Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

Babe here is my piece of advice and I hope you'll take a clue and learn from it.

You are okay,nothing is wrong with you, you are only scared of loosing the time,money and commitments you've invested into the relationship. Once you're not scared or see yourself in the loosing end and if you decide to break up with him,believe you me,you'd be fine and will move on easily..
The guy is committing you to spend more time,energy and commitments,he understands this psychology better than you do.

Let's take parenting as an example.

Why do you think responsible parent love their children more than anything else in the world,they do not joke with the welfare ,health and well being of their children.It is because of the time,energy,money and commitment they've spent on their children. Once a child misbehaves,they tend to get angry easily cause they know they level of investment they input to the child...

Now look at irresponsible parents


Let's take this for example. Irresponsible parents dont care if a child dies or mix with bad gangs or becomes something else....
Why They've never invested in the child's life,they feel they have nothing to lose. Their time,investment and commitments was never spent on the child but on something else they value...

What am I trying to say in essence.
You are feeling you will be on the loosing side if you let go of this guy, and I am sure the guy won't feel the same cause he doesn't invest much time, commitments and energy as much as you do.
Try and give another person that you think you like a chance and see how fast youd forget him.
He is manipulating you cause he feels you've got no other option.

tmogba4:

Available

Bro,is it still available

effectz123:


Still available

How long do the batteries last

Rakiticbarca:
Deal Alert

Lenovo Thinkpad T440s (11Pcs) 6pcs left
Core i7
8GB Ram
256GB SSD
Backlit keyboards
Finger print scanner

TLC 60k

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Core i7
8GB Ram
256GB SSD
Backlit keyboards
Finger print scanner

TLC 50K

Lenovo Thinkpad T431s
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4GB Ram
180GB SSD
Backlit keyboards
Touchscreen
Finger print scanner

TLC 50k[/s]

None came with charger ( 3k max will get you a charger), Some are touchscreen while some are not.

Still available?

Bimilade:
You would get it by tomorrow latest 11am.
This is my WhatsApp number +2348131377565.. we don't sell fake items.

No probs,I will contact you.

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If I place an order today, how soon will I get it.Do you have a WhatsApp number I can message you on, I need two duvets and 2 bedsheets...
If you sell me fake items I will cast you on nairaland

I hope your bedsheets are not take and cheap items, how soon will I get my order and also do you accept payment on delivery

jayson87:
the guy said he designed payoneer... LWKMD

No kind them, nonsense. Designed Payoneer, like say Payoneer nah pamphlet.
Before you know now,them go bsn Nigerians from using Payoneer again

Seems schooling in Luxembourg do require IELTS.

Very few Nigerians study in Luxembourg

mustmust:


Yes I found university of Luxemburg. Everything about the course is under review now for cost and the years of study increased to two. the last cost I saw was abt 8million .

Hello bro,what's good,can we discuss.

mofedamijo:


don't mind him, i have been on upwork for a while, that amount is ridiculous, secondly how do you finish a job in how many hours to then submit proposals and get another job immediately, haba, no b the same upwork, i don't even work from nigeria, yet getting a job on upwork can be stressful, that niqqa is a liar, $2,000 job should take you about 3-10 days to finish, so ho did he manage that in a month, agencies on upwork don't really hit that amount every month.

No mind the guy, he just dey drop lamba up and down

Speak2klein:


Whatever you believe becomes your reality. If you think you can't make such amount then you will never make such amount. But don't think others can't.

See you, you your self are you making up to that amount, be lyig up and down. I work on upwork and fiverr for over 4 years now. I am a full stack Developer. Its not like i dont know whats up. $20,000 permonth is $240,000 per years, do you think that amount is easy. It is obvious youre not a freelancer, all what you said are hearsays. If you understand the system, you will know what i am saying.

You think say freelancing na beans, its all about having a top notch skill and marketing it , nothing like what you believe, its all about skillset

From my experience , those who are making a kill on freelancing will never let you know their worth or how much they make . They will never tell you their secrets

Speak2klein:
I know another friend who he and his wife resigned their jobs (He worked in a tech firm and his wife worked in KPMG) to focus on freelancing. The raked in nothing less than $20,000 per month before they left Nigeria for the UK.

