Ndidi just to tap in he wasted it .

Commit your plan to God and start to learn German / handwork

GMBOFASIA:
This current super eagles are not serious NFF has been like this for ages even when we won afcon 2013 I am not sparring nff but this set of super eagles team no be am aside osimhen the rest players no be am at all

What about Benjamin Fredrick?

What is the essence of inviting Onyedika? If na me I would not honour invitation again . Someone who bossed Barcelona in champion league

Tinneh:
Tolu was poor YES.... but subbing him OFF at that point in the game was a wrong decision, Tolu has a very good penalty record in his career, and could've easily been a better option than Bassey,
Also of what use was the awaziem substitution when you have your designated penalty taker (EKONG) on the bench....
To be honest chelle got his substitutions all wrong today, this was a game screaming for control and he left Onyedika on the bench all through 120, while we were being dominated
I'm so pissed off right now

I am wondering why invite Onyedika and you don't use him ? The coach gave Congo the ticket

Coach gave Congo the ticket.when the middle broke down I thought he will introduce Onyedika or Alhassan ,he brought Tolu and two wingers . Players were tired 😩 he later removed Tolu again lol 😆😂😂😆 . Our coach is just Finidi pro max that is what we can afford

soetanoreoluwa:
Great miracle..

God should just show us mercy ... Please God help us

Hahaha 😂 u don remember God today . Na mercy we need now

It is painful we could score two goals in the first half . This gave them confidence and the midfield was taken over

What is the sin of Onyedika?

Silly challenge. Defenders have done their best .our Coach mess up big time with keeping Onyedika on bench

Hahaha 😂 Tolu come in and go out lol 😂

Final change . What is the sin of Onyedika?

Abeg this Tolu no dey try

That header is kind of Osihmen goal chai Tolu you must redeem yourself o

The only chance in 45min Tolu waste am

Tolu should have done better

soetanoreoluwa:
See tolu ooo

I weak that should be the winning goal . Tolu no even understand himself

Ah see Tolu o

If we win this game is pure lucky .ouch coach confused 🤔

At this point penalty will be okay 👍. They outclass and cooked us

Why ref refused to use card ? Ah

viciati:
Benjamin Fredrick 👏👏👏

They stressed him beyond limit . I expected the coach to fortify the middle but he brought in Ejuke who plays primary school football

Dannyxy:
We should have won this 1-0

We messed up conceding that goal tbh

Cheap goal that gave them confidence

It appears the Congolese are using 12 players they have dominated us seriously . I was wondering why coach bring in two wingers,when your midfielders are extremely tired ..Onyedika would have helped