Abeg easy with the lies, you cant make that much as a freelancer in Nigeria, $20,000 per month is not a small money. Even if youre making that amount monthly in America , Europe,Australia, youre a big person. Dont exaggerate figures here abeg. As a freelancer its easy to make such an amount outside the shores of Nigeria

Aviation exams is one of the easiest to pass in the world. No be news, you pass the exam,e no add one naira to my pocket...nonsense

Honestly guys ,when they begin to die one by one they will stop this nonsense of defrauding people. Defrauding anyone,whether black man or white man is not good. But defrauding an African, A Nigeria especially can be so disastrous. A white man can let go, not all Nigerians can let go when you defraud them. They are bitter and can go to any length to get revenge, I am talking from real life experience. I know a fraudster that lost his whole children, he couldn't complain because the works of his hands are not clean. Na jungle justice fit these Yahoo boys,

You suffering from Limerence bro.

Flexherbal:
Some lying on the floor !

The floor is cleaner than your sitting room...see this one

3RNEST:

Are u one of those ?

I pray ooooo

The funniest thing is this - Those that are earning a kill on monthly basis/per project on these freelancing sites, will never share their secrets with you.

Qdot43843:
IS working for all MTN Sim | you can only subscribe 1 time in your Sim card

Your life go spoil in Jesus name, this guy is a bloody scammer, dont go to any website...oloshi

Do not fall for Payoneer scam.
These thieves have designed a new method. They will send you an email telling you that you have received a payment from Payoneer global payment system.
Here is how the email the thrives usually send.

Do not click on the link in the email, instead change your passwords immediately and add the email sender to your blocklist

yusuftaiwo2015:

This is me brto

Seen bro

davostar:



Hey man... Stop ranting unnecessarily
I make over $1000 a month sometimes and trust me i am highly underpaid, I know people making $3000+ per month..
DO your research well freelancing pays.

This guy still Dey make small sense, $2000-$3000 is very achievable on freelancing.
Check out sparehire.com ,you will see jobs of $10,000 for 2 months, which on average is $5000 per month.


Unlike the guy that lied on $2000 for 5 mins.. Mttfchewww

GreenMavro:
keep being ignorant.. you can tweak a code within minutes. The work was urgent and the buyer was ready to pay to get the job don asap

U too dry lie bro.
I am a programmer, I am very proficient in over 6 technologies.
No Dey lie, u can lie to noobs and not expert

emmaBS:


Mr man, you are a liar! And a big one at that.
I'm surprised that nairaland is supporting this nonsense.
A job of $2,000 completed in 5 minutes? Shebi the person wey wan pay na mumu abi?

And just 4 of you in the whole world offering a service?
I laugh in Swahili.

The smart guys know what you are up to.

No mind d guy make e Dey drop lies for there.
E Dn too over exaggerate am set.
I am a level two seller at the moment, so i sabi as e Dey go on Fiverr.
If you had mentioned the top freelancing sites like spare hire, I would have believed him.
Not on Fiverr, customer support go Dey monitor you like anything with a $2000 job.

Bros next time Dey drop lies small small, no Dey exaggerate am

GreenMavro:


am sorry I can't mention the gig...as at then 2016 we were only 4 in the world offering that gig on fiverr

The gig is likely a programming job in data analytics or data science in general.
Might be wrong though.
Bro, i believe you exaggerated the price, you didn't mention that you friends will only earn $1600 and not $2000 as claimed earlier.

GreenMavro:

I remember den wen I was earning about 200k monthly only fiverr...I go put all my money for MMM, baba na so I loose close to 2M o, Recession hit me...my gig no con dy sell again.


But my friend is a Multimillionaire now from FIVERR....the guy did not work for anybody 1day, he made his millions from fiverr, I remember wen he did a 5minutes job for a client for $2000.....the thing weak me.


Learn a skill and earn on Fiverr....................Hustle pays!!!

I understand your plight that you are trying to pinpoint on how much it pays to learn a skill.
But you just exaggerated with the "5Mins $2000 stuff.
I am a Level 2 seller.
Their is no gig you will do for 5 minutes and earn $2000 .
No Dey give lamba abeg

I have $211 Payoneer for Sale.
Only serious buyers abeg

$284 Payoneer for sale

$284 payonner funds for sale

$258 Payoneer for Sale